https://www.happiness.com/rss/1-happinesscom-magazine.xml/rss feed happinessenhttps://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/ayurvedic-massage-therapy/Unlike regular massage techniques, holistic Ayurvedic massage therapy balances the body, mind, and energetic field. Rachel Markowitz outlines the techniques and benefits of different types of Ayurveda massage, such as abhyanga, shirodhara and udvartana. Ayurveda, Sanskrit for “life science,” is ancient India’s traditional health system for holistic well-being, still relevant as ever. The vast field of Ayurveda includes regimens for diet and exercise, herbal supplements and medicines, cleansing practices, and various therapies. Unlike conventional healthcare, Ayurvedic treatments depend on our unique inherent qualities, aiming to balance both natural and temporary imbalances. Because of this, Ayurvedic wellness plans are specific to each individual. Ayurveda is all-encompassing, containing a world of principles, techniques, and terminology. However, if you’re curious about Ayurvedic healing, there’s an accessible, risk-free, and relaxing way to experiment with these time-tested customary practices: get a massage! What is An Ayurvedic massage? Although on the surface some types of Ayurvedic therapies appear similar to other massage techniques, the scope of Ayurvedic massage extends far beyond typical spa treatments. Whereas most modern massage techniques focus solely on relieving physical tension and promoting relaxation, Ayurvedic massage therapy incorporates a holistic view of wellness – aiming to harmonize and balance the body, mind, and energetic field. Ayurvedic massage with herbal balls Thus, while Ayurvedic massages can certainly be used to reduce stress or improve health, they also promote overall well-being in all dimensions of life. In fact, in India, doctors often prescribe Ayurvedic massage as an integral component of medical treatments. Types of Ayurvedic Massage Ayurveda is based on the concept that we are composed of a combination of three distinctive energies called doshas – and that each person’s constitution is a unique balance of these energies. A person’s natural composition, called Prakriti, and their current state of balance or imbalance, called Vikriti, both play a role in the healing methods recommended by Ayurvedic health, including massage therapy. Therefore, the following Ayurvedic therapies are typically adapted to their recipients. 1. Abhyanga Abhyanga is a full-body Ayurvedic massage that uses warm, and often herb-infused, oils to penetrate the skin. In Abhyanga massage, a therapist will select or blend massage oils with specific medicinal properties based on an individual’s Ayurvedic constitution or healthcare needs. Abhyanga uses gentle, consistent pressure. It increases energy flow and blood circulation throughout the body with long, rhythmic strokes, which, along with therapeutic oils, help treat the physical body while relieving stress. Although Abhyanga massage is a common spa offering, it is primarily considered a self-massage technique and part of a well-balanced daily health routine. 2. Shirodhara Shirodhara massage is the long-established therapy of slowly pouring warm liquid onto a person’s forehead – the location of the pineal gland and, in the energetic (subtle) body, ajna chakra (also known as the third eye). According to Ayurveda, stimulating this vital point between the eyebrows affects both the nervous system and a person’s flow of life force energy. “Ayurvedic massage therapy incorporates a holistic view of wellness – aiming to harmonize and balance the body, mind, and energetic field.” Although it’s most common to use medicinal (herb-infused) oil for Shirodhara, this therapy can also be performed with milk, buttermilk, water, or coconut water. Like other forms of Ayurvedic massage, Shirodhara calms the mind and balances the doshas. It’s been utilized in India for thousands of years for treating insomnia, headaches, neurological disorders, and mental distress. According to the California College of Ayurveda, this treatment also invites spiritual awakening via the third eye center. 3. Udvartana Udvartana massage utilizes herbal powders – usually dry but sometimes mixed into a paste with ghee. On the surface, the friction from these herbs, massaged in an upward direction, heats and exfoliates the skin. On an inner level, Udvartana stimulates circulation and lymphatic drainage and releases toxins from the body. MORE LIKE THIS: Kundalini Meditation: 4 Key Benefits and How to Practise It 5 Techniques to Balance Chakras and Unblock Energy Flow Conscious Breathing: What is It and How Do We Benefit From It? Udvartana is a common Ayurvedic massage therapy for weight loss and to treat obesity, high cholesterol, and diabetes. It’s also recommended to boost metabolism as part of a daily health routine. In professional treatment settings, Udvartana massage is often followed by an herbal steam bath. 4. Marma Chikitsa Marma therapy, called marma chikitsa in Sanskrit, stimulates points of vital energy that relate to specific aspects of the physical and energetic body. These points, called marma points (or simply marmas), are similar to the acupressure points that form the foundation of Traditional Chinese Medicine. However, unlike acupressure points, marma locations are measured relative to each unique body and can differ from person to person. Targeting marma points through touch or massage techniques releases energetic blockages, leads to overall balance, and can remedy both physical ailments and lifestyle-induced stress. Energy therapy using marma points can also be integrated into other Ayurvedic healing modalities. Approaches to Ayurvedic Massage Ayurveda’s distinguishing methodology includes not only its physical massage techniques, but also its use of natural ingredients and its emphasis on balance. Massage techniques Ayurvedic massages are typically light in pressure. Therapists trained in Ayurvedic practices use specific manual techniques, similar to other types of professional massage, including: Samvahan (Effleurage): Long, smooth gliding strokes, often used at the beginning of a massage to spread oil, warm muscles, and increase circulation and lymphatic flow. Mardan (Petrissage): Deep massage techniques, including kneading and rolling, for working on muscle tension and function. Tapatan (Tapotement): Rhythmic tapping or drumming on the body, either with fingers or hands, to stimulate nerve endings and circulation while promoting healthy skin. Pesin (Friction): Quick movements, back and forth or in circles, to generate heat and increase blood flow and break up knots – often using the thumbs. Use of Oil and Herbs As mentioned earlier, Ayurvedic therapies make use of traditional plant-based medicines. Common base oils used for Ayurvedic massage include sesame, coconut, almond, castor, and mustard. These oils are often blended with medicinal herbal oil blends, known as tailams, that offer specific therapeutic benefits. Shirodhara massage uses oil on the forehead Emphasis on Balance The therapies, oils, and herbs recommended for a person’s therapy depend on their Prakriti, along with their current state of balance. An qualified Ayurvedic healthcare practitioner can often identify your constitution using pulse, tongue, or eye diagnosis. “Like other forms of Ayurvedic massage, Shirodhara calms the mind and balances the doshas. It’s been utilized in India for thousands of years for treating insomnia, headaches, neurological disorders, and mental distress.” However, to know your unique composition and how to balance it, it’s helpful to take a test. Regardless of your constitution or health ailments, Ayurvedic massage therapy aims for health and wholeness on all levels. Benefits of Ayurvedic Massage Along with helping us to simply feel cared for and at ease, the holistic benefits of Ayurvedic massages include: Detoxification Ayurvedic massage therapies release toxins, called ama, from the body by activating the lymphatic system through friction and using herbal medicine to penetrate the skin. According to Banyan Botanicals, massage and other Ayurvedic cleansing techniques work by drawing toxins out of body tissue and directing them towards the digestive tract. Skin health Ayurvedic oils moisturize skin and are infused to provide health benefits to each person’s unique composition and treatment needs. Other techniques, such as Udvartana massage, involve exfoliation and overall skin rejuvenation. Furthermore, Ayurvedic herbs and oils can serve anti-inflammatory, anti-aging, and cosmetic purposes. However, Ayurveda sees healthy skin as the reflection of internal health and not vice versa! Improved circulation Stimulating the body through touch increases both circulation and lymphatic drainage. In Ayurveda, blood circulation is closely related to overall nourishment and health, delivering oxygen, nutrients, and energy to the body. Stress relief Clinical tests validate the stress-relieving qualities of Ayurvedic therapies; in fact, a 2011 study found that participants experienced less stress and a lower heart rate after just a single hour-long Abhyanga massage. Furthermore, clinical research published in the Journal of Ayurveda and Integrative Medicine found that Shirodhara massage treatments effectively induced relaxation and improved stress-related ailments. Balance Regardless of specific health intentions, the dosha-stabilizing effects of Ayurvedic massage lead to an awareness of how to balance the body, mind, and heart. When we begin to take steps towards holistic health, we see positive responses in all dimensions of life. Takeaway: Ayurvedic massage Ayurvedic massage includes traditional therapies customized for each individual, promoting physical, mental, and energetic balance. These practices use various massage techniques, oils, and herbs, and some are recommended as part of a daily routine for self-care and wellness. Ayurvedic treatments are not merely a way to retreat from daily stress, but a path for exploring our current state of health, inside and out. Images shutterstock/ArtSvetlana, shutterstock/Poznyakov happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Holistic Medicine | Acupuncture | Reflexology | Aromatherapy Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.Sun, 08 Mar 2026 08:52:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/the-healing-power-of-the-breath/Breathing is essential and something we do without thinking. But a new book suggests that we should pay it more attention as we can use the power of the breath to heal emotional and physical symptoms. Jacqui Paterson digs deeper. Breathing. It’s the most natural thing in the world, right? Controlled by the medulla oblongata – one of the most primitive parts of our brain – that automatically starts the moment we enter the world and take our first tremulous, wailing breaths. We rarely pay attention to this essential biological process where, very simplistically, air is pulled into the lungs, where oxygen is extracted and dispersed around our body, and the waste product – carbon dioxide – is exhaled out. In fact, probably the only time many of us really think about breathing is when we’re having trouble doing so –when we’re puffed from exerting ourselves, or when panic attacks cause us to hyperventilate. But, perhaps, we should be a lot more conscious of the healing power of the breath on a day-to-day basis. That’s because when we don’t give our breathing enough focus, it defaults to its basic auto-pilot function. Yes, it’s enough to keep us alive, but it’s usually shallow and erratic and doesn’t allow us access to the huge array of additional healing benefits breathing can provide. The healing power of the breath In fact, abdominal breathing techniques have been used for centuries, especially through the practise of yoga. Indeed, so-called breathwork makes up a huge component of this ancient Indian practice, which unites mind, breath and body to improve fitness, health and well-being. RELATED: Conscious Breathing: What Is It and How Do We Benefit From It? But, in fact, there are so many ways breathwork can be used to our benefit. Our breath is an endless resource we can call on at any time; a fact well known to psychotherapist and breathwork expert, Oliver James, who has used breathing techniques to totally transform his life. Can we use our breath to heal? shutterstock/LumineImages Five years ago, at the tail-end of his psychotherapy training, James came to the realisation that breathing wasn’t just an unconscious reflex, but something that united every living person on the planet. He devoted the next year to studying breathing techniques, soaking up all the published works he could find, but also exploring, reflecting and experimenting with his own breath. What he discovered was there was a style of breath to lessen or relieve multiple situations, from cravings and insomnia, to public speaking and nausea. This realisation changed his life, and compelled him to share what he’d learned in his book, 21 Breaths (Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life). There is a breath for everything, he states confidently. Before you dismiss the words as a bit ‘out there’, James backs it up with biological fact, explaining how each of the individual parts and systems of our body rely on breathing and the absorption of oxygen, and how we can improve each function simply by making our intake of air more purposeful and efficient. RELATED: Tummo Breathing and Meditation: a Guide Think of it like putting fuel in a car – the basic version will allow it to run, but the enhanced version helps it run more smoothly and efficiently and will better protect all the components of the engine. Breathwork works in the same way – except the engine is your body. How to breathe properly James starts by asking a simple question – are we breathing properly? The best way is to use the diaphragm, a muscle that separates the chest from the stomach, for abdominal breathing. According to the British Lung Foundation, this is the main breathing muscle and works by contracting when you breathe in, pulling the lungs downwards, stretching and expanding them. When you breathe out, it relaxes back into a dome shape, and helps push the carbon-dioxide heavy waste air out. “We should be a lot more conscious of the healing power of the breath on a day-to-day basis. That’s because when we don’t give our breathing enough focus, it defaults to its basic auto-pilot function.” Your stomach muscles also come into play while exercising, pushing air out of the lungs in a process called forced expiration, AKA the heavy breathing that happens when you exert yourself! Finally, there are also muscles between the ribs that also assist breathing, the intercostal muscles. When they all work together, the gas exchange process (converting oxygen into carbon dioxide) works smoothly to keep our bodies fit and healthy. However, modern life is more sedentary than ever, with many of us sat working at a desk and failing to move around much during the day. This means we often default to chest breathing, where we’re only using the upper chest muscles to activate our lungs. Obviously, this is adequate at keeping us alive, but activating the chest muscles – more typically used when we exercise or during emergency situations – can make the body tense up. Then we take rapid, shallow breaths, which can increase feelings of anxiety. From here, the chain of events continues – if your body detects a stress response, it can activate your fight-or-flight, quickening your pulse and giving you a burst of adrenalin. If it continues to gather pace, it can develop into a panic attack. RELATED: How To Help Someone Having a Panic Attack: 7 Key Tips James has a simple test to find out whether you’re relying on chest or abdominal breathing – lie flat on the ground with your knees bent and lay one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach. Which hand feels the most movement? This is where you’re breathing from on a daily basis. Breathing exercises can help with emotional and physical health So, your first task is to ensure you’re breathing smoothly and deeply from your diaphragm. Breathing is something we do without thinking, but abdominal breathing requires us to override that basic functional breath and consciously work to improve its quality. In time, you can reset your body and the better quality breathing will be your norm. From here, you can begin to explore James' 21 Breaths and discovering the healing power of breath. Breathing exercises you can try Here are four of the 21 healing breath techniques from James' book you can practise. 1. 'The Rising Tide': for insomnia After this last year of fear and uncertainty it’s hardly surprising insomnia has been on the rise; arguably one of the most helpful breaths James suggests is the ‘Rising Tide’ – the Breath to Sleep. Lying on your back with your eyes closed and breathe deeply into your lower belly. Hold your breath and tense your entire body until you feel the need to exhale. The next inhale is longer and slower until it reaches to your collarbones, then imagine it going further up into your skull. Again, squeeze your entire body and hold the breath, then allow all the tension to drain from your body as you exhale. After 10 breaths, return to normal; repeat the cycle for a total of three times. 2. 'The Star': for posture For all those inadvertent home workers who’ve spent the past year hunched over laptops on sofas and kitchen tables, ‘The Star’ – a healing breath to improve posture – is another gem. It uses the breath to concentrate on elongating the spine, creating space between those scrunched up vertebrae and encouraging the shoulders backwards. With consistent practise you can calm your breathing, release muscle tension, and improve your posture. Stand with your back against a wall, palms facing outwards. Step your feet out around 15cm and make sure your head, shoulders and buttocks are flat against the surface of the wall. Inhale and exhale slowly and deeply, using all your abdominal muscles, and feel how the breath lifts and lengthens your spine. Pause for a few seconds at the bottom of your breath, and continue pulling up from the head and spine as you press backwards with your head and buttocks. Enjoy that delicious stretch! 3. 'Diaphragmatic Breathing': for heartburn Acid reflux is a common partner of stress, and can cause a lot of discomfort. If you want to avoid going down the medication route, ‘Diaphragmatic Breathing’ – the Breath for Heartburn, might be your answer. “Breathing is something we do without thinking, but abdominal breathing requires us to override that basic functional breath and consciously work to improve its quality.” In 21 Breaths, James points out there are many contributing factors for heartburn, but the right breathing techniques can help to release tension in the diaphragm and calm the digestive system. Start by sitting in a comfortable positive, with the knees below the hips. With both hands resting on the lower abdomen, shut your eyes and breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth, making sure the breath stays relaxed and effortless. Inhale until you can feel your abdomen fill and inflate beneath your hands. Pause for a moment at the top of the breath, then slowly exhale. Continue for 15 to 20 minutes. This should be carried out half an hour before eating, or any time you feel that uncomfortable twinge of heartburn. 4. 'The Hum': for public speaking fears If Zoom calls fill you with dread, ‘The Hum’ – a breath to help public speaking – could be your saviour. Yoga practitioners might find this breath familiar, as it follows a similar principal to Bhramari, or the ‘Bee Breath’; both use the vibrations created by humming to release tension in the body. Begin with 10 deep abdominal breaths Continue with 10 breaths while humming. Close your eyes to concentrate more clearly on all the sensations the sound creates. Try stretching your body in different directions during the practise to discover what feels most calming. At the end of your breathwork you’ll feel more focused and relaxed, and ready to tackle that video conference with confidence! 21 Breaths also features healing breath to calm a nervous flyer, one to increase confidence, one to help lower blood pressure and even a breath that teams with self-reflection to help heal a relationship. The takeaway: healing power of breath Breathing is an automatic and essential function but we need to pay more attention to it and its potential to heal or help certain health conditions or situations. Whatever your ailment, you could have the remedy right under your nose – literally! • 21 Breaths: Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life, by Oliver James, is published by Unify Books. Main image: shutterstock/fizkes happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum ■ self-develop with free online classes in our happiness Academy Nature | Astrology | Spirituality Written by Jacqui Paterson Jacqui has been a true-life and travel journalist for over 25 years and has travelled all over the world telling people's stories. Originally from New Zealand, she's now based in the UK, where she also wrangles two pre-teen daughters, and runs her lifestyle blog, Jacqui Paterson.comSun, 08 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/january-blues-new-year-depression-beat-it/For many of us, the January blues set in once the festive holiday season ends. But there are ways you can fight back and feel better. Dee Marques shares seven ideas on beating those blues – from holiday planning to embracing winter activities. The January blues and new year period can be particularly tough on our mental health and lead to feelings of depression. After the excesses typical of the festive season, going back to the usual daily routine can be overwhelming. Personally, I've always thought about this time of the year as an expanded version of the Monday blues – something many of us go through on a weekly basis! Furthermore, during the new year, most of us also tend to take stock of our lives. This sometimes means realising that things haven't turned out as we expected or hoped. Perhaps we look back on past resolutions to find out that we weren’t able to maintain them, or we’re saddened by memories of people who are no longer with us. Also, a season of treats, big dinners and high alcohol consumption usually means we end up with a few extra inches or pounds and a negative body image. Having friends or relatives visiting can be lovely, but it can also drain our energy and lead to confrontations or fall-outs. Added to that, intense gift-buying sessions may have left us with an empty bank account. In fact, research shows that the January blues and new year depression are a very real thing. Suicides peak on New Year’s day, considered the deadliest 24 hours of the year. Also, there are links between low morale at this time of the year and an increased number of extramarital affairs. In fact, 65 per cent of all relationship break-ups happen in January. MORE LIKE THIS: How to Find Meaning in Life: 7 Strategies The 4 Signs That Distinguish Feeling Blue From Depression 8 Powerful Suicide Prevention Quotes New year depression is so prevalent that it's led to the term Blue Monday being coined. This refers to the most depressing day of the year, and it’s calculated using a formula that takes into account three things: the weather, motivation levels and debt. 7 Strategies to Beating the January Blues In 2026, Blue Monday will fall on 16th January. So, in preparation for this dreaded day and the month beyond, here are seven scientifically-proven ideas on how to beat those January blues. 1. Embrace Winter Activities Physical activity is a great mood booster that is proven to help fend off depression. And although exercising is probably the last thing you feel like doing at this time of the year, the benefits are so worth it that once you get going, you’ll want to keep going! Snow limit: wrap-up and embrace a winter walk Indeed, recent studies claim that both short sessions of high-intensity exercise or longer sessions of low-intensity activity are effective at keeping the blues at bay. And the season itself offers opportunities to try something new, whether it's snow sports like skiing, going for countryside or coastal walk in nature, or ice skating. The strong-willed among you may even want to consider a dose of winter wild swimming! But there are still options if you don’t feel like braving the cold: saunas, steam baths and hot yoga are all excellent for well-being and beating the misery January brings. 2. Take a Trip Going on a trip is scientifically-proven to improve your mood and help you beat the January blues and new year depression, especially if it’s somewhere sunny. That's because our bodies create Vitamin D from sunlight, and this vitamin is directly linked to our mood. You don’t need to go on a long trip – even a weekend getaway can make a difference. “Going on a trip is scientifically-proven to improve your mood and help you beat the January blues, especially if it's somewhere sunny.” But what if your finances are tight after the holiday season? Fear not. Interestingly, the simple fact of just planning or researching a trip can improve your mood. Studies have found that pre-trip happiness acts as a mood booster, as it fills us with anticipation of good things to come. So, even though many of us may not be able to travel to sunny climes to avoid the January blues right now, we can at least get on the net and start researching where we want to go next. 3. Skip Resolutions and Take Up a New Hobby New Year resolutions can be a double-edged sword: on the one hand, they can motivate us, but since only 8 per cent of people follow them through, failing to achieve them can make us feel inadequate. To take the pressure off and still work towards something meaningful, why not take up a new hobby for one month only? The idea is to find something that inspires you and gets you through January. If you find yourself really enjoying it, you can then continue it for the rest of the year. 4. Warm Up Never underestimate the healing effect of warmth, especially during the coldest months of the year. In fact, our bodies are meant to be comforted by warmth – this is why we seek the sun or find so much pleasure in our favourite cup of tea, coffee or chocolate. A hot choc can help beat the January blues If you’re feeling down with the January blues, take your time to enjoy a long soak in a warm, relaxing bath (even better if you add some warming essential oils like rosemary, ginger or cardamom). According to researchers, even just touching something warm can give us a little happiness boost. 5. Find Something Fun to Do With Friends January’s bleak weather and lack of funds can make it very tempting to stay home and veg out all day. But instead of giving in to staying in, it’s worth finding ways of staying active and sociable. For example, collective plans or resolutions can help you stay accountable and motivated, making you more resilient to New Year depression. “Why not take up a new hobby for one month only? The idea is to find something that inspires you and gets you through the January blues. If you find yourself really enjoy it you can carry it on for the rest of the year.” And there are tons of activities you can enjoy with others without spending a lot of money. For example, you could gather at a friend’s home and learn a new dance using YouTube videos, organize healthy and budget-friendly cooking competitions, have a wardrobe clear out and swap session, or even have a go at geocaching. 6. Eat Well When it comes to our diet, Christmas and New Year are usually synonymous with excess. Some of us love to indulge in mince pies, Christmas pudding, and other high-carb and high-sugar treats, but overeating these foods can lead to low energy and a dark mood typical of the January blues. To counter this, include nourishing good mood foods in every meal, especially those rich in omega-3 oils, which according to some studies can help fight pessimism and sadness. 