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You know, many of us have thought the same thing, is your mind just a product of certain emotions. But, there`s really nothing, just emotions to make us behave in a certain way. Well, if that`s so, we`re all just dead bodies, moving around with no purpose, just certain processes to make us re-produce. I have another take on it, we`re all the product of energy. I mean, the universe began with a sun, energy, then when the energy cooled down, it formed mass, and because the sun was so heavy, it collapsed under it`s own weight, and why we have gravity also, because of the momentum this caused. I think energy, which the first sun consisted of, is a little living; the reason why we`re living also. If you look at someone closely, in their eyes, you can see this light. It`s the reason we`re living, and not just bodies, walking around. We lived before DNA, we`re all sons, of this energy, sort of. LIke God`s sons. The soul isn`t from DNA, anyways, I`m just making a point. The soul get`s transfered, in another way, before birth. That`s why they spent billions on researching also, without finding genes linked to the personality.Anyways, I just wanted to share my take on it, it`s a popular thing now to think there`s nothing in the soul, they say "nothing", among western people. I always knew I felt real, to me it`s just nonsense to think there`s nothing. I think they fall under their own irrationally also, because they still care about others, wants to have sex, and so fourth; what`s the point then, if there`s nothing. Exactly, I wouldn`t like care about others, or talk to them, if there`s nothing. I`d just be under my own reflexes then, and not in control of myself, and spending life in society.My point is, I think energy is living a little. The whole universe, is living. The thing, we all consists of. What`s your take on it? We feel a "self" also, which also could just be a trick from nature, to make us feel real. But, I don`t think so. Science knows we have a soul. scientist says so, and they struggle with this "self" also, they can`t understand why we have it, because in their minds, we`re just brains ... Happy Holidays!

When you are over 18 years old, there is no perfect or wrong age for a relationship. It happens when it happens. If you look back, the things you will regret the most are the things you didn't do. So if you like her, go for it and ask her out for a date. Either she likes you too and you get to spend more time with her or you can stop waiting for the right moment. How do you "find the most compatible person of the other sex"? Do you just look at the people, do you team up with them in school projects? In my opinion the best way to meet a future partner is to share a hobby. So when I was single, I did what I liked to do with other people. It can be anything like a sports club, photography, even gaming. This way you get to know the people in a relaxed environment and you see who is the person you like to work with.

Wherever I go, a new school, a new college or a tuition, I tend to find the most compatible person of the other sex and try to bond with them. Not that I am desperately trying to get into a relationship, but I know that I am choosy in life, it has been always been hard for me to make friends, bond with people on a deeper level...you get it. Does this happen with everyone ? Or is it just me ? Everything happens subconsciously. I don't even want to fall in love. When I get closer to the person, I go into a state where I am confused whether to go further into it, or just back off. I know I am not ready to indulge in relationships at this age, I need to focus on building my career. Also, I am a person of emotional depth, rushing into a relationship would be the last thing I do. But I do not know how long I should wait. They say you will know when the right time comes. But the right time never seems to come. The feelings just rise and fall. Sometimes the emotional side takes over and the logical side at other times. I do not even go try finding someone online. Nor do I comment or reply to stories, trying to initiate a conversation. You understand what I am trying to say ? I am not consciously looking for love. What should be my lookout in life ? Any comments would be helpful. And to the one who has read so far, I wish you the best in life.

I appreciate both comments. Thank you both for the encouragement. Yes, maybe it is attachment and not love. Yes, I will stop wasting time getting nothing back for what I’m giving out. If I need sex it’s alway available. I don’t need a boyfriend for that.

