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I agree that finding good friends as an adult is difficult. I think, there are two important things to make a friendship an intimate bond. You should see or talk to each other on a regular basis, so you get to know each other's habits and overcome the usual small talk. And occasionally, you should talk to each other without other people around. That's important to share insecurities and build up trust. Sharing a hobby is a great way to meet people and to meet on a regular basis. I am a hobby photographer and I like to meet and exchange with other photographers and models on photo walks. This way I find people for photo projects and I get a lot of new ideas.

I was looking online for people around my age that we’re seeking new friends.

Hello, I'm a 24 year old man doing his Master's degree in demography in France. I have signed up here because I have gone through severe depressions throughout my life. This year, my depression was so severe, that I went through a psychotic episode with symptoms of schizophrenia for 2 weeks. During that period of time, I have lost friends and fucked up an opportunity with a girl that meant a lot to me. All this happened at the end of my stay in South of France, where I was doing my bachelor's degree for 3 years. Now, I moved to another city to do my Master's degree. As usual, I feel lonely and depressed, but I managed to get ouf that psychotic episode. What triggers me the most, is that I can be a very social person when I'm in society, I would describe myself as pretty charismatic, and confident when I talk to or in front of a lot of people, but despite that fact, I don't manage to create intimate bonds with other people and at the end of the day I remain a solitary man. I would like to share my thoughts with other people who can relate to this or who experience similar things in their life.

Hi I'm here to make Friends aswell Life is too always amazing with friends

If you're feeling like your friends are not treating you well I would suggest talking to them. It could be that they are not aware of how you're feeling, and how their actions (or lack thereof) impact you. It's also important to learn patterns about ourselves and others. If you feel like you're giving a lot and not receiving much and it's affecting you negatively, maybe give less to them. Also, we all show love and appreciation in different ways and at different capacities, so what comes naturally to you might not to your friends. Like @suedseefrucht says, managing expectations is also a big player here to not get disappointed, and remember to do what is best for *you* 🤗

Joining some kind of activity or class together is a great idea. Also trying to chat to a neighbour that seems friendly, or the people sitting next to you in a bar or cafe could be a way to meet new people. Making new friends can be difficult as an adult, and a lot of us have the same problem. Perhaps a colleague from work could be a potential friend too? We are still a very small community, but one of our features is that you can search for people near you. Maybe another happiness member lives in your area and is looking for friends too! 🙏

Hi I'm uk and came to this site hoping to make friends. I feel lost not having friends to chat and laugh with. I have a fiancee and am incredibly happy but feel I'm missing friendship with others.

