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Escape the hustle and bustle of everyday life and relax to the soothing sounds of rain. Whether you're trying to fall asleep or just need a moment of peace and tranquility, these rain sounds are the perfect solution. Simply close your eyes, put on your headphones, and let the gentle pitter-patter of rain wash away your stress and worries. Use these rain sounds as a calming background noise while you work, study, or just unwind. Let the rain soundtrack transport you to a peaceful and serene place.'

I know a few people who were/are are pretty lonely. Every now and then I was lonely too and I wasn't in a relationship until I was 25 years old (I'm 27 now) even though I don't think I'm ugly or havinga weight problem. My problem was thinking my happiness would depend on other people and I thought I needed a girlfriend to become happy. Unfortunately, this mindset is very unattractive and unhealthy fora relationship. I hope, she can learn to be proud of herself for what she's already achieved in life and she can take care about herself by following her dreams. I know it sounds sad to go to the cinema or on vacation alone, but if that's what makes her happy, she should do it - no matter if she has friends or a relationship. And when people see how she is enjoyig life, they will be a lot more attracted to her. And when she doesn't need a partner to make her happy, she is a lot more independend and confident in a relationship. She can also try to visit her friends far away. It doesn't have to be every week, but a little social contact can change a lot. And by the way... You are an amazing dad.

I was a Captain in the Police Force. Evidence against high up political figures were found and they told people it is a conspiracy of a extremist group and every 4 in 5 people in police department is a member of this group. So, we were hunted one by one with no evidence to support these claims. There were severe abuses that last about a year for me and I wanted to quit but my father signed a paper that if I quit, I would owe an amount which is impossible for me to pay. After a ridiculous claim, I was sent to disciplinary committee. I had video proof against it but I still got the punishment. After a week later, second one was made. I told my mind to people responsible in public. Had a small nervous breakdown. I was sent to psychiatric evaluation. I was given 3 months paid leave and given a position with smaller responsibilities. One of the highest ranking officers told me of regret for my condition and offered to talk. When I got there, he ripped my new assignment papers, called me a traitor, gave me a resignation paper to sign. He said if I don't sign it, he would make whole department fuck me one by one. I idioticly curled up to a ball and began screaming. Conversive episode it seems. Abuses got worse and I have severe CPTSD from the ordeal. Worst part is I am having rage episodes which I break stuff to relieve pressure on my head. I tried many professional help which helped only little. I am at a point I want to take my own life because I am nothing but a burden to people around me.

When in the world grows the dark cold and the empty desolation, then going back where one starts from. Do you recall the longing of our wishes? It is time, rise up to meet the heaven, to kiss the stars, to wrap your arms around the light. Don't forget, at least, above us, stars shine, tiny pieces of heaven that overflowing with generosity and absorb our tiredness. Every heart's a star within, that echoing the bliss of eternity, every star's a aflame heart that holds our hand. And, Every life dwell in the bosom of the love, echoing the bliss of eternity, ringing as a heavenly gong the holy song, the song of love wherewith even hell had thrilled and the grief ignites, and the eager souls lean to hear with awe.

Thank you and a very Happy New Year to you too! Glad that you reached this forum, I am sure you will find various points of view, opinions and advice to get some clarity. In my opinion, you have to put yourself on priority, and make choices that suit you, if that means finding another job, or even changing jobs, do it, and feather your nest. The world would have you believe that that is a selfish and self centered thing to do, but if you don't put yourelf and your family first, who will?? If the job was enough and you were able to manage within it well and good, but since you yourself feel the lack, you have to reconsider your time commitment to them and make changes. Start applying for different jobs and put your wishes out in the universe, you never know what could turn up and this feeling or unrest is pushing you towards your destiny and a better way of life. Don't ignore it, do what you should and do what it takes to make the changes. Good luck, I am sure it will all work out for you!!

Thank you . We are all on our own personal journeys. It will definitely take a lot to bring me down . This life has so much to offer everyone , and everyone deserves a chance to be happy. 🙏🙏

In answer to the question , I'm a father of three. Hi all . Came across this site and thought why not sign up . Just something quick to share if it's OK. In June I suffered a serious accident at work. Since doing so I'm now having therapy to help with PTSD , so far so good. But my main drive into helping myself recover from my injury is something my father told me on his dying days , is in life you just have to get up and get on no matter what , because if not then what is the point. He thought an illness for eight years with this mindset . I try and keep this in mind when I'm feeling low . May 2023 be the kindest yet for everyone 🙏

