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Hi, I have found out recently that I am pregnant. I told my friend I cannot come to your father's funeral I said the reason was money. I didn't tell her the truth that its actually pregnancy related. But she knows that I am pregnant. She also sends me a goodbye message saying she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. I am really hurt I don't know what to do. We were friends sinds we were 10 years old. I cannot take this. What to do?

Hi Guys, so I’m going on a yr with this guy. I left once after 2 months because I had a mental breakdown and needed to get myself back together.( he put it in my head that I didn’t need my meds anymore and well all on me I tried to go off them. Never doing that again) we got back together after a month and are coming up to a yr. However about a month ago we broke up because he got very angry when I said I was considering going out on a fishing boat with a friend.( yes this friend I met on a dating app but nothing became of it other then we have a friend who we can talk about things with and count on if ever needed help. Now my guy has the same situation with a female friend and they text every day. He wants me to never talk to my friend again but it’s ok for him to talk with his friend. I have met her she is a great person I trust him but I hate that I sleep with him and every morning there she is on text before he even rolls over to say good morning. His answer is she is all I have. If you leave I have nobody else, no friends family to rely on if something were to happen. she will always be there. It makes me pull away every time I see her text come through or comment on his posts on social media. He is great is the first man to ever make me feel comfortable in my own skin and beautiful at the age of 52. Years . I mean I don’t mind her being a friend but don’t visit her without me and no need to text every day that to me is more than friends. Even though he isn’t attracted to her she is in love with him ( she is also in a relationship at the moment but would drop him if she thought she could have my guy). Advise on how to handle this. I love him and would love to move in with him but how can I agree to that with this issue?

Hi to all wonderful members here. I am VIJAIKUMAR from Chennai in south of India. Have been a chef and am now retired early and into photography by passion. Have seen the ups and downs of life. Have seen the corporate world and also been an entrepreneur. Plenty of life lessons. Have two grownup children who are now on their own. And life's been going on. Am now into that new phase of life where I want to make some new friends and travel to the nature at its best parts of world. Want to go on some adventure tours of Northern and North Eastern India... specialy the Himalayam Range. The friends made so far are all busy with their own lives and just don't have time for the friendship time to meetup. But that's life I guess for many. Am here looking for new friends to share all that life experiences and thoughts. Am OK to discuss share and debate on any aspect of life and also be it any other topic. Hoping to make some friends here to be more happier then ever before. Regards VIJAIKUMAR