Last year around August I met a man online through a dating site. We originally agreed to be friends with benefits, but after a few months things started getting intimate. I started to develop feelings for him and he seemed to have also been feeling the same way. Aside from meeting for sex we would have very deep conversations. Around the holidays my fwb asked me to do him a favor and marry him. I was very open to the idea as I felt strong attachment to him and it seemed he felt the same. After New Years I told him I was falling in love with him (it was true then and still true to this day), however he said he was not looking to fall in love or for anything serious at the moment. He just needed to be married so he can get citizenship and keep custody of his daughter. I spent months trying to convince him that marrying for love would be best. He’d have his citizenship, his daughter, and love. This led to a falling out for a little while. He never came back to physically see me anymore (not since Christmas). I recently had a little incident a few months ago in which he came to my rescue (by calling the police for me). For a short period of time we were actually talking on the phone instead of texting and started to bond again. I felt love from him, but suddenly he distanced himself from me after promising to take care of me. After saying our friendship might blossom into something. Lately I am initiating all of the conversations over text. He refuses to have phone conversations or to even visit me. Says he’s busy and doesn’t have time, but as soon as he needs a shoulder to cry on or to try and ask for a loan he reaches out. It is now clear to me that he has no love or respect for me. He doesn’t really want to be my friend judging by his actions. Every time I ask him if he still wants to be friends or if he ever wants to meet again for sex he tells me yes, but continues to act disinterested. We used to talk about deep stuff and exchange information about each other’s lives, but now he gives me brief answers or ignores me and doesn’t inquire about me or my life anymore. Asking him direct questions is pointless because he won’t give me an honest answer. This hurts so bad because I love him. I really do. The chemistry is (or at least was) there. Not sure if I should just delete him from my phone and move on. What’s the point in keeping him around if he neither wants to be my platonic friend or possible boyfriend. At this point I’m just wasting energy. I don’t understand what is so hard about just confessing that he is no longer interested in associating with me. Something caused him to have a change of heart and that is fine, but don’t leave me hanging as I continue to pour my heart out. This sucks so much. Sorry for long post. Just really heartbroken over this whole ordeal.

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This is going to sound like I’ve had & lost a best mate with that exact problem Rod so forgive me if I say anything that goes against community standards. All I can really say is this, Mike (old best mate) was not the oldest of siblings, got married young, got a good role young too. exactly like you would comment how everyone uses him as the go to guy for every issue expecting him to be his usual self because why on Earth would he, & he did, he did until his business that was started right prior to Covid & the man’s marriage collapsed in 2010. But theres a kicker, the worst of the worst, his older brother was convicted of child sex offences & it came out he was a victim also to which his Mother who couldn’t come to grips with what her oldest son had done & made life just that more terrible. Now i don’t know that any advice or info that could of been given to Mike that could of saved him from any of his short comings all that i know is that he is possibly one of the 40% who can physically not help but to fall into cognitive dissidence & the behind the scenes talk of the plandemic i feel was his biggest issue. I say 1% controlling the maj, 40% blindly, never critically thinking, good for business types & that leaves 59% of the burden of changing the direction of a tyrannical elite who wish to play God when their own science books cannot explain why a Sharman can undergo a soul retrieval for a client who at say age 7, their Father left them & their Mother ipso facto while going beyond the veil & down into the underworld a piece of said soul fled as to not be destroyed & why that Sharman can find a 7 year old peice of clients soul down there without being told about when the father left in the first place. Then if i was to say that if those now empty areas of your soul/energy bodies can be used by other trickster/ poltergist spirits that hang around after death as dwellings & we can as humans have multiple spirits dwelling in us or we would be called possessed & is any of that pretty important spiritual information spread by your TV or radio? God NO. Good luck Rod if you made it to the bottom of this without feeling your blood boil from me being typing honestly you just might be

Can anyone answer this for me? What to do about unwanted sexual advances from other women? Expecially when they are not your race. I honestly never seen people like this before. No one would guess I am in Jamaica. They dont quit. If you are not interested they just keep doing it- sucking sounds, slapping sounds licking sounds and insisting on sex. There is no help because I will be accused of homophobia. I went an all girls grammar school homosexuals are everywhere in those institutions- I dont have time to be xenophobic or homophobic. I just honestly am not interested.

