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Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Just imagine having two friends. You like both of them, but you would only consider one of them for a romantic relationship. So it depends who's asking. I experienced 3 stories regarding this topic: 1. When i went to school, I got a group of friends, but I was closer to one of the female friends. Sometimes just the two of us met, we went on vacation together once and we told each other a lot of things. But to me we were just friends. One year our ususal New Year's Eve party was cancelled, so I went to another friend's party without her and she was very mad. So I think, she thought of us as a couple, she never told me and then she got hurt. 2. I was texting a woman, when I was looking for a girlfriend. She was nice, but her ex treated her so badly that she was affraid of a new relationship. So I was patient and spent a lot of time with her as a close friend. I helped her to overcome her fear and to build up self-esteem. Then she dated a new guy, they got into a relationship and I left because I loved her and I couldn't take it. And of course, he treated her badly and they broke up again. But I didn't spend any more time with her, because she hurt me so much by picking a random idiot over me. 3. When I was still looking for a girlfriend, I casually played an online game with some people. We became a crew of friends soon and played together for years. We even met each other in real life at crew weekends. One of them became my female best friend, because we played together every day and got to know us very well. Her boyfriend was part of the crew and he was a friend too, but over time he showed her less attention and treated her worse and worse. So they broke up one day. Since she was missing attention and she got it from me every day, we got even closer. We started joking about getting together when both of us wouldn't find a partner in a few years. We started flirting and one day we decided to meet and make out. It was very good, we both enjoyed it and we got together. I will marry her this summer. So I would say: Tell him/her how you feel.The longer you wait, the more it hurts. It can go good or bad, but you will have an answer and you can enjoy it or move on. Life is short. If flirting is funny and not weird, that's a good sign. And everyone loves to hear being accepted and loved with all the imperfections. When looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend, pick the one who truly cares about you and spends time with you.

Is it true friends can turn into lovers/into a relationship

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I've been friends with someone for over 11 years. We were housemates at college and ended up living within 45 mins of each other for 9 years after graduation and met up every few months. When we were both married we would meet up as a couple a few times a year around 3 or 4. A few years ago they moved slightly further away and the distance is now probably double what it was. However, we continued to meet up a few times a year half way. When we had our first child the distance was still 45mins and they were great really supportive. They met with us several times when he was small till the age of about 18months even when they moved. Things got a bit odd about a year ago, despite finishing renovating their house we have never received a invite, where others have, which feels odd as we used to meet at each others houses alot. When we had a late baptism for our child (pandemic) when he was two, only my friend showed up with a excuse from his partner. Since then everytime we have mentioned meeting as a 4 (plus our toddler) we have been ghosted. No response. You wait few weeks or a month, send a message asking 'how there doing' or sharing news, and not mentioning dates to meet, and a reply comes through within the day, you can go a few weeks doing that with no issues and then as soon as you mention dates. Ghosted. This hurts slightly more as we recently had out second child, despite invites and indicating they'd like to come see him, they have made 0 effort to be there for us or meet the child outside of messages. I've met up with my friend a few times this year just us and it's been fine - a few weeks back I suggested (having not done so for around 10 weeks) all 4 of us meeting or, if they were two busy for that, just him and me and again ghosted. It's been 4 months since I've seen him now. Yesterday, same thing, message a 'how are you?' and by the evening a long reply apologizing for being bad at replying due to busyness / other stresses in life - no mention of meeting. Yet in the message they happily told me how they were meeting up with a mutual friend, on way back from somewhere, and had others friends round there house recently. They seem oblivious to what there doing, but, then, I think; how can you be? What has changed? Has your partner decided we're not worth the effort, and, if so, I'd wish you'd just say! I really don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my friend of 11 years, but also really don't like their habit of ghosting me for wanting to arrange meeting up! I feel pretty hurt they don't want to meet my newest child despite indicating they would. Part of me wants to just say "what gives" or "have we done something" but I honestly don't know where we'd end up if I did and that's scary. Currently, I've not replied as I don't know what to say which is unlike me, I'm the reply within a day kinda person.

Hi, I have found out recently that I am pregnant. I told my friend I cannot come to your father's funeral I said the reason was money. I didn't tell her the truth that its actually pregnancy related. But she knows that I am pregnant. She also sends me a goodbye message saying she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. I am really hurt I don't know what to do. We were friends sinds we were 10 years old. I cannot take this. What to do?

I agree that finding good friends as an adult is difficult. I think, there are two important things to make a friendship an intimate bond. You should see or talk to each other on a regular basis, so you get to know each other's habits and overcome the usual small talk. And occasionally, you should talk to each other without other people around. That's important to share insecurities and build up trust. Sharing a hobby is a great way to meet people and to meet on a regular basis. I am a hobby photographer and I like to meet and exchange with other photographers and models on photo walks. This way I find people for photo projects and I get a lot of new ideas.