Hello, I hear you, and I feel your pangs. No one wants to be told something negative, especially about their looks. But first.. do you love what you see everyday and are you happy wiht who you are, or are you already struggling with a negative self image and self doubt? The way I deal with stuff like this is twofold. One I silently thank the person for pointing out something that I could improve (I mean how many people probably think worse and don't say it out loud- he is being a messenger here, and I always say, don't shoot the messenger) When you look from a different view point even criticism and negative feedback is actually a lost way of sharing feedback with you about what you can improve and change to make your own life better. So have you considered dealing with the dark circles? With products and remedies as openly available and not 'beauty secrets' any more, why not go enjoy some pampering and make them better? I was told I was dark, had very non traditional looks, was thin as a stick and guess what I took all those stones and built bridges with them and today people compliment me for the very things I was "given pointers to improve" That could be a positive turn to what you are otherwise seeing as a negative attack/ interference. Not enough peole appreciate those that have the courage to speak up, rather than gossip behind our backs..its not always easy but in the end its the people who help us by telling us what is wrong that set us so much further on our journeys..if we choose to take things with that spirit. If you look at how your reaction upset him, you can perhaps see his intent was not to hurt you. Even those who want to do good aren't always able to say it all sugar coated and nicely the way we want to, but its upto us to take the message and separate the feelings from blocking the message that the universe is giving us through such willing channels. Good luck and I hope it all goes well for you!

Hello I am new to this forum today but I would like to comment on this topic. About half my life ago I was married to my first husband at the time. He was 18 years older than I but he made me laugh every day, until we actually married then came this shift that he "made" me cry every day. I had decided as a young girl that once I married I would stay that way and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life in sadness so I decided one day that I would stop crying and BE HAPPY! I had to consciously choose to be happy and the more I chose it the happier I became! Before marrying this man I was an upbeat positive person and have continued to be so sinse I made that decision to be happy so many years ago. So I'm here to tell everyone that yes you can choose your mood and you can choose to be happy or sad or anxious or any other mood this world has to offer. You just have to change your mind and make the decision. Doing so may take a little practice but once you master it you are all the better for it. The only thing in this world that you can truly control is yourself!

Hey guys, I wanted to start by wishing you all a happy new year! I'd also like to apologize in advance about my english as it isn't my first language so sorry for the mistakes here and there. I got on this forum in a pretty random way, but I am a firm believer that you always end up where you need to be. I am here to maybe get some guidance, some help, some vision from other people. Sending my questions in the universe and maybe see things a different way. It's going to be a long read, but here is my story. I have 2 degrees from University, one in Physical Education teaching and one in Physical Activity science applied in sports training. During the process of getting that, school and work put a lot of pressure on myself and I dealt with depression and anxiety from all of it, I had some very dark days. I found help, found ways to deal with it all, and even through the darkest days of my life, I kept hoping that things would get better and that I would be happy in the end. I am now 30, I am father to a healthy little girl of 16 months, I am owner of a beautiful house. I work out a lot to deal with my demons and help me get motivated and keep pushing. I work as a Phys Ed teacher and also work part time as a trainer in a prep school program to help me get some more money. As fun as my job are, there is no stability in the line of work I am in. Every year, I am thrown to a new school and even though I am ready to work full time, even more than full time, there is no opportunity for me to do so. I always get the "leftovers", and it's going to be a while before I get to be full time. I am not here to ask for sympathy or to complain, I kinda knew that already, but I didnt think it would be that bad. All of it has put a lot of financial stress on me every year and I dont know what to do. When I work, I am able to get some good money and get my head out of the water, then it goes back to having no opportunities and I start sinking again. I even went to work with a moving and transport company this summer to help me make it through. All of it leads to a lot of questioning from me about life. What do I do, if I try to find other random jobs to help me out, they often dont want to hire me because they know I have my teaching job. Some want me to put teaching aside but I'll make 3-4x what they offer when/if full time. I sometimes think about doing something else, but what do I do? I thought about national police here in Canada, but that asked me to be 4 months away from my daughter. Do I go back to school in something else? If I do that then it really doesnt help with the financial stress that I already have. I feel a bit lost. I have everything I need to be happy but I have a really hard time enjoying life because I am always in financial stress and work wise, I dont feel satisfied, and also feel handcuffed. I feel like I am using like 60% of my potential and it really affects my mood. I really dont know what I am hoping to find on this forum, but maybe some wisdom from someone who went through something similar, or different views from different people, ideas, could help. Even if you have read everything and dont have anything to reply, I appreciate it. Thank you all

Hey kimoto. The sea sounds nice. I'm happy you are taking some time for things that nurture yourself as much as you nurture others. I love the lake and anywhere with trees. I feel peace in nature. I do tarot and work with the moon. I love astrology. I have several crystals. I am currently trying to learn meditation skills as well as working with my chakras. I try to help others, sometimes it's just through something I feel I need to share from my life, or something to encourage them along their way. I am still working to be the best version of me and hope that along the way I can inspire or uplift another. I can imagine the sea and the way the waves sound as they wash up on the sand. I can understand why you'd love it there.

