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I know that feeling. Many people feel incomplete, not normal and unhappy without a partner. I did too. I tried to find a relationship desperately and I thought I was doomed to wait for a random coincidence and to be unhappy meanwhile. It's important to understand the fact that you have to make yourself happy. Don't let your happiness depend on random events. Take care of yourself, find a great hobby, make yourself comfortable, cook nice meals for yourself, dress like the person you would like to be seen as and make yourself happy and confident. I used to cook great meals, buy flowers and dress well for dates, but I didn't do it for myself, because I didn't condider it necessary for just myself. But appreciating yourself is important. You are the most important person in your life. So treat yourself like that. And this behavior of self esteem will attract other people. So the "relationship problem" might just solve itself.

Supporting someone with anxiety requires understanding, empathy, and patience. Here are some steps you can take to provide effective assistance: Educate Yourself: Learn about anxiety disorders, their symptoms, and common triggers. Understanding what your friend or loved one is experiencing can help you provide more informed and compassionate support. Listen Actively: Encourage open communication. Let the person share their feelings and thoughts without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can be incredibly helpful. Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their anxiety as real and valid. Avoid downplaying or dismissing their emotions. Let them know you are there to support them. Be Patient: Anxiety can be overwhelming, and recovery takes time. Be patient with their progress and setbacks. Offer Practical Help: Assist with tasks that might be difficult for them, such as running errands or attending social events. This can help alleviate some of the stress and pressure they might feel. Encourage Professional Help: Suggest seeking therapy or counseling. A mental health professional can provide appropriate strategies and tools to manage anxiety effectively. Respect Their Boundaries: While your support is crucial, it's important to respect their need for space and time alone when necessary. Practice Relaxation Techniques Together: Encourage relaxation techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, meditation, or yoga. You can even do these activities together to make it more enjoyable. Engage in Positive Activities: Encourage participation in activities they enjoy and that promote well-being. Engaging in hobbies and interests can help distract from anxious thoughts. Avoid Enabling: While it's important to be supportive, avoid helping them avoid situations that trigger anxiety. Encouraging gradual exposure to these situations can promote long-term coping skills. Be Mindful of Language: Use language that is positive and supportive. Avoid telling them to "calm down" or implying that they should just "get over it." Stay Connected: Keep in touch regularly, even if it's just to check in. Knowing that someone cares can make a significant difference. Model Healthy Coping: Demonstrate healthy coping strategies in your own life. Your behavior can serve as a positive example. Avoid Alcohol and Drugs: Encourage them to avoid using alcohol or drugs to cope with anxiety, as these can exacerbate the problem. Emergency Plan: If their anxiety becomes overwhelming or they're in crisis, know the signs of a severe anxiety attack and have a plan for seeking immediate professional help. Remember that you are there to support and encourage, but you are not a substitute for professional help. If their anxiety is severely impacting their life, encourage them to seek assistance from a mental health professional. Your role is to be a caring and understanding friend or loved one during their journey towards managing anxiety.

I'm just trying to learn to navigate this new chapter in life as a widow, and also start a grief support group to help others as well. I welcome any and all thoughts and insights into what the best way is to do this, I have already started back in college for my bachelor's in psychology, and Biblical studies so any additional insight to what I can do is greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Katherine Stephenson

I feel so depressed. My life is a mess.

I honestly don’t know how to be happy. When I try something always makes it impossible. I don’t know how to stop caring about what other are doing and be happy in my own skin. To have my own plan. I just don’t know how. I don’t know how to connect being isolated in my job. I allow others to run my life with their negative comments. How do I get out of this?

Hello. For me, it is to be close to things, people and activities that bring joy or meaning to my life. 😁

Hello Mand! I think it is great you are starting your journey. I think meditation could be made simple, like trying to paying more attention to simple life tasks, like driving, cleaning the house, and gradually you will feel more connected to the present (it may not look like meditation, and more like mindfullness but it all comes to the point of enjoying more or be aware of present). Keep pushing and finding what works best for you. There is not one correct way to do it.

To me, it sounds like you are not looking for a girlfriend but you are looking for a free companion and I don't think they work for free. Being in a relationship with a real girlfriend means, caring for her, spending a lot of time with her, accepting her weaknesses, making her comfortable, working on yourself, fulfilling her wishes too ... and even then kissing and dancing is not guaranteed. So it's a lot of work. I think, making someone fall in love with you longterm is one of the biggest challenges in life. If you still want to find a girlfriend, you can start with finding out, what you like to do for fun (like a hobby). Then you engage in that activity with other people. This way you have a common hobby with other people, which is fun for all of you. And having fun together is an important base for a relationship. Then you have to be lucky and find a woman who you like and who likes you too. And then you have to become the perfect boyfriend for her and convince her to spend the rest of her life with you. And when you finally made it to a relationship, you will have to go through doubts, fights, bad times and more, but in return you get the most valuable thing, money can't buy: True love.

I recently get a job and there i met 1 person who was a pure friend she help me in each and every work as I was new and she was much elder than me still she was calm beautiful love firstly I can't understand her behaviour but after some time I got it she cares for everyone. it has been 1.5 year since I met her and she was caught by a problem she was not able to eat and drink anything she had her operation successful but after 2 days of operation I heard a news that she is no more. it was really heartbroken and uncertain. you cannot anticipate what is going to happen with you. Life is so uncertain. Do you have any answers why is it so.