My Journey? Hmmm - That's actually a bit too cliché for me but will use what works for others in an attempt to be heard. More often than not I find this world more a place in which people do time. I think now think of Eckhart Tolle and his lectures on the subject: If I may share: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgj7u86e4wc Perhaps not for everyone. I do tend to find him easy on the ear and have spent a more than a few years being open to his core message with respect to here and now. I think I prefer to deal with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges through the process of dis-Identifying. Commonly known in Eckhart's circle as dis-Identifying from the mind. Apparently key to becoming present. I make now claims either way but can only say what works for me and share what I see. Quote: "Simple but now easy" Reminds me of Jon Kabat-Zin whom I first came across on YouTube doing a presentation at Google. The quote that just came to mind somewhere from his book 'Wherever you go there you are.' I sense a sadness in him when watching him now but he handles it well. He is his own master of course with his own box of tools. I'd say that source of sadness comes from the irony of having talked at Google and they being what they are. Can be summed up in an article 'Father of virtual reality: Facebook and Google are dangerous 'behavior-modification empires' resulting from a tragic mistake' Jon tried his best and still does today with the odd online meet and greet. I know his has made a positive influence on me. Me ... I'm a sponge and whilst have a failing memory and struggle cognitively when out and about in a world not designed for me, things that resonate with me tend to last for life. Although this can be said for both negative and positive experiences. For me, I am not into cutting people out of my life on a whim because some article claims that's how I will claim my prize. I find such doctrine as it be, a tact like perhaps what google does when assimilating the knowledge of great speakers like Jon then creating an algorithm to hook people in. Everyone promoting themselves behind a veil of excellence and success sold in many other likewise terms. Kind of like how western society adopts and twist other cultures, religion and philosophy. Why not throw into the mix domination and control? Smiles because it's all so challenging that anyone that talks on such things in todays world is quickly such down in a finely tuned machine that sees automated robot responses from humans all over today's info tech world. Indeed, depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges abound. Just to be clear, I'm not looking for advice myself. Most of my take and approach is also very challenging but not so much for me. It just fly's in the face of main stream ideals as peddled from the machine. I'm acutely aware though of how my own resistance works against me which is why I find the likes of Tolle, Zin and Watts very compelling. That said, I don't find watts as soothing at Eckhart and Jon. He is a little more blunt but still I find enough gold in his sharing to be helpful for me. Grain of salt until it hits a home run, but then I much prefer revisiting such insights until I can either acknowledge them as my experience or not. I don't care much for the dramatic music played in the background and images pasted over the top. That's more part of the trap the Tolle often talks about and even Watt's himself. Much irony abounds in as much at Jon talking at Google and again it being what it be. In that regard the lycra , iconic images and drama used to profile peoples self promoting journeys is also something I recoil from. Smiles again ... no wonder I prefer small groups. arrr ... Now I think of the Life of Brian. Don't ask how I got there. hehe. I also don't take myself too seriously but also keep things true enough for me when creating my own script. I have no purpose that fits into another group ideal although many would propose in their daily speech. "What do you do for a living?" As if to imply I must be 'doing' something in order to live or whatever. "Keeping Busy?" all the way into the new age group that also ask many questions of others "What have you contributed?" Different dynamics, same patterns. The use of exclamations marks following claims of stillness and peace. Tis a crazy world to be sure full of irony at every turn. Yet there are snippets to be had in every irony to be had. "You shall know them by their fruits." The latter being from a book I consider and no more than a book, yet rings true enough. I don't always throw the fruit out either just because it does not look pretty or not pitch perfect in taste. Sadly it seems out culture today is steering more toward said irony more and more. So sad indeed that it's nice to a section like this in a happiness forum that appears to be open to such things. Each to their own of course. This is my world view from what I have seen, experienced and see and seeing. Although it's worth noting such revelations can be hard to cope with. Especially in a world programmed with such an inherent need for validation and approval. Time for some gardening and to quickly share a pic of what keeps me out of such a chaotic and shallow world - more so what keeps me grounded, brings me solace and peace: Is not about the end result but about the experience. Instead of cutting people out of my life on a whim and gong form relationship to relationship, I make friends with that which does do not use open its mouth or take photos of itself: Again ... we all find happiness in our own way. 🙃 Takes more than a fancy profile, well constructed answers to text book questions to build trust in a world of deception. How's that for non-neurotypical? Oh the labels! ← Notes* first exclamation mark. Well done on the drama. Oh how they hand those labels out and how people cling to them. Forgive my candor here but true enough for yours truly. Such is a bit of an epidemic from what I can see. I choose to be none of them but like so many others jump through the hoops in order that I may have the right to live. But yea ... whatever works. I burnt out the sensor on my wife's camera taking the image bellow. It was cheap tiny compact affordable at the time to replace with the newer one - but how lost I was in the taking of that shot. It was an experience which makes this one of so many years later still my favorite. When I am doing well I enjoy taking these kinds of photos. I find much of the essence in the talks given by those I named above in images like these. I'm only just starting to get back into a cycle where I am considering sharing more of these experiences. Minus my world view of course. These kind of shares tend to convey more in a way that's more digestible. That said, writing in our own way from the heart as we see and breathe is also therapeutic. This is why I am often more my own audience but open to all minds. Even those that are not like mine but get the gist of being more open to those that resonate. I'm just not into cutting out people as commonly sold nor all the other aspects of today's selfish algorithm. This makes me a target by being so open, but then I also get to meet real people otherwise isolated by the things of which I highlight. I'm all for those on the fringes - for all those who have been rejected - yet get the boundaries that others use to reason when taking a less painful route. Until next share - have a nice day.

Hello everyone, I live in the North West of England, where I have settled since leaving the armed forces. I am finding it difficult to make friends, as I have no connection with this area such as school friends etc. I came to here because my spouse was from here, and I have a job here. I would like to meet people from this area to hopefully build friendships.

Sounds exactly like me. I moved to be with my other half . I have no friends here and decided to try this site to find friends. I also live in the UK northwest.

For striking up conversation I would say to be yourself, and make some little comment to the other person. Something about how much you enjoy what you are ordering, asking how the other person is doing, comment on the weather (at least a very popular topic of conversation in North Europe where I'm from lol), or any current event. Another way of starting conversation is to ask for suggestions or advice, maybe for a good gym, a nice restaurant, or something practical. Your place of work is, as @suedseefrucht says, a great way to connect and make friends, and here on happiness you can search for friends based on geographic location (we're still a small community though) and through shared interests.