I think it is important to look at this from all the different point of views. You told us about your's already. Her point of view is having a boyfriend who spends most of the time with a different girl and she is complaining about that. And if she cares about him, she would like to know what's going on in his life and of course she doesn't like to be excluded or to be used for sex only. In her position she should probably end the relationship and look for someone who loves her as much as she loves him at the moment if she is confident enough. His point of view is probably pretty great, since he has 2 jealous girls fighting for his attention. But he is neither confident enough to end his current relationship nor to start a relationship with the girl he spends the most time with, which is you. So she is haveing sex with him hoping for a real relationship and you are gigivng him a lot of attention (maybe) trying to get into a real relationship with him. So both of you are used and none of you is confident enough to make him decide. But ironically you dont even fight him, but you fight each other.

Hello! I am an 18-year old girl. Why is my best friend's girlfriend such a jealous stupid girl? She is so possessive towards her 18-year old boyfriend! I hate her! She complains to her boyfriend a lot about these things: 1. My best friend spends 2 days a week and 2 hours a day with her while my best friend spends 7 days a week and 9 hours a day with me. Also, she gets to have phone calls and text messages with him. Plus, she gets to have sex with him within those two hours. Isn't she fucking content? 2. Her boyfriend and I exclude her from a lot of activities and trips. 3. Her boyfriend helps me out in a lot of things while he only helps her in very few things. 4. My best friend and I do not inform her about our trips, activities, and personal secrets in order to hide them from her. She complains about these things? She complains about the fact that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? Really? Her boyfriend prioritizes me over her and is closer to me because he and I have been best friends since childhood while she only met him when they were 16-years old! Also, my best friend and I often fought together as comrades and protected each other against tough guy bullies since childhood and we are still fighting together as comrades and defending each other to this day while all she does is stand there to be protected by him but cannot help him. I even cook delicious foods for her boyfriend while she can't. I guess she is inferior to me as a person. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! And what's funny is that her boyfriend often takes my side against her whenever she and I get into fights. Then I and her boyfriend berate her together. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! That means she is a bad person! I mean my best friend is a very nice person so if he always takes my side against her then that means there really is something wrong with her. Seriously, she is so mad that her boyfriend prioritizes me over her? I mean so what if she is his girlfriend? Like who cares? No matter what she does, There will always be roles in her boyfriend's life that she can never equal or be better than me at. Those roles will always be mine and will never be hers. I will always be his one and only platonic friend. She is just there for sex. So for all girls who is like my best friend's girlfriend, remember this: A boy fights for and dies for his girlfriend while best friends fight together and die together. Remember that!

Hello there daisy, your post sounds as though i could have written it myself, i also am alone a lot but saying that it is by choice, my hobbies-interests are biofield tuning forks, colour light therapy, i love crystals, my pets, i try to help people feel better within themselves whenever i can, i only have a handful of people i call friends, i get them to have a foot spa bath -natural face masks, all feel good nurturing stuff, give them crystals, i don’t do social media facebook etc i like being my own private person, although i share feel good things with everyone if they show true interest, such as my tuning forks crystals colour light therapy, all self taught, i have rune stones, oracle cards-books, mostly based on moon phases, coz i have strong feelings towards the moon, i usually meet people who are in need of something when i walk when i’m living at the ocean, i feel empathy very strongly, so when i meet someone who is troubled i find they open up to me, i just speak positive happy things to them, and encourage them to feel good about themselves, then i share books if they are interested in borrowing, i meet at beach to walk with them if they want to, i sense when people are hurting or lonely, so i just say hello to them, then i find that i seem to see that person unexpected at shop or beach at different times of day when i decide to go for a walk or stop to have a drink, but alas i am not at the ocean at the moment but i am working to get back there as soon as possible coz this is where i feel my best and able to support others as well as myself, i feel as though i have come home whenever i live by the ocean, but my country friends and hubby don’t have the same feelings or love as i do for the sea,, so i’ve decided i will live at the seaside and visit every few wks for a week or two the small country town i now live in, i lived by the ocean most of my young life up until my 30’s, this just about sums up who i am, thank-you for letting me share,, i’m too old now to just live for not upsetting people by going to the ocean, so now i will make me happy, put myself first for a change even though i don’t want to upset others, but i feel my health suffers lots when i am away from the beautiful sea and all it’s moods,,, kind regards to all, k.