7. Check for SAD If you're really struggling to keep a positive mindset or if your health is negatively affected every time January arrives, you may be suffering from SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). This condition affects 10 million people in the US and 1 in 3 in the UK. The symptoms include irritability, tearfulness, low self-esteem, high stress, lethargy, and a loss of interest in things that we’d normally find enjoyable. It’s important to speak to your doctor if you suspect you may have SAD, since in some people this can evolve into depressive symptoms. You should know that treatment is available and you don’t need to let this type of January blues or depression take over. Your doctor may recommend Vitamin D supplements, using a light therapy box, going for walks whenever there’s sunlight, or in some cases, medication. Takeaway: You Can Beat the January Blues This winter, don’t let the January blues spoil your mood and well-being. Use the suggestions above to prevent the symptoms from developing, and if you find yourself struggling despite your best efforts, seek help. You’re not alone and every step you take to beat the winter blues will be a worthwhile investment in your overall physical and mental health. ● Main image: shutterstock/Marjan Apostolovic, shutterstock/Nik Hoberg, shutterstock/igorstevanovic Do you struggle with the January blues? If so, head over to our forum on depression. What do you to fight back against depressive symptoms over winter? Share your ideas below! happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum ■ self-develop with free online classes in our Academy Resilience | Self-care | Goal setting | Anxiety Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.Fri, 19 Dec 2025 08:27:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/science-psychology/is-astrology-real/Tue, 16 Dec 2025 08:38:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/how-to-cleanse-yourself-spiritually/How do you know you need a spiritual detox? Sonia Vadlamani explores the signs and shares nine practical purification techniques that will help reset your energy and mind. Often, we find ourselves moving through life on autopilot, never quite grasping fully what’s happening around us, until our mind and body screams for a reset – not just in the form of a break from the daily routine, but cleansing on a deeper level. If you feel disconnected from your core, weighed down by stress and negativity, and going through the motions without any meaning or heart, you may be in need for a spiritual cleanse. While this may not mean leaving everything to join a guru’s ashram, but rather taking time to deliberately clear the emotional and mental baggage that prevents you from living your life to the fullest. What is Spiritual Cleansing? A 2021 study published in World Journal of Clinical Cases found a strong positive correlation between spirituality or religiousness and physical and mental health. However, the spiritual cleansing being referred to here isn’t really linked to religion or belief system. Instead, it’s about clearing space in your life by removing thought patterns and emotional baggage that doesn’t serve you, and making space for clarity, growth, and a life that is aligned with your values. Spiritual purification rituals can incorprate crystals, candles, and herbs It helps to think of spiritual cleaning as a detox – only instead removing toxins from your body, you’re removing excess baggage from your emotional and mental channels. The goal here is to eliminate negativity and imbalances to make space so you can breathe more easily, expand your awareness, and reconnect with what supports your mental health and overall wellbeing. Signs You Need a Spirit Cleanse Your body and mind often signal the need for a spiritual purification – sometimes with subtle indications, but often in the form of glaring signs that are hard to ignore. Some physical, mental, and relational tell-tale signs that you need a spiritual reset include: Chronic fatigue despite adequate rest Physical tension, especially in your shoulders and back Brain fog and confusion without any evident reason Feeling hopeless and distraught, like nothing makes you happy any longer Feeling “off”, weighed down, or overwhelmed easily Struggling to make decisions due to inner conflict or turmoil Feeling lost in life and navigating on autopilot Attracting toxic people and draining interactions Difficulty setting healthy boundaries and saying ‘yes’ to things that do not resonate with you Relentless negative self-talk and criticism that often clouds your perspective Heightened sensitivity to your environment and others’ moods around you How to Cleanse Yourself Spiritually: 9 Rituals That Work There is no one-size-fits-all approach to a spiritual detox. Start by implementing a method below that resonates most with you. Notice how renewed and grounded you feel, and add more steps gradually as you progress. Here are nine spiritual purification approaches that blend both ancient practices with modern research: 1. Meditate Daily Meditation is often the most effective tool when learning how to cleanse yourself spiritually, as it actively helps purify your emotional and mental landscape. In fact, a study published in Neural Plast suggests that including a mindfulness meditation consistently in your routine for as short a duration as 2-4 weeks – even under 10 cumulative hours – can promote grey matter plasticity in the brain, thus improving self-awareness, emotional regulation and mood, while preventing age-related cognitive decline. “Think of spiritual cleaning as a detox: only instead removing toxins from your body, you’re removing excess baggage from your emotional and mental channels.” The key is to start slowly and meditate for shorter duration – say 5 minutes – and increase the duration as you progress. Sit in a quiet space, focus on your breath, notice your thoughts without judgment, and let them pass. With consistent practice, meditation reduces mental chatter, eliminates negativity, and improves your ability to focus on what’s truly important for your personal growth. Meditation purifies your emotional and mental landscape 2. Use Mantras For Intention Setting Mantras – or affirmations rooted in intention and devotion – have been a fundamental aspect in most religions to cultivate peace and overcome obstacles. Indeed, modern research also agrees that encouraging implementational intentions can promote healthy habits and goal achievement. For spiritual purification, form intentions or mantras centered on release and renewal, such as: “I let go of what doesn’t serve me and welcome happiness and growth.” “I let go of my insecurities and embrace my imperfections.” “I invite authenticity how I lead my life.” “I’m aligned with my potential and purpose.” “I’m grateful for everything I have and lessons I’ve learned today.” RELATED: What is Vedic Meditation? The Mantras You Need to Know 3. Try Spiritual Detox With Crystals While the healing or cleansing benefits of crystals aren’t fully understood by Western science, shamanic healer and crystal expert Sarah Balmer advocates the use of crystals for improved wellbeing and spiritual ascension. “Because of how they are formed and structured at a molecular level, [crystals] provide a consistent energetic vibration that helps to bring us into balance. The result is often a feeling of relaxation and calming,” she states. “Meditation is often the most effective tool when learning how to cleanse yourself spiritually, as it actively helps purify your emotional and mental landscape.” Every crystal or gemstone has varying properties and benefits – so start with crystals that align with your needs and include them in your meditation and visualization practices to fully understand their effect. 4. Try Ritual Bathing With Essential Oils A spiritual bath can be your answer to how to do a spiritual cleanse, since water is considered a powerful purifier in several cultures and religion, from baptism in Christianity, purification ritual in Hinduism, or the Japanese Shinto. Ritual bathing: water can be a powerful purifier Fill the tub with warm water, add Epsom salts, a calming essential oil like lavender or chamomile, or herbs like rosemary or eucalyptus. You can add an intention like “I cleanse myself of [a negative emotion or thought] and welcome peace.” Or, visualize negativity and anxiety draining from your body and mind as you soak in a warm, comforting light to make it a more effective spiritual purification ritual. 5. Incorporate Yoga The benefits of a regular yoga practice are well documented – it’s known to elicit a relaxation response, alleviate stress and anxiety, and regulate our emotional wellbeing. Indeed, a systematic review of 15 studies, published in Aging and Mental Health, analyzed various interventions and relaxation techniques for depression and anxiety in older adults, and found that yoga and music offered the most effective and long-lasting benefits. MORE LIKE THIS: 14 Different Types of Reiki: Which is Right For Me? How to Cleanse Your Energy: 8 Way to Remove Negative Vibes Guide to Healing Touch Therapy and Massage If you’re too busy to fit in a full yoga session, try restorative yoga to release physical tension and notice your outlook improve significantly. 6. Spend Time in Nature Nature immersion is one of the simplest methods for spiritual cleansing. Indeed, spending time outdoors is clinically proven to improve mood, emotional regulation, mental health, and other cognitive functions. Reconnecting with nature – whether through green-space activities like forest bathing or hiking, or blue-space options like wild swimming or living by the sea – is also known to reduce stress and boost empathy. Being in nature is proven to boost mood and mental health 7. Reset Your Energy Field With Breathwork Breathing is intimately linked to the conscious mind and the nervous system, which makes it a trusted method for spiritual detox. A systematic review study in Brain Health and Clinical Neuroscience found that controlled breathing exercises can help improve emotional regulation while keeping stress and anxiety at bay. RELATED: Conscious Breathing – What Is It And How Do We Benefit From It Combined with yoga practices, breathwork can also help rebalance chakras and expand consciousness, thus supporting your emotional and mental wellbeing. 8. Sweat With Intentional Movement The adverse effects of a lack of physical activity are well-documented, including diminished quality of life and increased risk of chronic health conditions like coronary heart disease and diabetes. But did you know that physical inertia can also result in stagnation of spirit? “A spiritual bath can be your answer to how to do a spiritual cleanse, since water is considered a powerful purifier in several cultures and religions.” Indulge in any form of physical activity that requires intentional movement – whether it’s tai chi, mindful running, or even brisk walking. Conscious movement with focus on breath, rather than exercising on autopilot, is key to making it effective. In addition to enabling spiritual purification, tuning into your body can boost resilience and help you cultivate a more positive outlook. 9. Start a Daily Journal The simple act of putting pen to paper can help you process thoughts and emotions that would otherwise circle endlessly in your mind, preventing you from being fully present. Journaling helps you externalize the emotions and patterns you’ve internalized, allowing you to observe and let go of what no longer serve you. Some effective ways to use journaling for spiritual cleansing are: Writing letters to your future self or others to express your thoughts and offer forgiveness, even if you never send them. Gratitude journaling to list everything you’re grateful for. Stream of consciousness for self-validation and processing your thoughts and feelings without censorship or judgement. FAQs: Spiritual Self-Cleansing How Do You Know If You Need a Spiritual Detox? If you feel persistently drained, disconnected, emotionally heavy, or stuck in negative thought loops despite resting and “doing all the right things,” it may signal a build-up of mental and emotional clutter that needs clearing. Is Spiritual Cleansing the Same as Religion or Belief? No. Spiritual cleansing isn’t tied to religion or faith systems; it’s a reflective, self-care practice focused on releasing emotional baggage, reducing mental noise, and reconnecting with your values and sense of purpose. Does Spiritual Cleansing Actually Work? Spiritual cleansing practices like meditation, breathwork, journaling, and time in nature are linked to improved emotional regulation, reduced stress, and greater mental clarity, even when viewed through a psychological or neuroscientific lens. How Often Should You Do a Spiritual Cleanse? There’s no fixed schedule, but many people benefit from small, daily practices combined with deeper resets during periods of stress, emotional overwhelm, or major life transitions. What Is the Easiest Way to Start a Spiritual Detox? Begin with just five minutes a day of intentional stillness — meditation, mindful breathing, or journaling — and build from there based on what feels most grounding and sustainable for you. Takeaway: Spiritual Cleansing In today’s world that constantly demands your time, attention and energy, learning how to cleanse yourself spiritually isn’t a luxury, but a fundamental act of self-care. The beautiful thing about spiritual cleansing is that you don’t need any expensive equipment or membership, as the primary tools are your body, time and your attention. The key is to show up for yourself with honesty and intention, integrating these methods into your daily routine, and consistent practice. Remember, spiritual purification is ultimately about prioritizing yourself and living a purpose-driven, meaningful life. ● Images shutterstock/Tatayna Sores, shutterstock/Rawpixel.com, shutterstock/PeopleImages.com, shutterstock/PeopleImages happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.Mon, 15 Dec 2025 09:06:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/healing-touch-massage-therapy/From cancer wards to wellness spaces, Healing Touch therapy is gaining attention for its calming, restorative effects. Rhianna Quanstrom explores how it works, what you can expect in a session, and whether the evidence supports this energy-healing practice. Gentle and non-invasive, Healing Touch (HT) is a therapy that promotes mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Used by nurses and other health professionals, this technique is gaining traction as an effective way to reduce patients’ pain, relieve stress, and speed up their healing process. Considering that it hasn’t entered mainstream knowledge yet, it’s important to understand what Healing Touch therapy is as a complementary healing option. We’ll discuss what happens during a session, how it can help you, who can benefit from it, and what the science says about it. What is Healing Touch Therapy? Healing Touch is a form of energy healing where the practitioner helps restore balance and harmony to one’s energy field. This can be done through hands-on touch, or near-touch techniques. Energy healing is based on the theory that illness, pain, or disease can stem from an individual's imbalanced or blocked energy field. As such, the aim is to bring an individual's energy field back into coherence through various techniques. Healing Touch uses hands-on or near-touch techniques Healing Touch therapy is sometimes referred to as healing touch massage, but it’s important to understand that Healing Touch is not a massage. When you hear the term healing touch massage, it’s most likely referring to therapeutic massage, which is a different form of therapy. Healing Touch is a modern continuation of ancient energy healing practices such as Reiki, acupuncture, and qigong. It was officially developed in 1989 by registered nurse Janet Mentgen, who wanted to align energy healing techniques with the modern medical profession. RELATED: 14 Different Types of Reiki: Which is Best For Me? How to Protect Your Energy: 7 Science-Backed Techniques Ayuverdic Massage Therapy: Techniques and Benefits As such, Healing Touch is often taught to nurses, other health professionals, and alternative health care providers as an addition to their practice. Healing Touch programs include a scope of practice, code of ethics, and a core curriculum taught by certified instructors, so that everyone learns the same techniques and practices. What Happens During Healing Touch Therapy? Healing Touch is sometimes offered at hospitals during inpatient and outpatient stays as a complementary support. You can also seek out practitioners for individual sessions. In most settings, Healing Touch is administered while the patient is laying down on a bed or massage table, but it can also be received while seated. In a hospital setting, nurses will look at their patients’ charts to understand what they’re receiving care for. In an individual session, it’s common to fill out an intake sheet and discuss with the practitioner why you’re seeking Healing Touch therapy. Each session can range from 15 minutes to an hour. “Gentle and non-invasive, Healing Touch (HT) is a therapy that promotes mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.” Before the session starts, the practitioner centers and focuses themselves in their heart space. They release all other distractions and state a clear intention for the session. The intention is to provide healing to the person in need. Once they are focused and centered, the practitioner begins to read your energy field with their hands and intuition. They may wave their hands over you or touch your body in specific places, such as your feet, head, shoulders, or hands. Again, it is not a massage, which can be confusing when hearing the term “healing touch massage.” Rather, the touch is simply light pressure on specific points on the body. RELATED: Spiritual Cleansing: 9 Detox and Purification Techniques After assessing your energy field, they will use either the Chakras Technique or the Magnetic Passes technique to bring your energy back into coherence: Chakras Technique The chakra technique is about restoring the seven energy centers of the body (known as the chakra system in Eastern philosophy). In this technique, the practitioner will use touch, starting at the feet, to restore balance. Magnetic Passes In the Magnetic Passes technique, the practitioner does not touch the patient. Instead, they brush or comb the energy surrounding the person to help work out any blocks or stagnant points. Once finished, the Healing Touch therapist will help you ground and center yourself before ending the session. How Can Healing Touch Therapy Help You? Healing Touch therapy can benefit anyone dealing with stress, overwhelm, chronic pain, fatigue, anxiety, depression, or grief. It is highly supportive for people after surgery or those receiving any sort of ongoing medical treatment, including chemotherapy. Healing Touch can also benefit anyone seeking spiritual or emotional healing. Healing Touch is often used in clinical settings and post-surgery One of the greatest benefits of Healing Touch therapy is its ability to reduce pain and promote peace and relaxation. A study published by the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine showed that Healing Touch significantly reduced pain in cancer patients after a single session. Another study published by the Journal of Religion and Health found that Healing Touch reduced anxiety and improved the comfort level of nursing home residents. “One of the greatest benefits of Healing Touch therapy is its ability to reduce pain and promote peace and relaxation.” Considering these findings, Healing Touch may be a safe and gentle therapy for improving overall well-being. However, the research is still lacking in terms of the broader legitimacy of Healing Touch therapy. So, Does Healing Touch Actually Work? While healing touch massage, more commonly known as massage therapy, has research-backed benefits, the research on Healing Touch therapy is less conclusive. A rapid evidence assessment of recent therapeutic touch research conducted by the University of British Columbia’s School of Nursing concluded: “Given the mixed results, lack of replication, overall research quality, and significant issues of bias identified, there currently exists no good quality evidence that supports the implementation of TT [Healing Touch therapy] as an evidence‐based clinical intervention in any context.” RELATED: What is Chi? A Guide to Feeling and Healing Life Force Energy 5 Techniques to Balance Chakras and Unblock Energy Flow Discover the Benefits of Marma Massage Therapy According to this report, there are not enough credible or high-quality scientific studies that show whether or not Healing Touch actually works. As such, the jury is still out. We’ll have to wait for further research to better understand the effects of Healing Touch therapy. FAQs What Is Healing Touch Therapy? Healing touch is a gentle, energy-based practice where practitioners use light touch or hands-above-the-body techniques to support balance and relaxation in your energy field. Does Healing Touch Really Work? Many people report reduced stress, better sleep, and emotional calm; scientific evidence is mixed, but early studies suggest potential benefits for anxiety and pain relief. Is Healing Touch the Same as Reiki? They’re similar energy-healing modalities, but healing touch follows a structured, nurse-developed curriculum with specific techniques and levels of training. Is Healing Touch Safe? Yes — it’s considered low-risk and non-invasive, and can be used alongside conventional medical care for added comfort and emotional support. How Many Sessions Do I Need? Some feel a shift after one session of Healing Touch therapy, but a short series of appointments often offers deeper relaxation and longer-lasting benefits. How Much Does Healing Touch Therapy Cost? In the U.S., many practitioners charge between US $40 and US $90 for a one-hour private session. In Europe similar energy-healing sessions often run around €30–€60 per session. Takeaway: Healing Touch Healing Touch therapy is gaining traction among nurses and alternative health practitioners as a gentle way to decrease patients’ pain and improve their comfort levels. As an energy healing modality, it focuses on harmonizing one’s energy field through specific hand techniques and practices. While there are several scientific reports supporting the positive effects of healing touch, there is also evidence that these reports may not be fully credible. Whether it’s the placebo effect or science hasn’t caught up to assessing and understanding the human biofield, it’s clear there is some benefit to Healing Touch as a safe, gentle, and non-invasive therapy. Images shutterstock/Pixel-Shot, shutterstock/Natali Ximich happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Alternative medicine | Herbalism | CBD Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.Tue, 09 Dec 2025 09:36:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/feeling-blue/We all feel blue sometimes, but how do you know if the stormclouds will pass or you're actually clinically depressed? Dee Marques explains four key factors that distinguish between feeling blue and a serious mental health issue. Plus, top tips on how to beat the blues. Even under normal circumstances the New Year can bring contradictory feelings: it’s meant to be a time for new beginnings and positivity, but not everyone feels in good spirits. In reality, it’s rather the opposite, since January is actually known as a prime time for feeling blue and is the most depressing month of the year. The January blues is a real thing. Low morale can be a result of limited exposure to natural light, having fewer opportunities to spend time outdoors and recharge our batteries by being in contact with nature, financial pressure after heavy holiday spending, and the shock of having to go back to “normal life”. With all that in mind, it’s hardly surprising that many of us may be feeling blue right now. What Is the Meaning of Feeling Blue? The actual term 'feeling blue' is not new, and there are references to it that go back hundred of years. In fact, it seems that the expression comes from an old sailing tradition. In the past, blue flags would be flown if a ship lost the captain or another crew member. This was to signal feelings of loss and sadness, similar to the main symptoms of the blues: demotivation, lack of energy, and being tearful or more sensitive than usual. Ask yourself: are you just feeling blue or clinically depressed? Feeling Blue vs Depression I’ve struggled with occasionally feeling the blues for years, and I’ve learned that in some cases it’s justified. In some ways, feeling blue may actually be a positive thing, in the sense that it’s a sign that we need to pay close attention to our habits, thoughts/feelings, and environment. Indeed, no one should be expected to feel happy when faced when losing a job or being stuck in a rut, so we can say that under certain circumstances, feeling blue is a normal reaction to certain life events and we shouldn’t fight it. Instead, it could be more productive to allow ourselves to listen to that feeling and take steps to make our lives more meaningful. “Laughter is the best medicine, and this applies to fighting the blues, too. Watching a comedy or trying laughter yoga can really boost your mood.” However, the problem comes when feeling blue becomes the rule rather than the exception. Everyone can have a bad day, bad week, or bad month. But if a low mood persists and we do nothing to curb it, it may a slippery slope towards clinical depression. Indeed, it's essential to clarify that feeling blue is not the same as being depressed. Clinical depression is a mood disorder, a mental health condition that can affect mind and body. So, how do you know if you’re simply feeling blue or if it’s something more serious, like depression? Here are the four key factors that can help you distinguish between the two: 1. A specific cause One of the main differences is that feeling blue usually has a specific cause; you’re able to pinpoint your feelings of sadness to a specific event, such as losing a parent, missing out on an important opportunity, adult bullying, or a romantic break-up. RELATED: Art Therapy For Depression How to Stop Thinking About Something: 9 Strategies Remember: You Are Not Your Thoughts On the other hand, people who are depressed can’t usually trace back their feelings to a singular concrete event. The low spirits are just there, and they linger on and on precisely because they don’t seem to have an identifiable cause. 2. Duration This brings us to another important difference between feeling blue and being depressed, which is duration. Feeling blue is usually temporary, and we know the sadness will pass, even when we’re in the middle of it. But people affected by depression see no end to their gloomy feelings: we can quite literally compare depression to not ever being able to see light at the end of the tunnel. 3. Intensity It’s not hard to imagine how much of a burden feeling blue can be to mental health, so the intensity of the symptoms is much stronger in depression. The intensity is such that the sadness takes over pretty much every thought and action. Unlike feeling blue, which usually improves when we do something we enjoy, a characteristic of depression is the distinct inability to find enjoyment – even in the things that used to bring us joy. RELATED: 8 Powerful Suicide Prevention Quotes From here it’s a vicious circle: if you can’t enjoy anything, there’s no point in doing anything. This is usually followed by feelings of numbness or emptiness, which reinforce the circle of hopelessness, negative thoughts and low motivation. In some cases, people may think that the only way to feel something and snap out of the numbness is self harm. This is a clear sign of depression. Beating the blues with laughter 4. Symptoms Because the intensity of sadness in depression is so severe, it can disrupt everyday life and cause physical symptoms, including sleep disorders, an inability to concentrate, poor memory, headaches, digestive issues, and appetite changes. These can happen with you're feeling blue too, but they’re usually short-lived, and don’t usually stop you from getting on with your day. “In some ways, feeling blue may actually be a positive thing, in the sense that it’s a sign that we need to pay close attention to our habits, views and environment.” The number of symptoms and their intensity can vary from person to person, but it’s generally agreed that someone can be diagnosed with clinical depression if a combination of these symptoms is present for more than two weeks or if suicidal thoughts are present, even if occasionally. Without treatment, depression can persist for several months or even years, so it’s essential to seek treatment as soon as possible. MORE LIKE THIS: Inner Peace: 3 Key Techniques to Finding It Feeling Lost in Life? Move On in 7 Steps Why is Mental Health Important? Feeling Blue? Tips to Lift Your Spirits Unlike depression, occasionally feeling blue doesn’t require treatment in terms of medication or CBT, but nobody enjoys feeling down. So, there are many things we can do to lift our spirits during this phase of feeling sorrow or melancholy. Remember that our ability to enjoy the things we love isn’t usually affected by feeling blue, so the first suggestion is to make time to do those things: Get some giggles The old saying goes that laughter is the best medicine, and this applies to fighting the blues, too. Watching a comedy or trying a session of laughter yoga – yes, it really is a thing – can help improve your mood. Exercise When affected by the winter blues, we may not feel particularly energetic, but physical activity is a great mood booster. Going for a walk, mindful running, swimming, cycling or kickboxing… whatever gives you an exercise high is worth trying. And if you can’t leave the house, you can still keep active: put on your favourite music and dance, do some yoga or stretching. Get creative Human beings are the only species capable of producing and enjoying forms of art like painting, writing, or photography, which says a lot about our creative nature. If you don’t have a creative hobby, it’s time to find one. Experiencing the power of creativity can change our mood, self-image, and general outlook on life. What's more, you could discover your flow state and unlock one of the main keys to happiness. Embrace novelty Make small changes to bring some novelty to your routine. Rearranging furniture in your bedroom, getting a new haircut or colour, trying a new recipe, or doing something you’ve never done before. Simply pottering around can do wonders for your mood! FAQS: What Does it Mean to Feel Blue? 1. Why Do I Feel Blue? Sometimes your brain is just reacting to stress, lousy weather, lack of sunlight, or a life wobble. Feeling blue is usually a temporary emotional dip — not a diagnosis. 2. Is Feeling Blue the Same as Depression? Nope. Feeling blue has a clear cause and passes on its own. Depression sticks around, gets heavier over time, and affects daily life. 3. How Long Do the Blues Last? Anywhere from a few hours to a few days. If your low mood lingers for more than two weeks, check in with a mental-health professional. 4. What Helps When I’m Feeling Blue? Move your body, get outside, talk to someone, do something fun or creative. Small mood-shifters often make a big difference. 