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Hello, everyone! I live in Brazil, I like dancing and yoga. I have been in a self love journey, and trying to have more meaningful interactions, online and offline, as part of a self love journey. I hope to find good connections and be a good one also here.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

Exploring the Influence of Attitude on Emotions and Emotions Attitude, that intangible force within us, holds a remarkable power over our emotions and behaviors. By understanding the intricate relationship between attitude and these aspects of our lives, we can gain insights into the ways in which our mindset shapes our experiences https://raagedk.gumroad.com/l/Meditation

Walking meditation and mindfulness breaks are great alternatives to long meditation sessions. Sometimes I walk around while being present, film and upload for others to follow.

Good day everyone. I have been looking for a system or program to help me with self love. The fact that nothing matters more than self love if you do not learn to intergrate yourself completely and love yourself fully, then you are no more than a walking shadow. If you want to increase your understanding and awareness of self love, respect, confidence and appreciation, then I might be of help. Unless you are actively involved in a carefully designed system, you will not be able to appreciate yourself fully and attain a new level of existence. Drop me an email on [email protected] I will be more willing to help you and this is out of love and will cost you nothing at all. Much love for everyone...thank you.

Nobel prize winner Daniel Kahneman ones brought up this hypothetical question in which he gave us two choices: Would you choose A) to experience the most amazing vacation in your live but at the end of the vacation all your pictures will be destroyed so that there will be no memories left or would you choose B) to keep only the memories of the most amazing vacation, evoked by a drug, without never have experienced such a vacation? Please share your opinions about it.

Salam...Salam....Salam.. Greeting - Searching the net for a fresh insight on Meditation since now I include many aspects of visualization to the process, I came across this gem. Seems like a sincere, warm place.I have background in Streetfighting / Martial Arts / Boxing and it is a MUST to balance all that yang output. Not to mention recovery in active rest. I'm here to share what I know with the fellow seeker and perhaps learn from anothers experience on this path. CIAO!

Dear Friends, Your help is needed. For my master’s thesis at the Vienna University, department for clinical and health psychology, I am carrying out a study on meditation. The aim of the study is to investigate the effects of the meditation practice on different aspects of psychological well being and self-view. This is an anonymous online study in English. Meditators and Nonmeditators are required for this study. This study will take around 15min. It would be very helpful if you can support me in filling out the questions. Below the link to the study: https://www.soscisurvey.de/Selbstbild2022/ Many thanks for your support🙏❤️ Kind regards, Max

You know, many of us have thought the same thing, is your mind just a product of certain emotions. But, there`s really nothing, just emotions to make us behave in a certain way. Well, if that`s so, we`re all just dead bodies, moving around with no purpose, just certain processes to make us re-produce. I have another take on it, we`re all the product of energy. I mean, the universe began with a sun, energy, then when the energy cooled down, it formed mass, and because the sun was so heavy, it collapsed under it`s own weight, and why we have gravity also, because of the momentum this caused. I think energy, which the first sun consisted of, is a little living; the reason why we`re living also. If you look at someone closely, in their eyes, you can see this light. It`s the reason we`re living, and not just bodies, walking around. We lived before DNA, we`re all sons, of this energy, sort of. LIke God`s sons. The soul isn`t from DNA, anyways, I`m just making a point. The soul get`s transfered, in another way, before birth. That`s why they spent billions on researching also, without finding genes linked to the personality.Anyways, I just wanted to share my take on it, it`s a popular thing now to think there`s nothing in the soul, they say "nothing", among western people. I always knew I felt real, to me it`s just nonsense to think there`s nothing. I think they fall under their own irrationally also, because they still care about others, wants to have sex, and so fourth; what`s the point then, if there`s nothing. Exactly, I wouldn`t like care about others, or talk to them, if there`s nothing. I`d just be under my own reflexes then, and not in control of myself, and spending life in society.My point is, I think energy is living a little. The whole universe, is living. The thing, we all consists of. What`s your take on it? We feel a "self" also, which also could just be a trick from nature, to make us feel real. But, I don`t think so. Science knows we have a soul. scientist says so, and they struggle with this "self" also, they can`t understand why we have it, because in their minds, we`re just brains ... Happy Holidays!