Welcome to happiness! It can be difficult making new friends when you are new in an area; I think most people can relate to that. Although we are still a small community, you can use our search feature to discover other members in your area. I would also say joining a gym, a course or workshop, or any kind of activity where you meet people can be a good way to make friends too. Here on happiness you can also connect with people based on their interests for examples, so this way you know you already have something in common 😊

Welcome! I would love to read about a psychologists kind of living. Personally, I notice the disappearance of active friends with age. In school and at the university some friendships are left behind, some endure, but after these times, getting to know new people becomes hard. Early this year I started a new hobby: photography. It gives me motivation to go outside, I get to meet other photographers and models, it's a new skill I learn, I receive positive feedback and it's fun. So I can recommend starting a hobby you'd like to try and join others. It can be anything like dancing, playing tennis, joining a chess club, visiting a painting workshop and much more.

Happiness is a state of being that everyone aspires to achieve. It is the feeling of joy, contentment, and satisfaction that arises from within when we are in a positive state of mind. Happiness is often associated with the fulfillment of our desires and the attainment of our goals, but it goes beyond that. True happiness is a state of mind that is not dependent on external circumstances or material possessions. It is a feeling that arises from within and is independent of external factors. Happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that can be difficult to define, but it is generally understood to be a positive emotional state characterized by feelings of pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. It can be experienced in a variety of ways, from a fleeting moment of joy to a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose. Research has shown that happiness has numerous benefits for our health and well-being. Happy people are generally more resilient to stress, have stronger immune systems, and live longer. They are also more creative, productive, and successful in their personal and professional lives. There are many factors that contribute to happiness, including our relationships, our work, our health, and our personal values and beliefs. However, research suggests that there are some common characteristics and practices that are associated with greater happiness. These include: Cultivating positive emotions: Focusing on positive emotions such as gratitude, joy, and kindness can help to increase feelings of happiness and well-being. Building strong relationships: Having close, supportive relationships with family and friends is a key factor in happiness. Pursuing meaningful goals: Having a sense of purpose and working towards meaningful goals that align with our values and interests can bring a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. Practicing mindfulness and self-compassion: Being present in the moment and treating ourselves with kindness and compassion can help to reduce stress and increase happiness. Engaging in physical activity and healthy habits: Regular exercise, good sleep, and a healthy diet are important for physical and mental health, and can also contribute to feelings of happiness. In conclusion, happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that is essential to our health and well-being. While there is no one-size-fits-all formula for happiness, research suggests that cultivating positive emotions, building strong relationships, pursuing meaningful goals, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, and engaging in healthy habits can all contribute to greater happiness and fulfillment in life.

Dear Community, Hello, I am Sorai, a soul of the sky who came to Earth to experience, and share in new ways. I value love, peace, happiness, exploration to name a few. Love to talk with friends and would like to make new friends around the world for 1 to 1 chat as well as here on the forum. I like to talk about interesting things mixed with philosophy/spirituality, such as self-cultivation and happiness cultivation. I practice Shen Shing Famen Qigong, Zen Meditation, Aikido, and Taekwondo. Some questions to spark our discussion are: • You can do anything at all in existence; what do you do? • What do you like to watch, listen to, read, or do for hobbies • You take a walk or ride anywhere, whether normally accessible to humans or not. Where do you go? I would walk the sky and make love. Also walk the depths of the ocean and the oldest and most lush forests. Maybe try a walk in the desert I like Shark Tank and am re-reading Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind

Teach Me. Lets be friends and have conversation? Please?

HI! My name is Anna, found this site for accident (though there are no accidents, right?))) I practice positive well-being for quite a long time, I meditate, doing yoga, use positive affirmations, journalling an so on. Recently I started a course on Coursera "The science of well-being", and realized, how much I love positive psychology. Even starting thinking about starting a career in this field. I don't have enough like-minded people in my off line life, friends who would be on the same page with me. So this forum is a tresure box for me. Hoping to find new frieds here.

Yes we can live without friends if we have spirit like animal behaviour but a real 'live' means engagement with society and their structure like friends.