5. When Should I Worry? If sadness becomes constant, starts disrupting sleep, appetite or focus, or you can’t find joy in anything — that’s beyond “blue” territory. Time to reach out for support. The Takeaway: Feeling Blue Feeling in low spirits? You’re not alone. The blues can come at any time of the year but often hits in January and February. It can be an opportunity to review our goals, habits and views. If you’re affected by feeling blue, try some of the suggestions above and chances are they’ll brighten your mood. But if things don’t improve and you think you have symptoms of clinical depression, seek help immediately. Your mental health is too important to postpone treatment. • Main image: shutterstock/panitan photo, shutterstock/Flamingo Images If you're experiencing any of the signs of depression make sure to reach out to your local mental health services. In the US, you can also contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline for free and confidential support. Use Lifeline Chat or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255). In the UK, call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, or email: jo@samaritans.org for a reply within 24 hours. You can also text “SHOUT” to 85258 to contact the Shout Crisis Text Line, or text “YM” if you are under 19. happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Join free now and: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine ■ share and support in our happiness forum Goal setting | Healthy habits | Happiness Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.Tue, 09 Dec 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/marma-chikitsa-massage-therapy/Marma massage is an ancient, touch-based Ayurvedic therapy that works with the body’s vital energy points to rebalance prana, release tension, and restore whole-body harmony. Rachel Markowitz explores the benefits of marma, and why this timeless healing method is gaining fresh modern appeal. Marma therapy, a method of touch-based energy healing, is an integral component of the age-old Indian science of health, Ayurveda. Known as the “sister science” of yoga, Ayurveda encompasses traditional philosophies and practices that support our holistic wellness – health of the body, mind, and spirit. According to Ayurveda, a person’s physical, mental, or emotional state is seen as a reflection of how prana, our life force energy, flows or stagnates in the body. Marma therapy, or marma chikitsa in Sanskrit, is a practice based on anatomical points of vital energy called marmas. Marmas serve as a link between the physical body and the subtle (energetic) body. Through marma therapy, we can harness these points to stimulate energy centers, release blockages, and balance prana for optimal health. History of Marma Therapy Marma therapy is more than a bodywork session; it’s a comprehensive practice for balancing the three “humors,” or doshas, that underpin Ayurvedic science. The doshas are related to our elemental composition – vata (air and ether), pitta (fire and water), and kapha (earth and water) – and each person is comprised of a unique ratio of these distinctive energies. Marma Chikista is a touch-based Ayurvedic therapy The background of marma therapy, which dates back thousands of years (at least since 1500-2000 B.C.), might seem surprising: marma points and marma healing were originally used in ancient martial arts and warfare. History suggests that these points were first discovered through the practice of Kalari, a traditional martial art from Kerala in southern India. MORE LIKE THIS: Guide to Healing Touch Therapy and Massage The Essentials of Energy Healing: 10 Techniques 14 Different Types of Reiki: Which is Best For Me? According to references throughout Vedic scriptures, ancient warriors utilized marma points for attack (piercing some marmas inevitably leads to unconsciousness or death!), trained to protect their own vital marmas, and learned to use these points for combat-related healing and recovery. “Marma therapy, a method of touch-based energy healing, is an integral component of the age-old Indian science of health, Ayurveda.” However, the foundations of using marmas for medical and therapeutic purposes were first documented in the Sushruta Samhita, a 4th-century scripture that identified, classified, and standardized marma points and their healing qualities. In modern day, these points, identified and mapped thousands of years ago, still play an integral role in most Ayurvedic healing practices. What are Marma Points? According to Marma science, using marma points to balance our internal elements is the key to unlocking health and vitality. The Sushruta Samhita identifies and maps out 107 points (although Tamil tradition cites 108 locations, and others many more). These points are identified on the surface of the body at meeting places of bones, muscle tissues, joints, ligaments, blood vessels, and energetic pathways. These junctions are located throughout the body, with a majority in the head and neck area. Location and name of marma points for massage Note that although these points are located on the physical body, they are, more importantly, energy centers that can be used to redirect and store prana and balance the three doshas. In fact, Vedic scholar and teacher Maharishi Mahesh Yogi called these points a “cosmic switchboard,” serving as a bridge between the energy of the individual and that of the Universe. Essentially, by touching or pressing marmas, we trigger changes in our biochemical composition, allowing for transformation in our physical and neurological makeup. Thus, marma chikitsa involves stimulating or manipulating these points through massage or pressure – either by hand or with a special tool called a Kansa wand. “By touching or pressing marmas, we trigger changes in our biochemical composition, allowing for transformation in our physical and neurological makeup.” Marma points are often compared to the acupressure points of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM). However, there are significant differences between these two systems. Whereas acupressure and marma points both exist along energetic channels (known as meridians in TCM and nadis in Ayurveda), marma points are relative to an individual’s body, measured by finger-widths. The size and location of marma points differ from person to person, and are more precise than acupressure points. Benefits of Marma Massage Marma therapy is a non-invasive practice that can improve holistic well-being and our connection to the elements, within us and around us. It’s accessible to anyone and demonstrates our natural ability to heal through touch. Unlike conventional massage, marma massage therapy not only ameliorates or remedies ailments, but also allows us to survey our current state of being to achieve overall balance. Marma massage is unique to each individual, and its benefits encompass all levels of being: Physical: Marma massage is particularly useful for pain management and muscle tension, and studies cite evidence-based relief for lower back and knee pain-related issues, tension headaches, and arthritis. It also enhances the immune system, increases circulation, detoxifies the body through lymphatic drainage, and improves the functioning of internal organs and organ systems. Mental/emotional: Marma massage facilitates self-awareness, improves sleep, and promotes positive mood shifts. Research published in the Integrative Ayurvedic Medical Journal concludes that marma therapy encourages emotional healing, reduces stress, and improves cognitive abilities. Energetic/spiritual: Marma points help us identify and release energetic blockages, increasing and sustaining our vital energy. They encourage us to explore the energetic dimensions of our well-being and the connection between the physical and subtle body. Marma point massage can release blockages and stimulate life force energy Integrating Marma Therapy With Other Modalities Marma therapy can be performed on its own or incorporated into other practices or treatments to enhance their effectiveness. For example: Marma points are naturally integrated into full-body Ayurvedic massage (abhyanga) to affect internal organs. In fact, most Ayurvedic massages reference marma points to balance and heal. Marma science can guide yoga therapy sessions, employing particular physical postures and breathwork practices to stimulate or unblock certain energetic points. Marma massage is often combined with aromatherapy or herbal medicine for comprehensive healing treatments. The practice of applying an herbal paste on a marma point or area, typically to reduce pain or swelling or promote joint health, is called lepa chikitsa. Marma therapy helps detoxify the body and is often used before and during complete Ayurvedic cleanses, known as Panchakarma treatments. With a basic understanding of marmas, we can take advantage of their healing benefits – as part of a daily self-care ritual or in moments of discomfort or stress. FAQs: Marma Therapy What Is Marma Therapy And How Does It Work? Marma therapy is an Ayurvedic healing method that stimulates approximately 107 vital energy points (marmas) to balance prana, enhance circulation, calm the nervous system, and support whole-body wellness. Is Marma Therapy Safe For Everyone? Marma therapy is generally safe when performed by a trained Ayurvedic practitioner. People who are pregnant, have serious injuries, uncontrolled health conditions, or are recovering from surgery should seek medical advice before trying it. What Does A Typical Marma Therapy Session Involve? A session marma therapy session includes gentle pressure or massage on marma points using fingers or a Kansa wand. Practitioners may incorporate warm oils, aromatherapy, or herbal pastes, depending on your dosha and wellness goals. How Much Does Marma Therapy Cost? Pricing varies by country, practitioner, and session length, but typically ranges from €40–€120 ($45–$140) per session. Specialist Ayurvedic clinics or combined treatments (like Panchakarma) may cost more. What Are The Benefits Of Marma Therapy? Marma therapy may help relieve pain and stiffness, reduce stress, improve sleep, support emotional balance, boost circulation, and encourage energetic flow. Many people use it alongside yoga, meditation, or Ayurvedic massage for deeper benefits. The Takeaway: Marma Chikitsa Marma therapy, or marma chikitsa, is an ancient touch-based Ayurvedic therapy, derived from points of vital energy in the body. These points, which unblock, increase, and stabilize energy, are an essential component of the foundation of Ayurveda. Marma massage is an easily accessible bodywork practice that leads to holistic balance of the three doshas and a better understanding of our connection to nature. ● Images: shutterstock/Microgen, shutterstock/Microgen happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Acupuncture | Holistic Medicine | Reflexology Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.Mon, 08 Dec 2025 07:56:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/remove-negative-energy-cleanse/Sonia Vadlamani explores a mix of ancient and science-backed ways to remove negative energy from yourself and your environment. From smudging to salt cleansing, here are eight energy cleansing techniques that bolster your overall well-being. Sometimes we walk into a room, and something just feels off – not necessarily in a dramatic, haunted-house kind of way – but as if the air is stale, tense, or heavy. It could be your home, your workspace, or a place where past conflicts once erupted, and the discomfort still lingers. In short, you feel ill at ease there. Call it bad juju, an off vibe or simply feeling stuck, it’s true that our surroundings affect us in multiple ways. In fact, researchers agree that negative energy perpetuates more negativity. Energy cleansing is therefore essential for safeguarding both our mental and physical health, as well as our overall happiness levels. Signs You Need to Clear Negative Energy We may lack the technology to measure negative energy, but we can often notice the need for energy cleansing by simply listening to our body and our environment. Some of the physical symptoms include: Feeling exhausted even after adequate sleep. Persistent headaches as soon as you enter a place. Prolonged physical or mental strain without evident reason. Irritability, defensiveness, excess complaining, or a negative shift in your mood in certain spaces. Trouble falling asleep or a disturbed sleep cycle. Experiencing health issues such as digestive problems and hormonal imbalances. Struggling to find motivation or channel creativity. Similarly, some indicators that you need to clear the negative energy in your physical surroundings can be: Cluttered spaces that feel constrained despite adequate room. Lasting staleness in the air despite ventilation. Spaces where arguments and disagreements tend to occur frequently. Rooms that make you feel unsettled and nervous for no evident reason. Struggling to relax in places designed for rest. How to Get Rid of Negative Energy Toxic energy can build up in any environment and affect you adversely, and hence it’s important to know how to cleanse your energy. Here are some simple, practical ways for it: 1. Try Smudging and Cleansing With Smoke Smudging or burning dried sage or other herbs like cedar, frankincense, or palo alto is an ancient practice prevalent in several cultures across the world. A 2007 study published in the Journal of Ethnopharmacology found that the medicinal smoke from Havan or a Hindu ceremonial fire lowered the airborne bacteria in a confined space for up to 24 hours. So, burning aromatic herbs and incense can be an effective answer to how to get rid of negative energy – the act of smudging itself and the pleasant scent can be a calming activity that can instantly lift your spirits and perk you up. Remove negative energy through smudging 2. Inspect and Improve Light and Air Circulation A UK study published in the Journal of Affective Disorders that analyzed data from over 400,000 men and women found that spending more time outdoors or in ample natural light could mean improved mood, better sleep quality, lower chances of long-term depression, and higher overall happiness levels. “Learning how to cleanse your energy also means setting healthy boundaries to shield yourself from negative influence.” So, take a keen look at the places where you spend the most time, like your workspace, home, or relaxation areas. Drawing the shades to allow natural light in and opening your windows to let fresh air circulate may be the easiest way to remove negative energy and create movement in a place that otherwise feels “stuck.” 3. Incorporate essential oils and aromatherapy “Our sense of smell is deeply tied to our cognitive centers, our emotional centers, and our memory centers,” says Sandeep Robert Datta, a professor of neurobiology at Harvard Medical School. “We’re dependent on [scent] for a sense of well-being and centeredness in the world.” RELATED: Essential Oils For Grief: 8 Aromatherapy Ideas Aromatherapy using essential oils such as lavender and chamomile has been linked to improved sense of wellbeing and lower risk of depression and anxiety. Add essential oils of your choice to a diffuser or make a simple room mist by adding few drops with distilled water in a spray bottle for easy energy cleansing. Aromatherapy oils act as an energy cleanser 4. Practice Visualization Visualization exercises are a great energy cleansing practice, given that you can practice them almost anywhere, even when you’re waiting at the train station or bus stop! Combine them with a visualization meditation practice to make it more effective. MORE LIKE THIS: What is Chi? A Guide to Feeling and Healing Life Force Energy Reiki: Principles, Benefits, and Costs 5 Techniques to Balance Chakras and Unblock Energy Flows Begin by setting an intention for your practice, something that protects you from others’ negative vibes, like: “I repel all the negative energy from others,” or “I release all energy that doesn’t serve me.” Now, close your eyes and focus on your intention as you take slow, deep breaths. Imagine a white light of goodness expanding from your heart, moving through your body, encompassing you and your loved ones, protecting your energy. Practicing daily can help you feel calmer, less reactive, and more emotionally resilient. 5. Choose the right crystal or stone for you While there’s no conclusive scientific evidence for crystal healing, using crystals as a medium for manifestation or meditation can amplify your focus, help balance your chi, and can also be an aesthetic addition to your surroundings. Every crystal is believed to carry unique cleansing and healing properties, so find the right one using your instinct and objective. 6. Remove negative energy with salt cleansing Salt cleansing has been a preferred purification method for centuries. Taking salt baths 1-2 hours before bedtime have been found to lower cortisol and relax the nervous system. Also, indulging in some quiet, intentional self-care by taking a salt bath makes it easier for you to release any negativity you’ve accumulated through the day. “Drawing the shades to allow natural light in and opening your windows to let fresh air circulate may be the easiest way to remove negative energy.” You can also use salt within the home. Pour it into the four corners of a negative-feeling room and leave it for 48 hours. Some cultures believe that salt absorbs the negative energy present in your surroundings. After 48 hours, throw the salt away. 7. Try Sound Cleansing Sound – whether from bells, Buddhist singing bowls, gongs, or even hands clapping – has long been used for energy cleansing across several cultures. In a 2023 study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, researchers found that the sounds from singing bowl can help one’s brain waves enter the theta state, helping the brain relax and soothing the nervous system. RELATED: Spiritual Cleansing: 9 Detox and Purification Techniques Thus, installing wind chimes or bells near relaxation areas, indulging in sound baths, or playing soft music can break up the stagnant air and help you feel centered. Wind chimes are used to keep negative energy at bay 8. Cut ties with unhelpful people and patterns Learning how to cleanse your energy also means setting healthy boundaries to shield yourself from negative influence. Some ground rules you can reinforce to make this possible are: Limiting time with energy vampires who consistently drain you. Breaking free from unproductive patterns that do not serve your growth. Saying no to commitments that leave you depleted. Creating tech-free, interruption-free routines to spend quality time with loved ones. Setting a fixed time for cleaning and decluttering your home and workspace. Making time for regular exercise and hobbies that nourish you. Takeaway: Energy Cleansing Learning how to get rid of negative energy may seem simple, but it requires you to consciously identify the negative forces in your surroundings and intentionally keep them at bay. There’s no one-time fix that works for all, so start with the approach that resonates the most, notice how it affects your mood and spaces, and build from there. Remember, the goal here isn’t perfection, but to create practices and environments conducive to your well-being, rather than depleting it. ● Images: shutterstock/Daniel Hoz, shutterstock/Pixel-Shot, shutterstock/Elizaveta Galitckaia happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Mental Health | Self Care | Positive Psychology Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.Thu, 04 Dec 2025 10:48:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/christmas-holiday-grief/The Christmas holidays aren't always a time of cheer: especially if you've lost a loved one and are grieving. Paula Stephens knows this feeling all too well. Here she shares 10 practical tips for coping with holiday grief. I lost my Dad on Christmas Eve when I was just 16. The next year my Mom, Grandma and I took our holiday grief on vacation and found ourselves on a beach in Hawaii for the entire festive season. It was a great way to break with the traditions and memories none of us wanted to face. My most vivid memory of that Hawaiian vacation was sitting next to an older gentleman at dinner on Christmas Eve and noticing he was wearing the exact same sweater my Dad would’ve been wearing. Well, this brought my grief right back up to the surface and I left the dinner to go down to the beach and cry. Christmas Grief: 10 Tips For Coping Needless to say, it’s been a long time since I felt untarnished joy and happiness during the holiday season. But, I believe that we are deserving of joy during the holidays, even if it comes balanced with the heartache and longing for the person we love and are missing deeply. In my book, From Grief to Growth, I talk about an essential element of healing that is learning to hold both joy and sadness in the same moment. There is no more challenging time to do this than during the holidays. This is why I've put together these ten easy-to-follow tips that will support you as you navigate coping during the holiday season. I don’t like to say ‘survive the holidays,’ because I want to encourage you to have the mindset that you're always fully capable of more than survival. These are simple, practical tips that don’t require a lot on your part, but are focused to help you manage your Christmas grief and make the most of the festive season. 1. List the events you're most worried about Often, much of our Christmas and holiday grief comes from not knowing what’s going to happen or how traditions and events are going to feel differently after the loss of a loved one. So, take some quiet time to think through what specific traditions you're most concerned about. The best way to do this is to find some time to sit quietly and connect with your breath. Once you’ve centered yourself, ask yourself the question: “What events or traditions are creating the most anxiety for me right now?” Your inner knowing has the answer. You might immediately be pulled to an event or activity. Notice how your body feels, the sensations and energy around the activity. Coping with loss during the holidays is a challenge If nothing comes up immediately then begin to bring your thoughts to various holiday family activities. Check in with each one – tree decorating, cookie exchange, for example. How does each one feel; what comes up? You might find some are more emotionally charged than others. 2. Consider which events/traditions you want to keep Be open to the idea that some traditions you will want to wrap in love and keep, while others will need to be shelved for a while (and maybe for ever). Recognize the traditions you keep will never be the same, but keeping them honors the love you feel for the person you lost. RELATED: Sustainable Christmas: Trees, Decorations, and Gifts That Give Back Every year will be a little bit different, and what feels right this year might not feel the same in the coming years. Grief is a process and you must be willing to evolve with it. Always be open to what will help you move forward in your grief… and sometimes we need to go backwards to go forward! Get out your list from the first tip. Now, let’s take the next steps: • Which events do you want to keep this year? • Which events are too painful this year or don’t feel right? • What or how can you modify an event? If you're undecided on some, come back to your list again later or sit with the idea of doing that event and see what comes up. I know we can’t always control everything about the holiday seasons with family being involved, etc, but don’t worry. 3. Brainstorm how you want to honor your loved one Even if you decide to escape the entire holiday season and fly away to Hawaii for the holidays (been there, done that!), it’s important that you take time to honor your loved one during the Christmas season. It could be with a donation of time or money, or by creating a sacred space or a new tradition. No matter what you decide, be mindful about setting time aside to actively honor your loss. What would you like to do this year to include your loved one in the holiday season? What do you need to do to make this come to fruition? 4. Let the tears flow Quite simply, cry. Don’t be the tough guy or girl who pretends it’s all good – because it's probably not. You’re going through a season or anniversary without someone who was an important part of your life, and coping with holiday grief is part of that. By yourself or with your besties, it doesn’t matter, just let it happen. “Christmas grief comes from not knowing what’s going to happen or how traditions and events are going to feel differently after the loss of a loved one.” Another way to look at this is: are you checking in with yourself to know what’s going on emotionally and physically? Are you filling your days with busy activity to disconnect from the emotional heartache you would feel if you had a moment of downtime? Or, perhaps, you're withdrawing from friends, family and social activities. There isn’t a right or wrong way to deal with Christmas grief, but we need to be aware of our tendencies to protect ourselves, or how we might fall into negative coping strategies. Sometimes a good cry is a better reset than the work we put into avoiding our reality. 5.Tell friends and family how you're feeling Family and friends might not know exactly which activities you’ll struggle with: what might be hard and/or memorable to them might not be the same for you. Generally speaking, they will want to support you, especially with managing your grief during the holiday season. But, you're the only one who knows what you need and how you're feeling, so don’t make it harder for them by expecting them to guess what this is like for you. Tree of knowledge: dealing with Christmas holiday grief We all experience grief differently, so share your fears, concerns and desires. Express what’s important to you or how you would like to handle a specific event. It doesn’t mean you'll always get what you want or need, but it means that you have given voice to your grief and honored your process. 6. Prioritize your self-care Putting yourself first is essential. There's no more important time to focus your energy on self-care than during the Christmas holidays. Lack of sleep, poor food choices, increased alcohol consumption, decreased exercise and increased stress all add up to a massive grief hangover! RELATED: 7 Healing Quotes on Grief to Inspire Essential Oils For Grief: 6 Aromatherapy Ideas How to Help a Grieving Friend Your emotional self is already on overdrive and this will leave your immune system susceptible to illness and your physical body exhausted. Make hydration, sleep, whole foods, stress management, and exercise a priority leading up to and including any seasonal events. Care for yourself by eating a healthy breakfast, drinking more water, going to bed 30 minutes early, journaling, being outside, connecting with nature, and skipping that second (or third) drink at a party! 7. Manage your energy This is a continuation of the last tip. Even if you are taking care of yourself, notice when your tank is getting close to empty. This is especially important if you're the type of person who likes to stay busy to keep their mind off things. Exhaustion (physical and emotional) is often the root cause of emotional meltdowns. And, as you know, grieving is emotional exhausting by itself, then you add the emotional stress of the Christmas holidays and your tank is already half empty. RELATED: How to Protect Your Energy: 7 Science-Backed Techniques So, remember that it’s OK to say ‘no’ to events, or change your ‘yes’ to a ‘no’ at the last minute if you notice you're not feeling up to it. List three ways you know you’re getting low on energy (ie, irritable, fatigue, craving sugar/caffeine). Now list three ways you can fill your tank (ie: take a cat nap, indulge in a bath, journal, read a book). Family matters: pick the events that matter most 8. Prioritize work/social events The Christmas holidays are an especially busy time of year for extra parties – work, neighborhood, and family events are examples. Take time to choose only one or two that are important for you to attend. These might be required for your job or things you just simply don’t want to miss. Be mindful about your selection and take your time to RSVP. For social events that you might have attended with your loved one, ask yourself if you're ready for that situation. Imagine yourself in that environment. Who will be at the event? What will it be like to attend? “We are deserving of joy during the holidays, even if it comes balanced with the heartache and longing for the person we love and are missing deeply.” Then, have an exit strategy! If it’s required that you attend, or you feel like you ‘should’ go, make sure you have a plan for getting out if things get too difficult. This might be driving a separate car or letting the host know you will be not be staying long. 9. Build time in for you As you're planning your social events, make sure you put ‘me time' on the calendar. Whether that's to get out into nature and hike, get a massage, take a bath – it doesn’t matter. Just build in time to recharge your batteries. This could also include making time to be with close friends or family that help you feel connected and loved. Be sure to reach out to these people and let them know you might need some support during the holiday season. Write a list of the people you can connect with and/or activities that soothe your soul. And, again, since people aren’t mind readers, let people know you're taking care of yourself by scheduling time to reflect and recharge. 