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Hi LoveFairy, Nice meeting you here in happiness.com Iam new to this community,Iam from the Philippines. Be glad to connect with you and to all of the members. Have a great day

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Hey nice to have you join the community

I am definitely noticing a major shift in my energy, More positive outlook on like..... I would love to really love to know more about abundance from the universe.... Hard to explain it, I have a strange feeling that something is coming my way..... Any advice I would really appreciate it

I'm new to this forum. I am open-minded and empathetic and I'd like to connect with people who share similar qualities. By being a part of this community, I hope that I'll learn and grow as a person. Hope to have a good time here, and share my experiences as well!

Hey there 👋 welcome to the community 😊. Lovely to meet you, hope you are well!

I agreed with you. I also like to meet new people. I am happy to be part of this community and I hope I meet new people here.

It's nice to see you here, welcome in our community i hope to be friend 😊

Hi Eva, it’s lovely to meet you :) welcome to the community! Maybe I can get you started, I don’t have any happy secrets to share really, but the natural world really makes me happy :).

Hi Typekal, welcome to the community! Lovely to hear from you :).

I'm working with a client who makes me feel crazy. I don't remember who else said this but I remember reading that "the worst I feel after our sessions, the better my client feels". And I feel the same way. It's tough as this person just keeps replaying the same movements of hurt in their lives again and again and again. And so I tried everything, but this person just keeps coming back to me with the same problem, same complaints, and they just make me feel bad. To give you an example, they are a POC, and they have a big issue with the white community, with racism, sexism, and overall other people's behavior, with me being the white male, meaning that I'm exactly the type of person she has an issue with. And so I try to show compassion by relating to her feelings and trying to reframe her feelings, listening, and letting her vent out. It gets very dark sometimes and I just keep on being sucked into all this drama, not really able to break through, as this person isn't allowing herself to follow my advice. Sometimes, she doesn't even want to let me talk, but just uses me as a way to express all her negative emotions, saying that while she knows that she knows what she must do, she just doesn't want to pull the trigger, rather revisit the same hurt again and again and again. I mean, I tried to play emotional chess with her, whereas I try different approaches trying to break through. And while there is arguably some progress, the effort has to be bilateral, with her listening to me, doing the exercises, and overall wanting to break free from these emotions to a degree that they actually do something about it. Anyone else has a similar problem?

Pleasure to meet you 😊. I’m pretty new here too. Welcome to the community 🙏

Hello everyone, I'm so happy to be apart of this community. I have been doing meditations on my own with some the help of Youtube videos. I don't think I am getting the most I can out of it. A friend recommended I join an online community so I took her advice. Glad to meet EVERYONE😁

You can call me JT I am an Empath and Lightworker I am here to help others as well as myself deepen my understanding of our powers and tools and ensure that we are forming a community of support to change the world

@Julius I suspect that number is much larger now! How many of us is there in the Happiness.com community now?

I am a new member and I am just trying to figure out how this all works. I am also beginning a new journey into the internet marketing world. I am getting serious about it and it seems like this idea of manifesting and law of attraction are a big deal so I am here to see what I can learn and also share if it helps others. Looking forward to see what this community is all about, see you all around!

Hello All, I'm looking forward to being a part of a community that is open-minded as well as, contains people who are willing to change from good to great. I really believe that is the true progression of life. And if a person finds themselves stuck at a point in life hopefully they may find their way to somebody who will lead them to a better reality. Trust me I know, change can be a scary word or action but, in a lot of cases it necessary.

Meditation helps me a lot too. I started with mindfulness meditation. First few years trying it out allone with the guidance of the books, mostly from Jon Kabat-Zinn, which I can highly recomment. Now I am practicing with a Zen community. Here I come to see how important it is to have an authentic and compationate teacher, who can guide you on the path. It changes my life profoundly in a positive way. Paraphrasing other teachers: Happiness is found in your mind, not outside. Wishing you all the best on your journey, Max