Hello. I am 22 and i am student. I would like to share my story and hear your thoughts on this topic. I met this student in university at first year of my studies. I will call him N. We were talking and hanging out very frenquently in first days of studies and we shared common interests, had a lot of themes for talk etc. Time has passed and all was well for us. We were inseparable.. we would go out eating together, walking together, making trips and future plans together... we have become really good friends. However, on may past year (we were finishing 3rd year of studies) all has gone wrong. As i was living in apartment and him in student dorm, we were usually hanging out at each other's place. On that day, it was around 11AM, he was at my place and we were finishing some project i had been working on for university. He started insulting me for no specific reason and we started arguing about some minor stuff. However, after i told him that he can't talk to me in that way and asked him to leave my room. He did what i thought he wouldn't do in my whole life.. he assaulted me. He pushed me down on nearby couch with all his strength and when i got up he started hitting me with his hands. I defended myself as i could and i barely pushed him away from me. While i was catching breath, i looked at skratches on my hands he made me when assaulting me. I was scared and furious at the same time becouse i couldn't go to university like that to present this project in that state and more importantly, that he assaulted me. I shouted to get out or i would call the police, but he was just standing near the door and insulting me, which i responded by getting phone ready and using bottle of water near me to get him out of my place. He quickly grabbed my hand and had me fall on the floor, hitting my head on nearby table (fortunately my head got without any injuries) and he managed to break my finger while i was falling. As i was laying on the floor trying to get concious, i remember him telling me: "oh come on, stop pretending just get up!" When i tried standing up, i didn't feel my little finger on right arm at all, i couldn't move it. I was in shock and he started shouting at me like it was my fault that all of it happened. When i told him that i will call police to arrest him, he knew that was going to happen and that he can finish in jail for what he has done. I told him to get out and leave me alone. Soon ambulance came and we went to hospital. He called it and went with me there without my consent. While i was waiting for report, he was waiting near hospital. When the doctors told me it is serious place where the bone broke and that even the surgery is risking, i just got out to get some fresh air and try to calm down. I informed my parents what has happened and they were driving to my student city where i was. When i and N returned to my apartment to wait my parents, N started crying and apologizing to me, saying he loves me more than brother, that i am special in his life and that his life without me isn't the same and that he doesn't know what he has gotten into him to do that. I told him to shut up and that he can stop sobbing becouse i won't tell my family what has he done to me. Not to save him from their wrath, but becouse of former years that were good and more importantly, to try to save everyone from further conflict between families. I decided to sacrifice myself for that solution which i meant in that moment was the best one. When my parents came, they were barely holding themselves together after they saw me. N was also there, calm as nothing happened. They immediately asked how that happened which i did not respond quickly. They asked him and he told them he doesn't know. I made up a story at the moment that i slipped and broke it while i was falling. It seemed they believed but i sensed they were suspecting something else happened. They then unknowingly thanked shameless N for "being there for me in that moment" as he was smiling and telling them he will always be there for me. This is where i coudn't stand it anymore and told him to return to dorm as my parents were driving me to capital city hospital for further analysis and treatment. He was sending me messages to ask how am i etc. in later hours, days, weeks, but i didn't answer it. Even if i did sometimes, it was very short becouse i coudn't stand him for realizing with what monster and psychopath i was hanging out this whole time. Time has passed, summer vacation also, i was going on treatments but the pain, both psysical and mental was intense. He gave up on contacting me anymore during summer vacation. Concerning my injury, even now after more than 8 months i go to the doctors to try any way we have to repair that finger and completely mend the place of trauma. When 4th year started, N was also there. We weren't communicating but as it was necessary at minimum as we were unfortunately still collegues. We were functioning also as we had been together in groups for projects by professors. All was going ok till N started making problems in my life again. He made up some stupid excuse to accuse me of lying to him and saying bad things about him to other our friends at university which is a total lie and i even told him that even if i didn't have to do that. He than started making a scene in dorm, which i ignored, he started saying bad things about me behind my back to our other friends, and i sensed something is wrong these days between me and some other friends like they were distancing a little bit from me and i am sure that shameless person is behind it.. who knows what lies he has told them about me. I am so confused why is this all happening, why i did not told my family everything from start, why can someone be so monsterous, ungrateful and hateful without any reason. Please try to understand me and give me some constructive help and i hope no one gets this to happen in his life. Take care and thank you.

