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Is it true friends can turn into lovers/into a relationship

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Just imagine having two friends. You like both of them, but you would only consider one of them for a romantic relationship. So it depends who's asking. I experienced 3 stories regarding this topic: 1. When i went to school, I got a group of friends, but I was closer to one of the female friends. Sometimes just the two of us met, we went on vacation together once and we told each other a lot of things. But to me we were just friends. One year our ususal New Year's Eve party was cancelled, so I went to another friend's party without her and she was very mad. So I think, she thought of us as a couple, she never told me and then she got hurt. 2. I was texting a woman, when I was looking for a girlfriend. She was nice, but her ex treated her so badly that she was affraid of a new relationship. So I was patient and spent a lot of time with her as a close friend. I helped her to overcome her fear and to build up self-esteem. Then she dated a new guy, they got into a relationship and I left because I loved her and I couldn't take it. And of course, he treated her badly and they broke up again. But I didn't spend any more time with her, because she hurt me so much by picking a random idiot over me. 3. When I was still looking for a girlfriend, I casually played an online game with some people. We became a crew of friends soon and played together for years. We even met each other in real life at crew weekends. One of them became my female best friend, because we played together every day and got to know us very well. Her boyfriend was part of the crew and he was a friend too, but over time he showed her less attention and treated her worse and worse. So they broke up one day. Since she was missing attention and she got it from me every day, we got even closer. We started joking about getting together when both of us wouldn't find a partner in a few years. We started flirting and one day we decided to meet and make out. It was very good, we both enjoyed it and we got together. I will marry her this summer. So I would say: Tell him/her how you feel.The longer you wait, the more it hurts. It can go good or bad, but you will have an answer and you can enjoy it or move on. Life is short. If flirting is funny and not weird, that's a good sign. And everyone loves to hear being accepted and loved with all the imperfections. When looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend, pick the one who truly cares about you and spends time with you.

hi everyonewas wondering how you would be able to find a girl friend the old way our parents did in the 80s/90s, still think it is possible.want to be able to go on dates and do things with the girl, dont want to have kids or live together 24/7 or to share the usual couples things with the girlfriend but want to be able to hug/kiss/do all the girlfriend things/hold hands.sister is seeing someone and feel that have got no one and wondered if there is a way to find a girl without the expense of constantly hiring a companion until the girl comes along.how do you get someone to introduce you, how do you find a friend who might be happy to go out with you on dates and do some of the things, how do you find a person who would be happy doing it with you.where can you go to find girls and where can you go when you work every weekend (or think about it) when it seems to be about time theyre out doing stuff.how do you find a single girl, is there anything that can be done for now until youre doing something with less weekend work (there may be some here and there, not sure) which youre hanging out for place to sell which may take a while.dont have a girl to dress up with and go to places with like you would for school formals or whatever else and last time that had gotten to experience that was 18 years ago in year 12 and theres no weddings or events coming up and still dont have the girl.also how do you find a girl to dance with like in a wedding or school formal as theres no weddings as said coming up and still even then dont have the girl, how would you find someone thats happy doing it with you without constantly hiring a companion.last wedding that had been to there were coronavirus restrictions preventing that and wont get to next one as its interstate and cant afford to travel.how can you find a girl to experience intimacy and go on dates with, could you ask a friend or someone you know or a friend of a friend or a friend of someone you know and how would you ask them, dont want to sound desperate but it probably sounds like that to you.for the going out bit could you ask your sister thats close to your age.what are the best options to make those things happenif anyone has some answers thatd be much appreciatedthanks

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Hey it's my first post. I'm Vince I'm in the San Francisco bay, but getting kinda far out of the city. I've been using apps like crazy to make friends and they're pretty much helping. Just wondering how you guys would suggest making local friends -- ways to strike up conversation at coffee shops, networking apps, a good place I can go earlier in the day to meet young people, I will take anything! Thanks everyone.

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When I connect with someone online that's great but once I've provided my phone number and ask them to call me and all they want to do is text me with no first or last name or contacts or any meaningful message I can relate to or they just say hi that's ridiculous if you're not looking for a friend up close and in personal to do something fun with in the city of love Los Angeles why bother contacting me I haven't got time to poke around and tweet with people

I've worked and grown up in many places though I feel I've made many friends .very few seem to be friends I'm not an horrible person and get on well with all

How important are friends in your life? Do you even need them? This article about the power of friendship suggests you do. As I've moved countries a lot I've found that certain friendships have slipped, but I've also made a few new ones, although it's not always come easy (there are some great ideas on how to make new friends here). So, how do you make friends these days? Do you have loads of friends or prefer a small number of quality mates?