I think it is important to look at this from all the different point of views. You told us about your's already. Her point of view is having a boyfriend who spends most of the time with a different girl and she is complaining about that. And if she cares about him, she would like to know what's going on in his life and of course she doesn't like to be excluded or to be used for sex only. In her position she should probably end the relationship and look for someone who loves her as much as she loves him at the moment if she is confident enough. His point of view is probably pretty great, since he has 2 jealous girls fighting for his attention. But he is neither confident enough to end his current relationship nor to start a relationship with the girl he spends the most time with, which is you. So she is haveing sex with him hoping for a real relationship and you are gigivng him a lot of attention (maybe) trying to get into a real relationship with him. So both of you are used and none of you is confident enough to make him decide. But ironically you dont even fight him, but you fight each other.

Hello! I am an 18-year old girl. Why is my best friend's girlfriend such a jealous stupid girl? She is so possessive towards her 18-year old boyfriend! I hate her! She complains to her boyfriend a lot about these things: 1. My best friend spends 2 days a week and 2 hours a day with her while my best friend spends 7 days a week and 9 hours a day with me. Also, she gets to have phone calls and text messages with him. Plus, she gets to have sex with him within those two hours. Isn't she fucking content? 2. Her boyfriend and I exclude her from a lot of activities and trips. 3. Her boyfriend helps me out in a lot of things while he only helps her in very few things. 4. My best friend and I do not inform her about our trips, activities, and personal secrets in order to hide them from her. She complains about these things? She complains about the fact that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? Really? Her boyfriend prioritizes me over her and is closer to me because he and I have been best friends since childhood while she only met him when they were 16-years old! Also, my best friend and I often fought together as comrades and protected each other against tough guy bullies since childhood and we are still fighting together as comrades and defending each other to this day while all she does is stand there to be protected by him but cannot help him. I even cook delicious foods for her boyfriend while she can't. I guess she is inferior to me as a person. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! And what's funny is that her boyfriend often takes my side against her whenever she and I get into fights. Then I and her boyfriend berate her together. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! That means she is a bad person! I mean my best friend is a very nice person so if he always takes my side against her then that means there really is something wrong with her. Seriously, she is so mad that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? I mean so what if she is his girlfriend? Like who cares? No matter what she does, There will always be roles in her boyfriend's life that she can never equal or be better than me at. Those roles will always be mine and will never be hers. I will always be his one and only platonic friend. She is just there for sex. So for all girls who is like my best friend's girlfriend, remember this: A boy fights for and dies for his girlfriend while best friends fight together and die together. Remember that!

Narr - in todays world being what it be with the internet and all it's devices, such thoughts exist in all age brackets today and those thoughts more out of control. If I could just say ...Self preservation is quite the opposite to my context when speaking about self exploration. Like letting go is what I have found key in terms of acceptance. That said, I respect your take and perhaps not quite reading you well. I am 53 having aged well before my time with a story I'd rather let go. I live in a house with my wife, daughter and grandson all doing the best we can to get along. I kind of have to laugh out loud at that one. My wife has a debilitating disease with support peoples that come to our house. She and I sleep in different rooms and we no longer have sex. It would so happen that intimacy was something very important to me and that whilst for sure we could still be intimate, my wife's happiness has taken a huge hit with such all the challengers she now faces. It's been going on for years where each passing one sees her condition slightly worsen. By the way I am not trying to compare here but simply share. I've been in my own room for years now having to accept that I will no longer have sex again and also my wife's depression combined with my own (as is how energy works kind of thing - no ones fault - or perhaps often mine - certainly not my wife's which is why I am still here - it is what it is) that, that once intimacy that I found so empowering and or comforting was no gone. I can't hug my wife as am often pushed away. I don't need the sex because I'm a person that can get enough just by being close and being gentle kind of thing. Long story short - Life's happenings regardless whatever can in some sense rob us of such things. Perhaps that term 'rob' a bit strong as it's only in my self reflection that I have found the power to be here for all my family as they too also seem to get enough from us all simply being present. Alas, I too still have fantasies about meeting someone else who might be able to afford me the interactions that most of us subscribe to being emotionally connected that is in a more inspiring and immune boosting kind of way. I seem to of digressed - my apologies. I guess the point for me is if I took to heart all the the recommendations regarding cutting out negativity out of my life, that would mean leaving my wife, my daughter and grandson whom are all in great need to some extent. I've done a lot of self reflection on such none of which I consider as self preservation but more for the greater good. Perhaps more complex than that but not wishing to write a book. I've come to accept my situation and in doing so have less a need for what more people think is community. The foundations on which today's community is built is based more upon economics than human values with the latter no more than a deceptive sale. So too I think it is the way with people and interactions when it comes to exterior values Vs that which lay within. The time I take out in order to sooth myself is more about letting go of what most strive for. Often it involves allowing myself to experience the pain of my self as well as those I love knowing too that like you, I also wish for that something that feels missing. I don't know really ... grasping at straws myself. I feel it is good to look after self in order to help others but not when it just becomes only about me. Yet it's OK to console ourselves if not always caught in a state of commiseration which too can help ... but many times more a trap. I find the general consensus on happiness can often be like that too. We don't want to preserve ourselves as much as be ourselves. Does that make sense? For me and mind you ... it's been quite a while. Just recovering from heart attack symptoms myself. I'm just winging it here but is mostly why I write and feel as I do. It seems the more we open up and be our true selves the less in need we become ... the less validation we need. Unfortanley most of our online content is all about the need for validation with an algorithm that instills reward and punishment. Very much on a community level but that is another story: How Google, Facebook Turned into Behavior Modification Empires. No link required. This aspect very present in most forums as well. I shower too - but on odd days. 0-0 ... yet my ability to convey the truth in a mindful way seems to be unscathed. Or at least I hope. We have become very much an exterior race. Kudos to you for opening up. I often feel the same way despite my claims but making gains through mindfulness or mindless activities that fall within my own ideals. All the best with your own.