Hello. I am 22 and i am student. I would like to share my story and hear your thoughts on this topic. I met this student in university at first year of my studies. I will call him N. We were talking and hanging out very frenquently in first days of studies and we shared common interests, had a lot of themes for talk etc. Time has passed and all was well for us. We were inseparable.. we would go out eating together, walking together, making trips and future plans together... we have become really good friends. However, on may past year (we were finishing 3rd year of studies) all has gone wrong. As i was living in apartment and him in student dorm, we were usually hanging out at each other's place. On that day, it was around 11AM, he was at my place and we were finishing some project i had been working on for university. He started insulting me for no specific reason and we started arguing about some minor stuff. However, after i told him that he can't talk to me in that way and asked him to leave my room. He did what i thought he wouldn't do in my whole life.. he assaulted me. He pushed me down on nearby couch with all his strength and when i got up he started hitting me with his hands. I defended myself as i could and i barely pushed him away from me. While i was catching breath, i looked at skratches on my hands he made me when assaulting me. I was scared and furious at the same time becouse i couldn't go to university like that to present this project in that state and more importantly, that he assaulted me. I shouted to get out or i would call the police, but he was just standing near the door and insulting me, which i responded by getting phone ready and using bottle of water near me to get him out of my place. He quickly grabbed my hand and had me fall on the floor, hitting my head on nearby table (fortunately my head got without any injuries) and he managed to break my finger while i was falling. As i was laying on the floor trying to get concious, i remember him telling me: "oh come on, stop pretending just get up!" When i tried standing up, i didn't feel my little finger on right arm at all, i couldn't move it. I was in shock and he started shouting at me like it was my fault that all of it happened. When i told him that i will call police to arrest him, he knew that was going to happen and that he can finish in jail for what he has done. I told him to get out and leave me alone. Soon ambulance came and we went to hospital. He called it and went with me there without my consent. While i was waiting for report, he was waiting near hospital. When the doctors told me it is serious place where the bone broke and that even the surgery is risking, i just got out to get some fresh air and try to calm down. I informed my parents what has happened and they were driving to my student city where i was. When i and N returned to my apartment to wait my parents, N started crying and apologizing to me, saying he loves me more than brother, that i am special in his life and that his life without me isn't the same and that he doesn't know what he has gotten into him to do that. I told him to shut up and that he can stop sobbing becouse i won't tell my family what has he done to me. Not to save him from their wrath, but becouse of former years that were good and more importantly, to try to save everyone from further conflict between families. I decided to sacrifice myself for that solution which i meant in that moment was the best one. When my parents came, they were barely holding themselves together after they saw me. N was also there, calm as nothing happened. They immediately asked how that happened which i did not respond quickly. They asked him and he told them he doesn't know. I made up a story at the moment that i slipped and broke it while i was falling. It seemed they believed but i sensed they were suspecting something else happened. They then unknowingly thanked shameless N for "being there for me in that moment" as he was smiling and telling them he will always be there for me. This is where i coudn't stand it anymore and told him to return to dorm as my parents were driving me to capital city hospital for further analysis and treatment. He was sending me messages to ask how am i etc. in later hours, days, weeks, but i didn't answer it. Even if i did sometimes, it was very short becouse i coudn't stand him for realizing with what monster and psychopath i was hanging out this whole time. Time has passed, summer vacation also, i was going on treatments but the pain, both psysical and mental was intense. He gave up on contacting me anymore during summer vacation. Concerning my injury, even now after more than 8 months i go to the doctors to try any way we have to repair that finger and completely mend the place of trauma. When 4th year started, N was also there. We weren't communicating but as it was necessary at minimum as we were unfortunately still collegues. We were functioning also as we had been together in groups for projects by professors. All was going ok till N started making problems in my life again. He made up some stupid excuse to accuse me of lying to him and saying bad things about him to other our friends at university which is a total lie and i even told him that even if i didn't have to do that. He than started making a scene in dorm, which i ignored, he started saying bad things about me behind my back to our other friends, and i sensed something is wrong these days between me and some other friends like they were distancing a little bit from me and i am sure that shameless person is behind it.. who knows what lies he has told them about me. I am so confused why is this all happening, why i did not told my family everything from start, why can someone be so monsterous, ungrateful and hateful without any reason. Please try to understand me and give me some constructive help and i hope no one gets this to happen in his life. Take care and thank you.

Soul mates .. two energies collide they can be different and distant might not meet often...might not talk much but share a powerful divine connection... and feel magical and grea.... coz they are soulmates

Watch for all that beauty reflecting from you and sing a love song to your existence. ~Rumi Looking for spiritual friends to have student-teacher relationship, to teach each other, share experiences, share knowledge, striving to becoming best version of ourselves... "God is Love. I am Love. Compassion, Forgiveness, Hope, Harmony and Joy are Love. When you feel and act on these feelings, you are One with Us, and We are One with You.

Merry Meet! My name is Jennifer I live currently in the mountains of West Virginia. I'm a single mother of an adult disabled daughter at home, as well as and 2 other "adult" children...trying to find my roots by the sea where we belong. I'm an Eclectic Witch that has been self aware since birth and have come from a family bloodline that was unspoken. I'm a Healer, Empath, and gifted as well as a medium ( I speak to the dead and they also use me as a vessel) I used to help solve murder crimes and find missing and deceased loved ones for families filled with uncertainty and grief. I can no longer do that since my health is not the greatest. I'm a type 2 diabetic which they can not seem to get under control, I have fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and Epstein Barr Virus at times. ( Came from Mono when I was a child ) Sometimes you get the curse of it staying in your blood...yep that would be me. I can also communicate with Animals, trees and such. and believe everything has a spirit and energy. I have 3 dogs and 3 cats that give unconditional love. Looking for friends of like mind and maybe the universe will unite me one day with my twin flame. Many Blessings, Jennifer