I have actually experienced something like an unexpected friendship, that within a few days I have revised my opinion about a person who is now one of my best friends. I was at a punk rock festival with a friend and our tent neighbour was orderly, liked it quiet at night and seemed a bit unruly. I was annoyed at first, but then we got to talking and today, as I said, she is one of my best friends. Maybe some unexpected friendship carry more weight simply because they exist despite adverse circumstances?

Are you asking because you have a story like this yourself? This is actually the way I met my girlfriend. There is an open world pvp game called GTA Online. I was driving over the map in an armored car, when she suddenly attacked me with a flying car by shooting missles. Since my car was armored, she had to hunt me for a while, very obstinately but she managed to kill me. Surprisingly a differentrandom player picked me up with his flying car to get me revenge. Usually, players become toxic after a fight, but not this time. We texted each other and it was very funny. So we joined an audio conference, started talking and played some pve together. We became friends, best friends, girl- and boyfriend and fancee/fiance. End of story.

As part of the community team, for this particular case I can say the easiest to spot scammers are black men creating profiles as white overly sexy woman. People could also use their own pictures contacting others with the intention of scamming them. We can't look into people's hearts. There's enormous damage done, because essentially I need to mistrust everyone to keep me safe and that's from what I see in the world the root-cause of all evil. What I am wondering is why there is the need to scam so blatantly if this whole project is about helping each other. I am suggesting a different business model. Be yourself, be honest, be vulnerable. Make real friends and ask for help if you need it. You might only be able to scam a person once and then you are damaged goods in terms of trust. Be a good friend yourself and your friends will help you again and again.

I know they are everywhere I was bothered by them in the beginning heck messenger and fb social if you don't know friends or family the rest is scams or marketing scammers are not very smart they suck at lies I set and let them go just see how far they are going I'm even sometimes saying I know what you are they don't listen I guess once in awhile I feel like I may be helping an old guy out of they are thinking I am suckered I'm wasting their time innocent name they were about to try I took his place 95% are scammers if school is- no where ,work -no jobs , live Houston hometown Houston and friends list 200 men all Nigerian or foreign not texan they write the same as they talk not English don't get sentence spelled correctly if the do then words are out of place . I do hate them little boogers but they are out there I expose em play em out just before they ask for money I say no then the online dating trust thing is coming I just tell them pretty much what they are going to say they know then and poof ghost me lol . I do know 1st sentence it's not often I keep pretty busy ionce in awhile one will just rub me the wrong way I just go have fun

Here are some steps you can take: Recognize your feelings: Acknowledge and accept that you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges. It's important to understand that these feelings are valid and that seeking help is a sign of strength. Reach out for support: Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust, such as a close friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Opening up to others can provide emotional support and help you feel less alone. Seek professional help: Consult with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your emotions, offer guidance, and develop coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. Develop self-care routines: Engage in activities that promote your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This may include regular exercise, eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy. Establish a support network: Surround yourself with positive and understanding individuals who can provide support and encouragement. Consider joining support groups or online communities where you can connect with people who share similar experiences. Educate yourself: Learn more about your condition, including its causes, symptoms, and available treatment options. Understanding what you're going through can empower you to make informed decisions about your mental health and treatment. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid self-judgment. Understand that healing takes time, and setbacks are a normal part of the process. Treat yourself with patience, understanding, and self-care. Develop coping mechanisms: Discover healthy ways to cope with stress and manage your emotions. This might include deep breathing exercises, journaling, practicing relaxation techniques, or engaging in creative outlets like art or music. Consider medication if needed: In some cases, medication may be prescribed by a psychiatrist to help manage symptoms. If you and your healthcare provider determine that medication is necessary, ensure that you follow their guidance and monitor any potential side effects. Stay connected: Maintain meaningful relationships with friends and loved ones. Social support plays a crucial role in mental health, so try to engage in activities that foster connection and build relationships. Remember, it's essential to consult with a qualified mental health professional to receive personalized advice and guidance for your specific situation. They can help you develop a treatment plan that aligns with your needs and goals.

Right. An introvert will usually have only one or two close friends, whereas an extrovert will likely have many groups of friends. We tend to keep to ourselves and only get involved in situations that genuinely interest us, rather than feel a need to constantly socialize and get involved.

I recently seen a very thoughtful process of let go of your embarrassment,ego and whatever it comes before resolving any problem with your spouse,girlfriend,friends,parents or any relationship in your life.It taught me in the end when you look back at these moments only happy heart that matters. Tell me how you resolve Your problems or anger with your special ones.I am all ears to listen your stories.