Hello I'm a 25 years old young lady based in Johannesburg. My boyfriend and I are both introverts and we've got no friends at all. We're looking for couple friends whom we can can talk, have fun and go out with. How do we go around that, where does one start?

I am 62 and feel that I have no real close friends. I always find that I have to be the instigator of phone calls and conne ting with people. If I wait to see if I hear from these people who I conne t with they don't contact me. It's been like this for 30 years. I help people out are friendly and join many groups of interest like photography hiking etc. Am I typical? Anyone else have this experience and how do u deal with the sadness

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Do you think it's important with honest friends, or is there a limit as to how honest friends should be with each other? 🤔 Some people think honesty is crucial and would want completely honest friends, and to be able to be fully honest with them in return. Others think that close friends should be backing you even if their honest opinion is not in line with yours. I sometimes feel like this "ride or die" mentality between friends can become problematic, where certain people see honesty as being unsupportive if it does not align with their actions or thoughts. What do you think? Do you want 100% honest friends even if it might hurt your feelings somehow, or do you think there is such a thing as overly honest friends, who end up being not truly supportive? 🤝

I've always been extra nice to my friends, I don't understand why they don't do the same for me. I'm afraid to cut them off because then I'll be alone. One minute I'm the night in shining armour the next they're treating me like crap. A switch, something that is put on and off. I don't know what I do wrong Nothing seems to occur to them, that they're really important to me, I'm I doing something wrong?

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I've been friends with someone for over 11 years. We were housemates at college and ended up living within 45 mins of each other for 9 years after graduation and met up every few months. When we were both married we would meet up as a couple a few times a year around 3 or 4. A few years ago they moved slightly further away and the distance is now probably double what it was. However, we continued to meet up a few times a year half way. When we had our first child the distance was still 45mins and they were great really supportive. They met with us several times when he was small till the age of about 18months even when they moved. Things got a bit odd about a year ago, despite finishing renovating their house we have never received a invite, where others have, which feels odd as we used to meet at each others houses alot. When we had a late baptism for our child (pandemic) when he was two, only my friend showed up with a excuse from his partner. Since then everytime we have mentioned meeting as a 4 (plus our toddler) we have been ghosted. No response. You wait few weeks or a month, send a message asking 'how there doing' or sharing news, and not mentioning dates to meet, and a reply comes through within the day, you can go a few weeks doing that with no issues and then as soon as you mention dates. Ghosted. This hurts slightly more as we recently had out second child, despite invites and indicating they'd like to come see him, they have made 0 effort to be there for us or meet the child outside of messages. I've met up with my friend a few times this year just us and it's been fine - a few weeks back I suggested (having not done so for around 10 weeks) all 4 of us meeting or, if they were two busy for that, just him and me and again ghosted. It's been 4 months since I've seen him now. Yesterday, same thing, message a 'how are you?' and by the evening a long reply apologizing for being bad at replying due to busyness / other stresses in life - no mention of meeting. Yet in the message they happily told me how they were meeting up with a mutual friend, on way back from somewhere, and had others friends round there house recently. They seem oblivious to what there doing, but, then, I think; how can you be? What has changed? Has your partner decided we're not worth the effort, and, if so, I'd wish you'd just say! I really don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my friend of 11 years, but also really don't like their habit of ghosting me for wanting to arrange meeting up! I feel pretty hurt they don't want to meet my newest child despite indicating they would. Part of me wants to just say "what gives" or "have we done something" but I honestly don't know where we'd end up if I did and that's scary. Currently, I've not replied as I don't know what to say which is unlike me, I'm the reply within a day kinda person.

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A boyfriend's point of view is seeing her being in contact to a guy she knows for a very long time. So it's hard for the boyfriend to try and become the most important person in her life. And even if it works, best friends like you could be upset because best friends get a lower priority. (At least in a very serious relationship) So that's why her (ex)boyfriend doesn't really like her male friends. And demanding all her male friends gone is a sign of his insecurity. Appearently, she is insecure too, because she's fulfilling his demand, because she is worried about ending up without a relationship. Of course that's horrible for you. Personally I feel sorry for her, because she is forcing herself into a relationship where her boyfriend tells her how to live her life and she will end up without her best old friends. Either that or she will be able to think straight after a while and end up without the relationship and without her good old friends. I experienced something like this before. In my case, I tried to become the boyfriend and she put me on hold in best friend zone. I was okay with waiting until she got a boyfriend. So I excluded her from my life and after a while she realized what kind of person he was and broke up. She tried to text me again, but I was done with her.

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