I was just wondering if I have the right to be angry about this? I've (38/M) known this woman (43/F) for 18 years, we used to be really close and talk on the phone often and text often and see each other every couple months for a coffee or hiking. She met this guy (38/M) and I was happy for her, she said I would like him but never let me meet him for some reason, others have. They were together for 2 years and broke up and I was there for her through this. After that she seemed different towards me like pushing me away and found out she went back to this guy as best friends hanging out non stop and a few years later (today) I reach out to her every bluemoon she ignores my texts for a while and gives me a voice text, I can't really hear it so she calls me and says she's working on herself and has cut her guy friends out of her life so she can focus on herself and build trust with this guy so no more talking on the phone or hanging out once a year for our hiking but I can say hello every blue moon, so basically she cut me out of her life because her insecure possessive boyfriend and only allowed female friends. She says it was her choice to cut all the guys out of her life including me but she's just defending his awful actions, his terms were to cut all males out of her life if they are to be together again lol. Anyway we hung up and I text her I'll miss her, hope the best for her, that I hope she's always happy in life no matter what even though she dropped me for that trash guy and for her to not reach out to me anymore as I will be blocking her and good luck in life but i'll never forgive her for this bad unhealthy behaviour and goodbye. Do I have a right to be angry?

Ever since I was a child, I had a longing for Truth or what some would call the Divine. After many years of searching and meeting different teachers, I was fortunate to come into the company of Satguru Sirio and was initiated into the path of Surat Shabd Yoga. Now, I share the peace and blessings through devotional singing. I am happy to have a community like this to meet other like-minded seekers after Truth. Namaste❤️

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Hi! I’m a spiritual person and it’s hard to find people to talk to without them thinking you’re crazy. As of right now I have 0 spiritual friends and I would love to change that. Feel free to message me.

Hi everyone! I (25F) and my friend Sarah (25F) have been friends for 7 years, but took a 1 year break as we were both toxic to each other, she caused me anxiety, and boundaries were crossed. After our break, Sarah reached out to me to rekindle and we both talked about our past and how we can move forward. Since last year, we had become close and have not had any issues and were doing really well until last weekend. There was a misunderstanding while we were at a bar where she kept walking away from me after she snapped at me, and I reached out to her via text the day after explaining my side and acknowledging the parts that I did wrong (we had another friend who witnessed this and she said I wasn’t in the wrong but Sarah overreacted however I just wanted to move past this, therefore apologizing for any wrong doings). However, she does not want to take accountability into anything and blames me for how the night went, even though multiple times I said let’s just move past it. She has been invaliding my feelings, and now ignoring my texts after I have been trying to talk it out. The miscommunication/ misunderstanding: I’ll try to condense it as much as possible. Sarah, my friend Jordan, and I were planning on going to the bars and she wanted to invite her client, which I was totally okay with. We were meeting up with another group of friends (only 2-3 times, still relatively new). At the first bar, it was just a lot of awkward small talk. We went to the second bar (not planned) and everyone was either getting drinks or the rest of the group was in line. My friend Jordan and I told Sarah that we might head to the other club since her client was still drinking and everyone can meet up after since they wanted to stay with the group. She told me I was acting “f***ing weird” and I said “it is a little awkward” and she walked away. When I tried to explain to her that it seems like everyone wants to do something different, she walked away again. She walked away 2-3 times that night. When I texted her the next day trying to clear everything up, she would bring up really irrelevant things and not talk about the point of the message. She has since not talked to me, so I am not sure what to do. Any advice is appreciated, thank you!