Broken..... We're all broken in every part of our life, in one area or the other but my question will and always be.... Who broke us? How did we break? Are you broken?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Just imagine having two friends. You like both of them, but you would only consider one of them for a romantic relationship. So it depends who's asking. I experienced 3 stories regarding this topic: 1. When i went to school, I got a group of friends, but I was closer to one of the female friends. Sometimes just the two of us met, we went on vacation together once and we told each other a lot of things. But to me we were just friends. One year our ususal New Year's Eve party was cancelled, so I went to another friend's party without her and she was very mad. So I think, she thought of us as a couple, she never told me and then she got hurt. 2. I was texting a woman, when I was looking for a girlfriend. She was nice, but her ex treated her so badly that she was affraid of a new relationship. So I was patient and spent a lot of time with her as a close friend. I helped her to overcome her fear and to build up self-esteem. Then she dated a new guy, they got into a relationship and I left because I loved her and I couldn't take it. And of course, he treated her badly and they broke up again. But I didn't spend any more time with her, because she hurt me so much by picking a random idiot over me. 3. When I was still looking for a girlfriend, I casually played an online game with some people. We became a crew of friends soon and played together for years. We even met each other in real life at crew weekends. One of them became my female best friend, because we played together every day and got to know us very well. Her boyfriend was part of the crew and he was a friend too, but over time he showed her less attention and treated her worse and worse. So they broke up one day. Since she was missing attention and she got it from me every day, we got even closer. We started joking about getting together when both of us wouldn't find a partner in a few years. We started flirting and one day we decided to meet and make out. It was very good, we both enjoyed it and we got together. I will marry her this summer. So I would say: Tell him/her how you feel.The longer you wait, the more it hurts. It can go good or bad, but you will have an answer and you can enjoy it or move on. Life is short. If flirting is funny and not weird, that's a good sign. And everyone loves to hear being accepted and loved with all the imperfections. When looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend, pick the one who truly cares about you and spends time with you.

Spending time alone is the best rather than spending time with fake or wrong people and love yourself the most because no one can understand better than yourself....

Does parents have to choose what we want out of life?

Here are some steps you can take: Recognize your feelings: Acknowledge and accept that you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges. It's important to understand that these feelings are valid and that seeking help is a sign of strength. Reach out for support: Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust, such as a close friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Opening up to others can provide emotional support and help you feel less alone. Seek professional help: Consult with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your emotions, offer guidance, and develop coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. Develop self-care routines: Engage in activities that promote your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This may include regular exercise, eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy. Establish a support network: Surround yourself with positive and understanding individuals who can provide support and encouragement. Consider joining support groups or online communities where you can connect with people who share similar experiences. Educate yourself: Learn more about your condition, including its causes, symptoms, and available treatment options. Understanding what you're going through can empower you to make informed decisions about your mental health and treatment. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid self-judgment. Understand that healing takes time, and setbacks are a normal part of the process. Treat yourself with patience, understanding, and self-care. Develop coping mechanisms: Discover healthy ways to cope with stress and manage your emotions. This might include deep breathing exercises, journaling, practicing relaxation techniques, or engaging in creative outlets like art or music. Consider medication if needed: In some cases, medication may be prescribed by a psychiatrist to help manage symptoms. If you and your healthcare provider determine that medication is necessary, ensure that you follow their guidance and monitor any potential side effects. Stay connected: Maintain meaningful relationships with friends and loved ones. Social support plays a crucial role in mental health, so try to engage in activities that foster connection and build relationships. Remember, it's essential to consult with a qualified mental health professional to receive personalized advice and guidance for your specific situation. They can help you develop a treatment plan that aligns with your needs and goals.

This is Usman, 37, unemployed due to pandemic. I am having a very tough time because my heart wants to stay with nature, natural living, i think it a most peaceful way. But my surroundings force me to adopt city life and have more money instead.