Hi Monae. I am 60 years old and it just occurred to me that I have to learn to be my own best friend. I’ve been so critical and hard on myself all my life and I suffered depression since I was three years old. I am working on myself and my depression has lifted. I am learning to love myself and when I do the emptiness disappears. I will look forward to reading your comments. All the best to you, Pamela

You're talking about mental health and depression and anxiety are the main cause of it. I will recommend life coach certification to everyone to know about the secrets to live happy life. Many lads are just depressed with no reason or very pathetic reason and those need life coaching at first priority.

I love the message in Sonja Lyubomirsky's research paper (and in her book The How of Happiness), which suggests that general life circumstances are only responsible for 10% of our base happiness level, whereas our actions (how we interact with the world) are responsible for 40%. (The other 50% is inherited in our genes.) While these figures may be a little optimistic, the message is clear - our happiness is not generally dictated by our external circumstances. I personally found that gratitude (learning to appreciate everything good in my life) has made me so much happier. By writing a daily gratitude journal for a week or two, where we write down at least three things we are grateful for each day, it helps us to focus on the good rather than the bad. And that is sooooo important. As the quote attributed to Einstein (which he probably never said) goes: “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

I believe that being happy, content and at peace with your surroundings can bring lots of positivity in one's life. We have to consciously make efforts to be in this state for as long as it is possible. We know that we can control ourselves only so accept everything and everyone else as it is and work towards making your own life a happy and peaceful one, daily. Just see how we can make it better for ourselves and for the benefits of others as well. This positive feeling makes us stronger day by day. The ultimate goal of any person's life is to live it well so keep full faith in God and work towards making your life a fulfilling one. We have to make positive progress in all areas of life. Keep yourself in high spirits always! God bless!

Hello darknet123 Wish you a great life 🙂

I am also a mechanical engineer. I think every good engineer is of shy but good at calculations 😅. Even i struggled in marriage which eventually ended up as separation. I don't know why i am not comfortable in building relationships. Congratulations on being engaged. 🎁 I wish you best in your life ahead. What type of engineer are you?

Hi @yazmin! Indeed God wants us to be happy and grateful. Its a blessing to wake up every day and see your kids developing and having fun filled life. Best wishes, 🙂

Blessed to wake up to see another day! To be able to continue my starting journey Its a slow process but it is worth every step of my Life.🙌🏾

My name is Luis, I live in the north of Mexico. I've been teaching Physics and Math over 35 years and have found this activity as a way to help students get into the knowledge of science and its relation with daily life.

Hi everyone, My first meditation 10 years ago i experienced something that felt like it was almost impossible to believe. I was in bad place (literally). I needed something to keep my mind positive and a friend suggested me to start meditating. I asked him how to to this and he told me to lay down on my bad with my eyes closed and start focus on my breathing. Then he told me to try and be in between all my thoughts and no thoughts at all. He then said that after a while i would feel itchy in places (like there was fly on my face or something) and not to scratch but keep my focus. I was doing exactly as he said and like he said i started experiencing this itchy feelings on my face. Something i added to this naturally was that while i was doing all the above i kept focusing on my third eye. Without really knowing much about the third eye this is something that came naturally to me. Suddenly i entered this black space filled with nothing. I don't really remember what was going through my head at the time but at one point i start seeing this huge black shimmering face. At first it felt peaceful but it quickly switched to a very dark feeling. I sort of was intrigued about it and kept calm trying to understand what was going on. Then suddenly it started communicating to me i a telepathic way. Immediately it start saying all this psychotic this about killing people. This is when i got really scared and tried to start thinking of positive things to make this go away. I start thinking of my loved ones, the people i care about. Then the voice in my head start saying to kill all the people i was thinking about. my beloved ones.) At this moment i really panicked and tried to open my eyes again. I could't open my eyes immediately like something was holding me in there. When i finally opened my eyes the whole room was spinning around rapidly, my whole vision was distorted. It also kind of felt as if i was elevated from my bed. The distortion went on for 10 seconds or so slowly getting back to normal but my mind kept repeating the words kill mom, kill this person, kill that person... I was freaked out about this as it went on for another 20 minutes or so. Afterword everything went back to normal and i didn't meditate for a long time. I never experienced something like that before as it felt unreal something like that could happen in real life. I'm now meditating again and never experienced anything like that again. Can anyone explain this to me please?

Hi Desarea, No wonder we all face ups and downs in life and its difficult to forget whom we love. However, in order to be happy again, we must try to atleast focus on the present. Deep breathing with eyes closed and love meditation helps in recovering. I recommend you try these and share the results.