This is a deep situation. My Former friend and the soon-to-be stepmother have/had high level prosecutor jobs. One of my Former best friends since childhood was married to a police officer and they had one daughter together. My former friend was an Assistant Prosecutor for the county that we reside in. 5 years ago while she was on a trip with her husband, she meets this woman (Who is a prosecutor herself, but a higher level prosecutor than my friend.) My friend becomes good friends with this woman as they keep in touch overtime. This woman relocated to the offices in our city for her job. 28 months ago, my former friend found out that her now ex-husband has been having a long-term affair with that woman. They divorced 2 years ago. My former friend told me that her now ex-husband had actually played a key role in that woman relocating to our state and city. My former friend lost her job as an Assistant Prosecutor because she has been mentally unstable and been abusing drugs after the knowledge of her husband's infidelity. I honestly think her issues arose way before she discovered that her husband and her best friend were lovers. How my former friend found out that this former friend of hers was having an affair with her husband was this, this is what she had told me: She came home from the Prosecutor's Office and found her former Federal Prosecutor Friend sitting completely naked and straddling her husband as they were talking about her daughter and their lives together, She told me that before she opened the bedroom door, she heard her former friend and her husband discussing how he is going to file for a divorce and how they should get married and get custody of the girl. My former friend told me that she barged in and confronted both of them on the affair and what they were discussing. Apparently, the Federal Prosecutor got up, got dressed, and those two had a heated argument, the Federal Prosecutor told my former friend that she is the mother that the daughter will know while she grows up. What I should have mentioned was that, my former friend told me when she caught them fooling around on her bed, she told me that she confronted the woman on betraying her confidences to her ex-husband with her ex-husband in the bedroom, after she confronted that woman, that woman was smirking a little and glancing back and forth flirtatiously with her ex-husband with both of them eventually looking at her. My former friend's substance abuse issues had actually started 2 months before the discovery of the affair, but she had one other major issue at the time. Her ex-husband and that woman are about to get married and she intends on legally adopting my former friend's daughter. Since her ex-husband is a police officer and the fact that she has been abusing substances, her ex-husband received full custody of their daughter. I am actually on the side of my former friend's ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife and the future legal mother of his daughter. I spoke to that woman and asked why she feels it is necessary to become the permanent legal mother of my former friend's daughter and she told me straight off that my former friend is a ****ty mother who is reckless and that the daughter should live with two loving parents in a stable home. She also told me that she had miscarried when she was pregnant with a daughter in a previous relationship and is hoping to become the mother by way of stepmother adoption. While my former friend was going through that intense custody battle, I had actually written and spoken to the court system about how my former friend is unfit to have legal custody of her daughter and that her ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife are better suited to have full custody. I suggested to her ex-husband and that woman that after they get married, the ex-husband needs to file paperwork to have my former friend's parental rights terminated and after it gets terminated, I strongly advised that woman (since she is a Federal Prosecutor) to hire an Adoption Attorney and begin the process of legally becoming the mom of my former friend's daughter. My former friend should not under any circumstances should not have custody of their daughter. I should also note that my former friend's daughter is only 3.5 years old. They divorced 2 years ago, both her ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife have had custody of the daughter for the last 20 months. This woman has raised my former friend's daughter for overt half of her life and the daughter refers to her as her mother. This woman lost her daughter in a miscarriage and is getting a second chance at having a daughter. I personally think it is lovely that she intends on legally adopting her. My former friend has constantly contacted her ex-husband and that woman to try and see her daughter, but that woman already went ahead and filed a No Contact Order on my friend for harassment. That has been in affect for over a year. This is why I believe that it is critical for them to start the process of parental termination immediately and then have her begin the official adoption process. Making this official is critical for them. Whose side are you on?