Hi Maxxu, I'll open up some more because I like the way you talk - not looking for advice but happy to engage with you. Forgive me as I wish to give some advice of my own but again because I like the way you speak and want to help. My take is no doubt bias but could still help. Who is not bias ... perhaps that is our purpose to deal with such things. Any ways: Nice to meet you. I won't wish you success (🙂) given your findings with such an ideal to which I have come to the same conclusion. That said I find those terms always creeping back into my speech which says more about our conditioning. Education is where it begins. That said, I do wish you all the best with your personal endeavors. I apologize that I am unable to fill out the questionnaire. May I ask, did you design that questions? I understand you will have to read many text books and give back answers to show that you have read everything and then be expected to repeat everything back in the order it was delivered; more or less I hope that when you become a psychologist that you will develop your own understanding towards helping others rather than relying on those textbooks. I've been on the other side of psychology full time most of my life and I can tell you those practicing whatever whom rely on such findings to questionnaires and the text books that are altered to keep up with them do not end up being much help to those that really need it; those often being the true cost of other peoples success. Jump through the hoops to be sure, I'm just saying that in my extensive gutter education that your not going to get the answers to helping those who become the by product of success (" money and sucess in career did not makes me a happy person") - and I agree for the my disclosed reasons. It's all exciting when still at an age to soak all that excess of information up with all kinds of systematical approaches that can be called upon now having all the answers ... how tall, how heavy, what diet, what country, what demographic and so on. Eventually you will find yourself unlearning it all so that you can actually be of help instead of just being a repeater in system where people are taught to respond. Conditioned people make for easy clients in a conditioned workplace endorsed with conditioned practitioners who hang their conditioned certificates proudly of a conditioned wall. Good working conditions - eh ... don't become one of those. Do jump through the hoops but if you actually want to make a difference ... be prepared to buck the system. Ensure you at the very least become a clinically approved (although you'll have to work harder to come up with your own way of helping people which again will see you unlearning much of it all) ... is often the same with many professions, but 100% the case with and in the healing industrial zone. Anything under clinically registered will see you also being churned up in a system as much as the byproduct you end up with. Trust me I know. General Practitioners (GP's) can practically overwrite a registered psychologist's hard work with a tick and flick. Most of your supporting letters will not get the reignition they deserve. So may times I have had that conversation with therapists who meant a lot to me. If you manage to work your up to being clinically registered you will not have to sign off with specialists that are taught to fix people problems to type of medication and dose. You will be less restricted and more able to work with diagnoses according to the both the so called science and eventually and more important your experience and the skill you develop in listening to clients. The latter way way more important that 'How Tall' - 'How Fat' and so on. I'm not suggesting science does not help, but your entering into a marketing industry that does way more damage than it does good. Burn out rates are high when resisting the pressure to simply become a BOT to which you yourself seem to regonsize having read another post of yours elsewhere in the forum. It's all sunshine and roses with accolades until someone actually wants to help within such great working conditions base on finely tuned programming. Yadda yadda ... I'm gladdened that you feel the way you do with all things excess and success. I feel the same way too. It's a hard pattern to break given the amount of focus on abundance and bliss. Regrettably for me I find the wellness community to be as fallibly as the medical industry. For this reason I rarely fit in and in most cases pushed to the side. In fact I don't know how long I will last here but thus far have kept my posts pretty tame. People run from discomfort as much as they are taught to reject negative feelings. I also struggle to play along with social expectation or give way to peer pressure. I've been kind of blessed with a very unique background that will ensure if there is such a thing as 'coming back' that I will be better prepared. Actually that might negate the purpose of living at all where again the focus on making people accountable for both purpose and contribution equates to the same fallibility as excess and success. This be often be where the by-product of such conditioning are pressured to fit-in or be rejected as no more than undesirable states of low vibrations. Alas this is how we end up with an imbalance with cliché answers - It's all sunshine and roses from there. 🙂 My experience ... although I have to head out on my push bike to better focus later on. The last 10 years since 2012 I have literally had close to one hundred and fifty psychotherapy sessions. Maybe more since I started having more of them. I started my psychotherapy sessions to the tune of once every six weeks on a government subsidized plan. Later this was changed to once every four weeks and then about three years ago when attacked in a road rage incident I ended up getting funding to meet with a psychologist once a week for over a year. Now we have gone back to once every two weeks. It's worth noting during this time I was attending with regularity as someone that knows how to make his sessions work. Due to my previous experience before this last decade I had actually already had couple of previous decades in the system with a very complex story. I did not receive my certificates (chuckles at that) labels which you wont find hanging on some wall, until I was in my 40s. You know I'd love to continue filling you in within the context of your propose vocation ... which Kudos to you ... sounds like it really is a vocation. But I really need to start cycling and grab some sun before it gets to high. Catch up with another friend in the flesh who like me is often on the receiving end of your intended profession. Unfortanley he tends to end up on it involutory. Probably the biggest difference between me and him, but I respect the guy because I understand. His mother recently dispatched herself tragic end which ended in a ball of flames. The extend to which I extrapolate meaningful information is often rejected and banned in many places because it includes challenging information that makes the conditioned feel uncomfortable and thus termed as negative. I tend to like journaling. Not sure how long I will be here. I'm at a cross roads myself and being mindful as can be with such revelations. I go get be some of that stuff for free that awaits out my front door and hope maybe we can chat another time but understand if too much. Again ... wishing you all the very best. Seems to be me you have nailed those terms that fail on so many. If you read any of my other posts you might note that my Dad hails from Singapore and lives in Australia. He used to be a psychiatrist and work at one of the local mental health hospitals. I could say Step Dad but not into that lingo. He did his best. At any rate he gave up psychiatry because the church we were all attending way back then. (Assembly of God during the 70s during a extreme period of evangelical tents popping up all over the country courtesy of America) Basically he was told/conditioned and agreed that psychiatry was the work of demons doing their bidding for Lucifer. He become a GP in a country practice. We kids were all shipped off to various homes for troubled children. That's kind of that in a nutshell. The movies (projectors) they showed at church with people getting their heads chopped off if they did not take the mark of the best did not help. They were pretty weird times that I don't think today's generation would know about if people like me did not write about them. At least in terms of those kind of cults. Just saying I got plenty of experience when it comes to psychotherapy. 🙂 Righto ... three smiley faces is enough for today and we don't want to traumatize anyone reading. hehe. Maybe catch up later? Have a good evening/afternoon and all that. later... you can call me: ~ Dave.