Hi friends,my name is Tsatsi and I'm new on this platform

Hello friends, Am new here 👋,my name is Mubanga.

Hello Everyone, I'm Mosadul Alam from Bangladesh. I am the newest here. I want t0 introduce with every member. Stay safe.

Happiness is a state of being that everyone aspires to achieve. It is the feeling of joy, contentment, and satisfaction that arises from within when we are in a positive state of mind. Happiness is often associated with the fulfillment of our desires and the attainment of our goals, but it goes beyond that. True happiness is a state of mind that is not dependent on external circumstances or material possessions. It is a feeling that arises from within and is independent of external factors. Happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that can be difficult to define, but it is generally understood to be a positive emotional state characterized by feelings of pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. It can be experienced in a variety of ways, from a fleeting moment of joy to a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose. Research has shown that happiness has numerous benefits for our health and well-being. Happy people are generally more resilient to stress, have stronger immune systems, and live longer. They are also more creative, productive, and successful in their personal and professional lives. There are many factors that contribute to happiness, including our relationships, our work, our health, and our personal values and beliefs. However, research suggests that there are some common characteristics and practices that are associated with greater happiness. These include: Cultivating positive emotions: Focusing on positive emotions such as gratitude, joy, and kindness can help to increase feelings of happiness and well-being. Building strong relationships: Having close, supportive relationships with family and friends is a key factor in happiness. Pursuing meaningful goals: Having a sense of purpose and working towards meaningful goals that align with our values and interests can bring a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. Practicing mindfulness and self-compassion: Being present in the moment and treating ourselves with kindness and compassion can help to reduce stress and increase happiness. Engaging in physical activity and healthy habits: Regular exercise, good sleep, and a healthy diet are important for physical and mental health, and can also contribute to feelings of happiness. In conclusion, happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that is essential to our health and well-being. While there is no one-size-fits-all formula for happiness, research suggests that cultivating positive emotions, building strong relationships, pursuing meaningful goals, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, and engaging in healthy habits can all contribute to greater happiness and fulfillment in life.

Narr - in todays world being what it be with the internet and all it's devices, such thoughts exist in all age brackets today and those thoughts more out of control. If I could just say ...Self preservation is quite the opposite to my context when speaking about self exploration. Like letting go is what I have found key in terms of acceptance. That said, I respect your take and perhaps not quite reading you well. I am 53 having aged well before my time with a story I'd rather let go. I live in a house with my wife, daughter and grandson all doing the best we can to get along. I kind of have to laugh out loud at that one. My wife has a debilitating disease with support peoples that come to our house. She and I sleep in different rooms and we no longer have sex. It would so happen that intimacy was something very important to me and that whilst for sure we could still be intimate, my wife's happiness has taken a huge hit with such all the challengers she now faces. It's been going on for years where each passing one sees her condition slightly worsen. By the way I am not trying to compare here but simply share. I've been in my own room for years now having to accept that I will no longer have sex again and also my wife's depression combined with my own (as is how energy works kind of thing - no ones fault - or perhaps often mine - certainly not my wife's which is why I am still here - it is what it is) that, that once intimacy that I found so empowering and or comforting was no gone. I can't hug my wife as am often pushed away. I don't need the sex because I'm a person that can get enough just by being close and being gentle kind of thing. Long story short - Life's happenings regardless whatever can in some sense rob us of such things. Perhaps that term 'rob' a bit strong as it's only in my self reflection that I have found the power to be here for all my family as they too also seem to get enough from us all simply being present. Alas, I too still have fantasies about meeting someone else who might be able to afford me the interactions that most of us subscribe to being emotionally connected that is in a more inspiring and immune boosting kind of way. I seem to of digressed - my apologies. I guess the point for me is if I took to heart all the the recommendations regarding cutting out negativity out of my life, that would mean leaving my wife, my daughter and grandson whom are all in great need to some extent. I've done a lot of self reflection on such none of which I consider as self preservation but more for the greater good. Perhaps more complex than that but not wishing to write a book. I've come to accept my situation and in doing so have less a need for what more people think is community. The foundations on which today's community is built is based more upon economics than human values with the latter no more than a deceptive sale. So too I think it is the way with people and interactions when it comes to exterior values Vs that which lay within. The time I take out in order to sooth myself is more about letting go of what most strive for. Often it involves allowing myself to experience the pain of my self as well as those I love knowing too that like you, I also wish for that something that feels missing. I don't know really ... grasping at straws myself. I feel it is good to look after self in order to help others but not when it just becomes only about me. Yet it's OK to console ourselves if not always caught in a state of commiseration which too can help ... but many times more a trap. I find the general consensus on happiness can often be like that too. We don't want to preserve ourselves as much as be ourselves. Does that make sense? For me and mind you ... it's been quite a while. Just recovering from heart attack symptoms myself. I'm just winging it here but is mostly why I write and feel as I do. It seems the more we open up and be our true selves the less in need we become ... the less validation we need. Unfortanley most of our online content is all about the need for validation with an algorithm that instills reward and punishment. Very much on a community level but that is another story: How Google, Facebook Turned into Behavior Modification Empires. No link required. This aspect very present in most forums as well. I shower too - but on odd days. 0-0 ... yet my ability to convey the truth in a mindful way seems to be unscathed. Or at least I hope. We have become very much an exterior race. Kudos to you for opening up. I often feel the same way despite my claims but making gains through mindfulness or mindless activities that fall within my own ideals. All the best with your own.