Last year around August I met a man online through a dating site. We originally agreed to be friends with benefits, but after a few months things started getting intimate. I started to develop feelings for him and he seemed to have also been feeling the same way. Aside from meeting for sex we would have very deep conversations. Around the holidays my fwb asked me to do him a favor and marry him. I was very open to the idea as I felt strong attachment to him and it seemed he felt the same. After New Years I told him I was falling in love with him (it was true then and still true to this day), however he said he was not looking to fall in love or for anything serious at the moment. He just needed to be married so he can get citizenship and keep custody of his daughter. I spent months trying to convince him that marrying for love would be best. He’d have his citizenship, his daughter, and love. This led to a falling out for a little while. He never came back to physically see me anymore (not since Christmas). I recently had a little incident a few months ago in which he came to my rescue (by calling the police for me). For a short period of time we were actually talking on the phone instead of texting and started to bond again. I felt love from him, but suddenly he distanced himself from me after promising to take care of me. After saying our friendship might blossom into something. Lately I am initiating all of the conversations over text. He refuses to have phone conversations or to even visit me. Says he’s busy and doesn’t have time, but as soon as he needs a shoulder to cry on or to try and ask for a loan he reaches out. It is now clear to me that he has no love or respect for me. He doesn’t really want to be my friend judging by his actions. Every time I ask him if he still wants to be friends or if he ever wants to meet again for sex he tells me yes, but continues to act disinterested. We used to talk about deep stuff and exchange information about each other’s lives, but now he gives me brief answers or ignores me and doesn’t inquire about me or my life anymore. Asking him direct questions is pointless because he won’t give me an honest answer. This hurts so bad because I love him. I really do. The chemistry is (or at least was) there. Not sure if I should just delete him from my phone and move on. What’s the point in keeping him around if he neither wants to be my platonic friend or possible boyfriend. At this point I’m just wasting energy. I don’t understand what is so hard about just confessing that he is no longer interested in associating with me. Something caused him to have a change of heart and that is fine, but don’t leave me hanging as I continue to pour my heart out. This sucks so much. Sorry for long post. Just really heartbroken over this whole ordeal.

So I was talking to a friend the other day, and we discussed what we both value in terms of qualities of a best friend. There are many ways someone can be a good friend to you, and in my personal opinion, you can have different friends for different things. I have some friends that are great for going out for drinks, some are my ideal traveling buddies, and some are great for giving advice etc. But the qualities of a best friend that my friend and I both appreciate are very similar. For example, we both agreed that something really important is how that friend makes you feel. You should feel positive after being around them (or on the phone with them!) whether that means you feel, happier, more relaxed or relieved about something that was bothering you, or uplifted. This is obviously just one of many important qualities of a best friend, what would you say is important qualities for you?

Hello! I am an 18-year old girl. Why is my best friend's girlfriend such a jealous stupid girl? She is so possessive towards her 18-year old boyfriend! I hate her! She complains to her boyfriend a lot about these things: 1. My best friend spends 2 days a week and 2 hours a day with her while my best friend spends 7 days a week and 9 hours a day with me. Also, she gets to have phone calls and text messages with him. Plus, she gets to have sex with him within those two hours. Isn't she fucking content? 2. Her boyfriend and I exclude her from a lot of activities and trips. 3. Her boyfriend helps me out in a lot of things while he only helps her in very few things. 4. My best friend and I do not inform her about our trips, activities, and personal secrets in order to hide them from her. She complains about these things? She complains about the fact that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? Really? Her boyfriend prioritizes me over her and is closer to me because he and I have been best friends since childhood while she only met him when they were 16-years old! Also, my best friend and I often fought together as comrades and protected each other against tough guy bullies since childhood and we are still fighting together as comrades and defending each other to this day while all she does is stand there to be protected by him but cannot help him. I even cook delicious foods for her boyfriend while she can't. I guess she is inferior to me as a person. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! And what's funny is that her boyfriend often takes my side against her whenever she and I get into fights. Then I and her boyfriend berate her together. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! That means she is a bad person! I mean my best friend is a very nice person so if he always takes my side against her then that means there really is something wrong with her. Seriously, she is so mad that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? I mean so what if she is his girlfriend? Like who cares? No matter what she does, There will always be roles in her boyfriend's life that she can never equal or be better than me at. Those roles will always be mine and will never be hers. I will always be his one and only platonic friend. She is just there for sex. So for all girls who is like my best friend's girlfriend, remember this: A boy fights for and dies for his girlfriend while best friends fight together and die together. Remember that!

