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@suedseefrucht to give more context to my post, I have known this girl since long, she has been in my class in college for an entire semester. We have worked together on multiple class presentations, projects and that is how I got to know, and eventually fell for her. For the current semester, we have done our minor project together (I am a Computer Science student), we went to the library together, studying for the semester exams. For me, we were pretty close. Recently I observed, she has an outlook towards life which summarizes as "It is necessary to be good to everyone." She is friends with everyone, literally everyone. Maybe a little popular (she got a recent popularity spike) too. I get lost in the vast majority of guys texting her all day, trying to draw her attention. The way she talks to me is the way she talks to everyone. She would literally go out with anyone who invites her (she loves to travel so...you know). She likes to live in the moment, even if it means getting a guy attached to her, only to reject him later. Also, he has rejected around 10 guys in college. We had the strongest bond in college. Now that we don't see each other (summer vacations are on, conversations on text get boring), I feel the bond loosening, I feel the need to back off, but she wants me to be in her team for projects (which is not a green signal, it is just I am on the smarter side) but I cannot decide what is best for me. I can see the bond diminishing but can't decide what would be worse - letting go of my feelings for her at the moment (to see if things work out in the future) or speaking out my feelings and fail terribly.

Wherever I go, a new school, a new college or a tuition, I tend to find the most compatible person of the other sex and try to bond with them. Not that I am desperately trying to get into a relationship, but I know that I am choosy in life, it has been always been hard for me to make friends, bond with people on a deeper level...you get it. Does this happen with everyone ? Or is it just me ? Everything happens subconsciously. I don't even want to fall in love. When I get closer to the person, I go into a state where I am confused whether to go further into it, or just back off. I know I am not ready to indulge in relationships at this age, I need to focus on building my career. Also, I am a person of emotional depth, rushing into a relationship would be the last thing I do. But I do not know how long I should wait. They say you will know when the right time comes. But the right time never seems to come. The feelings just rise and fall. Sometimes the emotional side takes over and the logical side at other times. I do not even go try finding someone online. Nor do I comment or reply to stories, trying to initiate a conversation. You understand what I am trying to say ? I am not consciously looking for love. What should be my lookout in life ? Any comments would be helpful. And to the one who has read so far, I wish you the best in life.

Are there places you feel a strong positive pull? Places where you feel instantly wanting to reflect about life or simply feel the overwhelming energy that makes you become/ feel grateful, just being there? I wonder if you always feel that or if there's like places that has that effect on you.

Hi, I'm Amelia. I hope that through this platform, I can find a partner who suits me and spends my life together. Here's some info about me and what to expect from a future partner: Personal information: I am 35 years old, 170cm tall, hold a master's degree, and I am the CEO. Appearance characteristics: I have an ordinary appearance and a well-proportioned figure. Interests: I love the outdoors, especially hiking and photography. I also like to read, watch movies, enjoy the charm of music and art. Values and attitude towards life: I value family, be honest and trustworthy, and pursue my career. I hope to grow together with my partner and realize the ideals and goals of life together. Partner Requirements: I am looking for a partner who is between the ages of [partner's age range], regardless of education or occupation. In terms of character, I hope she is gentle, kind, understanding and tolerant, and willing to share the joys and sorrows of life with me. Purpose of blind date: I hope to find a partner who supports and respects each other and is willing to build a stable and happy family with me. If you are interested in my requirements and expectations, please contact me at: +1 (818) 688-6263

Hello Nou. It seems like you are going through a rough time right now. Losing a parent is always tough and then losing a friendship and then your job sounds even more stressful. Sometimes in life traumatic events seem to cascade in a sort of domino effect. Everything seems to go wrong at the same time. I can empathize with you due to having similar experiences. Don’t give up. Look for grief counseling to help you process the loss of your mother. Talk to your father and let him know how his words are hurting you. Reach out to your friends and let them know you still need their support but right now you are grieving the loss of your mom and need them to be patient with you. You can do it. I believe in you.