When all energy, which all mass today, consists of, popped up in the middle of an empty space, it collapsed under it`s own weight. Since it collapsed, we have gravity, because of the momentum the collapse creates. This gravity, acts like a pushing force. So when mass formed, which is energy cooled down, it formed planets. Over time, since the enviroment was stable, this pushing force, formed a will. Life starts with a will, and over time, the necessary traits was formed by adapting to the enviroment. Since life is self-sustained, it needs energy, and proteins, which it got from plants. I`m not saying energy, is living, but it acts, as this pushing force. So, everywhere in the universe, where the enviroment is stable, and you have plants, life will form. We`re all sons of energy, sort of. When energy just popped up in empty space, it formed mass, because it had orbits, a little like electrons, around a proton. When these orbits cooled down, it formed different mass, but it also formed gravity from the explosion. Since energy can`t be destroyed, when black holes gather mass, it collpases, into a new sun again. When it get`s heavy enough. And since all energy just popped out of nothing, it can happen again. So, life is basically a will, adapted to the surroundings. Why can`t we see aliens yet? Because, it`s been around 14 billion years, and still, no aliens have developed the necessary technology to find us. The reason, may be that we`re hindered by the speed of light, after all. As things travels faster and faster, it get`s heavier, so maybe there`s a limit. A final limit. Black mass, and black energy, haven`t been proven yet. Their best theory, is that galaxies stay together because of the gravity black matter gives off, but I have another take on it. It`s actually gravity from old energy. When suns burn, the energy, get`s old, a little like when your heater at home. It stays around planets and hold it together, beyond just the gravity the planets gives off. Can we live forever in this marverlous universe? No, contrary to the popular belief that the body ages, it`s actually the soul, that ages. You can see it on people, who stays normal all their lives. They only get grey hairs. It`s actually the soul that ages, so if you are under alot of stress, smoke, do alot of physical work, you age faster. The real reason we can`t live forever, is that the cells, which make up your soul, can`t be replaced. Otherwise, it wouldn`t be you anymore. So they age. The soul isn`t a spark, it`s cells in the brain-stem. The brain itself, is only for a little higher level of thinking, while the brain-stem holds your soul, your emotions, feelings, the will, the control over body, and so fourth. It`s not part of the brain, it`s only called the "brain"-stem. It`s under the brain itself, more like a muscle, that makes movement possible. The universe itself, is infinite in all directions, So it`ll never collapse as it expands. If dark matter, actually existed, it would have to be infinite also, which doesn`t sound logical; an infinite amount of something. So, what is energy really, which all matter consists of? Well, it`s not easy to say. It`s warm, it`s bright. It can be turned into mass, it can never be destroyed. Hope you like my writings, I`ve been thinking alot, over the years 😉