Hi and I was looking for some advice for myself . I was seeing a man for 5 years , we were compatible we were good friends and I thought I found the love of my life until I figured out he had a wife with 4 kids . I am shattered that I was duped . On further discussion he told me that he lied because he did not want to loose me but I feel take. In for a ride. I really don’t know why I was so dumb and how I never did a background check

Hello, I'm a 24 year old man. I have signed up here because I have gone through severe depressions throughout my life. This year, my depression was so severe, that I went through a psychotic episode with symptoms of schizophrenia for 2 weeks. During that period of time, I have lost friends and fucked up an opportunity with a girl that meant a lot to me. All this happened at the end of my stay in South of France, where I was doing my bachelor's degree for 3 years. It's difficult for me to realise that a lot of people, who I might see again in my life, talk trash behind my back without even knowing that i was behaving very awkwardly because of that psychotic episode. Recently, I moved to another city to do my Master's degree. As usual, I feel lonely and depressed, but I managed to get out of that psychotic episode. What triggers me the most, is that I can be a very social person when I'm in society, I would describe myself as pretty charismatic, and confident when I talk to or in front of a lot of people, but despite that fact, I don't manage to create intimate bonds with other people and at the end of the day, I remain a lonely man. I would like to share my thoughts with other people who can relate to this or who experienced similar things in their life and find solutions to overcome the overwhelming negative thoughts that our brain create.

I agree that finding good friends as an adult is difficult. I think, there are two important things to make a friendship an intimate bond. You should see or talk to each other on a regular basis, so you get to know each other's habits and overcome the usual small talk. And occasionally, you should talk to each other without other people around. That's important to share insecurities and build up trust. Sharing a hobby is a great way to meet people and to meet on a regular basis. I am a hobby photographer and I like to meet and exchange with other photographers and models on photo walks. This way I find people for photo projects and I get a lot of new ideas.

I was looking online for people around my age that we’re seeking new friends.

Hello, I'm a 24 year old man doing his Master's degree in demography in France. I have signed up here because I have gone through severe depressions throughout my life. This year, my depression was so severe, that I went through a psychotic episode with symptoms of schizophrenia for 2 weeks. During that period of time, I have lost friends and fucked up an opportunity with a girl that meant a lot to me. All this happened at the end of my stay in South of France, where I was doing my bachelor's degree for 3 years. Now, I moved to another city to do my Master's degree. As usual, I feel lonely and depressed, but I managed to get ouf that psychotic episode. What triggers me the most, is that I can be a very social person when I'm in society, I would describe myself as pretty charismatic, and confident when I talk to or in front of a lot of people, but despite that fact, I don't manage to create intimate bonds with other people and at the end of the day I remain a solitary man. I would like to share my thoughts with other people who can relate to this or who experience similar things in their life.