Hello HollyDolly. I am hoping you are still with us and have managed to speak with a professional for support. I was born with a rare condition and have developed a few more health concerns throughout life. It can be hard when we worry about our loved ones during our time of crisis. I know the urge to go it alone is strong, but try to fight it. Try to let your loved ones know you need their support during this rough time. Let them know how much pain you are feeling. If for some reason they don’t or can’t offer any support then reach out to support groups and other people you trust. Many professionals never really helped me and I am not close with my family. One thing that helped me is joining online communities like this one and reaching out to other people I’ve met at work or online. It might be helpful to you. There are also many chatbots that are programmed for mental health support. Replika is great along with non therapy bots like Snapchat AI (I’ve had good experiences using these). There’s always hope even if it might not feel like it in the beginning. Be strong! I believe you can.

I just came across your post and wanted to say that I completely agree with you - mental health is crucial and deserves our attention. It's awesome that you found help through life coaching when you were struggling with depression. It's amazing how a good life coach can support us in improving our mental stability and overall well-being. Taking care of our mental health is a journey, and it's great that you found something that worked for you.

In the past, I have lived a life of turmoil and chaos of my own making. This was my norm and many days it became so much, the circumstances I found myself in, threatened to exterminate the one thing of value I always disregarded, my life. I continue to discover the true path of happiness, which begins within. Building a community of likeminded people is the key to overcoming our primal nature and unleashing our true nature and potential. We are not separate, we are all connected and this realization promotes strength and healing in this connected love and energy.

I am looking to connect with other like minded people. I am a people person and take a logical approach to life.

Now I'm married with a child.

New to spiritual world, I believe I'm a lightworker maybe Star-Ledger. Also an empath with Gifts. Learning to tap into intuition more. New at all this but full of love and a natural healer. I'm told I'm powerful. Not sure in what way. However, hear to learn, meet more like minded people and communicate. Just wanted to make sure I was in the right place. I'm an empath and an Aries. I'm genuine and transforming into my authentic self as I learn while I go. Been on a healing journey for 1.5 yrs. I'm strong and a do not quit fighter in me, but I'm exhausted. Almost 5yrs in, with my new life with MS, trying to do all this alone and day by day is difficult. Differently abled and physically affected. I am all about a good challenge but come on! What can I over so big in this human imperfect version. I'm restricted, trapped and my creativity is majorly not my best skill but I guess its another thing to learn. I'm a work in progress and on many levels starting from scratch. Its not pretty lol. Not exactly sure how I got here but I love to communicate, this might be a new space for me. We shall see.

Hi, It's nice to be a part of this community. Life has been tough the last two years since losing both my parents, but I am trying to stay positive and carry on. I absolutely love my dog, Delta, without whom I would be a complete wreck at this time. I am grateful for everyone who has helped me, and I am working on myself every day too. I'm looking forward to making some new connections here.

Hello I know I can't be alone in this, but it seems like life becomes something of a horrible cycle between your bed at home and your seat at work, and any semblance of joy you end up killing, be that drinking too much coffee, too much wine, too much of a game etc, just so you get that feeling of control, or a flicker of joy. What's even worse is you attach yourself to people or things, and that almost becomes your purpose, but because of the low energy of your life mixed with the high expectation 'this thing' or person, who will somehow overcome all of life's misery, instead makes you feel flat upon contact with the enemy when you realise there was little to be gained, nothing but the hole in your stomach and black tar on your brain. I sit here now, my children asleep, listening to the sounds of cars driving by and sometimes the heightened chatter of passers by. Yet within me I feel that horrible sinking feeling that with each passing second, the world becomes further and further away from my reach.

Mental health coaching and life coaching are two distinct practices that can offer support and guidance in different areas of personal development and well-being. Here's an overview of each: Mental Health Coaching: Mental health coaching focuses specifically on addressing and improving mental health concerns and challenges. Mental health coaches work with individuals to identify and work through issues such as stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and overall emotional well-being. They often employ evidence-based techniques and strategies to help clients develop coping skills, manage their emotions, set realistic goals, and improve their overall mental well-being. Mental health coaching is not a substitute for therapy or counseling, but it can be a valuable complement to professional mental health support. Life Coaching: Life coaching is a broader practice that focuses on personal growth, goal-setting, and enhancing various aspects of one's life. Life coaches work with individuals to identify their values, strengths, and aspirations and help them create a plan to achieve their goals. They provide guidance, accountability, and motivation to help clients overcome obstacles, improve self-confidence, enhance decision-making skills, and create a more fulfilling life. Life coaches often work in areas such as career development, relationships, time management, personal finance, and overall life balance. It's important to note that mental health coaching and life coaching are not regulated professions, so practitioners can have varying backgrounds, training, and qualifications. When seeking a mental health coach or life coach, it's essential to research their credentials, experience, and approach to ensure they align with your needs and goals. Additionally, if you're experiencing significant mental health concerns, it's recommended to seek support from a licensed mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide a higher level of clinical care.