10. Give back One of the most amazing ways to cope with your Christmas grief during holiday season is to make it a little better for someone else. Unfortunately, there's so much suffering around the holidays – in this we are not alone. So, donate to a charity in your loved one’s name. Give your time to helping others. Buy a gift for someone in a hospital or nursing home. Pay for the person behind you at Starbucks. Volunteer your time. The options for random acts of kindness are endless. Honestly, nothing soothes and heals our own wounds more than helping someone else. How can you help someone else feel comforted this holiday season? Giving doesn’t have to be financial – you can give of your time, you can donate clothes or other items you no longer use. Takeaway: Coping With Holiday Grief Christmas can intensify the weight of grief and loss, making familiar traditions and festive expectations overwhelming. But you can find a gentler way to get through the season — one that honors both your memories and present emotional needs. By acknowledging which Christmas rituals feel comforting and which ones feel too painful, and by giving yourself permission to adapt or let go, you create room for healing amid the holiday bustle. Ultimately, this approach offers a path toward a more compassionate Christmas. Through intentional self-care, honest conversations with loved ones, mindful pacing of events, and small acts of kindness, it becomes possible to find moments of peace even in the midst of grief. I hope my tips will hope you manage and cope with grief this holiday season and that you enjoy this time. You deserve it! ● Images shutterstock/Dusan Petkovic, shutterstock/Zivica Kerkez Written by Paula Stephens Paula Stephens, M.A. is the founder of Crazy Good Grief, an organization that teaches positive growth and resilience after the loss of a loved one. Her work is inspired by the personal loss of her oldest son who passed away unexpectedly while home on leave from the Army. Paula is a speaker, yogi and life coach. She's also the author of From Grief to Growth: 5 Essential Elements to Give your Grief Purpose and Grow from Your Experience. Paula is a practicing Buddhist and recently became the first Buddhist Chaplain to work at the county jail where she lives. She is the mother of four boys and lives in Littleton, Colorado.Wed, 03 Dec 2025 09:02:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/personal-growth/why-volunteering-is-important-benefits/Becoming a volunteer is an important and meaningful way to help individuals and communities. And, as Calvin Holbrook discovers, the benefits of volunteering to the person giving – such as improved self-esteem and reduced loneliness – are proven by science. With lots of us leading incredibly busy lives, the idea of volunteering – giving your time and energy to a cause without financial compensation – may seem an impossible task. Our time is precious; once gone, we can't get it back. I mean, how can we fit anything else into our already jam-packed schedules? However, in reality, volunteering is important for many reasons and doesn't have to take up a huge chunk of your time. Plus, as well as the obvious benefits of volunteerism to the community, individual or organization receiving assistance, there are lot of benefits – physical and mental – for the volunteer. It's these benefits that could partly explain the rise in popularity of volunteering over the past few years. Post-pandemic, during 2022-3, 34% of adults in England, UK, said they'd formally volunteered at least once a month. And the figure in the United States is not far off, at around 28%. Promisingly, an increasing number of these people are young adults. More young people – especially Millennials and Gen Z – are getting involved. Over half of them report volunteering for non-profits, far surpassing older generations. For example, 54% of Gen Z adults have volunteered recently, while 73% claim to seek easy ways to volunteer online. Volunteering is an important tool to connect communities So, why do people volunteer in the first place? The Greek philosopher Aristotle once said that the essence of life is “to serve others and do good,” and it seems an increasing number of us are starting to wake up and see why volunteering is important, and that serving and helping different communities also benefits ourselves, too. Why is Volunteering Important? Volunteering is important as it offers essential help to worthwhile causes, people in need, and the wider community. Indeed, many organziations and charities rely on the generosity of volunteers as they’re only part-funded through government or local councils, and cannot afford to pay salaries for all their staff. In fact, many companies depend almost solely upon teams of volunteers to help them thrive and do their work. What Are the Benefits of Volunteering? Of course, the benefits of volunteering for those receiving help are clear. Whether it’s providing kids in a Third World country with free English classes or litter picking at your local beach, the benefits to the receiver and the wider community are usually part of the reason why you decide to volunteer in the first place. “Volunteering is important as it offers essential help to worthwhile causes, people in need, and the wider community.” But did you realise just how important volunteering can be for the person doing it? In fact, volunteering is beneficial to the doer for a whole host of reasons, including stress reduction, combating depression and providing a sense of purpose. And while studies show that the more you volunteer, the more benefits you’ll experience, volunteering doesn’t have to involve a long-term commitment. Even giving in simple ways can help those in need and improve your overall health and happiness. So, let’s take a closer look at just why volunteerism is valuable with these seven key benefits of this altruistic act. 1. Volunteering Connects You With Others If you’re feeling lonely, isolated, or simply want to widen your social circle, volunteering in your local community is an important – and often fun – way to meet new people. In fact, one of the best ways to make new friends and strengthen existing relationships is to commit to a shared activity together, and volunteering lets you do just that. If you’ve recently moved to a new city or country, volunteering is an easy way to meet new people, strengthening your ties to the local community and broadening your own support network. Furthermore, it connects you to people who have common interests, who could go on to become great friends. RELATED: The Importance of Community: 7 Key Benefits Happy Habits: 12 Ways to Boost Joy Levels Daily Finding Your Tribe: The 7 Steps You Need to Take In fact, volunteering is an important and interesting way to meet people who you might not normally connect with: people from different age groups, ethnicities or social groups. Because volunteering is open to everyone, it allows you to meet a wide variety of people from all sorts of walks of life, something that can only broaden your life experience further. 2. Volunteerism Builds Self-Confidence and Self-esteem Doing good for others and the community helps to create a natural sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. Working as a volunteer can also give you a sense of pride and identity, helping to boost your confidence further by taking you out of your comfort zone and environment. Indeed, volunteering helps you to feel better about yourself, which you can then take back to your ‘regular’ routine, hopefully creating a more positive view of your own life and future goals. Volunteerism builds self-confidence and reduces loneliness If you’re naturally shy or fearful of new experiences, cultures and travel, volunteering overseas could be an important and insightful way to help you build self-confidence in this area (not forgetting the other benefit of this type of volunteering – a chance to see a bit of the world at the same time!). Furthermore, research shows that volunteering could be particularly useful in boosting the self-esteem and confidence of adolescents who are just starting their life journey. A 2017 study from the University of Missouri and Brigham Young University examined how sharing, helping and comforting others affected self-confidence. The study found that altruistic behaviors raises teens' feelings of self-worth, and that adolescents who assisted strangers reported higher self-esteem one year later. RELATED: What Teens Gain When They Contribute to Their Social Groups A National Youth Agency report seemed to corroborate this evidence. In it, young people aged 11 to 25 “repeatedly stressed that volunteering had increased their self-confidence, self-esteem and self-belief.” This self-confidence boost was shown to be strongly linked to improved communication skills, especially amongst young volunteers who were previously nervous about meeting new people. 3. Volunteerism is Important For Physical Health Interestingly, volunteering has distinct health benefits that can boost your mental and – perhaps surprisingly – physical health. Indeed, a growing body of evidence suggests that people who give their time to others might benefit from lower blood pressure and a longer lifespan. “If you’re feeling lonely or simply want to widen your social circle, volunteering in your local community is an important – and fun – way to meet new people.” A 1999 study showed that so-called ‘high volunteers’ (helping out at two or more organizations) had a 63% lower mortality rate than non-volunteers. And more recent research (2013) from Carnegie Mellon University found that adults over 50 who volunteered regularly were less likely to develop hypertension compared to non-volunteers. Lead study author Rodlescia Sneed said that carrying out volunteer work can increase physical activity among those who aren’t normally very active, and that it could also reduce stress: “Many people find volunteer work to be helpful with respect to stress reduction, and we know that stress is very strongly linked to health outcomes.” Importantly, volunteers seem to notice these health benefits too. Indeed, a 2013 study from UnitedHealth Group and the Optum Institute of over 3,300 adults revealed that 76% of those in the United States who volunteer said it makes them feel physically healthier. Also, around 25% said that volunteering had been important in helping them manage a chronic health condition. 4. Volunteerism Improves Mental Health When it comes to volunteering being important for mental health, the benefits are clear. Being altruistic can help counteract the effects of stress, depression and anxiety. Indeed, the social contact aspect of helping others can have a profound effect on your overall psychological well-being. Volunteering keeps you in regular contact with others and helps you develop a solid support system, which in turn combats feelings of loneliness and depression. Volunteering with animals has also been shown to improve mood while reducing stress and anxiety. Volunteering can improve your physical health Finally, volunteering boosts mental health simply because carrying out an altruistic act simply makes you happier; the so-called 'helper's high'. Human beings are hard-wired to give to others, and by measuring so-called brain activity and happiness hormones, researchers know that being helpful delivers great pleasure. RELATED: How to Be Nicer: 9 Ways to Show Kindness Shared Humanity: Why it Matters Human Kindness: Why We Need it More Than Ever A 2008 study from the London School of Economics examined the relationship between volunteering and happiness in a large group of American adults. They found that the more people volunteered, the happier they were. Compared with people who never volunteered, the odds of being ‘very happy’ rose 7% among those who volunteer monthly and 12% for those who volunteer every two-to-four weeks. 5. Volunteering is Important For a Purpose Because volunteering means choosing to work without reward, people often choose to give their time to issues or organisations they have a special connection to. For example, if you're a big animal lover you may want to volunteer at a pet shelter. Or, perhaps you’ve living with or have recovered from an illness and want to dedicate some of your spare time to a charity that helps others living with the same condition. Volunteering like this helps address a social problem that is meaningful to you and in turn helps to build a sense of purpose, which further boosts your own happiness levels. “When it comes to volunteering being important for mental health, the benefits are clear. It can help counteract the effects of stress, depression and anxiety.” You can try volunteering at any age to help build a sense of purpose, but it’s often particularly common in older adults – those that have retired or maybe lost a partner of friends. Whatever your age of life story, volunteering can be an important technique to help give your life new meaning and direction. 6. Volunteering Helps You Forget Your Own Problems People also volunteer because focusing on others can give us a deeper sense of perspective and help distract us from negative thoughts and rumination. Volunteerism often involves helping those in need and can be useful in showing us that, in fact, our own lives are not as bad as we thought they were. RELATED: Volunteering at Samaritans 7. Volunteering Is Important For Your Career In an increasingly competitive job market, volunteering experience is incredibly useful. It shows potential employers that you take initiative and are willing to give your own time to improve the world for others. Furthermore, volunteering gives you the opportunity to practice important common skills used in the workplace, such as communication, teamwork, problem solving, planning, and organization. Indeed, if you haven’t had a full-time job before, volunteering is a great way to prove your skills during interviews. Boost future job prospects through volunteerism Also, if you’ve just graduated or are looking for your first job, volunteering is an important and relatively easy way to get a foot in the door of a company you’d like to work with. Even if there's no immediate chance of employment afterwards, volunteering can help you to make connections for the future. Furthermore, if you’ve already had jobs and are considering a change of direction, volunteering is an important and fun way to try out different career options, especially if you’re not quite sure of where you want to go next. Indeed, volunteering offers you the chance to try out a new career without making a long-term commitment. Takeaway: Why Do People Volunteer? It's clear the benefits of volunteerism are huge – improved physical and mental health, reduced loneliness, clearer sense of purpose, and deeper self-confidence. In turn, these things combined will help to boost your overall happiness: a win-win situation for all involved. If you're considering volunteering, ask yourself a few questions before taking the plunge. Firstly, think about which causes you're passionate about – it means you're more likely to enjoy and stay committed to the work. Secondly, are you looking for regular volunteering opportunities or a one-off project? Thirdly, what skill set can you offer and what can you hope to gain from volunteering? Good luck when you finally get going, and make sure you have fun – volunteering is important, but it's important to enjoy it too! • Images shutterstock/Dragon Images, /ESB Professional, /PeopleImages, /Monkey Business Images Do you volunteer? What are the benefits for you? Share in the comments below... happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Join free now and: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine ■ share and support in our happiness forum Kindness | Motivation | Learning | Altruism Written by Calvin Holbrook Calvin edits our online magazine, makes art and loves swimming, yoga, dancing to house/techno, and all things vintage!Wed, 26 Nov 2025 09:21:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/art-culture-leisure/sustainable-christmas/The festive season is a wonderful – but wasteful – time of year. Dee Marques shares 10 top practical ways on how to have a more eco-friendly Christmas, including giving gifts that last, buying sustainable trees and decorations, plus other ideas. As we're getting closer to the Christmas period, most of us are busy and excited making plans for this special time of the year. The festive season is synonymous with time off, family gatherings, and a time for reflection and gratitude. However, as you probably already know, Christmas isn't the greenest of celebrations. So, how can we consider sustainability when it comes to Christmas? The festive holiday might be the most wonderful time of the year, but it’s also the most wasteful. Indeed, as exciting as the holy season may be, this annual celebration really isn’t eco-friendly. In fact, both consumption and waste peak during Christmas, which is synonymous with excesses of many kinds: purchases, food consumption (and waste), trashed trees, and increased electricity use. Furthermore, research suggests that household waste in the USA peaks between November and January. During these three months, an extra 1 million tons of waste are produced every week. In the UK, waste figures are just as shocking: 74 million mince pies are thrown away alongside 300,000 tonnes of packaging and 250 tonnes of Christmas trees. Bing Crosby may have sung about dreaming of a white Christmas, but here at happiness.com we're dreaming of a green Christmas! 10 Tips For a More Sustainable Christmas So, is there anything we can do to change this? Absolutely. A more sustainable, greener Christmas is possible – it just requires a few changes in habits and for us to become more mindful of how we prepare to celebrate. Follow the 10 tips below and contribute to creating a more eco-friendly Christmas: surely that's the best gift we can give to each other and the planet? 1. Sustainable Gifts: The Value of The Old Sustainable Christmas gifts don’t have to be brand new. Indeed, vintage and second-hand items are going through a revival right now – especially clothing – as more of us realise the value of gifting these unique pieces that have a history and were made to last. What’s more, the hunt for second-hand treasures is much more exciting than buying something online and shows you have taken the time and effort to really think about what would make a great gift for somebody. Rummage around in a second-hand or vintage store to find that unique sustainable gift for a friend or family member – you may find a present for yourself, too! Vintage clothing makes a great sustainable Xmas gift 2. Sustainable Christmas Cards If we laid all the Christmas cards that are thrown away after the holidays, they would cover almost 230,000 miles – that’s almost the same as the width of the US from east to west! So, for a more sustainable Christmas, either make your own cards, or be selective with the ones you do buy. Avoid cards that are glossy/shiny or that have a foil layer; they will most likely be impossible to recycle. Also, consider buying charity cards, so that a percentage of your purchase goes to a good cause. For extra eco-friendly points, get creative and make your own designs on cut-up cardboard waste or paper. 3. Buy Ethically-Sourced Gifts When it comes to ordering online, do you ever pause to think where your Christmas gifts are manufactured? We've become so used to the ease of shopping through the web that most of us fail to consider where goods are made, by whom, and the conditions workers are dealing with. “Rummage in a second-hand or vintage store to find that unique sustainable gift for a friend or family member. You may find a present for yourself, too!” Although globalization puts a huge variety of products at our instant disposal, it comes with its downsides too: there’s a huge footprint involved in sourcing gifts overseas. So, instead, why not buy gifts from local artists and craftspeople? Visit local artisan fairs and find yourself some greener, more sustainable Christmas pressies. Plus, you can be happy in the fact you are supporting your local community – rather than Amazon. Search local Christmas markets for green gifts 4. Christmas Tree Alternatives Millions of trees are cut every Christmas only to be discarded, and this is a tragedy for the environment. For a more sustainable Christmas, get creative instead and put Christmas lights and decorations on a large potted plant. Alternatively, stack several terra cotta plant pots upside down to form your own “tree”, or even decorate a wooden ladder that's full of plants and presents. RELATED: What is An Ecovillage? Sustainable Communities That Live and Thrive What Are Sustainable Development Goals? Chirtsmas and Holiday Grief: 10 Tips For Coping Interestingly, some farms now allow you to 'rent' a fir for the festive season. You decorate the tree for Christmas, and then in the new year it's collected and replanted. However, if you do decide to buy a real tree, make sure you do recycle it: those in the UK can check out recyclenow for drop-off points. Alternatively, take the tree to your local dump/landfill where it can be disposed of in the green waste area. Seeing trashed trees in the streets after the festive season is a sad sight. 5. Snap Up Gifts That Last Research shows that in the US the value of unwanted Christmas gifts amount to an astonishing $13 billion, whereas a UK survey claims that up to 60 million gifts will never be used. So, instead of risking that possibility and adding to the stats, why not give something that lasts instead, such as a tree or a plant? Furthermore, donations are especially welcome at this time of the year, so take time to gather unwanted or unused giftsand take them to a charity. where they’ll be passed on to someone who needs them. 6. Reduce Paper and Plastic Paper and plastic waste skyrocket during the festive period, but there are ways of making your gift wrapping more sustainable. Reuse wrapping paper from past gifts you’ve received, or use recycled brown paper to wrap presents. If you’ve got basic sewing skills, you could even try making drawstring fabric gift bags. Remember that not everything needs to be wrapped: consider alternative and more sustainable ways of presenting gifts such as using baskets, tin boxes, wooden boxes, etc. These can then be reused, so they double as a useful gift, too. That's a wrap: make your Christmas more eco-friendly with recycled paper 7.Turn the Lights Off Christmas lights are part of the festive spirit, but while ostentatious house displays can be a joy to look at, they are a serious drain on energy supplies. On a smaller scale, when it comes to your Christmas tree lights, don’t leave them on overnight, or when no one is at home. “For a more sustainable Christmas, either make your own cards, or be selective with the ones you buy. Avoid cards that are glossy/shiny or that have a foil layer; they will most likely be impossible to recycle.” Indeed, it really pays to invest in low-energy lights or a timer you can set to ensure you don’t go overboard on your electricity consumption (especially given the price at the moment!). In fact, if every household in the UK converted to LED lights from incandescent during the Christmas fortnight, it would save almost 30,000 tonnes of CO2 and £11 million. 8. Reduce Food Waste According to researchers, almost 40 per cent of food served during the holidays goes to waste. That's shocking, especially considering how many people less well-off will go without food during that time. As you plan your Christmas meals, really think about how you can use any leftovers for other recipes. And if you do end up with too much leftover food, find a surplus food redistribution group or food bank in your area that you can donate to. Only consume what you need: don't let food go to waste 9. Eco-Friendly Decorations For a greener Christmas, switch plastic or disposable ornaments for natural or recycled ones. Make it a fun event and get the whole family involved in making a wreath out of used wrapping paper or a bunch of fragrant plants like eucalyptus or spruce. And why not gather a few greens and pine cones to use as table decorations? See the light:make an alternative Xmas tree 10. Volunteer Over Christmas Giving your time is a generous gesture that can make someone else’s Christmas more memorable. In the UK, more than 10,000 people volunteer at shelters run by three well-known charities, but they’re not the only ones you can contribute to. Smaller organisations in your local area may also need help. And, as well as those less fortunate on the receiving end of care, the benefits of volunteering extend to the person helping, too. Takeaway: A More Sustainable Christmas You still have a few weeks left on the run up to Christmas to organize this year’s celebration, so why not start planning for a greener, more sustainable Christmas now? Small changes in habits can go a long way and bring more meaning to the festive season, as well as reducing waste. Whatever you do to make your Christmas more eco-friendly, make sure you enjoy it! ● Images shutterstock/Arina P Habich, /Rabusta, /Maglara, /Sven Hansche, /Roman Samborskyi happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Family activities | Board Games | Volunteering Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.Tue, 25 Nov 2025 11:02:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/eight-types-of-grief-explained/While we will all deal with grief at some point, you may not even realise you're experiencing the emotion, as it's usually only connected with death. In fact, as Dee Marques explains, there are many different types of grief – such as anticipatory and absent – related to all types of loss. Grief is perhaps one of the most misunderstood emotions: we tend to think of it as something related to the death of a loved one, but, in fact, it can appear as a reaction to many different types of loss. Grief is also misunderstood in that people seem to have an expectation of how it should be experienced. However, although we’re all likely to experience grief at some point in our lives, we’ll also all have different ways of dealing with it. Understanding different grief types is important so we’re better prepared when we have to face it – and so we can help a grieving friend or family member when they're dealing with a loss. What is grief, exactly? Grief is a strong emotion that appears when we face loss, whether that loss is of a person, animal, or 'thing' that’s important to us. You can experience grief as a result of losing your home, a job, or even the sense of freedom after a sabbatical or a long trip. In short, grief can appear when we lose anything we form a strong emotional connection to, and is linked to losing identity, freedom, or expectations. The emotion of grief itself is a natural response and part of the process we must go through to get used to a new situation, but it’s often felt as a roadblock in our path to happiness. Bereavement and grief is unique It’s often said that the stages of grief go from denial to acceptance, but some claim this only applies to the types of grief linked to the death of a loved one. The truth is that grief can be messy, and doesn’t necessarily follow a clear path. According to psychological studies, in some cases it may even come and go in cycles, and be anything but an orderly linear process. The way we experience grief is unique to each one of us and can depend on factors like beliefs, background, personality, age, support network, and health – both mental and physical. All these factors contribute to the uniqueness of each grief experience, and can derive into any of the main types of grief described below. The 8 Types of Grief Explained These are the main types of grief that exist. We may experience one or more of them while dealing with a loss. Here are eight of the most common grief types that will likely affect you during your lifetime. 1. Anticipatory grief This is one of the least well-known types of grief but also one of the most common. Anticipatory grief is when you feel grief before a physical loss actually happens. For example, if you're caring for someone who has a terminal illness, the emotion of anticipatory grief may start to creep in before your loved one passes away. Furthermore, anticipatory grief can be complex, as seeing someone suffer and finally letting go may bring a feeling of relief, for which people feel guilty. Those feelings of guilt may have already begun while a loved-on was alive, as people experiencing anticipatory grief means giving up on hope. And while some say that anticipatory grief lessens the impact or loss after the person passes away, in other cases it doesn’t always work that way. 2. Normal or common grief Some people carry on with their normal routine despite feelings of grief. From the outside it may seem as if the person has not been affected by their bereavement, but pain, numbness, and other feelings are still present under the ‘normal’ surface. With this type of grieving, it’s common for acute feelings of grief to come in bursts, so they may not be obvious to everyone unless they’re with the griever 24/7. The intensity of feelings gradually lessens over time until we find ‘the new normal’. 3. Complicated grief Next in the list of grief types is complicated grief, which is experienced by around 10 per cent of people dealing with loss. Here, the pain following bereavement is so overwhelming that it actually prevents them from going about their daily lives. “Understanding the different types of grief is important so we’re better prepared for it – and so we can help a grieving friend or family member.” Complicated grief is characterised by irrational thoughts and may also be expressed as avoidance behaviour (for example, by avoiding things that remind the griever of the person or situation that have been lost). Unlike common grief, this doesn’t happen in bursts, but rather as a constant feeling that makes the person feel trapped with no end in sight. This is one of the types of grief that may develop into self-harm or acute depression if the griever doesn’t get the support they need. From anticipatory to absent, there are many different grief types 4. Delayed grief Sometimes, feelings linked to grief don’t appear immediately after losing someone or something valuable. For some people delayed grief shows up whereby the feelings grow stronger with time, or they find it harder to cope months down the line, rather than in the initial aftermath of the event (which is typical). RELATED: Losing a Parent: 6 Tips for Coping With Loss 7 Healing Grief Quotes to Soothe Your Soul Holiday Grief:10 tips For Coping During Emotional Times Delayed grief is more common when losing a loved one happens alongside other significant changes, such as losing a job or a house, developing health problems, or when the griever feels they are the strong family member and must focus on caring for others. 5. Inhibited grief Inhibited grief appears when the griever avoids facing the realities of losing something or someone by turning their attention to other things. People may put all their time and energy into something that will keep them distracted, so they bury their feelings in the hopes of avoiding the related pain. “Anticipatory grief is when you feel grief before a physical loss actually happens. For example, if you're caring for someone who has a terminal illness.” However, inhibited grief can lead to exhaustion and manifest itself in physical symptoms like migraines, digestive issues, nausea, etc. Sometimes it can lead to one of the other grief types discussed above, ie, delayed grief. 