My Journey? Hmmm - That's actually a bit too cliché for me but will use what works for others in an attempt to be heard. More often than not I find this world more a place in which people do time. I think now think of Eckhart Tolle and his lectures on the subject: If I may share: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgj7u86e4wc Perhaps not for everyone. I do tend to find him easy on the ear and have spent a more than a few years being open to his core message with respect to here and now. I think I prefer to deal with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges through the process of dis-Identifying. Commonly known in Eckhart's circle as dis-Identifying from the mind. Apparently key to becoming present. I make now claims either way but can only say what works for me and share what I see. Quote: "Simple but now easy" Reminds me of Jon Kabat-Zin whom I first came across on YouTube doing a presentation at Google. The quote that just came to mind somewhere from his book 'Wherever you go there you are.' I sense a sadness in him when watching him now but he handles it well. He is his own master of course with his own box of tools. I'd say that source of sadness comes from the irony of having talked at Google and they being what they are. Can be summed up in an article 'Father of virtual reality: Facebook and Google are dangerous 'behavior-modification empires' resulting from a tragic mistake' Jon tried his best and still does today with the odd online meet and greet. I know his has made a positive influence on me. Me ... I'm a sponge and whilst have a failing memory and struggle cognitively when out and about in a world not designed for me, things that resonate with me tend to last for life. Although this can be said for both negative and positive experiences. For me, I am not into cutting people out of my life on a whim because some article claims that's how I will claim my prize. I find such doctrine as it be, a tact like perhaps what google does when assimilating the knowledge of great speakers like Jon then creating an algorithm to hook people in. Everyone promoting themselves behind a veil of excellence and success sold in many other likewise terms. Kind of like how western society adopts and twist other cultures, religion and philosophy. Why not throw into the mix domination and control? Smiles because it's all so challenging that anyone that talks on such things in todays world is quickly such down in a finely tuned machine that sees automated robot responses from humans all over today's info tech world. Indeed, depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges abound. Just to be clear, I'm not looking for advice myself. Most of my take and approach is also very challenging but not so much for me. It just fly's in the face of main stream ideals as peddled from the machine. I'm acutely aware though of how my own resistance works against me which is why I find the likes of Tolle, Zin and Watts very compelling. That said, I don't find watts as soothing at Eckhart and Jon. He is a little more blunt but still I find enough gold in his sharing to be helpful for me. Grain of salt until it hits a home run, but then I much prefer revisiting such insights until I can either acknowledge them as my experience or not. I don't care much for the dramatic music played in the background and images pasted over the top. That's more part of the trap the Tolle often talks about and even Watt's himself. Much irony abounds in as much at Jon talking at Google and again it being what it be. In that regard the lycra , iconic images and drama used to profile peoples self promoting journeys is also something I recoil from. Smiles again ... no wonder I prefer small groups. arrr ... Now I think of the Life of Brian. Don't ask how I got there. hehe. I also don't take myself too seriously but also keep things true enough for me when creating my own script. I have no purpose that fits into another group ideal although many would propose in their daily speech. "What do you do for a living?" As if to imply I must be 'doing' something in order to live or whatever. "Keeping Busy?" all the way into the new age group that also ask many questions of others "What have you contributed?" Different dynamics, same patterns. The use of exclamations marks following claims of stillness and peace. Tis a crazy world to be sure full of irony at every turn. Yet there are snippets to be had in every irony to be had. "You shall know them by their fruits." The latter being from a book I consider and no more than a book, yet rings true enough. I don't always throw the fruit out either just because it does not look pretty or not pitch perfect in taste. Sadly it seems out culture today is steering more toward said irony more and more. So sad indeed that it's nice to a section like this in a happiness forum that appears to be open to such things. Each to their own of course. This is my world view from what I have seen, experienced and see and seeing. Although it's worth noting such revelations can be hard to cope with. Especially in a world programmed with such an inherent need for validation and approval. Time for some gardening and to quickly share a pic of what keeps me out of such a chaotic and shallow world - more so what keeps me grounded, brings me solace and peace: Is not about the end result but about the experience. Instead of cutting people out of my life on a whim and gong form relationship to relationship, I make friends with that which does do not use open its mouth or take photos of itself: Again ... we all find happiness in our own way. 🙃 Takes more than a fancy profile, well constructed answers to text book questions to build trust in a world of deception. How's that for non-neurotypical? Oh the labels! ← Notes* first exclamation mark. Well done on the drama. Oh how they hand those labels out and how people cling to them. Forgive my candor here but true enough for yours truly. Such is a bit of an epidemic from what I can see. I choose to be none of them but like so many others jump through the hoops in order that I may have the right to live. But yea ... whatever works. I burnt out the sensor on my wife's camera taking the image bellow. It was cheap tiny compact affordable at the time to replace with the newer one - but how lost I was in the taking of that shot. It was an experience which makes this one of so many years later still my favorite. When I am doing well I enjoy taking these kinds of photos. I find much of the essence in the talks given by those I named above in images like these. I'm only just starting to get back into a cycle where I am considering sharing more of these experiences. Minus my world view of course. These kind of shares tend to convey more in a way that's more digestible. That said, writing in our own way from the heart as we see and breathe is also therapeutic. This is why I am often more my own audience but open to all minds. Even those that are not like mine but get the gist of being more open to those that resonate. I'm just not into cutting out people as commonly sold nor all the other aspects of today's selfish algorithm. This makes me a target by being so open, but then I also get to meet real people otherwise isolated by the things of which I highlight. I'm all for those on the fringes - for all those who have been rejected - yet get the boundaries that others use to reason when taking a less painful route. Until next share - have a nice day.