I feel like I'm weird! Always have. I struggle to fit in and relax around people. I've joined your community in the hope that I'll maybe fit in here. I care a lot and I'm spiritual, always searching for ways to help me and everyone else i know who is struggling too.

I use to play guitar quite a bit when in my youth. Learning difficulties made it hard for me but I just played anyways for quite a few years pretty much mastering the same songs until a point my OCD gave way to the Native American Flute. Although a different set of harmonics, the latter instrument game me an opportunity to play much more at easily still allowing me to feel the vibrations through my body as I played. I used to love that about the guitar. I'm sorry I can't quite remember the exactly number of key frequency. Numbers are also something that confuse me like words. Chuckles at the irony. That said I'm pretty sure it was earthy enough. I miss my flute as I passed it on. I got a little too self conscious with it as I live in a very cramped community and on that level I am very private. I've only just returned to taking time out in a way that allows positive energy in. On that note I apologize if my tone has been hard on the ears. Without using any instruments or making any noise, I have an ability to sit quietly and simply take in the sea breeze and lapping waves. I live on the edge of a coastal region. At other times I'll just sit among the trees. I've been using biannual feed back techniques so long that I actually miss the silence when out walking. I beleive there is a term today for activities without ear buds - Naked Walking. I think I first head it when I used to be a runner - Naked Running. Of course with clothes on. That's not to say people nude down at the beach do not vibe as well. I can't really say as I've never tried that yet. Please forgive the lengthy text if not your thing. It's very early here. This morning I got up at 3am as still adjusting to a new routine. Actually ... sunlight has been a thing for me of late. I find this probably my number one asset when it comes to resonance. I used to do sungazing although do not recommend it. Sky gazing is much less risk but yields as much benefit. Is not hard to get lost at the right time of day, in the right position with face towards the sun and some binaural beats. But like I say, I also value silence when doing such things. Is kind of a balance act so I don't get too lost but that said I also enjoy the experience of being lost. Hard to explain. Jon Kabat-Zin and Eckhart Tolle are authors that help keep me grounded in this respect. I also like Alan Watts but find I do better having to repeat his lectures and or come back to them after a while. In fact I often do this with all three of those authors. Again ... sorry to go on. 🙃