Very helpful forum to those in need of life coaching. thought this might help also in our forum who seeks therapy and coaching here's the link: <a href=“https://equineguidance.com”> Somatic Equine Therapy and Coaching</a>

Hey everybody! I wanted to share a cool online cohort-based meditation series exploring the themes of relationships, livelihood and money in the context of mindfulness and Buddhism. It is an 8-week series starting next Sunday! There are some really amazing meditation teachers involved such as Chan Master Guo Gu. Let me know what you think! Dharma-Gates.org/building-a-beautiful-life It's offered on a donation-basis, and is designed for young people ages 18-35.

Hi Tara-- So how did it work out with "Mr. Perfectly Nice"? Are you still seeing him or did it end? Something sends my spider senses on alert when someone is overly nice...kind...attentive I get suspicious. Don't trust it. Been burnt too many times to just go along with anything. = Self Protection to avoid being mislead & ultimately hurt again So I want proof. A guarantee. So then... the tests to see if the kindness is genuine?...Can I trust it? Scary to trust...to let the guard down... to be vulnerable. When we've been abused early on in life as kids ... teens... it screws up our inner gps such that our inner guidance system (intuition & feelings) can be messed up & our self esteem & feelings of worthiness can be damaged...but it doesn't mean0 irreparable. Journalling out my feelings & connecting with divine guidance helps me. Divine guidance always speaks to me in kind ways...like a sweet loving parent might. Would love to hear an update!!

I want to ask you if you were ever being in relationship what we're the reason for breakups Have you ever tried to bring her or him back in life? have to ever came across any moral that you need to tell the world. I am here to listen it.

We are just going on living our life like this is work phase we will get the time to have fun in life later. Let me tell you it will never happen if you have to do something do it now plan it as life is uncertain. Do as much fun as you do work. It will make you feel more alive plus it's a way to be happy person. Fun where all your heart celebrate it with joy.It will renew you.Take a pause from your work time to time to be happy. There are different way for different people to be happy and have fun.I want to know your way to be happy what is that thing where your heart dances. Tell me.

Twenty years ago my grandpa died and ten years ago my dad almost died. I took people for granted who were there for all my life. I got to know people who care for their disabled family members 24/7. I took health for granted sometimes.

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumblebee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential and fight for your dreams." - Ashley Smith life is never to reach at destination it is always a journey. whatever phase you are in make sure you have happy journey. Do share some incidents with me.

LOVE is such a beautiful experience one should have once in their whole life time Do you believe in love? Tell me your story how you fall in love and how it worked out for you.

I recently heard a story and it broke my heart as the person who was talking has a tragic story I can't imagine.She can't have her citizenship document her other document everything which is important for survival she just can't have it. So she suffered a lot in her whole life time.But now she is good. the things we are taken for granted are countless in number.Do recognize them and be grateful for them. Do you ever come across such stories or events in your life where you thought that I shouldn't taken it for granted.Tell me your story. I am all ears.

HI! My name is Anna, found this site for accident (though there are no accidents, right?))) I practice positive well-being for quite a long time, I meditate, doing yoga, use positive affirmations, journalling an so on. Recently I started a course on Coursera "The science of well-being", and realized, how much I love positive psychology. Even starting thinking about starting a career in this field. I don't have enough like-minded people in my off line life, friends who would be on the same page with me. So this forum is a tresure box for me. Hoping to find new frieds here.

I recently seen a very thoughtful process of let go of your embarrassment,ego and whatever it comes before resolving any problem with your spouse,girlfriend,friends,parents or any relationship in your life.It taught me in the end when you look back at these moments only happy heart that matters. Tell me how you resolve Your problems or anger with your special ones.I am all ears to listen your stories.

How did it come to this!! Complicated life? Complicated Marriage is really it….over time what has happened? Who am I? Who do you talk to on such sensitive matters..that drag on and on and on….???? Simply insane… or is it….who does this to/in a long term Marriage 30+ Years. signed, Lost and bewildered in Love.

I AM A KIND SOUL IN SEARCH OF LIKE MINDED PEOPLE WITH LOVING SPIRITS. I WOULD LIKE TO MEET PEOPLE FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD WHO HAVE NOTHING BUT GOOD INTENTIONS TOWARDS OTHERS AND HAVE A SELF GROWTH AND SELF IMPROVEMENT MINDSET. I AM HERE TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN BRING LIGHT INSTEAD OF SHADOWS INTO MY LIFE. ANYONE WHO IS SEARCHING FOR THE SAME I AM OPEN TO CONVERSATION.

Up until a few years ago I was desperately looking for a girlfriend, because I never had one before and I felt like I needed one to make my life complete. I was very dissappointed, because I had been "the good guy" for all my life. Good education, good job, friendly, ... And I watched so many disrespectful mean guys with beautiful girls, while I was still alone. This doesn't make any sense to me - even to this day. But this time of my life taught me the high value of a healthy relationship. It is really hard to find and worth fighting for. Then I stopped looking, I put the remaining energy into caring about myself. I did what I like to do with other people (in this case console gaming) and I got to know a woman who became the best girlfriend I could ever wish for. And it was a totally different way of getting to know someone. When online dating, I picked people by location, by age and by looks. But when gaming I just picked good teammates, who are fun to play with. This way I found a girlfriend who shares my hobby and who is fun to make mistakes with. In the end, I think the hard time before was necessary to prepare myself for this moment. Many other people throw relationships away like old bread, but not me.

Hi I am nigam I always welcome new people I like to talk to them I am a good listener. I am always curious about the moments which make the people think that yes it was a miracle that can't be happen but it does really happen. I am a destiny lover I believe half is what we makes our life and the other half depends on destiny. so here I want to ask your story of miracles (the moment you never think about and it surprises you) welcome you all what's your story?

First from real life, after fail find in city community, and if than you also fail than try online. Or best is to make an animal friend.