Technically, every day is self-care day, but if you live a busy life, that's not always possible and we forget to take time for ourselves which often leads to stress, exhaustion and tension in the body. I've started doing something called self-care Sundays where every Sunday afternoon I take 2-4 hours completely for myself to do slow down, replenish my energy, and do something I love that makes me feel energised and relaxed. This includes either all or some of the following: Take a guilt-free nap Journal for at least 15 minutes Yoga or body stretches Hair mask Face mask Long bath with sea salts and dried flowers Eat a healthy dinner Read a few pages of my favourite book What are some of the things you do to unwind and reconnect with yourself?

I know this modality isn't for everyone, but I'm really digging self-hypnosis right now. I've been a daily meditator (in the Theravada Buddhist tradition, mostly) for 12 years and find that listening to guided hypnosis sessions are a wonderful add-on. Even after 12 years of meditation I still find it a challenge to quiet the striving mind and regulate difficult emotional states. Hypnosis is a greatly assists me in letting go into self-compassionate states of mind, or just sleep. Enjoy! https://gshypnosis.com/

Hello, everyone. I pray all is well with all of you. I am new to this forum and love the name HAPPINESS, which we need more. What a wonderful site name. I came here to meet new people and socialize because although I am a mature adult, I am shy, and in the past years, I have been consumed with making my film and have not socialized much. Also, I tend to put others before my needs and have been a bit overwhelmed with caring for my mom, collaborating to get my film in production, working on a new business with my son, and fitting all the self-development in my day, and so much more. It is time for me to take time and focus on what makes me happy. I am a filmmaker and will make my directorial debut in the fall/winter. I am so excited and looking forward to it. I love screenwriting, cooking, spending time with family, swimming, and traveling, which I haven't done in a long while. I love working out, volleyball, and dancing; even though my sisters think I have no rhythm lol, I still like to dance. I was supposed to start dance class, but something always comes up, and I pray to get there before the end of the year. Happy to be here with all of you!