There is no one thing that could define me. Each aspect introduces another. Age, Vocation, Country, Flag, Location, Sex, Gender Preference, Ideology, Religion, Politics, Music, Movies, Hobbies or any of these boxes, categories, images, icons or emotes can possibly come close to defining me. I subscribe to none of these things. Perhaps that fact alone can be one thing, that may do others well to understand about me. You can be sure that I am not a fake despite any algorithm that would propose such a thing. 🙃

Sex was instituted by God for the soul of husband and wife...I may not be perfect but I'm going slowly and enjoying God more and more.

Is sex before marriage really important if one is gonna end up breaking up with you?

How many times you do sex in a day?

Hi guys hope all of u r fine . I have one question. I got married 3 months ago and I have good timing but my wife don't want to sex with me in early we do but now a days she is not happy she said I get tired with u what to do

None at all,? Or just like very infrequent. I don't think it's a deal breaker personally if it's just infrequent . The other forms of intimacy... really connecting, are what get me going. The actual act of sex is just a bonus then. Disclaimer I am a bit of a sapiosexual

Yes. Sex is necessary. 👍👍 Have fun 😀

That sounds like multiple questions with some of them being more important than the title one. Is sex necessary every day? I don't think so. It's not even realistic in a usual relationship. Is physical contact necessary at all? To me, sex, hugs and cuddling is part of a relationship. Can a long distance relationship work? I was part of one for over a year, so it's possible. We visited each other every few weeks or like once a month in person and we were talking to each other almost every day. This way we could be there for each other - even with the distance between us.

I think if there is no sex in relationship, it's not worth it. At times, you need to feel that touch.. that pampering.. long distances don't work.