6. Disenfranchised grief Unlike with the other types of grief mentioned above, people experiencing disenfranchised grief usually get little support or acceptance. Disenfranchised grief is a type of grief that may happen after losing a pet, a non-family member, or a part of ourselves (such as losing function of a body part after an accident). The loss isn’t often recognised by society as being ‘worthy of grief’, which puts even more pressure on grievers, as they feel that no one else understands them. They may struggle, believing that they must suppress their emotions. Ups and downs: loss and grief affect us differently 7. Absent grief This is similar to inhibited grief in that the person silences their feelings and carries on as if nothing has happened. However, absent grief is a more extreme version that revolves around complete avoidance or denial. Indeed, there are reports of extreme cases of absent grief, such as an 80-year lady whose grief was absent for 30 years after losing a son, as she refused to believe her son had passed away. 8. Exaggerated grief Last in the list of common types of grief is exaggerated grief. This similar to complicated grief in that sorrow and the inability to function don’t improve over time. This may be the result of experiencing several losses at the same time or over a short period of time, so the griever feels lost and unable to cope. Similarly to complicated grief, if not resolved, exaggerated grief can easily turn into depression. Takeaway: What Can We Learn About Different Grief Types Grief is a universal emotion, but the way we experience it isn’t. When learning to live with grief, it’s essential to understand that there’s no standard formula and we need to find the best ways of processing it for our particular circumstances. Understanding and recognising these common different types of grief can get us one step closer to happiness, and will also help us be a source of support to others who are grieving. • Images shutterstock/KieferPix, shutterstock/fizkes, shutterstock/Antonio Guillem Are you struggling with grief or have some useful tips on how to deal with it? Then head over to our forum and share your thoughts with the community. happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up free to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine ■ share and support in our happiness forum Self Care | Courage | Acceptance Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.Thu, 20 Nov 2025 08:21:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/relationships/losing-a-parent/The death of a parent is often devastating and can lead to both physical and mental health issues for the child. But, as Dee Marques writes, there are ways of dealing with the pain. If your mom or dad has died, these six ideas can show you how to cope after the loss of a parent. American poet Maya Angelou once said, “I can accept the idea of my own demise, but I’m unable to accept the death of anyone else”. Most of us can empathise with this, especially when it comes to the idea of losing one of our parents. Indeed, the death of a parent is surely one of the most stressful events we can experience, and although it's an inevitable fact of life, this doesn’t minimise the impact when it comes to dealing with it. The traumatic experience of parental loss can cause disruption to our lives in ways we never imagined, leaving us feeling vulnerable and unsure how to cope. Grieving is a profound experience involving feelings of shock, numbness, denial, anger, sadness, and despair that sometimes come together creating a hurricane of strong emotions – often lasting for many months or years. As harrowing as this can be, there are some positive steps you can take when dealing with the death of a parent. The different scenarios around parental death also can affect how you deal with it, as Psychiatrist Dr. Nikole Benders-Hadi told fatherly.com: “In the best-case scenario, the death of a parent is anticipated and there’s time for families to prepare, say their goodbyes, and surround themselves with support. Photo scrapbooks can help when dealing with parental loss “In cases where a death is unexpected, such as with an acute illness or traumatic accident, adult children may remain in the denial and anger phases of the loss for extended periods of time… [leading to] diagnosis of major depressive disorder or PTSD, if trauma is involved.” Losing a Parent: What Science Says Researchers have discovered that dealing with the grief of losing a parent is so hard because the feelings of loss affect the brain directly. The grieving process sends the amygdala (the part of the brain that regulates emotions of distress) into overdrive, and makes the brain release stress hormones, including cortisol. This interferes with thinking and acting, making grief exhausting and overpowering. Some studies have even linked unresolved grief with cardiac events, hypertension, immune disorders, and even cancer. Other research show that grieving a parent's death can lead to increased risks of long-term emotional and mental health issues. Losing a parent has been linked to higher rates of depression, low confidence, anxiety, low academic performance, and addiction problems. And, according to psychologists, these risks can be higher if loss happens during childhood or before reaching adulthood. RELATED: 7 Healing Grief Quotes to Soothe Your Soul Essential Oils for Grief: 6 Soothing Aromatherapy Ideas How to Cope With the Suicide of a Friend Quoted in the Los Angeles Times, David Kessler, the founder of grief.com, believes many adults — regardless of their age — struggle with feeling like an orphan following the death of a parent. He said: “I try to remind them that you still stay connected with that person even in death.” It’s also worth mentioning that the emotional storm caused by grief can happen irrespective of the type of relationship we had with our parents – good or bad. Indeed, the impact is bound to be strong because of the nature of the parent-child bond, which is one of the most fundamental aspects of human experience. “Losing a parent has been linked to higher rates of depression, low confidence, anxiety, and addiction problems.” Additionally, researchers have found that gender influences the impact of parental death due to attachment between fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. Several studies suggest that daughters and sons process the loss of a parent differently, with daughters reporting more upsetting emotions and being more likely to experience the physical symptoms of grief. Parental Death: Coping Strategies For Grief After losing a parent, it’s normal to feel that you can’t cope. Here are six suggestions on how to navigate this difficult time and find your way forward when dealing with the grief of losing a parent. 1. Avoid comparing yourself to others One of the most important things to remember is the uniqueness of grief. Some people may not express their emotions openly, while others may look as if they’ve recovered within weeks. That doesn’t mean to say they’re not grieving – perhaps they're just doing it in a different way. Indeed, there are many different types of grief, including delayed and inhibited grief, whereby those bereaving a loss try to distract themselves from the pain, rather than face it head-on. RELATED: Holiday Grief: 10 Tips for Coping During Emotional Times 2. Anticipate the process Grief from losing a parent doesn’t have a beginning and an end: it comes with many ups and downs. Certain days, names, or places may arise a wave of sorrow, but that doesn’t mean you’re failing to heal. Also, remember that if you feel the intensity of grief decreasing, this doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten your parent or are dishonouring their memory in any way. Reach out: if you lose a parent, seek a helping hand 3. Don’t isolate yourself There will be times when you may want to be alone and that’s OK, but try not to make a habit of isolation. Remember that people are there for you, whether they’re neighbours, friends, relatives or counsellors. And if you can't face talking to someone you know, online forums or helplines can be a great way to find comfort – especially as you can chat with others that are coping with parental loss. 4. Explore ways to find meaning After losing a parent, you’ll probably search for answers or try to explain why this had to happen. There may not be a definite answer, but the journey of exploration is part of the healing process. Meaning-making can come from religious beliefs such as exploring Buddhism, or other forms of understanding spirituality. MORE LIKE THIS: The Healing Power of Pets: 6 Health Benefits Losing a Friend: 5 Ways to Cope With the Change Navigating Life: 10 Tips For Overcoming Obstacles 5. Try journaling Journaling is another way of finding meaning and making sense of what the experience means to you. Writing is a powerful tool that can help you work through your emotions instead of bottling them up. 6. Commemorate their life One of the reasons why grieving a parent is so overpowering is that we tend to perceive it as the end of the road. While your mum or dad is no longer with you physically, their legacy lives on. It’s worth finding productive ways of honouring your parent and commemorating their lives. “If you feel the intensity of grief decreasing, this doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten your parent or are dishonouring their memory in any way.” Debra J. Umberson, professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin, told the Los Angeles Times: “Having a place that reminds the child of the parent and going to that place to talk things through with the parent can be very comforting. Consider planting a tree in their memory, so you can visit it. If that's not possible, try creating a virtual space online or creating a photo and memory scrapbook you can look at whenever you want to be close to your parent. Parental Loss: The Takeaway The emotional impact of losing a parent can make it difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. However, you should know that you’re not alone in this experience. Self-care and strong bonds with others are more important than ever when dealing with the death of a parent. Try to put in practice some of the suggestions we’ve offered to cope with the grieving process and find a way to keep purpose in your life, even after losing a parent. ● Images shutterstock/Pixel-Shot If you're struggling with the death of a parent or have some ideas on how to cope with the loss, our community would love to hear from you. Get the conversation started in the comments below. happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine ■ share and support in our happiness forum Resilience | Letting go | Learning Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.Thu, 20 Nov 2025 07:04:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/healing-quotes-on-grief/Mon, 17 Nov 2025 01:00:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/relationships/abandonment-trauma/Can our childhood experiences with caregivers shape the relationships we form as adults? Sonia Vadlamani explores what emotional abandonment looks like and how to recognize the signs of abandonment trauma. Being left behind entails a distinct kind of pain – it’s unlike the expected heartache of loss or the closure at the end of a relationship. The trauma stemming from emotional abandonment isn’t always obvious. Its subtle presence influences every decision you make, relationships you build, and even your self-worth – yet you may not identify it as trauma at all. What is Abandonment Trauma? Abandonment trauma is a profound psychological wound that occurs when the consistent care necessary for a person’s emotional and physical well-being is withdrawn during their childhood or later in life. It can arise due to mental or physical abuse, neglect, rejection, loss of a caregiver or partner, or divorce. People struggling with fear of abandonment may develop destructive behaviors, low esteem and chronic self-doubt. They may sabotage relationships by reacting with anxiety or mistrust, creating challenging patterns that are difficult to break without intentional effort and support. Types of Abandonment Trauma Abandonment trauma doesn’t manifest the same way for every individual. In 1969, British psychologist John Bowlby proposed the “attachment theory”, defining attachment as “the lasting psychological connection between two human beings.” He emphasized that the quality of our relationships with our caregivers significantly influences our cognitive and behavioral development, as well as our social connectedness in life. Abandonment issues often stem from childhood neglect or abuse Based on their experiences through childhood and growing years, individuals may develop secure or insecure attachment styles. Individuals with a secure attachment style tend to be responsive, warm, and capable of forming healthy, fulfilling relationships since they can trust others with greater ease. Conversely, children and young adults who don’t receive conscious, consistent caregiving often develop insecure attachment styles – namely anxious, avoidant and disorganized: Anxious attachment style This is often observed in individuals who are clingy, needy and co-dependent in relationships. According to a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, almost 20 percent of adults form anxious attachment patterns in their relationships. Adults with anxious attachment usually latch on closely in relationships – whether friendships or romantic partnerships – and can be emotionally reactive, fearing every conflict as a threat of being left behind. They may seek constant reassurance of love, be hypervigilant to behavioral changes or withdrawal, and ignore their own needs to make room for others, consequently struggle to live an authentic life. Avoidant attachment style This pattern often develops when children or young adults are repeatedly dismissed, ignored or rejected emotionally by their caregivers. Individuals who learn that expressing their needs or feelings result in criticism or indifference often adapt by suppressing their needs altogether to avoid disappointment. “Abandonment trauma is a profound psychological wound that occurs when the consistent care necessary for a person’s emotional and physical well-being is withdrawn during their childhood or later in life.” These individuals may appear self-reliant and independent as adults, but often feel uncomfortable showing emotional intimacy, conflict or vulnerability, tending to withdraw when they get “too close” in relationships. Adults with avoidant attachment style due to abandonment may also emotionally stonewall their partners, even in committed relationships. Disorganized attachment style This is considered the most complex and damaging attachment style, typically arising in adults who received fearsome or distressing experiences from their caregivers, often in the form of abuse or neglect. Adults with disorganized attachment tend to struggle with emotional regulation, chaotic relationship patterns, and contradictory behaviors such as simultaneously pursuing intimacy yet dreading closeness. In fact, a study published in Archives of Psychiatry and Psychotherapy found a positive correlation between disorganized attachment style and mental health conditions such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Signs of Abandonment Trauma If you’ve ever wondered, “Do I have abandonment issues?”, you already may have noticed patterns and behaviors that don’t always make logical sense. Whether it’s the disproportionately intense reactions, the recurrent relationship cycles, or the hypersensitive feeling that you’re just one mistake away from being abandoned – over time, these reactions don’t sit quite right, prompting you to question these patterns. A keen look at the signs of abandonment issues can help you recognize these unhealthy patterns – for after all, awareness is the first step toward healing. 1. Difficulty Regulating Emotions A breakthrough study by Center on the Developing Child at Harvard revealed that the absence of “serve and return interaction” – or consistent care by a caregiver to a child – can disrupt their brain development, potentially leading to serious physiological problems with their learning, behavior and health. MORE LIKE THIS: Inner Child Work and Therapy: How to Heal Past Wounds What is Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder Recognizing and Overcoming Emotional Dependency As adults, those with insecure attachment styles may struggle with regulating their emotions in a healthy manner, swinging between intense expressions and emotional numbness. Consequently, emotional instability and insecurity are some of the most prominent traits in individuals with abandonment trauma, owing to neglect or inconsistent caregiving in their childhood. 2. Fear of Intimacy and Commitment Building close, healthy, and intimate relationships is often a challenge for those with abandonment trauma. Indeed, research published in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that attachment style plays a key role in shaping romantic relationships. For adults with avoidant dismissive attachment, the fear of being hurt or left again can cause them to avoid deep emotional connections altogether. Abandonment trauma can lead to trust issues in relationships 3. Experiencing Trust Issues “Children and adults may manifest similar emotions and concerns with regard to abandonment trauma, but because of different phases of development, they may contrast with behaviors. Common themes for both can include mistrust of others and feeling inadequate or ashamed within relationships,” explains Elizabeth Keohan, a licensed certified social worker. “Even when their intellect recognizes someone as trustworthy, individuals with signs of abandonment issues often have difficulty quelling feelings of mistrust.” A 2023 study published in Personality and Social Psychology revealed that individuals with insecure attachment styles show significantly lower ability to develop trust in relationships. Indeed, even when their intellect recognizes someone as trustworthy, individuals with signs of abandonment issues often have difficulty quelling feelings of mistrust. 4. Being Hypervigilant Abundance trauma from childhood can trigger the brain to stay on a high alert to adapt to a potentially threatening environment, also known as hypervigilance. The constant lookout for perceived signs of rejection or loss makes such individuals hypersensitive to conflict or disagreement. In fact, a study in Journal of Social Psychology found that individuals with rejection sensitivity exhibit heightened physiological stress responses such as an elevated heart rate, even toward mild criticism or constructive feedback. 5. Experiencing Chronic Loneliness People with emotional abandonment issues – especially those with an anxious attachment style – tend to view loneliness as not just an uncomfortable condition, but a threatening one. A study by researcher Luke Norman and colleagues found increased amygdala activation in response to loneliness in adults with an insecure attachment style, compared to those with a secure attachments. Chronic loneliness is a sign of abandonment issues This fear of loneliness can result in forming unhealthy connections simply to avoid solitude, seeking constant company, and making major life decisions driven by the need to avoid loneliness, rather than by genuine will. 6. Being a People-Pleaser Individuals with history of emotional abandonment often feel the compulsive need to please others, sometimes at the cost of their own values and boundaries. This trait is especially common among adults with anxious attachment styles, who go the extra mile to accommodate others while ignoring their own needs. RELATED: 9 Signs Your Inner Child is Healing The underlying belief here is often: If I’m accommodating and indispensable enough, I will not be left behind. Sadly, this tendency can result in taking responsibility for others’ feelings and emotions, losing touch with one’s own “sense of being” and authentic self over time. 7. Experiencing Physical Health Issues Abandonment trauma doesn’t just affect our mind, but takes a toll on our bodies as well. Research from The Lancet Public Health showed increased risk of mental and physical health problems like cancer, heart disease, and respiratory disease for adults who experienced trauma in their childhood. “Those with a history of emotional abandonment often feel the compulsive need to please others, sometimes at the cost of their own values and boundaries.” Emotional abandonment can also manifest as higher dependance on alcohol, low physical activity, chronic pain, stress-induced digestive issues, and frequent panic attacks – all in response to unresolved emotional trauma. 8. Struggling to Find the Meaning of Life Research suggests that adults with history of childhood trauma often struggle with spirituality or faith later in their lives, often experiencing detachment with their purpose in life. Abandonment issues can also emerge in the form of dissatisfaction and questioning what’s the point of life. Treating Abandonment Issues Healing from abandonment issues starts with self-awareness. Understanding what triggers you and consciously working through those feelings requires support and patience. Some effective approaches include: Seeking therapy to explore your triggers and address your attachment patterns. Trauma-focused methods like somatic experiencing address and resolve your stored stress responses, while attachment-based therapy helps you understand and reshape your attachment patterns in relationships. Breaking your insecure attachment patterns by accepting that it’s OK to be vulnerable and stay in discomfort rather than fleeing or clinging when conflicts happen. Asking for help, building boundaries instead of people-pleasing, and tolerating time alone instead of giving in to fear of abandonment are some ways to consciously move toward secure attachment styles. Developing self-compassion by incorporating mindfulness practices, meditation, or breathwork exercises to stay grounded in the present moment and avoid reacting to triggers. Improving your emotional regulation with clearer understanding of your triggers and patterns. Creating newer neural pathways with these practices, despite setbacks and challenges. Remember, consistent effort in this direction can help you loosen the grip of your abandonment issues and reaffirm that you’re worthy of secure love. Takeaway: Recognizing Abandonment Trauma The trauma of emotional abandonment is often the most painful yet invisible wound we carry through life. It pervades through how we view ourselves and shapes our relationships – often without us even noticing its influence. Indeed, while the signs of abandonment issues such as the fear of intimacy, heightened sensitivity to conflict or disagreement, or difficulty trusting others aren’t character flaws, they actively prevent us from building meaningful connections and leading a purpose-driven life. Recognizing the signs of abandonment trauma from the lens of attachment patterns helps us understand our behaviors and make course-corrections – without self-blame and within a supportive environment. ● Images: F01 Photo, Ministocker, Srdjan Randjelovic happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free and enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Assertiveness | Conscious Living | Letting Go Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.Thu, 13 Nov 2025 10:52:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/karma-quotes/We’ve all heard karma quotes such as “what goes around comes around” and “you reap what you sow,” but does karma truly exist? Sonia Vadlamani explores the beliefs and psychological impact of karma and benefits of reflecting on quotes about karma in daily life. For most of us, karma is an intriguing notion, something that pertains to the belief that our actions – good and bad – boomerang back to us eventually. Others question if karma is real and if doing good deeds in hope of future rewards really makes any difference. Indeed, karma as a concept is integral to several religions, especially Hinduism and Buddhism. According to these, karma is considered a universal principle of cause and effect, wherein every action creates energy, which returns to us – whether in this life or the next. Though rooted in religion, karma has transcended as a widely recognized and accepted concept. From a Western perspective, karma closely resembles the law of reciprocity, or the idea that kindness is likely to be extended back to you when you help others. Believing in karma thus serves as a reminder to practice compassion, mindfulness, and honesty. Classical religious scriptures refer to different types of karma, including: Sanchita karma, referring to the karma accumulated from our past lives. Prarabdha karma, or the portion of the accumulated karma we’re living through right now. Kriyamana karma, or the karma we’re creating now through our thoughts, choices, and actions. These categories offer an interesting perspective: we’re constantly living with the consequences of our past actions, while also shaping our future with the decisions we make today. Powerful Karma Quotes While science can’t determine whether karma is real, researchers agree that one’s belief in karma influences their behavior. A study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that individuals who believe in karma engage more often in prosocial acts, like kindness and generosity. Moreover, evidence suggests that kindness creates a ripple effect in the community – helping others not only makes the recipients happy but also boosts the giver’s wellbeing. Karma can be observed in action here in the phenomenon the researchers call “prosocial loops,” or ongoing sequences of generosity. MORE LIKE THIS: Resilience Quotes: 7 Powerful Sayings to Inspire You 10 Mindfulness Quotes to Inspire and Ground You 7 Healing Grief Quotes to Soothe Your Soul Here’s where quotes about karma can prove to be more than merely “aesthetic” Instagram forwards. They can act as an anchor when you’re struggling with a challenging situation, dealing with loss – or worse – witnessing a toxic person “living their best life” on social media. Karma quotes remind you of the larger forces in play by reconnecting you with your principles and values when emotions threaten to cloud your perspective. Even the lighthearted, funny karma quotes can offer you a laugh and help you look at the bigger picture with a fresh standpoint! Karma Life Lessons Quotes Understanding karma isn’t about waiting for it to catch up with someone else’s wrongdoings. It’s about acknowledging that you influence your present and future experiences through every choice you make. Quotes on karma can help you navigate through life and consciously take charge of your actions and decisions. “Karma quotes remind you of the larger forces in play by reconnecting you with your principles and values when emotions threaten to cloud your perspective.” Depending on the situation you find yourself in, these karma quotes can offer a novel yet grounded perspective to help you handle life’s challenges: Karma Greed Quotes In a world driven by ambition and materialistic pursuits, it’s easy to lose sight of your values and allow greed to take the wheel. These karma greed quotes can serve as gentle reminders to reconnect with your purpose in life and build a life of giving, not merely taking: “Greed, in the end, fails even the greedy.” — Cathryn Louis “Men are not punished for their sins, but by them.” — Elbert Hubbard “There’s a natural law of karma that vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broke and alone.” — Sylvester Stallone "Karma is a tricky thing. To serve your own interest is bad karma. To serve the interest of others is good karma.” – M.R. Mathias “Manipulation, fueled with good intent, can be a blessing. But when used wickedly, it is the beginning of a magician's karmic calamity.” — T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph over Death and Conscious Encounters With the Divine Presence Karma Cheating Quotes Sometimes, betrayal may feel like an apt response – especially if you’ve been wronged or believe it gives you an edge. However, deception inevitably creates complications and chaos, denting your relationships as well as your sense of integrity for ever. Some karma cheating quotes to remind you why deceit ultimately returns to haunt the deceiver include: “A relationship built on deceit cannot last. Karma always collects the rent for borrowed trust.” — Unknown “By each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” — David Mitchell “Karma is justice. It does not reward or punish, because we have to earn all that we receive.” — Mary T. Browne “Karma comes after everyone eventually. You can't get away with screwing people over your whole life, I don't care who you are. What goes around comes around. Sooner or later the universe will serve you the revenge that you deserve.” — Jessica Brody, The Karma Club “Violence does, in truth, recoil upon the violent, and the schemer falls into the pit which he digs for another.” — Arthur Conan Doyle Karma Gossip Quotes The words we speak about others reflect our inner feelings and eventually shape our own social standing and experiences. Indeed, gossiping and putting others down reflect an underlying lack of empathy and can result in social isolation over time for those engaging in it. These karma gossip quotes act as reminders that you can alter your karma by choosing not to spread negativity: “Gossip is a powerful beast, yet karma tames it eloquently.” — Unknown “The sort of words a man says is the sort he hears in return.” — Homer, The Iliad “Gossip is the spark; karma is the flame that burns it.” — Unknown “With karma, the arrow of rumor loses its sting.” — Unknown “What you don't see with your eyes, don't invent with your mouth.” — Jewish Proverb Karma Narcissist Quotes Dealing with narcissism can be draining – after all, nobody likes to engage willingly with emotional or energy vampires. Interestingly, a narcissist’s karma often feels poetic: the more they expect the world to revolve around them, the more likely they are to be deserted and left wondering why they’re alone. These karma narcissist quotes offer insight into how narcissists function and the consequences of self-absorption: “Narcissists don’t believe in bad karma, they truly believe they are somehow exempt.” — Melanie