Hello, I'm a 24 year old man. I have signed up here because I have gone through severe depressions throughout my life. This year, my depression was so severe, that I went through a psychotic episode with symptoms of schizophrenia for 2 weeks. During that period of time, I have lost friends and fucked up an opportunity with a girl that meant a lot to me. All this happened at the end of my stay in South of France, where I was doing my bachelor's degree for 3 years. It's difficult for me to realise that a lot of people, who I might see again in my life, talk trash behind my back without even knowing that i was behaving very awkwardly because of that psychotic episode. Recently, I moved to another city to do my Master's degree. As usual, I feel lonely and depressed, but I managed to get out of that psychotic episode. What triggers me the most, is that I can be a very social person when I'm in society, I would describe myself as pretty charismatic, and confident when I talk to or in front of a lot of people, but despite that fact, I don't manage to create intimate bonds with other people and at the end of the day, I remain a lonely man. I would like to share my thoughts with other people who can relate to this or who experienced similar things in their life and find solutions to overcome the overwhelming negative thoughts that our brain create.

Hello, I'm a 24 year old man doing his Master's degree in demography in France. I have signed up here because I have gone through severe depressions throughout my life. This year, my depression was so severe, that I went through a psychotic episode with symptoms of schizophrenia for 2 weeks. During that period of time, I have lost friends and fucked up an opportunity with a girl that meant a lot to me. All this happened at the end of my stay in South of France, where I was doing my bachelor's degree for 3 years. Now, I moved to another city to do my Master's degree. As usual, I feel lonely and depressed, but I managed to get ouf that psychotic episode. What triggers me the most, is that I can be a very social person when I'm in society, I would describe myself as pretty charismatic, and confident when I talk to or in front of a lot of people, but despite that fact, I don't manage to create intimate bonds with other people and at the end of the day I remain a solitary man. I would like to share my thoughts with other people who can relate to this or who experience similar things in their life.

Hi Guys, so I’m going on a yr with this guy. I left once after 2 months because I had a mental breakdown and needed to get myself back together.( he put it in my head that I didn’t need my meds anymore and well all on me I tried to go off them. Never doing that again) we got back together after a month and are coming up to a yr. However about a month ago we broke up because he got very angry when I said I was considering going out on a fishing boat with a friend.( yes this friend I met on a dating app but nothing became of it other then we have a friend who we can talk about things with and count on if ever needed help. Now my guy has the same situation with a female friend and they text every day. He wants me to never talk to my friend again but it’s ok for him to talk with his friend. I have met her she is a great person I trust him but I hate that I sleep with him and every morning there she is on text before he even rolls over to say good morning. His answer is she is all I have. If you leave I have nobody else, no friends family to rely on if something were to happen. she will always be there. It makes me pull away every time I see her text come through or comment on his posts on social media. He is great is the first man to ever make me feel comfortable in my own skin and beautiful at the age of 52. Years . I mean I don’t mind her being a friend but don’t visit her without me and no need to text every day that to me is more than friends. Even though he isn’t attracted to her she is in love with him ( she is also in a relationship at the moment but would drop him if she thought she could have my guy). Advise on how to handle this. I love him and would love to move in with him but how can I agree to that with this issue?

Hi and I was looking for some advice for myself . I was seeing a man for 5 years , we were compatible we were good friends and I thought I found the love of my life until I figured out he had a wife with 4 kids . I am shattered that I was duped . On further discussion he told me that he lied because he did not want to loose me but I feel take. In for a ride. I really don’t know why I was so dumb and how I never did a background check

I was looking online for people around my age that we’re seeking new friends.

Welcome! I would love to read about a psychologists kind of living. Personally, I notice the disappearance of active friends with age. In school and at the university some friendships are left behind, some endure, but after these times, getting to know new people becomes hard. Early this year I started a new hobby: photography. It gives me motivation to go outside, I get to meet other photographers and models, it's a new skill I learn, I receive positive feedback and it's fun. So I can recommend starting a hobby you'd like to try and join others. It can be anything like dancing, playing tennis, joining a chess club, visiting a painting workshop and much more.