In this 1971 Center For Disease Control handout photo, monkeypox-like lesions are shown on the arm and leg of a female child in Bondua, Liberia. CDC | Getty Images Belgium has become the first country to introduce a mandatory 21-day quarantine for monkeypox patients as cases of the disease — typically endemic to Africa — spread across the globe. Health authorities in Belgium introduced the measures Friday after the country reported its third case of the virus. As of Monday, the country has recorded four local cases; confirmed global infections currently number around 100. Belgium’s compulsory measures apply only to patients with a confirmed infection. Close contacts are not required to self-isolate but are encouraged to remain vigilant, especially if in contact with vulnerable people. “Infected persons will have to go into contact isolation until the injuries have healed (they will receive concrete instructions about this from the treating doctor),” a version of the government announcement translated from Dutch said. The UK meanwhile has said those who have a high risk of catching the disease should self-isolate for 21 days. That includes household contacts or medical professionals who may have come into contact with an infected patient. What is monkeypox? Monkeypox is a rare disease caused by the monkeypox virus — part of the smallpox family — with symptoms including rashes, fever, headaches, muscle ache, swelling and backpain. Though typically less severe than smallpox, health experts are growing concerned about the genesis of a recent outbreak, starting in early May, in countries beyond Central and West Africa. Health authorities, including the US Centers for Disease Control and infection and the UK’s Health Security Agency, said they have noted a particular concentration of cases among men who have sex with men, and urged gay and bisexual men in particular to be aware of any unusual rashes or lesions. As of Saturday, the World Health Organization reported there were 92 cases in 12 countries, and a further 28 suspected cases under investigation. The US, UK, Canada, Australia, Germany, France, Italy, Spain, Sweden, Belgium, Portugal and Netherlands have all confirmed cases. In this Centers for Disease Control and Prevention handout graphic, symptoms of one of the first known cases of the monkeypox virus are shown on a patient?s hand May 27, 2003. CDC | Getty Images The public health body said recent reported cases had no links to travel from endemic African countries, which is unusual for the disease. It usually spreads via human-to-human or human-to-animal contact. “Epidemiological investigations are ongoing, however, reported cases thus far have no established travel links to endemic areas,” the WHO said in a statement posted on its website Saturday. “Based on currently available information, cases have mainly but not exclusively been identified amongst men who have sex with men (MSM) seeking care in primary care and sexual health clinics,” it added. More monkeypox cases likely The recent surge in community cases, particularly within urban areas, is now raising concerns of a wider outbreak. “To have it appear now — more than 100 cases in 12 different countries with no obvious connection — means we have to figure out exactly what’s happening,” Seth Berkley, CEO of global vaccine alliance Gavi, told CNBC Monday. “The truth is we don’t know what that is and therefore how severe it’s going to be. But it’s likely that we’re going to see more cases,” he said. Though most cases of monkeypox are mild and typically resolve within two to four weeks, there is currently no proven vaccine. The smallpox vaccine has proven 85% effective in preventing infection, and some countries have already begun stockpiling doses. Berkley cautioned that the new outbreak, occurring even as the existing coronavirus pandemic is “not over yet,” was a warning to authorities to invest more resources into infectious diseases. He was speaking at the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland, where political and business leaders have gathered this week to discuss key global issues, including pandemic preparedness. “This is evolutionarily certain that we’re going to see more outbreaks,” he said. “That’s why pandemic preparedness is so important. Look at what it can do economically when you have a pandemic hit” CNBC Health & Science Read CNBC’s latest global coverage of the Covid pandemic: #Belgium #country #introduce #mandatory #monkeypox #quarantine #global #cases #rise Belgium becomes first country to introduce mandatory monkeypox quarantine as global cases rise;

Hello @Sam2020, One of the urban dictionary definitions for "friends with benefits" is "Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment". This means you have to make a good friend first, and creating a friendship takes a long time. So unless you are patient, this might not be the best place to quickly find that kind of friendship. However, if you want to make friends worldwide whom you might never meet irl, but who listen when you feel loneley, this is a great place to start. Warmly, Tine

Why sex is prohibited? Why we see sex as taboo? Why there is restrictions in multiple sex partner?

I Learnt not to be carried away with sex that there is more to what a partner can offer than sex. I learnt to be very much prepared emotionally, physically spiritually and other wise before getting involved in another relationship to avoid studying each other in a relationship so that when things get sour you don't place a wrong judgement on the next person because you got hurt. I learnt to be a better person and to love better.

Hello @jackqi, I have to admit that I didn't see the topic of sex dolls coming up on happiness.com. 😅 I do, however, agree that loneliness is a real challenge. Loneliness is proven to negatively affect people's mental and physical health, so looking into the topic is quite healthy. As some of the pictures you posted were quite explicit, I deleted them. While I wouldn't say pictures of your sex doll are generally forbidden, I would appreciate it if she could appear here modestly dressed, matching the overall tone. Thank you.