I read a lot of New Years Resolutions yesterday. Many said, "If you are releasing people yearly, the problem isn't the others it's you. Went to bed and woke up this morning with a sense of loneliness. Ego had crept in before I could catch it. Reminding me,"It's a New Year and you still single. You start off EVERY year single. Maybe if you pretend to be someone other than you, you MIGHT find you a man in 2020. Blah blah blah blah blah". Ego is ALWAYS trying to get me to do or be someone "I AM" not: in hopes of controlling me by controlling my emotions. In 2018 I started to embrace the process of releasing my EMOTIONAL attachments to things, people, and situations. I'd experienced so many negative emotions over the years: crying, loneliness, hurt, anger, depression, etc etc etc. It was clear my choices were not working, I started searching for alternative solutions. Along the way, I discovered EVERYTHING is energy: including my emotions. I learned every emotion I feel is felt within me first, then transmitted without. Eventually these emotions manifests as my current life situations. I took a closer look at my life, and saw clear examples, along my journey, where my thoughts and emotions are, in fact, energy vibrations that manifested into my reality. I started letting go of old belief systems: it was clear they weren't working for "Me". I let go of belief's that NO longer served "Me". I OWNED the fact that I had allowed my thoughts and emotions to have their way with "Me". I admitted to "Self" that what I feel has NO-THING to do with anyone or anything outside of "Me": those are simply excuses used by me to play the role of victim! I looked at who I had become and was stunned to discover, I wasn't "BE-ING" true to "my-SELF". Why would I do this to me-aka-self? I was faced with the reality that I had LOST control of "me-SELF". I have no recollection of when this actually occurred. Far back as I can recall I had NEVER really been in control of "me-SELF". Thoughts and emotions were ALL I'd ever known. I'd never questions where the thoughts OR emotions came from: they'd always, kinda just, existed. These thoughts and emotions were who "I" was. Every event in my life, from conception, until 2018 was who "I" knew as "me-SELF". Yet, I stilled questioned, "Why would I do this to "me-SELF"'? "I" knew who "I" was. "I" was born February 4th. "I" was baptized twice. "I" lost my virginity. "I" fell in love. "I" got my heart broken. "I had a baby". "I" fell in love again. "I" got my heart broken again. "I" am a mother. "I" am a student. "I" am a graduate. "I" am an employee. "I" am a business owner. I KNEW who I was! Why the question, why'd I do this to "me-SELF"? Who is "me-SELF"? I had allowed thoughts and emotions to roam freely and these TWO were who "I" became. "I" is my alter "Ego". When decisions are made, I say "I" made them. "I" will buy a house! (Thought) "I" felt excited at closing! (Emotion) "I" can't wait to get married! (Thought) "I" met my soul-mate, "I" love him! (Emotion). "I" will lose 10lbs (Thought) "I" am ecstatic, "I" lost 70lbs! (Emotion). "I" thought he loved me. (Thought) "I" feel depressed! (Emotion). I don't know if this will work. (Thought) I knew it wouldn't work, "NOW" I am angry (Emotion). Over time, thoughts became negative because "I" was NOW identified with things, people, and situations. "I" understood it controlled emotions and "me-SELF" was no where to be found. "I" began to either live in the past or future: it's how "I" controlled emotions. Needless to say, where ever thoughts go, emotions flows. Whenever "I" felt like it was losing control, "I" would re-live past situations. It's purpose? To evoke emotions: like loneliness, hurt, anger, and depression as distractions, in order to keep It's control over "emotions". What I found most interesting was that "I" would also use future thoughts as controlling mechanisms as well; thoughts like: When I get a better job (future Thought), It will feel good to be able to afford a house (future Emotion). When I lose 70 (future Thought), I will feel better wearing nicer clothes and traveling to different countries (future Emotion). When I feel better, (future Thought), I'll spend more time, having fun, with my family (future Emotion). I literally pinched myself to make sure "I" was not actually doing the thinking. "I" would NEVER expose itself and risk losing control. So, where were these "NEW" thoughts coming from? Could it be there's more to the question of "Who is me-SELF"? DING DING DING: the lights came on upstairs (laughing). "I" is not "me-SELF". "I" is ego. It's simply my thoughts combined with my emotions in every moment in time. After all, I AM ALWAYS thinking, AM I not? Which means there is ALWAYS an emotional flow for every thought I have. Wow, this was so exciting for "Me"! I stumbled across an amazing discovery. I learned "I" wasn't "me-SELF". As quickly as the bulb lit it up, quickly dimmed once again! I had a fleetly thought: this is the definition of Polarity. Lit = Dim. As quickly as the thought came, it receded and the question it-self remained: If "I" am "Ego" and NOT emotions, who in the world is me-SELF? But wait! What was the quick fleeting thought "I" had about polarity? Something about: Lit = Dim. Could polarity apply to "I" and "me-SELF" as well? Why NOT? Isn't everything polarity? Hot=Cold, Sick=Well, Poor=Rich, Sad=Happy, White=Black. "I" ego = me-"SELF" "I" = "me" "Ego" = "Self" Holy shit! I excited yelled, could "me-SELF" be my EMOTIONS?! Could me-SELF control thoughts? Wouldn't that still equate to polarity? Ego loosening it's negative grips on emotions and emotions consciously radiating positive feelings back Ego in return. WOW: "I" ego and me-"SELF" both occupying the same body, MINE! "I" ego was in control and NOW me-"SELF" has awakened and joined "I" ego within. Does this means there are more at play NOW that "me-SELF" has consciously re-joined "I"? I couldn't help it, I felt butterflies in the pit of my stomach. "I" had an emotional reaction at the though of "SELF" being an equally opposing force to "EGO". Is this the Inner Battle all the GREAT Enlightened Masters eluded to? The battle between I and ME = EGO and SELF! Good and Evil, Right and wrong, sickness and health, weak and strong, poverty and wealth. If there is a battle, who wins? I AM thinking that depends on where "I" choose to focus both my thoughts and emotions............