Tonia Evans, Founder – Quanta Freedom Healing “Narcissists are unable to sustain relationships in a healthy kind of way … that becomes its own form of karma.” — Dr. Les Carter, Clinical Psychologist “When we don’t put the brakes on our self-absorption, we have nothing stopping us from total self-destruction. We become the fruits of our actions.” — Zeena Schreck, Beatdom #11: The Nature Issue “They hate the fact that their actions have consequences, that their choices have adverse outcomes, that punishment is coming, that karma is ineluctable.” — Prof. Sam Vaknin, Author, Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited “Seed of karma is ego.” —Yoga Vasistha (Attributed), Classical Text “Narcissists experience criticism as injury; retaliation is swift, but the long-term karma is isolation as people recognize the pattern.” — Dr. Craig Malkin, Clinical Psychologist Karma Buddha Quotes In Buddhism, karma is viewed as a natural unfolding of cause and effect, instead of a system for rewards and punishments. These karma Buddha quotes offer valuable insight into karma as a spiritual guiding force: “My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand.” — Thích Nhất Hạnh “Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” — Buddha “From the Buddhist perspective, it is impossible to build personal happiness on the sufferings of others.” —Daisaku Ikeda “The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” — Gautama Buddha, Buddha - The Gospel “Karma is ego intention, done by an ego we identify with.” — Dolpopa Sherab Gyaltsen, Tibetan Buddhist Master Funny Karma Quotes Sometimes all you need is a good laugh to regain your courage and get back on track after a major setback. These funny karma quotes help you get out of your head and gain a fresh perspective about a difficult situation: “Dear Karma, I really hate you right now, you made your point.” — Ottilie Weber “It’s called karma, and it’s pronounced ha ha.” — Unknown “I must have killed a lot of cows in a past life for karma to hate me this much.” — Katie McGarry "Instant karma is just the universe proving it still has Wi-Fi everywhere.” — Unknown “I heard that karma is vengeful and is also a light sleeper.” — Rudy Francisco “If you're really a mean person you're going to come back as a fly and eat poop.” — Kurt Cobain “You made your own bed, and now curse others for putting you there.” — Wesley Chu, The Lives of Tao Takeaway: Quotes on Karma Karma is much more than a cosmic accounting system – it’s about accepting that your thoughts, beliefs, and actions carry significance and that you hold absolute authority over the karma you create every moment. Ultimately, karma quotes serve as a medium for letting go of negative feelings – whether it’s narcissism, a desire to seek revenge, greed, or the urge to gossip – and redirecting your attention toward what’s truly in your control. ● Image: shutterstock/mohamed_hassan happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free and enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Spirituality | Conscious Living | Altruism Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.Thu, 13 Nov 2025 08:02:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/different-types-of-reiki/With a multitude of Reiki types and styles available, choosing a healing treatment can be overwhelming. Rachel Markowitz outlines 14 types of Reiki – such as crystal, kundalini, and karuna – and explains the key to finding the practice that aligns best with you. Reiki refers to the Japanese representation of universal life force energy (composed of rei, “spiritual/universal”: 靈, and kei, “life force/energy”: 氣). It's also the name of the hands-on healing practice that harnesses this energy. In a Reiki session, energy flows where needed, facilitating the body’s innate tendency to self-heal at physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels. The ability to feel, channel, and heal with Reiki is directly transmitted through an unbroken lineage of Reiki Masters. However, since Reiki’s documented origins in the early 1900s in Japan, practices and teachings have been adapted, added to, and re-interpreted – resulting in dozens of types and hundreds of branches of Reiki. To better understand the many styles of Reiki, we’ll learn the stories behind the most well-known lineages, explore their unique qualities, and discuss how to select a practice that’s best suited for you. The Different Types of Reiki According to William Lee Rand, founder of the International Center for Reiki Training (ICRT), there are four qualities that define Reiki: Reiki energy comes from initiation (called attunement). Reiki is passed down through a direct lineage with continuous teachings. Reiki energy is guided by a higher power (and doesn’t require direction from a healer). Reiki cannot harm. With this in mind, the following types of Reiki display the wide range of healing techniques that have manifested throughout Reiki’s journey from Japan to the U.S. and beyond. 1. Usui Reiki Traditional Reiki is commonly called “Usui Reiki,” after Mikao Usui Sensei, who developed the Reiki system that spread throughout the world. However, Usui Reiki practices are divided into two distinct types, Usui Reiki Ryoho and Usui Shiki Ryoho, which provide a foundation for the majority of today’s different types of Reiki. Usui Reiki Ryoho is the name given by Usui Sensei to his original Reiki “discovery” in 1922. Although Reiki healing already existed at that time, Usui experienced a spontaneous, enlightening transmission of Reiki energy, along with the ability to heal through his hands. Usui then developed a set of practices and moral principles, providing an ethically-based spiritual practice, predominantly for self-healing. His teachings include symbols, mantras, hands-on healing techniques, and meditative practices. When these traditional Reiki teachings were adjusted for Westerners (primarily by Mrs. Hawayo Takata and her teacher Chujiro Hayashi in the late 1930s), these “traditional” teachings became known as Usui Shiki Ryoho. Usui Shiki Ryoho, also known as Western Reiki, diverges from Usui’s original Reiki by condensing Reiki attunements into three distinct levels. It also incorporated fixed hand positions for healing and required Reiki to be passed on as an oral tradition. These days, almost all “traditional” or “Usui” Reiki practitioners come from the lineage of Mrs. Takata and the 22 Reiki Masters that she initiated. Healing hands: there are many styles of Reiki 2. Jikiden Reiki Jikiden Reiki is considered “Japanese” or “Eastern” Reiki. Like Western Reiki, it originates from Usui’s direct lineage. However, since Usui’s practice changed throughout its time in the West, Jikiden was founded in Japan in the late 1990s to preserve Usui’s teachings. It emphasizes body scanning and intuitive hand placement rather than pre-determined hand positions for healing treatments. Jikiden healers work with healing physical and mental ailments, and also spiritual development. 3. Gendai Reiki-ho Gendai Reiki-ho is an adaptation of Usui Reiki created by Sensei Hiroshi Doi of Japan in 1993. Its name translates simply to “Modern Reiki Method.” Gendai Reiki Ho is a combination of traditional Reiki from Usui’s school, some of which fell out of use during Reiki’s evolution, with Western Reiki and other healing modalities. Gendai Reiki-ho is typically taught to students who have already learned Reiki at the Master level. It also emphasizes spiritual connection alongside physical healing. 4. Rainbow Reiki Rainbow Reiki is a a type of Reiki developed by Walter Lübeck in the 1980s as an evolution of Usui Reiki. Lübeck’s healing practice integrates the seven chakras – centers of concentrated vital energy, according to yogic philosophy – into its methodology. “Since Reiki’s documented origins in the early 1900s in Japan, practices and teachings have been adapted, added to, and re-interpreted – resulting in dozens of types of Reiki.” Rainbow Reiki is commonly used for chakra healing, clearing, and balancing. It often incorporates crystals, aura cleansing, mantras, and karmic healing into sessions. Although this may seem complex, Rainbow Reiki is described as both powerful and direct. 5. Karuna Reiki® Karuna Reiki® is a trademarked lineage of Reiki founded by William Rand in the mid-90s. Karuna is Sanskrit for compassion, and Karuna Reiki® emphasizes healing through kindness and empathy, often focusing on the emotional and spiritual well-being of clients. During treatments, healers use a unique set of symbols, along with the energies of archangels and ascended masters, and chanting practices. Karuna Reiki® works alongside traditional Reiki, and a healer needs to be attuned to Reiki at a Master level to learn its methods. 6. Holy Fire® Reiki Holy Fire® Reiki was also developed by William Rand as an advanced practice for healers working beyond the scope of Karuna Reiki®. Holy Fire® was added to Rand’s lineage in 2014. It includes a new symbol, along with practices that allow a practitioner to deepen their healing powers. According to Rand, Holy Fire® Reiki energy leads to “purification, healing, empowerment, and guidance.” 7. Crystal Reiki Crystal Reiki describes any Reiki practice that uses crystals, often infused with Reiki energy, to enhance the healing qualities of Reiki energy. During these sessions, healers place crystals with various energetic properties on or around the body to amplify or add specific frequencies and intentions to other Reiki techniques. Crystal Reiki is a popular style 8. Tibetan Reiki “Tibetan Reiki” typically refers to Tibetan Usui Reiki, a combination of traditional Reiki with aspects of healing used in Tibetan shamanism. This type of Reiki was developed by an American Usui Reiki Master, Arthur Robinson, in the early 1980s and popularized by William Rand. Tibetan Reiki involves two symbols from Tibetan Buddhism, healing crystals, and spiritual guides. “Different types of Reiki do not compete with each other; they complement each other. Since all Reiki practices aim to provide holistic health and well-being, there’s no harm in experimenting.” However, there is also a less popular lineage of Tibetan Reiki that was passed down from Tschen Li, a Tibetan Monk, whose teachings predate (and were allegedly shared with) Mikao Usui. 9. Sekhem Reiki Sekhem is the ancient Egyptian term for life force energy, and Seichim is the traditional Egyptian form of energy healing. Thus, combining Egyptian healing with Japanese Reiki results in what’s known as Seichim, Sekhem, or Sekhem-Seichim Reiki. Sekhem healing was popularized by Patrick Zeigler in 1980 after a mystical transmission of energy through a heart-opening experience in the Great Pyramid in Egypt. Sekhem Reiki practices focus on the heart center and a central channel of light throughout the body. …And More Other Reiki styles worth a shout-out (and some research for those inclined) include: Tera Mai™ Reiki: Combines the energy of Reiki, Seichem, Earth’s elements, and teachings channeled from the Buddha Lightarian Reiki: Emphasizes high vibrations and enlightenment Shamballa Reiki: Calls on Ascended Master St. Germain for multidimensional healing Violet Flame Reiki: Uses 40 symbols that were channeled from Quan Yin, the Buddhist goddess of compassion Kundalini Reiki: Focuses on Kundalini, vital energy that rises through the spinal column when we spiritually awaken. Which Type of Reiki Is Right for Me? With so many different types of Reiki, those new to healing may feel overwhelmed by options. When deciding between styles, factors to consider include: Intention The reason for your interest in Reiki will point you towards the best practices for you. For instance, you might consider traditional (Usui) Reiki or Jikiden Reiki if your purpose is simply to experience Reiki energy, relax, or intentionally heal an ailment. However, if your intention is spiritual evolution, Sekhem Reiki or Rainbow Reiki could be best for you. Spiritual or Healing-Related Interests As we’ve learned, Reiki can be integrated with religious, cultural, and shamanic traditions, and amplified by crystals or other objects. Thus, if you’re specifically inclined towards any of the less-traditional Reiki styles outlined above, this would be a good place to start. For example, if you’re fascinated by crystals or gemstones, try Crystal Reiki. If you’re curios about Ancient Egyptian civilizations or Buddhism, Reiki that integrates aspects of these traditions would be a natural introduction to the realm of hands-on healing. Reiki types do not compete; they complement each other Connection to Specific Teachers or Healers Selecting the right Reiki practitioner is just as important (arguably more so) than selecting a style of Reiki. In fact, many Reiki healers are Masters in several different types of Reiki. So, if you find a Reiki Master/Teacher who feels friendly or familiar, or a specific healer comes to you through recommendation, it may be helpful to follow the universe’s nudges. Intuition (Curiosity) Finally, if you have an intuitive feeling or spiritual pull towards the name of a Reiki lineage, place of healing, or Reiki Master, heed the call! Remember – different types of Reiki do not compete with each other; they complement each other. Since all Reiki practices aim to provide holistic health and well-being, there’s no harm in experimenting with different types of Reiki as you see fit. Reiki energy is Reiki energy, regardless of lineage. Takeaway: The Many Styles of Reiki Understanding the different types of Reiki out there requires a journey through the history of established Reiki Masters, as modern-day Reiki healers are often associated with lineages that integrate traditional Reiki energy with other ancient or new-age practices. When deciding on a particular type of Reiki healing, a combination of your intentions, interests, and intuitive inclinations will guide you along the unique path that’s right for you. ● Images Pixel-Shot, New Africa, Pixel Shot happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Holistic Medicine | Chi Gong | Acupuncture | Reflexology Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.Tue, 04 Nov 2025 07:51:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/microdosing-mushrooms-psilocybin/The rise of psilocybin microdosing through “magic mushrooms” blends ancient wisdom with modern science. Rhianna Quanstrom explores the growing scientific research into mushroom microdosing and how they may improve mood, clarity, and creativity. Learn about the effects, benefits, and where they're legal. The use of psychedelics for therapeutic purposes is on the rise. One of the main trailblazers in this frontier is psilocybin, commonly known as “magic mushrooms.” Scientific research is exploring the exciting possibility of using psilocybin as an effective treatment for psychological conditions, including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and addiction. With psilocybin’s growing popularity, microdosing has entered the mainstream conversation. Many people are now exploring the potential healing benefits of taking mushrooms in tiny doses. Let's take a look at the science, benefits, risks, and legality of microdosing mushrooms. But first, let’s discuss what psilocybin and microdosing are. What is Psilocybin? Psilocybin is the active compound found in several mushrooms belonging to the Psilocybe genus. Psilocybin mushrooms, as well as other psychedelic mushroom species, have been used for thousands of years in shamanic cultures worldwide. One of the most prominent historical records of its use comes from the Aztec and Maya cultures of Mesoamerica (Stamets, 1996). In these cultures, the psilocybin-containing mushrooms were considered sacred and were used in spiritual ceremonies for healing, divination, and divine communion. Psilocybin is the active compound found in "magic mushrooms" While psychedelic mushrooms are still used in sacred ceremonies and rituals by Indigenous Peoples of North and South America, they are more commonly known as a “party drug” in Western society. Of course, this has led to a widespread prejudice against mushroom use. However, this attitude is evolving with emerging research and anecdotal reports of psilocybin's transformative healing potential. When ingested at a moderate-to-high dose, psilocybin alters consciousness and produces what is commonly known as a “trip.” In other words, journeyers may experience hallucinations, closed-eye visuals, deep introspection, emotional release, and spiritual insight. One of the main reasons for psilocybin’s psychedelic effects is its interaction with the 5-HT2A serotonin receptor. This is the most widely expressed serotonin receptor in the body, and it modulates mood, perception, and cognition. It is through this effect, as well as many others, that psilocybin improves mental well-being. While most studies examine psilocybin’s effects in moderate to large doses, there is a growing body of research dedicated to exploring the potential benefits of microdosing psilocybin. What is Microdosing? Microdosing involves taking a psychedelic substance at very low doses (about 1/10th of a normal dose) for a prolonged period of time. These doses are low enough that they do not produce a full psychedelic experience. Rather, they are more subtle and do not usually interfere with daily activities. Why Do People Try Microdosing Mushrooms? People often microdose mushrooms to receive their therapeutic benefits, as it’s believed that the benefits achieved at a full dose can also be experienced with consistent microdoses. The benefits of ingesting psilocybin are numerous, and many of these benefits result from how psilocybin interacts with the brain. One of the well-researched benefits is its ability to reduce depression in both the short and long term. “The benefits of ingesting psilocybin are numerous. One of the well-researched benefits is its ability to reduce depression in both the short and long term.” A 2025 report in the journal Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment explains how psilocybin binds to and activates serotonin receptors in the brain (much like typical antidepressant medications) while also lowering inflammation. Inflammation in the brain is linked to mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Because psilocybin increases serotonin activity (which helps regulate mood) and decreases inflammation, it may be highly beneficial for those experiencing depression. Along with these effects, psilocybin also increases neuroplasticity and lowers activity in the default mode network (DMN). Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to form new neural pathways. We all have “mental grooves” that we “fall into” based on our childhood, societal conditioning, and psychological issues. In a sense, we are “programmed” to respond in specific ways to certain memories or triggers. Because psilocybin enhances neuroplasticity, it facilitates the formation of new thought patterns and beliefs. In this way, it can be incredibly healing for trauma and PTSD, as it helps us face difficult memories and form new beliefs around them. This also relates to its ability to lower activity in the DMN. MORE LIKE THIS: MDMA Microdosing: Is it Legal and What Are The Risks? What is Ego Death? Meaning, Symptoms, and Causes Microdosing 101: A Modern Phenomenon Rooted in Ancient Times According to the study mentioned above, “the DMN is typically active when an individual is in a task-free, resting state; eg, during self-referential thinking, rumination, or daydreaming. Anxiety and depressive disorders are associated with abnormal activity of the DMN, which can lead to excessive rumination, negative thought patterns, and impaired emotional regulation… The capacity of psilocybin to reduce excess activity in the DMN may be a significant mechanism whereby psilocybin exerts its long-lasting antidepressant action, allowing relief from negative thought patterns and emotional biases. Reduced DMN activity can result in profound alterations in consciousness and is likely responsible for the mystical-type experiences reported by Griffiths et al, with decreased self-other discrimination and even complete ego dissolution.” Additionally, along with its ability to significantly improve anxiety and depression, many self-reports claim that microdosing psilocybin improves memory, mental clarity, focus, concentration, and creativity. As such, microdosing mushrooms may help people focus at work, be more present in conversations, and engage more deeply with creative projects. People often try microdosing psilocybin to improve mental health issues The main attraction to microdosing psilocybin is that it presents an easier way to receive its benefits without undergoing a full hallucinogenic journey. People can still live their normal lives while addressing underlying psychological and emotional patterns and improving mental focus and clarity. Furthermore, it is more economical and easier to obtain. What Science Says: Mushroom Microdose There’s no doubt that psilocybin in moderate to large doses is beneficial, but the science on microdosing mushrooms is still lacking. Many studies attribute the psychological benefits of microdosing psilocybin to a placebo effect. For example, a self-blinding citizen science research report found “no significant differences between the placebo and microdose groups” and stated, “Our study validates the positive anecdotal reports about the psychological benefits of microdosing (significant improvements from baseline in a broad range of psychological measures); however, our results also suggest that these improvements are not due to the pharmacological action of microdosing, but are rather explained by the placebo effect (lack of significant between-groups differences).” “Microdosing mushrooms may help people focus at work, be more present in conversations, and engage more deeply with creative projects.” This is just one of many studies that come to a similar conclusion. However, a 2024 review from two Australia universities published in the Journal of Psychopharmacology claimed that the research is lacking, and that any conclusions that microdosing mushrooms is predominantly a placebo “are premature and possibly wrong.” The authors, Vince Polito and Paul Liknaitzky, evaluated all available and published research on microdosing psilocybin and LSD. Based on their findings, they determined that microdosing does have a pharmacological effect. Specifically, microdosing produced neural changes in the brain, with increased neuroplasticity and decreased activity in the default mode network (DMN). They also found microdosing psilocybin (or LSD) increased pain tolerance, subtly altered consciousness, and had positive effects on mood. MORE LIKE THIS: What is the Peyote Cactus and s it Legal? Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? The main conclusion of the report is that current science is still limited. The authors state that more long-term studies with larger clinical populations are needed. Additionally, in many of these research articles, psilocybin and LSD have essentially been categorized as the same substance. Furthermore, some of the psilocybin-specific studies used a synthetic version of the compound; to be clear, how a natural, non-isolated, or non-synthesized mushroom affects the body and brain is different from how LSD, an isolated extraction, or a synthetic version, will. More scientific evidence is needed into microdosing mushrooms As such, the research remains inconclusive, and people’s personal experiences may still be the best source of understanding. One of the greatest challenges to studying the effects of microdosing is that the level of psilocybin in a mushroom depends on the species and how it’s grown. That makes controlled studies even more difficult, because you can have two mushrooms of the same species that differ in potency based on growing conditions. Nevertheless, numerous firsthand reports praise the benefits of microdosing mushrooms. We’ll just have to wait for the science to catch up and (most likely) confirm what many people already know to be true: microdosing mushrooms improves mood, cognition, and overall well-being. Possible Risks of Microdosing Psilocybin Because there have not been any long-term studies on the effects of microdosing psilocybin, the possible risks are still unknown. There is some concern that microdosing mushrooms may negatively affect the cardiovascular system over time because of chronic serotonin activation. “Many self-reports claim that microdosing psilocybin improves memory, mental clarity, focus, concentration, and creativity.” According to a 2025 report published in the journal Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment, “Adverse side effects of microdosing psilocybin are uncommon and limited to short-term anxiety, impaired cognition, and physical discomfort. Psilocybin does not show evidence of addiction potential, and in fact is anti-addictive in that daily intake leads to loss of therapeutic benefits.” Is Psilocybin Legal? In the United States, psilocybin’s legal status depends on the state. At the federal level, psilocybin is classified as a Schedule I substance under the Controlled Substances Act. However, because of its therapeutic potential, the legal landscape is changing rapidly. In some states, including Colorado, Oregon, and New Mexico, it is legal for supervised therapeutic use. In California and Washington, it has been decriminalized in several cities. It is also decriminalized in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Across the globe, psilocybin’s legal status varies from legal to completely illegal to legal for medical treatment. The only countries where it is fully legal include Nepal, the Netherlands, Jamaica, Brazil, and the Bahamas (except for sale). Takeaway: Microdosing Mushrooms Psilocybin, or “magic mushrooms,” has been shown to significantly improve psychological and emotional well-being. It can potentially help treat depression, anxiety, PTSD, and chronic pain while improving cognitive function and neuroplasticity. While the science around microdosing is limited and somewhat conflicting, hopefully the coming years will bring research that validates may of the positive personal experiences shared. In doing so, the legal status is likely to change so that more people have access to the healing benefits of microdosing mushrooms. ● Images Cannabis_Pic, Cannabis_Pic, Cannabis_Pic happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Alternative medicine | Herbalism | CBD Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.Mon, 03 Nov 2025 07:25:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/reiki-principles/Although there is currently limited scientific evidence about its efficacy, Reiki has become an increasingly popular hands-on energy medicine practice. Rachel Markowitz explores Reiki principles, the benefits and costs of treatment, and how to become a practitioner. I learned about Reiki and experienced my first healing session in 2012 from a dreadlocked European traveler who wanted some practice. During the treatment, I focused intently on trying to feel energetic sensations but was continually distracted by discomfort in my left arm. It felt like the surface below me was tilted, that my elbow was compensating for the slanted massage table, and that my misaligned body was ruining my Reiki experience. However, I eventually relaxed, forgot about my arm, and finished the session feeling surprisingly refreshed. When I asked my newly initiated healer if he had noticed anything about my body, he told me that he perceived an energetic blockage in my left elbow but felt like he had released it. Convinced of Reiki’s healing power and curious to learn more, I sought out my first Reiki teacher shortly thereafter and have been experimenting with energy healing techniques ever since. Throughout the years, I’ve found Reiki to be a simple, straightforward energy therapy that anyone can experience or experiment with. What is Reiki? The word Reiki is a combination of two Japanese characters, or kanji: rei, symbolizing the universe, and ki, representing life energy. However, Reiki refers not only to the concept of life force energy (called prana or chi by other traditions), but also to the practice of using this energy for healing purposes. Healing with hands: a typical Reiki session Connecting with Reiki energy, either on our own or through a Reiki healer, promotes the body’s natural, energetically-balanced state. Though Reiki is a common hands-based energy medicine practice around the world, it was traditionally developed to connect to universal source energy for the purpose of spiritual growth and self-healing. A Brief History of Reiki Reiki dates back to the early 1900s as a documented concept in Japan, and its corresponding healing practice is often accredited to Mikao Usui, who received a spontaneous transmission of Reiki energy during a mystical healing experience in 1922. Usui’s system of Reiki healing, which he called Usui Reiki Ryoho, is the direct lineage that spread throughout the world and popularized Reiki. However, though most modern-day Reiki practices stem from Usui’s teachings, Reiki healing was actually developed, named, and written about in Japan several years before Usui’s discovery. Since its journey to the West in the 1930s, many healers have channeled or developed adaptations and additions to traditional Reiki practices, resulting in what we often classify as “Western Reiki.” There are now a multitude of styles and types of Reiki that can be practised. What are the Reiki Principles? Along with Reiki healing methods, Usui developed a system of five principles (gokai) that give Reiki a moral and spiritual foundation. These principles, also known as “precepts” or “admonitions,” are guidelines that a Reiki practitioner recites at the beginning and end of each day, and before healing sessions. Each Reiki principle begins with “just for today,” giving the practitioner both a manageable obligation and the incentive to repeat the precepts regularly. The Reiki principles are: Just for today, do not anger. Just for today, do not worry. Just for today, be grateful. Just for today, be humble (also interpreted as “work honestly”) Just for today, be kind/compassionate towards others and myself. The Reiki principles, when practiced faithfully, benefit the holistic