Teach Me. Lets be friends and have conversation? Please?

hi everyonewas wondering how you would be able to find a girl friend the old way our parents did in the 80s/90s, still think it is possible.want to be able to go on dates and do things with the girl, dont want to have kids or live together 24/7 or to share the usual couples things with the girlfriend but want to be able to hug/kiss/do all the girlfriend things/hold hands.sister is seeing someone and feel that have got no one and wondered if there is a way to find a girl without the expense of constantly hiring a companion until the girl comes along.how do you get someone to introduce you, how do you find a friend who might be happy to go out with you on dates and do some of the things, how do you find a person who would be happy doing it with you.where can you go to find girls and where can you go when you work every weekend (or think about it) when it seems to be about time theyre out doing stuff.how do you find a single girl, is there anything that can be done for now until youre doing something with less weekend work (there may be some here and there, not sure) which youre hanging out for place to sell which may take a while.dont have a girl to dress up with and go to places with like you would for school formals or whatever else and last time that had gotten to experience that was 18 years ago in year 12 and theres no weddings or events coming up and still dont have the girl.also how do you find a girl to dance with like in a wedding or school formal as theres no weddings as said coming up and still even then dont have the girl, how would you find someone thats happy doing it with you without constantly hiring a companion.last wedding that had been to there were coronavirus restrictions preventing that and wont get to next one as its interstate and cant afford to travel.how can you find a girl to experience intimacy and go on dates with, could you ask a friend or someone you know or a friend of a friend or a friend of someone you know and how would you ask them, dont want to sound desperate but it probably sounds like that to you.for the going out bit could you ask your sister thats close to your age.what are the best options to make those things happenif anyone has some answers thatd be much appreciatedthanks

Hello, my name is Krisie. I have just recently accepted the fact that I am a light worker, I am drawn to crystals and just learning about them. I’m very excited to be with like minded friends! Let the journey begin!!!!

Here are some steps you can take: Recognize your feelings: Acknowledge and accept that you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges. It's important to understand that these feelings are valid and that seeking help is a sign of strength. Reach out for support: Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust, such as a close friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Opening up to others can provide emotional support and help you feel less alone. Seek professional help: Consult with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your emotions, offer guidance, and develop coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. Develop self-care routines: Engage in activities that promote your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This may include regular exercise, eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy. Establish a support network: Surround yourself with positive and understanding individuals who can provide support and encouragement. Consider joining support groups or online communities where you can connect with people who share similar experiences. Educate yourself: Learn more about your condition, including its causes, symptoms, and available treatment options. Understanding what you're going through can empower you to make informed decisions about your mental health and treatment. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid self-judgment. Understand that healing takes time, and setbacks are a normal part of the process. Treat yourself with patience, understanding, and self-care. Develop coping mechanisms: Discover healthy ways to cope with stress and manage your emotions. This might include deep breathing exercises, journaling, practicing relaxation techniques, or engaging in creative outlets like art or music. Consider medication if needed: In some cases, medication may be prescribed by a psychiatrist to help manage symptoms. If you and your healthcare provider determine that medication is necessary, ensure that you follow their guidance and monitor any potential side effects. Stay connected: Maintain meaningful relationships with friends and loved ones. Social support plays a crucial role in mental health, so try to engage in activities that foster connection and build relationships. Remember, it's essential to consult with a qualified mental health professional to receive personalized advice and guidance for your specific situation. They can help you develop a treatment plan that aligns with your needs and goals.

HI! My name is Anna, found this site for accident (though there are no accidents, right?))) I practice positive well-being for quite a long time, I meditate, doing yoga, use positive affirmations, journalling an so on. Recently I started a course on Coursera "The science of well-being", and realized, how much I love positive psychology. Even starting thinking about starting a career in this field. I don't have enough like-minded people in my off line life, friends who would be on the same page with me. So this forum is a tresure box for me. Hoping to find new frieds here.

I recently seen a very thoughtful process of let go of your embarrassment,ego and whatever it comes before resolving any problem with your spouse,girlfriend,friends,parents or any relationship in your life.It taught me in the end when you look back at these moments only happy heart that matters. Tell me how you resolve Your problems or anger with your special ones.I am all ears to listen your stories.

What we think become our action,our actions become habit and our habit become destiny. what a beautiful connection of our thinking and destiny,isn't it? it really do works friends if you are thinking in a positive way( your sentence should be positive) it actually works.I myself believe it as I have come across many such examples and it's fun doing it. Do you believe in destiny? If yes than write here your interesting story where you think that it's a destiny.

@suedseefrucht to give more context to my post, I have known this girl since long, she has been in my class in college for an entire semester. We have worked together on multiple class presentations, projects and that is how I got to know, and eventually fell for her. For the current semester, we have done our minor project together (I am a Computer Science student), we went to the library together, studying for the semester exams. For me, we were pretty close. Recently I observed, she has an outlook towards life which summarizes as "It is necessary to be good to everyone." She is friends with everyone, literally everyone. Maybe a little popular (she got a recent popularity spike) too. I get lost in the vast majority of guys texting her all day, trying to draw her attention. The way she talks to me is the way she talks to everyone. She would literally go out with anyone who invites her (she loves to travel so...you know). She likes to live in the moment, even if it means getting a guy attached to her, only to reject him later. Also, he has rejected around 10 guys in college. We had the strongest bond in college. Now that we don't see each other (summer vacations are on, conversations on text get boring), I feel the bond loosening, I feel the need to back off, but she wants me to be in her team for projects (which is not a green signal, it is just I am on the smarter side) but I cannot decide what is best for me. I can see the bond diminishing but can't decide what would be worse - letting go of my feelings for her at the moment (to see if things work out in the future) or speaking out my feelings and fail terribly.