Narr - in todays world being what it be with the internet and all it's devices, such thoughts exist in all age brackets today and those thoughts more out of control. If I could just say ...Self preservation is quite the opposite to my context when speaking about self exploration. Like letting go is what I have found key in terms of acceptance. That said, I respect your take and perhaps not quite reading you well. I am 53 having aged well before my time with a story I'd rather let go. I live in a house with my wife, daughter and grandson all doing the best we can to get along. I kind of have to laugh out loud at that one. My wife has a debilitating disease with support peoples that come to our house. She and I sleep in different rooms and we no longer have sex. It would so happen that intimacy was something very important to me and that whilst for sure we could still be intimate, my wife's happiness has taken a huge hit with such all the challengers she now faces. It's been going on for years where each passing one sees her condition slightly worsen. By the way I am not trying to compare here but simply share. I've been in my own room for years now having to accept that I will no longer have sex again and also my wife's depression combined with my own (as is how energy works kind of thing - no ones fault - or perhaps often mine - certainly not my wife's which is why I am still here - it is what it is) that, that once intimacy that I found so empowering and or comforting was no gone. I can't hug my wife as am often pushed away. I don't need the sex because I'm a person that can get enough just by being close and being gentle kind of thing. Long story short - Life's happenings regardless whatever can in some sense rob us of such things. Perhaps that term 'rob' a bit strong as it's only in my self reflection that I have found the power to be here for all my family as they too also seem to get enough from us all simply being present. Alas, I too still have fantasies about meeting someone else who might be able to afford me the interactions that most of us subscribe to being emotionally connected that is in a more inspiring and immune boosting kind of way. I seem to of digressed - my apologies. I guess the point for me is if I took to heart all the the recommendations regarding cutting out negativity out of my life, that would mean leaving my wife, my daughter and grandson whom are all in great need to some extent. I've done a lot of self reflection on such none of which I consider as self preservation but more for the greater good. Perhaps more complex than that but not wishing to write a book. I've come to accept my situation and in doing so have less a need for what more people think is community. The foundations on which today's community is built is based more upon economics than human values with the latter no more than a deceptive sale. So too I think it is the way with people and interactions when it comes to exterior values Vs that which lay within. The time I take out in order to sooth myself is more about letting go of what most strive for. Often it involves allowing myself to experience the pain of my self as well as those I love knowing too that like you, I also wish for that something that feels missing. I don't know really ... grasping at straws myself. I feel it is good to look after self in order to help others but not when it just becomes only about me. Yet it's OK to console ourselves if not always caught in a state of commiseration which too can help ... but many times more a trap. I find the general consensus on happiness can often be like that too. We don't want to preserve ourselves as much as be ourselves. Does that make sense? For me and mind you ... it's been quite a while. Just recovering from heart attack symptoms myself. I'm just winging it here but is mostly why I write and feel as I do. It seems the more we open up and be our true selves the less in need we become ... the less validation we need. Unfortanley most of our online content is all about the need for validation with an algorithm that instills reward and punishment. Very much on a community level but that is another story: How Google, Facebook Turned into Behavior Modification Empires. No link required. This aspect very present in most forums as well. I shower too - but on odd days. 0-0 ... yet my ability to convey the truth in a mindful way seems to be unscathed. Or at least I hope. We have become very much an exterior race. Kudos to you for opening up. I often feel the same way despite my claims but making gains through mindfulness or mindless activities that fall within my own ideals. All the best with your own.

Tjanks for youd replies everyone I do not come across on the outside as sad. I'm just sad inside. In fact if people knew that I felt lonely they would think I was the last person who felt this way. And i do lòok after myself I hike everyday meditate and have hobbies bug I believe that humans need connection and community to stay mentally healthy we are social animals and that's what I am lacking despite putting in a lot of effort. It's painful when I hear others have their little groups and I am constantly on the outside. It seems very high-schoolish and r surprised that this kind of thing still exists in our 60s. I am feeling that I have to accept that I won't have those close relationships but wondered if others had this experience and although I do appreciate the advice, believe me, I have pursued and still do carry out self exploration different tactics and self preservation. Regards

Hi everyone! I'm Autumn, and I am new to this community. I am at a stage in life where manifesting and staying positive is everything right now. It is crazy in the world currently, and I found this wonderful meditation, that has allowed me to manifest some pretty awesome things and it has helped me stay afloat. https://bit.ly/3JNH1Et Again, it is wonderful to meet everyone.

It is an absolute pleasure to join this awesome community. I just want to be a part of a platform where love and positivity is spread and I just want people to know how valuable they are. Looking forward to embark on this journey!