wellness of a Reiki practitioner even without a hands-on healing practice. According to Usui, authentically contemplating and abiding by these principles is a spiritual medicine that leads to health and happiness. What Happens During a Reiki Session? In a Reiki session, a healer (someone connected to a direct lineage of Reiki energy, by means of a formal initiation process) channels Reiki energy to another being through their hands. This works because the healer becomes a conduit of life force energy, enabling a patient to receive and distribute it in an optimal way. “Reiki is a well-established energy medicine practice that enhances a person’s natural ability to heal. A Reiki practitioner offers hands-on healing to clients.” Reiki sessions typically last 30 to 75 minutes. They usually consist of a pre-session consultation, hands-on healing treatment, and post-session discussion. For those new to Reiki, a healer will provide background information, give an overview of what to expect during the session, and allow time for questions. During a treatment, the patient lies down on a cushioned surface, fully clothed, with closed eyes. While the patient relaxes, the healer lightly places their hands in specific positions on the patient’s body. They may also use various healing techniques, including: Energy Clearing – A Reiki healer begins a session by cleansing their energetic field and the healing space, either before the client arrives or once their eyes are closed. This process involves using Reiki techniques, and perhaps incense, tools, or personal practices to clear and release unwanted energy from a space or person. Invoking – Depending on a Reiki healer’s lineage, they will recite the Reiki principles mentally and perhaps invoke the energy of spiritual guides, ascended masters, or other beings to help with the healing process. The healer may also voice an intention for the session. Scanning – To begin a Reiki session, a healer typically guides their hands over a patient’s body from head to toe, without direct hands-on contact. During this process, the practitioner scans for energetic blockages, places where energy needs balancing, or any other noticeable energetic or intuitive sensations about their patient’s healing needs. This technique, known as Byosen Scanning, helps a healer know where to place their hands during treatment. Symbols and Kotodama – The use of Reiki symbols and the “spirit” of their names (kotodama) are part of a healer’s training and are often employed during treatments. According to traditional teachings, these symbols and their usage should be kept secretively. Beaming – In Western Reiki, “beaming” refers to a particular technique for healing from a short distance. Using this practice, a healer can beam energy to a client several meters away using their hands or eyes, along with intention. Infusing – A healer who practices a modern-day form of Reiki might infuse objects (such as crystals, candles, jewelry, food, water, or oils) with Reiki to charge them with healing energy. “Reiki-infused” can also describe a space, event, or work of art that is intentionally filled with energy and sealed. Meditation – A Reiki practitioner might begin or end a session with a short meditation or several minutes of silence. They may also invite a patient to set an intention or self-reflect to integrate a session’s benefits. Benefits of Reiki One unique quality of Reiki healing is that it involves minimal work on the part of the practitioner; Reiki energy knows where to flow in order for a recipient’s body to heal naturally. Accordingly, the benefits of Reiki healing extend to physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, as well as overall relaxation. Although it’s unlikely that the patient will feel the exact process going on during their session, it’s typical that a Reiki treatment leaves a person with a sense of calm and inner peace. Reiki involves the channeling of energy to another person Because of its widespread reach, Reiki is becoming a well-known complementary medicine in hospitals and health clinics – with practitioners offering relief and relaxation to cancer patients, children, and others experiencing pain, anxiety, and stress. This list of research findings, published by the International Center for Reiki Training (ICRT), references many of the suggested healing benefits of Reiki. Furthermore, Dr. Ann Baldwin’s book, Reiki in Clinical Practice: A Science-Based Guide, outlines the physical and psychological benefits of Reiki throughout medical studies and public research, through the time of its publication in 2020. What Are the Risks of Reiki? Reiki is generally considered safe. A Reiki practitioner who follows the five principles of Reiki imparts no real risks during treatments, and there are no reported contraindications of Reiki healing. In fact, according to William Lee Rand, founder of the International Center for Reiki Training, one of Reiki’s defining characteristics is that it can do no harm. MORE LIKE THIS: 5 Techniques to Unblock Chakras and Energy Flows 7 Ways Spiritual Coaching Can Transform Your Life The 7 Chakras: Locations, Colors, and Use Within Yoga With this in mind, people experimenting with Reiki or any other natural healing method might experience what is known as a healing crisis – a stirring up and releasing of toxins or impurities in the body or mind that could manifest as negative side effects of a treatment. To mitigate the risk of a healing crisis, it’s helpful to move through healing sessions slowly and intentionally, listen to the body, and maintain consistent eating, sleeping, and exercise habits. How Much Does a Reiki Session Cost? The cost of a professional Reiki session varies widely, depending on the length of the session, treatment setting, and healer’s experience. In the USA and UK, a private Reiki session at a wellness-related establishment or hospital ranges from $30 to 100 USD, with an average cost of $60 to 70 USD per hour. However, some Reiki healers offer sessions for much less. Depending on where you live, you might even find Reiki healing for free, as an exchange, or by donation. Furthermore, those with limited financial resources could consider seeking out new practitioners, Reiki groups, or healing sessions through religious or spiritual communities. “The Reiki principles, when practiced faithfully, benefit the holistic wellness of a Reiki practitioner even without a hands-on healing practice.” Reiki sessions are not typically covered by health insurance, although some medical facilities may include Reiki as a free treatment alongside conventional practice. The best way to find a legitimate Reiki healer within your budget is by recommendation, personal research, or through a feeling of connection to a specific lineage or person. How to Become a Reiki Healer or Master A person becomes a Reiki healer through formal initiations, called attunements, from a certified Reiki Master/Teacher. These days, most lineages of Reiki require one attunement for each of three levels (Shoden – Level 1, Okuden – Level 2, and Shinpiden – Master/Teacher). Reiki attunements not only include an energetic transmission of Reiki energy from Master to student, but also teachings, symbols, mantras, hand positions, meditations, and practical healing procedures that correspond to each level. Therefore, a Reiki Master refers to anyone attuned to Reiki at the Master level – though different traditions of Reiki have respective guidelines or prerequisites for moving from one level to the next. Although some lineages of Reiki will attune students to all three levels in one or two short courses, most would suggest or require new healers to move through each attunement separately, taking time for self-practice between each level. Furthermore, many schools of Reiki require certain levels of experience before an initial attunement or to work professionally as a healer in that lineage. If you’re curious about practicing Reiki on your own, the first step is to find a Reiki Master, healer, or teacher of a tradition that you resonate with and inquire about attunement dates and requirements. Takeaway: What is Reiki? Reiki is a well-established energy medicine practice that enhances a person’s natural ability to heal. A Reiki practitioner offers hands-on healing to clients, and Reiki is also helpful for self-healing and healing from a distance. Like other methods of energy therapy, Reiki is a minimal-risk therapy for improving physical ailments, promoting emotional and mental well-being, and enhancing our connection to life force energy and the spiritual path. We can all awaken the ability to channel Reiki energy and heal with our hands through a direct transmission from a Reiki Master. ● Images shutterstock/Dragon Images, shutterstock/LightField Studios happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Acupuncture | Reflexology | Holistic Medicine | Chi Gong Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.Wed, 29 Oct 2025 06:41:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/choose-kindness/Choosing kindness over negativity or indifference may not be humanity's default setting, but we can cultivate it over time through consistent action. Sonia Vadlamani suggests 7 ways in which we can always be kind towards others – and ourselves, too. The discussion around kindness has heightened ever since the COVID-19 pandemic unfolded, perhaps owing to the rise of various aid groups during lockdowns and contingencies, or because the interruption of life as we knew it caused us to reconsider our priorities and values. Indeed, kindness is undoubtedly considered one of the most prized social currencies, in addition to being the cornerstone for humankind’s virtues. Philosophers and spiritual gurus have hailed the virtue of choosing kindness as a potent gift for centuries, while academic researchers and psychologists have conducted considerable research centered on the power of kindness. Still, at some point in our lives, most of us have been denied a more compassionate approach by someone, or have disregarded the option to extend kindness towards others. For example, we may have regretted our indifferent or judgmental behavior towards others, and some of us may have been abused or bullied as adults. In situations such as these, letting go of resentment doesn't come naturally. So, with the wide-ranging benefits of kindness so well known, why do we even need to be reminded to choose kindness – why don’t we 'just be kind' all the time? Why Choose Kindness? It's fair to wonder why we should have to 'choose' kindness, rather than it being our natural state. However, our perennially busy and fast-paced lives may have rendered us indifferent to the suffering and problems of those around us. Furthermore, our inherent negativity bias may persuade us to react strongly to unfavorable or unpleasant outcomes, instead of assessing the situation in a more objective light. Additionally, human beings are wired to judge others according to their character and actions, while they tend to judge themselves based on the situation. This tendency – also known as “fundamental attribution error” – is based on the inconsistency in our reaction towards other people’s actions or views. While we may attribute our failures or decisions to the circumstances we were caught up in during a situation, we do not readily assess other people’s behavior and problems in the same understanding manner. MORE LIKE THIS: What Goes Around Comes Around: Is Karma Real? How to Forgive Someone: the Benefits of Letting Go of Grudges How to Be Nicer: 9 Ways to Show Kindness to Others For example, if I ever park too close to someone else’s car, then I must have had an emergency, and hence it should be forgiven as a one-off incident. However, if someone else parked outside their line so that their vehicle encroaches on my parking spot, then they must be irresponsible and need to be taught a lesson! Does this line of thinking seem familiar to you? Donating to a food bank is one way to choose kindness Indeed, choosing to be kind can bring about a much-needed shift in the way we judge. Always being kind can teach us to look carefully and objectively at the way we react to external stimuli and assess the circumstances before we react in a rude or harsh manner. How to Always Be Kind “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible,” as the 14th Dalai Lama famously stated. Choosing kindness poses several benefits for us and others around us, yet costs nothing. To cultivate kindness as a daily practice, Dr Tara Cousineau – renowned psychotherapist and author of The Kindness Cure – suggests that we ponder over the question: how can I bring kindness into my day, in any small way? “Choosing kindness can bring about the much-needed shift in the way we judge. Being kind can teach us to look carefully and objectively at the way we react to external stimuli.” “Kindness is not random,” says Dr Cousineau. She explains that choosing kindness intentionally requires us to be compassionate, considerate, understanding and forgiving, in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it. Authentic kindness requires genuine intention and effort. The process of always showing graciousness and tolerance to others in this way may gradually get easier once we start experiencing the joy or cheer that being kind sparks. How Does Adopting Kindness Benefit Us? Being kind comes with a wealth of research-backed benefits. Acting kindly can make us feel less anxious, and can ease social avoidance tendencies, allowing us to form meaningful connections. Kindness can also combat psychological distress and alleviate depression. A study by Dr Hans Kirschner from the University of Exeter revealed that being kind switches off our inbuilt threat response, allowing us to feel safe and relaxed. In turn, this promotes tissue regeneration and healing in the body. This ability to switch off the threat response can reduce the onset of disease and boost our well-being. Choosing Kindness: 7 Ways Cultivating kindness in our daily routine begins with consistent action. Researcher Helen Weng compares the ability to practice kindness with the science of weightlifting, wherein one can build their ‘compassion muscle’ and get more adept at helping others with sufficient practise. Here are seven ways in which we can try to do just that. 1. Create a kindness plan It's possible to adopt kindness in the way of small gestures and little things that can spread happiness and brighten someone’s day. Jot down one act of kindness for each day of the month – for others and yourself – that you can carry out, thus encouraging the neural pathways in your brain towards embracing positivity and compassion. The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation shares a comprehensive list of kindness ideas that can be carried out with minimal effort. Some examples of random acts of kindness can include: Buying a few extra items at the supermarket for donations – many supermarkets now have designated areas where you can leave produce. Alternatively, look into ways of donating to food banks. Complimenting a stranger in a friendly way. Befriending an elderly person to help them combat loneliness: inviting them for a chat over a coffee or sparking a conversation at the bus stop. Supporting local businesses by buying their products instead of shopping online. 2. Practise compassionate listening Offering someone our undivided attention in the form of mindful listening can be a simple, effective and free way to choose kindness. Remember, it is essential to keep all technological distractions and our inner judgmental voice at bay while we listen compassionately. 3. Donate or raise funds for charity A 2010 survey conducted by Harvard Business School pointed out that individuals who were more generous financially and made sizeable charitable donations measured highest for overall happiness levels. The study revealed that prosocial spending, or utilizing one’s financial resources to help others, resulted in improved emotional well-being. RELATED: Money Can't Buy Happiness (Except in These 3 Ways!) Raising funds for animal welfare, organizing a fundraiser for the care of cancer patients at your local hospital, helping a neighbor who may be facing a crisis by organizing a charity drive, are some of the ways you could bring about a positive change by choosing kindness. A volunteer litter pick shows kindness to the planet 4. Choose to be kind online While the advent of social media has made us more aware and conscious, unfortunately it also has given rise to rampant cyberbullying and hostile behavior based on one’s appearance, ethnicity, gender stereotypes, and personal beliefs, etc. We can choose kindness online by encouraging positive messages, spreading cheer and love instead of hate, and ignoring negative or hateful content. Even when we disagree with someone, it's always possible to do so in an objective and respectable manner. 5. Choose kindness for the planet While gardening offers several mental health benefits as a hobby, it can contribute towards greener and cleaner living spaces as well. Finding small ways to reduce our carbon footprint and adopting more sustainable practices like picking up litter, packing a waste-free lunch, carrying your own tote to grocery shop, etc, can go a long way to improve the world around us. 6. Practise kindness at work It's important to remember that coworkers have their own challenges, hidden from plain sight. Leading with compassion can improve morale, boost workplace productivity, and ensure higher employee retention, according to research. “Choosing kindness requires us to be compassionate, considerate, and forgiving in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it.” Leaders in the service industry – and hospitality sector in particular – quite possibly realize the importance of choosing “habitual kindness”, in attempts to deliver experiences that customers will remember for ever. Indeed, consumer decisions are often based on how well their expectations were met and the collective experience, so if you find yourself being loyal to a particular brand or service provider, it's probably because their leadership drives down kindness as their core value. 7. Be kind to yourself Always being kind towards yourself becomes more crucial than ever during adverse times, or when you are feeling blue. After all, it’s harder to practice kindness towards others when you’re stressed or overwhelmed. Befriending yourself gently through self-compassion and self-care is the first step towards choosing kindness. RELATED: Be Good to Yourself: 8 Self-Love Techniques How to Stop Beating Yourself Up Self-Forgiveness: How to Forgive Yourself in 7 Steps Psychologist Kristen Neff suggests establishing helpful self-compassion breaks when you find that you’re stressed or being too harsh on yourself. Place a hand over your heart and practice saying to yourself: “May I regard myself in a gentler, fair light”, or, “May I bring kindness to this moment, even when I’m stressed.” These self-compassion statements will help you centre your attention back to choosing kindness for yourself. The Takeaway: Choosing Kindness As the famous saying goes, “In a world where you can be anything, be kind”. While we may not remember every person we ever met by their name, we are likely to remember each act of kindness shown to us. Indeed, choosing kindness as a daily practice can offer a host of physiological and psychological benefits. Deciding to always be kind – especially in situations where our inner voice is telling us to escalate conflict – does take practice, but it can also create long-lasting happiness for others, as well as ourselves. ● Images: shutterstock/BAZA Production, shutterstock/Dragon Images happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Altruism | Empathy | Gratitude | Acceptance Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.Tue, 28 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/inspiration-spirituality/gazing-at-the-stars-what-is-stargazing/When Jacqui Paterson started gazing at the stars with her kids during the COVID pandemic, it transformed their lives for the better. Discover the power of stargazing and the proven benefits of this awe-evoking – and free – activity. I’m a glass-half-full girl by nature, but even I was struggling during the COVID pandemic. A terrifying virus was tearing across the planet and the entire world had ground to a halt. I was consumed with anxiety; worrying about my family and paying the bills, and whether life would ever be the same again. Then, one evening I went outside and stopped dead in my tracks. The sky was clear and pitch black, and the stars were shining so brightly I literally gasped. As I stood under that twinkling ceiling, gazing at the stars, I was overwhelmed with wonder. I remembered an app I’d downloaded a couple of months earlier, which identifies all the stars, constellations, satellites and planets. Calling my daughters, aged 10 and 12, we raced upstairs, where we had an unobstructed view across the night sky. Using the app, we were thrilled to discover that bright white star hovering over the horizon was actually Venus. We skimmed past Betelguese – a dying red supergiant star 700 times the size of Earth – and through the constellations of Gemini, Auriga and Perseus. Stargazing offers calming, meditative benefits In that moment the world no longer seemed like an unfamiliar place. It reminded me that the Earth had been around for 4.5 billion years and had endured things much more dramatic than a virus, which instantly brought my worries into perspective. Plus, that twinkling night sky was just so beautiful – so stop-you-in-your-tracks gorgeous – I felt happier and calmer just looking at it. It became our family thing to sit at the window every evening, gazing at the stars. Not only did it help us let go of that nervous lockdown energy, for half an hour each day we got to ‘travel’ outside our four walls. What is stargazing? So, what is the meaning of stargazing? For a start, it’s nothing new; for millennia humans have looked to the skies for guidance and reassurance, and to find meaning and purpose in their existence. “The sky has been a part of human experience since we were able to think, in some form or manner,” says Dr Daniel Brown, Associate Professor in Astronomy and Science Communication for Nottingham Trent University. It’s been used to construct time and mark the passage of it, while celestial navigation – using the stars as reference points – has helped us explore the Earth for over 5,000 years. Astronomy has provided us with that link between sky and Earth; a way for us to understand and engage with the heavens. Constellations have always played their own important role too, Dr Brown says. So much so, rock paintings depicting them have been found dating back over 40,000 years. “The sky was clear and pitch black, and the stars were shining so brightly I literally gasped. As I stood under that twinkling ceiling, gazing at the stars, I was overwhelmed with wonder.” Perhaps surprisingly, the constellations have remained practically unchanged since being deciphered and named by Greek astronomer Ptolemy in the 2nd century AD, even resisting an attempt 1,400 years later, by Julius Schiller, to reimagine the stars into biblical and early Christian figures. Its offshoot, astrology (once an accepted part of astronomy, but now considered a ‘pseudo-science’), is also thought to have played a valuable part by helping society to make sense of different people and personalities. RELATED: Is Astrology Real? Here’s What Science Says How can I do stargazing? Perhaps the biggest advantage of gazing at the stars is that it’s free and accessible to every person on the planet – regardless of how, or where, you live. It can be carried out with the naked eye; alternatively, there are telescopes to suit all budgets and stargazing smartphone apps that bring ancient skies to life with augmented reality technology. The darker the sky the better, as the stars can shine in their full and natural glory. The International Dark Sky Places conservation program has curated a list of parks and reserves that are completely undiluted by light pollution. While these conditions are ideal for gazing at the stars, you can try it anywhere with a view of the clear sky (you might need to focus more in urban areas to block out distracting light and noise). Dress appropriately – you don’t want your meditation cut short because you’re cold – and find yourself a safe, comfortable spot with a clear view of the sky, like open parkland, or your back garden. If you’re planning to stargaze in the city, get as high up as you can; good spots include rooftop gardens, skylights or even looking out of large windows. RELATED: Outdoor Meditation: How to Meditate in Nature Living on a Houseboat The 6 Science-Backed Benefits of Living Simply Turn off all the lights you can, allow your eyes time to adjust to the darkness, then scan the skies for a particular spot or star to concentrate on. Soften your gaze and look slightly away from your target to see it more clearly (this is called averted vision and works because the cells in the sides of our eyes process low light better than the ones in the centre of your eye). Use an app to identify stars and constellations, and even the odd satellite looping overhead, or go ‘old school’ with a penlight and a stargazing guidebook. Alternatively, don’t even try to work out what you’re looking out, just lie back and enjoy the celestial show. While gazing at the stars, be conscious of your breath slowing and your body relaxing. Take in the sights, but also the sounds and sensations. Let your mind drift where it may; if irrelevant thoughts intrude, acknowledge them and let them go. Stargazing gets kids used to asking bigger questions Try not to feel frustrated if your meditation doesn’t go to plan, says Mark Westmoquette, author of Mindful Thoughts for Stargazers:Find Your Inner Universe. If the night is overcast, focus instead on the movement of the clouds and the way the stars intermittently peek out, he suggests, and appreciate the sky’s beautiful, changing nature. The benefits of gazing at the stars Westmoquette has a rare insight into both the science of stargazing, and its meditative effects. In 2013 he left a career in astronomy research to become a full-time yoga and meditation teacher. Today he melds both worlds by running monthly stargazing evenings from his home of St Helena, a tiny volcanic island in the South Atlantic. “I began to see how the tools of mindfulness could equally apply to stargazing, and how it could be a very mindful activity,” he explains. “During periods of worry and anxiety, when you find yourself lying awake at night, the familiar constellations and the slow wheeling of the heavens can be a reassuring source of comfort,” says Westmoquette. “Looking up at the stars can become a silent retreat into wonder and awe. I find that considering the enormity of space and time and the existence of our tiny planet within that, always helps put my personal worries into perspective.” The eternal nature of the heavens can also bring comfort. When we look upwards, we’re essentially seeing the same stars and planets as our ancestors, and their ancestors and their ancestors before them, Westmoquette says. There’s something comforting about having that constant, especially when the world is in a state of flux. “While stargazing, be conscious of your breath slowing and your body relaxing. Take in the sights, but also the sounds and sensations. Let your mind drift where it may.” According to psychologist Dr Katie Sparks, time spent in nature helps our bodies return to a natural rhythm. “We are part of nature, but we have become detached from it,” she says. “The demands on our attention from our fast pace of life are exhausting us both mentally and physically.” When we return to nature – by going for a walk, or gardening, or gazing at the stars – this calming contrast becomes obvious, she says. “The focus is shifted off our minds, which are constantly churning, and into our bodies. This helps to relax us physically, as we can then notice any bodily tension and breathe into it. It also helps us relax mentally by giving ourselves a break from our thoughts.” RELATED: Lunar Living: Harnessing the Power of the Moon Daaji on Parenting and Sparking Curiosity Why Reconnecting With Nature Is Essential During the pandemic, when school had been turned upside down, gazing at the stars became a fun educative activity to enjoy with children, and continues to be so. When they ask, ‘what is stargazing?’ you can reply by teaching them astronomy, or philosophy (opening up conversations about why we’re here, and whether there is a higher power, or a grand design), or even by discussing legends and folklore. You can even watch the International Space Station arcing across the sky, and imagine what the astronauts are doing as they look back down on the Blue Planet. Learning about the infinite worlds beyond our own can help replace their anxious thoughts with ones of fascination and wonder instead. In fact, studies have shown that experiencing a sense of awe – a feeling of reverential respect mixed with fear or wonder – prompts us to think outside of our own selfish needs and increases humility, helping us to accept and appreciate life. So, next time you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed by life, the solution could be, literally, written in the stars. • Want to try stargazing? There are over 130 officially accredited ‘Dark Sky Places’ internationally, including Exmoor National Park, UK, Snowdonia National Park, Wales, Cosmic Campground, New Mexico, US, Death Valley National Park, US, Grand Canyon National Park, US, Warrumbungle National Park, Australia, and Aoraki Mackenzie, New Zealand. Search the International Dark Sky Places website for the full list. Images shutterstock/Dudarev Mikhail, shutterstock/VARUNA, shutterstock/KIDSADA PHOTO happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Stress Management | Family activities | Spirituality Written by Jacqui Paterson Jacqui has been a true-life and travel journalist for over 25 years, and has travelled all over the world telling people's stories. Originally from New Zealand, she's now based in the UK, where she also wrangles two pre-teen daughters, and runs her lifestyle blog, Jacqui Paterson.com.Wed, 22 Oct 2025 23:00:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/iboga-ibogaine/Ibogain, from the iboga shrub, is a psychedelic compound used mainly in addiction and trauma therapy treatment. Rhianna Quanstrom explores the benefits and risks of iboga and ibogain, considers iboga vs ayahuasca, and examines the legalities of ibogaine treatment centers around the world. Iboga, also known as Tabernanthe iboga, is a medicinal shrub native to West Central Africa. It is commonly known for its active constituent, ibogaine. The iboga tree has ancient roots as a spiritual and healing plant for the Indigenous people of its native region. While it is still used in that context, it has also caught the attention of Western society due to its incredible potential as a treatment for addiction, traumatic brain injuries, and other psychological conditions. To better understand what Tabernanthe iboga is, we’ll discuss its history, effects and benefits, potential side effects and safety concerns, as well as where to find traditional iboga ceremonies and ibogaine treatment centers. We’ll also take a brief look at iboga vs ayahuasca to understand the similarities and differences of the two medicinal plants. The History of Iboga The root bark of the iboga shrub has been used for thousands of years by the Babongo peoples and other Indigenous tribes in West Central Africa, specifically Cameroon, Gabon, and the Republic of the Congo. From the iboga tree came the Bwiti tradition, an oral tradition and animistic spiritual path that holds the belief that there is life and spirit within all things. Bwiti essentially means “The School of Life,” and its focus is on discovering the truth both within and without. In the Bwiti tradition, Tabernanthe iboga is considered a master teacher, healer, and sacred guide. It is used for seeking higher wisdom and connecting with ancestry, nature, and the Great Spirit. It is used in high doses for ceremonial and initiatory rites of passage. The fruit of the iboga shrub In the 1900s, the active constituent of iboga’s root bark, ibogaine, was studied as a potential drug for low energy and the cardiovascular system. The isolated extract was introduced as the drug Lambarene and became popular among athletes for its stimulant effect. However, ibogaine products were later taken off the market because of their psychoactive properties. It became a Schedule I controlled substance in the United States and much of Europe. It wasn't until the 1960s that ibogaine was brought back to the attention of Western medicine after Howard Lotsof, a heroin addict, discovered its seemingly miraculous potential to treat substance abuse. After using it, he was relieved of his addiction and the withdrawal symptoms. He brought this experience to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, which sparked decades of research exploring ibogaine’s anti-addictive properties. While still a lesser-known substance and plant among Western society, the iboga tree and its active constituent, ibogaine, are becoming more widely recognized as a promising therapy for substance abuse. Today, research is exploring its potential as a medicine not just for addiction, but also traumatic brain injuries, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and childhood trauma. Effects and Benefits of Iboga Much of the research on iboga focuses on its active constituent, ibogaine. As such, how an isolated extract interacts with the body is not the same as how the whole plant does. While these studies show promising benefits for mental health and addiction, it’s important to note that traditional use of iboga involves consuming the ground root, which contains numerous other plant constituents besides ibogaine. Thus, it will have slightly (or significantly) different effects on the body – an area with little scientific research to date. According to the National Library of Medicine (NIH), “The mechanisms by which ibogaine exerts its psychoactive effects in the brain are only poorly understood, which is attributable to the alkaloid’s complex pharmacology.” “Iboga, also known as Tabernanthe iboga, is a medicinal shrub native to West Central Africa. It is commonly known for its active constituent, ibogaine.” Nevertheless, studies show that it affects several neurotransmitters in the central nervous system, including opioid, sigma, glutamate, and nicotinic receptors, as well as serotonin transporters. It also affects dopamine release and increases GDNF and BDNF, which are brain growth proteins. These receptors are related to the neural pathways associated with addiction and withdrawal; as such, ibogaine can help “reset” or disrupt these signals in the brain. Because it also affects dopamine release and increases brain growth proteins, it inhances neuroplasticity, which is the brain's ability to form new neural pathways. It does this in specific parts of the brain – the VTA, nucleus accumbens, and the prefrontal cortex (PFC) – that are related to the brain’s reward system (VTA), the processing of pleasure signals and cravings (nucleus accumbens), and decision-making and impulse control (PFC). Essentially, ibogaine targets numerous neurotransmitters, proteins, and regions of the brain associated with addiction, belief patterns, and trauma. Because it provides such a strong “reset,” it can dissolve addictive patterns and ease withdrawal symptoms within a single treatment. Along with substance abuse, ibogaine is shown to effectively treat traumatic brain injuries. According to Stanford Medicine, “[ibogaine] safely and effectively reduces PTSD, anxiety and depression, and improves functioning in veterans with TBI.” Ibogaine, the active constituent of iboga, is found in the shrub's bark Research shows that ibogaine helps increase a brain wave known as theta rhythms and reduces activity in the cortex. The article states, “Stronger theta rhythms may encourage neuroplasticity and cognitive flexibility, while less complex cortical activity may lower the heightened stress response seen in PTSD.” These are some of the most astounding benefits of ibogaine. However, there are many other potential benefits to experiencing an ibogaine journey. Let us not forget that iboga/ibogaine is a psychedelic medicine with spiritual significance. Any psychedelic “trip” will open one’s mind to “the other side,” leading to spiritual awakening and expanded consciousness. MORE LIKE THIS: What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? Microdosing 101 What is the Peyote Cactus and is it Legal? What Science Says About Microdosing Magic Mushrooms Iboga is considered one of the most intense psychedelic experiences because it lasts for about 24 to 48 hours, with a heightened visual experience that can last anywhere from 5 to 14 hours. The second half of the journey is more reflective, often with heightened mental clarity, peace, and energy. This can benefit anyone who feels called to take this medicine, as it leads you on an immensely healing and awakening journey where you connect with a much deeper wisdom within. Many people report addressing childhood traumas, purging old fears and wounds, communicating with ancestors and loved ones who have passed on, and experiencing profound revelations about the meaning of existence. Here are some quotes from people sharing their firsthand experience of taking iboga/ibogaine: “My body feels washed in a cleansing energetic blanket that completely removes the physical discomfort I’m feeling after 36 hours without heroin. In my mind there’s a vision like I’m being launched through a worm-hole which spits me out in what looks like outer space. I’m having a very rapid succession of incredibly insightful thoughts and ideas, and I’m broadly contemplating various abstract concepts such as relativity theory, evolution, and photosynthesis.” Kevin Franciotti, A New Perspective: My Experience with Ibogain Treatment “Soon the trip starts: images of the solar system punctuated by clips of my younger self laughing, then a bizarre internal reel made up of Jesus Christ, an alien and an image of a bush – seemingly the one from which the medicine derived. These eventually give way to a pounding narrative of negative thoughts known as a “mind-purge”. Mattha Busby, I Tried Ibogaine, the Psychedelic Anti-Addiction Drug “The highest spiritual truth is the gift of life, the medicine tells me. The Bwiti have only one prayer, I learned during fire talk: 'thank you for this day'. And so, gratitude washes over me as it fills every inch of my body with brilliant white light. At last, I find gratitude – real gratitude – for all the struggle. Struggle which has granted me this miracle of a life, which I now understand is a free life, thanks to the experience the medicine gifted me: feeling safe and free in the now. Just being is the gift, I understand. The beauty of the present moment and experiencing it with loving awareness through our senses – that is the meaning of life.” Julia Christina, The Journey Potential Side Effects of Iboga Iboga/ibogaine is a powerful substance and can have adverse, sometimes fatal, effects. There have been a few deaths reported with ibogaine due to cardiac arrhythmia, or irregular heartbeat. According to an Ibogaine fact sheet, “The majority of the ibogaine-related deaths occurred in unsafe settings that did not have access to proper medical monitoring or cardiac life support capabilities, including unregulated ibogaine treatment facilities outside of the United States. Most of the individuals who died were at an increased risk of adverse events due to the presence of heart disease, a history of taking certain heart medications, and polydrug use. Furthermore, some of the individuals were using impure or adulterated ibogaine products.” “In the Bwiti tradition, Tabernanthe iboga is considered a master teacher, healer, and sacred guide. It is used for seeking higher wisdom and connecting with ancestry, nature, and the Great Spirit.” It is unclear whether the whole-plant extract carries the same potential for severe side effects. However, because the iboga root contains 80% ibogaine, it should still be used with caution and only in safe, medically monitored environments. These fatal outcomes are rare. The most common side effects include: Nausea Dizziness Vomiting Tremors Less commonly, it can cause mania, seizures, and psychosis. Considering this, it’s important to speak with your doctor and have a full health evaluation before consuming iboga or ibogaine. Neither of these substances should be taken if you have a history of heart problems or are on heart medication. Most importantly, iboga and ibogaine should only be consumed in safe, reputable, and medically supervised ibogaine retreat centers. Iboga Ceremonies and Retreats In the United States, iboga and ibogaine are classified as Schedule I controlled substance at the federal level. However, regulations can vary state to state. For example, in the state of Colorado, ibogaine is recognized as a “natural medicine,” allowing for its use in licensed healing centers as well as for personal use and cultivation. Other states are introducing legislation to shift their legal status due to its therapeutic potential. Still, for most people in the U.S., attending an ibogaine retreat center requires traveling abroad. Fruits from the iboga tree In the UK, ibogaine is illegal to use or possess, and legal restrictions vary across Europe. Currently, ibogaine treatment centers are most commonly found in the following countries: Australia Canada Costa Rica Mexico Netherlands New Zealand Additionally, it is legal in its native countries, such as Gabon and Cameroon, where traditional ceremonies are still practiced, and a few retreat centers are open to the public. Iboga vs Ayahuasca Both iboga and ayahuasca are powerful psychedelic plant medicines with deep cultural and spiritual significance to the Indigenous peoples of the regions where they grow. As such, both should be approached with respect, reverence, clear intention, and caution. While each medicine produces profound visionary states, iboga is generally considered more intense and longer-lasting than ayahuasca. They are both rooted in ceremony and tradition, and should be used in a safe container with trained facilitators. RELATED: Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience What is Ego Death? Meaning, Symptoms, and Causes Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect Interestingly, these medicines both have an affinity for breaking addiction and forming new neural pathways. However, they are different in how they interact with the body and the overall psychedelic experience they produce. As discussed, the main active constituent of iboga is ibogaine, while ayahuasca’s is DMT. If you’re drawn to exploring one of these medicines, it’s essential to do thorough research and listen to your intuition. Often, the right medicine for you at this time will make itself known. Takeaway: Iboga and ibogaine The iboga tree is a sacred psychedelic plant medicine at the heart of the Bwiti tradition of West-Central Africa. Today, it is also used by people around the world seeking spiritual awakening and healing from addiction and trauma. Its active constituent, ibogaine, is increasingly recognized as a promising therapeutic substance in modern Western medicine. This will pave the way for further research and clinical trials for its treatment of substance abuse and mental health conditions. Whether approached for healing, spiritual insight, or addiction treatment, iboga will have a profound and life-long impact on all who seek its guidance. ● happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Herbalism | CBD | Alternative medicine Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.Wed, 15 Oct 2025 06:15:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/personal-growth/what-should-i-do-with-my-life/Mon, 13 Oct 2025 07:13:00 +0000https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/restorative-yoga/Restorative yoga is a type of yoga that encourages deep relaxation, calm, and better sleep. Yoga teacher Jacqui Gibbons outlines 5 key benefits, plus explains a full restorative yoga sequence with poses, and suggests the props you need to practise it safely and securely. Restorative yoga is the most gentle, relaxed and slow type of physical yoga you can do, designed to release muscular and mental tension, calm your nervous system, and ease you into deep relaxation. For a start, unlike other yoga, restorative yoga poses are done mostly lying down. Props are used to support the body, so that it can fully relax and lie in the various positions for 12-15 minutes each, while the muscles are passively stretched. Props include bolsters, yoga blocks, cushions and blankets. Two things in particular make restorative yoga very different to other styles of yoga. The first is holding the body in each position for 12 or more minutes. It takes this long for the nervous system to move out of a frazzled state – the fight-flight-freeze reaction – into a deep relaxation response. The second is that the body is fully supported and comfortable, so that you can let go of tension in your muscles, breath and mind. It is staying in the postures for this length of time – which means you only do four or five postures in a one-hour class – that helps to passively release chronic muscular tension, and soften and relax the body. It allows the natural breath to become very soft and subtle, and soothes the nervous system until it deeply relaxes. Restorative yoga takes you into a state of relaxed awareness. It is not meant to make you sleep (though it can prepare you for better sleep later). While it is deeply restful, you are at the same time aware of your body, breath and surroundings. It’s a soft awareness, sensing that all those things are there, but without getting caught up in thinking about them. You still stretch the muscles – with forward folds, backbends and spinal rotations, as other forms of yoga also have – but in a restorative yoga sequence these are passive, relaxed, supported stretches and poses, unlike active and dynamic forms of yoga such as hatha, ashtanga and vinyasa flow. Restorative yoga poses encourage a state of deep relaxation Done correctly, with the guidance of an experienced, knowledgeable and supportive teacher who is specifically trained in restorative yoga, it is deeply comforting and is more than just relaxation of the body; it uses the physical body to also access the mental, energetic and nervous systems, to have a deeply restorative effect, and nurture you at all levels of your being. 5 Key Benefits of Restorative Yoga Poses You can benefit from restorative yoga if you want to feel less tense or stressed and want to deeply let go and relax – both physically and mentally. The primary focus of restorative yoga is the breath. When we’re stressed, we switch to short shallow chest breathing rather than full breathing using the diaphragm (the main breathing muscle). It’s a normal part of the short-term nervous system response to danger. RELATED: Conscious Breathing: What is It and How Do We Benefit From It? However, it’s not sustainable. It can become a pattern – along with other unhelpful patterns such as holding our breath or reverse breathing (not taking in enough oxygen when we inhale) – and this can become chronic, which is a vicious cycle, as it then keeps the mind stressed and the nervous system aggravated. Releasing stress is just one of five key benefits that practising restorative yoga can bring: 1. Better Breathing Restorative yoga allows the breath to become naturally slower, deeper and more relaxed, as we allow the body to be completely still. This not only benefits the mind and nervous system during the session, but if repeated regularly over time can help to correct unhelpful breathing patterns so that our involuntary day-to-day breath becomes more optimal. “Restorative yoga is the most gentle, relaxed and slow type of physical yoga you can do. It's designed to release muscular and mental tension, calm your nervous system, and ease you into deep relaxation.” Breath is the foundation of our life, and how we breathe reflects how we are living – holding, tense, restricted and unaware or free, yielding, open and soft, and all shades in between. The breath can guide us to the core of our being – the essence of who we are. 2) Tension Release As you try to relax in the postures, you may feel the places where you’re holding tension. Restorative yoga poses help you to gradually release these through a passive, gentle softening and allowing, rather than an active stretch or forcing. It can help you to overcome the disconnection many of us have with our bodies (where, for example, we ignore stiff shoulders and continue hunching over a laptop until it becomes chronic and painful), and instead develop a respect, understanding and connection with your body. 3) Improved Nervous System Health When we do more in life than the nervous system can cope with, or are dealing with too many personal and environmental stressors, the sympathetic nervous system is activated and we go into survival mode. This system has evolved to keep us alive, so when it perceives something as a dangerous situation it releases hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol to help us run from it or fight it. MORE LIKE THIS: Yes, You Can Meditate Lying Down. Here's How and Why Tummo Breathing and Meditation: A Guide How to Meditate in Bed For Beginners But this level of response is only meant to be short-term, to keep us safe. It takes a lot of energy and is not sustainable long-term if we’re regularly, perhaps almost constantly, in survival mode. If we are, this can then compromise other systems, such as digestion and immunity. 4) Slowing Down Many of us do too much in life; working long hours, not taking breaks, or trying to fit too many tasks and calls into our day. We don’t allow ourselves space and silence. When we slow down and quieten the noise, we can appreciate the beauty of space, silence and simplicity, and reset our minds to enjoy each moment with full awareness. Life is made up of small moments and details, and becomes more meaningful and fulfilling when we are present for them. Let tension melt away through restorative yoga poses 5) Better Sleep All of the benefits above contribute to another one: better sleep. Over time, restorative yoga creates the conditions – deeply rested, more relaxed, a nervous system that’s not consistently aggravated, breathing more optimally, holding less tension, giving ourselves more space and silence – that guide us into deeper, better quality sleep. Then we wake up refreshed and can greet the day with more energy and joy. Best Props For Restorative Yoga This is a list of everything you need to do restorative yoga poses. The most essential prop is a yoga bolster. All these can be substituted with things you have at home. However, I recommend you buy a specific yoga bolster, as it’s the right shape and firmness, and easier to use. 1 yoga mat – or lie on a non-slip rug 1 or 2 yoga bolsters – or rolled-up yoga mat and blanket (see below) 4 yoga blocks (the flat-ish ones) – or lots of cushions and pillows 1 yoga brick (the brick-shaped one) – or use the cushions 1 yoga strap – or dressing gown belt 1 large blanket, to fold and place on your mat for extra comfort 1 small blanket, towel or throw, to roll into a mini-bolster or for under the head 1 eye bag or folded scarf to cover your eyes If it’s not possible to buy a purpose-made bolster, tightly wrap a folded blanket around a rolled yoga mat. It must be firm, the shape of a bolster, smooth (rolled with no wrinkles), and tied securely at both ends so that it doesn’t unroll (dressing gown belts work well). However, this is more faff and it’s not as easy to move around between postures. The second bolster is not essential but is useful for some poses, and a good idea if you have a stiff or painful lower back or hips. Different types of bolsters are available but I recommend a regular, rounded bolster. Try this one by Yogamatters, or the more environmentally sustainable hemp bolster filled with organic buckwheat hulls. Being in a yoga studio equipped with all the right props makes setting up the postures a lot easier. The teacher can help you with them, and can skilfully guide you into the relaxation state, which can work better than being at home surrounded by distractions. On the other hand, it means you get into a relaxed state then have the disruption of travelling home! A Restorative Yoga Sequence It is not always possible to get to a yoga studio, so here is a simple restorative yoga sequence you can do at home, using one bolster and your cushions and pillows. If you’re new to restorative yoga poses, have several lessons in-person with an experienced teacher (or on Zoom, in a very small class size so that you’re seen). At the beginning, you need a teacher to give you instructions and small individual adjustments that make it more comfortable; to clarify things you’re not sure about; and to guide you into relaxation (rather than leaving the mind to its own devices). With their words they can skillfully guide you into deep stillness, relaxation and silence. They create a safe, comfortable and nurturing space. “As you try to relax in the postures you may feel the places where you’re holding tension. Restorative yoga poses help you to gradually release tension through a passive, gentle softening and allowing.” This is preferable to a recording, where the teacher cannot see you and you may have to disturb yourself to adjust your computer screen or volume. Videos can be helpful so that you can follow the teacher’s cues, see what to do, and relax without looking at the time. However, looking at a screen or using the keyboard to adjust volume, view etc are the antithesis of everything described above. Never crane your neck to see the screen, don’t open your eyes once you’re in the posture, and set the volume and place the screen where you won’t need to adjust them. RELATED: Spiritual Cleansing: 9 Detox and Purification Techniques Here is a simple 75-minute home restorative yoga sequence. Print it, so you don’t look at a screen during your session. This is no substitute for personal teaching and is done at your own risk. Do not do anything that’s uncomfortable, unpleasant or aggravates injuries. If you don’t know what something means, don’t do it. Attend some classes first, or see below for video links instead. 1. Savasana – initial relaxation. Lie on your mat with a widthways bolster under your knees, your knees and feet apart, a thinly rolled blanket under the backs of the ankles, 1 or 2 cushions under the head (but not the shoulders) and an eye bag over closed eyes. 12 minutes. 2. Reclined Easy Pose – hip opening. From here, draw the bolster nearer your bum, cross your legs at the shins or ankles (as when sitting cross-legged) and allow the hips to open, supported by the bolster. If they’re not supported, put yoga blocks on the bolster under the hips until they are and you can fully relax. 12 minutes. Eye bag over eyes. Halfway through, with minimal disturbance, swap to the opposite ankle in front. 3. Reclined Spinal Twist. From here, place the hands on the outer thighs and support your legs as you uncross them and bring the knees together. Rest your feet on the bolster for a minute. Then drop both knees to the right and rest them on the bolster. Position the feet comfortably and securely (not sliding off). Keep the backs of both shoulders in contact with the ground, so that you’re rotating the spinal muscles. Only turn the head the opposite way to the knees (as in the active version) if it feels relaxing. 8-10 minutes, then change sides for 8-10 minutes, then untwist and lie on your back. MORE LIKE THIS: Trauma Informed Yoga: What is It and Does it Work? Practising Gratitude Yoga How to Do Yoga Nidra For Sleep: 4 Steps and Script 4. Reclined Backbend. Slowly sit up with eyes closed. Open your eyes and place the bolster behind you, lengthways on the mat. Place a block or cushions at the far end (your head will rest on these). Sit on your mat facing forwards with your knees bent and bolster behind you. Pull it close to your sacrum. Slowly lie back over it. Adjust the block so it’s under your head. If the backbend is too much, come up, put a second bolster on top of the first, staggered, and try again. Once in position, straighten your legs along the mat. If that’s uncomfortable, bend the knees, place your soles on the mat, separate the feet and let the knees rest on each other. Hands rest wherever is comfortable. Eye bag on the eyes. 12-15 minutes. 5. Supported Forward Fold. From above, slowly sit up with eyes closed. Open your eyes and turn round to kneel in front of the bolster (omit this posture if kneeling is uncomfortable or you can’t sit on your heels). Remove the block. Separate the knees and pull the bolster(s) closer in to you. Lean forward and rest the front of your torso and head on the bolster. Rest the hands and arms wherever is comfortable. Have the forehead on the bolster, or turn the head to one side. Have a cushion under the head if you want to. 12-15 minutes. To end, lift up slowly with closed eyes and sit for a few moments before you open your eyes and end the session. Best Restorative Yoga Classes on YouTube Many videos on YouTube with the title ‘restorative yoga’ are not restorative yoga. They are quiet, slow yoga sequences with deep active stretches (often for highly flexible bodies) but are not true restorative yoga, as described here, and do not have its benefits. It is not restorative yoga if it includes unsupported postures, use of strength, active stretches, poses that are held for only a few breaths, or more than five postures in an hour. It’s not Pigeon Pose without bolsters, Downward Dog or Ardha Matsyendrasana (seated twist) – all things that are on YouTube labelled as restorative yoga! Below are the three best restorative yoga sequences videos we've found online. If you want to practise at home, these are ones you can trust. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; } Restorative yoga for hips and back opening Focuses on opening your hips and lower back. Four postures in 45 minutes, allowing time for the benefits described above. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; } Restorative yoga, 40 minutes. A varied selection of postures for opening different parts of the body. However, they are only held for around four minutes, so use this video as an introduction to them, then do them on your own, staying in them for 12 minutes. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; } Restorative yoga, 60 minutes. Clear explanations and set-ups, staying in the postures for several minutes. There is talking and music all the way through so it doesn’t have the deep benefits described above (the mind cannot fully turn inward when it’s being directed to external sounds), but if your mind wanders a lot you might like this. The Takeaway: Restorative Yoga Poses Restorative yoga benefits us not by challenging us or powering our way to health but by slowing down, being gentle and nurturing ourselves. As a yoga teacher, and someone who has done yoga for 20 years, I know it can be tempting to always do our more dynamic practice. But once we allow ourselves to slow down and regularly take a restorative yoga class, we realise how much we needed it – especially if we’re living a busy life, working, studying or looking after a family. It is a therapeutic practice, developed in the 20th century by BKS Iyengar (one of the most influential yoga teachers of the modern age) to help people who couldn’t do a more active physical yoga practice because of injury, illness or chronic health conditions. However, don’t reserve it only for these times. Build it into your week as a counterbalance to a strong physical practice, to a busy stressful life, or for any and all of its multiple wellbeing benefits. To learn more, three of the leading teachers in restorative yoga to look for are Judith Hanson Lasater (a pioneer in this field), her daughter Lizzie Lasater, and Anna Ashby, who teaches online and trains yoga teachers in restorative yoga (she taught me). ● Images shutterstock/Koldunov, shutterstock/ESB Basic happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Stress management | Motivation | Yin yogaThu, 09 Oct 2025 02:53:00 +0000