Wherever I go, a new school, a new college or a tuition, I tend to find the most compatible person of the other sex and try to bond with them. Not that I am desperately trying to get into a relationship, but I know that I am choosy in life, it has been always been hard for me to make friends, bond with people on a deeper level...you get it. Does this happen with everyone ? Or is it just me ? Everything happens subconsciously. I don't even want to fall in love. When I get closer to the person, I go into a state where I am confused whether to go further into it, or just back off. I know I am not ready to indulge in relationships at this age, I need to focus on building my career. Also, I am a person of emotional depth, rushing into a relationship would be the last thing I do. But I do not know how long I should wait. They say you will know when the right time comes. But the right time never seems to come. The feelings just rise and fall. Sometimes the emotional side takes over and the logical side at other times. I do not even go try finding someone online. Nor do I comment or reply to stories, trying to initiate a conversation. You understand what I am trying to say ? I am not consciously looking for love. What should be my lookout in life ? Any comments would be helpful. And to the one who has read so far, I wish you the best in life.

Hiya Im Anna I'm on hear to meet new people and hopefully make new friends and memories! I enjoy going on Nights out, Cinema, Meals, Walks, Parks, doing activities, Travelling, Holidays etc. I'm always down to try new things! If you enjoy doing the same. My Inta is @annahogben and Snapchat is ahogben16

Hi everyone! I (25F) and my friend Sarah (25F) have been friends for 7 years, but took a 1 year break as we were both toxic to each other, she caused me anxiety, and boundaries were crossed. After our break, Sarah reached out to me to rekindle and we both talked about our past and how we can move forward. Since last year, we had become close and have not had any issues and were doing really well until last weekend. There was a misunderstanding while we were at a bar where she kept walking away from me after she snapped at me, and I reached out to her via text the day after explaining my side and acknowledging the parts that I did wrong (we had another friend who witnessed this and she said I wasn’t in the wrong but Sarah overreacted however I just wanted to move past this, therefore apologizing for any wrong doings). However, she does not want to take accountability into anything and blames me for how the night went, even though multiple times I said let’s just move past it. She has been invaliding my feelings, and now ignoring my texts after I have been trying to talk it out. The miscommunication/ misunderstanding: I’ll try to condense it as much as possible. Sarah, my friend Jordan, and I were planning on going to the bars and she wanted to invite her client, which I was totally okay with. We were meeting up with another group of friends (only 2-3 times, still relatively new). At the first bar, it was just a lot of awkward small talk. We went to the second bar (not planned) and everyone was either getting drinks or the rest of the group was in line. My friend Jordan and I told Sarah that we might head to the other club since her client was still drinking and everyone can meet up after since they wanted to stay with the group. She told me I was acting “f***ing weird” and I said “it is a little awkward” and she walked away. When I tried to explain to her that it seems like everyone wants to do something different, she walked away again. She walked away 2-3 times that night. When I texted her the next day trying to clear everything up, she would bring up really irrelevant things and not talk about the point of the message. She has since not talked to me, so I am not sure what to do. Any advice is appreciated, thank you!

I am a 45-year old woman who is remarried with six children. I was married for 10 years in my first marriage and have 2 sons from that marriage. I have been remarried for 7 years and I legally adopted my husband's four daughters from his previous marriage. My husband's late wife was actually one of my best friends and my college roommate. She passed 11 years ago from a Car Accident. She passed away around the time of my divorce and after a couple of months after her passing, we started to see each other. We were together for 4 years and then we got married. I immediately adopted the girls and they are happy with it. I am their mom. The girls are 16, 14, and 12 (Identical Twins).

You're depressed. It's a common thing, and unless you do something unnecessary, it's temporary. If possible, it would be a good idea for you to seek therapy. If you're religious, talk to a priest or the equivalent. Even if you don't, try to make sure you eat enough food, and don't drink alcohol or do drugs every day. Also, talk to and see your friends even if you feel like avoiding them, or worry that you're dragging them down. Following this advice may not outright fix your depression, but it will help prevent you from spiraling downward into a situation so bad that you need someone to save you. What you need to do now is at least make sure you stay okay until you can feel better. You have to, and will, get used to living without your mother. It's something almost everyone eventually goes through. She's gone for good and not coming back. It's a sad thing. Mourn as much as you need to. Just, keep on living to do what you need to do.