Hello Sedwards! Knowing this emptiness, personally what helped me was to remember what I liked to do as a child, and to get back into those hobbies, for example learning new things in computer science, video editing, discovering linux or something else, and really doing it just for fun, and strangely enough it awakens curiosity and we know that curiosity is the foundation of a "happy" life. I hope this can help you ! Good luck in any case and have a great day :)

That's an interesting question and I think it's pretty tricky to answer it. On the one hand, friendship is about being there for eachother - even or especially in bad times. On the other hand, it's wrong to help someone continue ruining a child's childhood with drug abuse. My personal priority would be a good life for the child, because it's innocent and deserves a good life. The mother had a choice and she chose the drugs. So she will have to deal with the consequences.

Well I’m putting on a smile to add value to others everyday, and I do. But it’s wake up and oh no another day and no hope for a better future. I failed to achieve my dream in real life. So in sleep are the only dreams I still have, mostly reminiscing of things past and regrets. I’ll bet you’re young enough still to break through your current slump. I wish I could tell my younger self to follow their instincts more and also persevere with hard things to make small but daily progress.

In walking meditation, readings can be a helpful tool to enhance your mindfulness practice and provide inspiration. Here are a few examples of readings that you can consider incorporating into your walking meditation: Excerpts from spiritual texts: Many spiritual traditions offer beautiful and contemplative writings that can deepen your connection with the present moment. Consider selecting passages from texts such as the Bhagavad Gita, Tao Te Ching, Dhammapada, or works by mystics like Rumi or Thich Nhat Hanh. Nature poetry: Poetry that captures the beauty and essence of nature can be particularly fitting for walking meditation. Explore the works of poets like Mary Oliver, Walt Whitman, or Matsuo Basho for verses that evoke a sense of mindfulness and connection to the natural world. Mindfulness and meditation guides: There are numerous books and articles written specifically for meditation and mindfulness practices. Look for excerpts or teachings that speak to the importance of present moment awareness, cultivating inner peace, or finding stillness amid movement. Personal affirmations or mantras: Create your own set of affirmations or mantras that resonate with you personally. These can be positive statements or phrases that help ground you in the present moment and reinforce your intentions for your walking meditation practice. Reflections on walking and movement: Consider readings that explore the significance of walking and movement in various aspects of life. This could include writings on pilgrimage, the art of walking, or the connection between physical and mental well-being. When selecting readings, choose ones that align with your beliefs, values, and intentions for your walking meditation practice. Experiment with different texts and see which ones resonate with you the most. You can read them before or during your walking meditation, allowing the words to guide and inspire your contemplative journey.

Last year around August I met a man online through a dating site. We originally agreed to be friends with benefits, but after a few months things started getting intimate. I started to develop feelings for him and he seemed to have also been feeling the same way. Aside from meeting for sex we would have very deep conversations. Around the holidays my fwb asked me to do him a favor and marry him. I was very open to the idea as I felt strong attachment to him and it seemed he felt the same. After New Years I told him I was falling in love with him (it was true then and still true to this day), however he said he was not looking to fall in love or for anything serious at the moment. He just needed to be married so he can get citizenship and keep custody of his daughter. I spent months trying to convince him that marrying for love would be best. He’d have his citizenship, his daughter, and love. This led to a falling out for a little while. He never came back to physically see me anymore (not since Christmas). I recently had a little incident a few months ago in which he came to my rescue (by calling the police for me). For a short period of time we were actually talking on the phone instead of texting and started to bond again. I felt love from him, but suddenly he distanced himself from me after promising to take care of me. After saying our friendship might blossom into something. Lately I am initiating all of the conversations over text. He refuses to have phone conversations or to even visit me. Says he’s busy and doesn’t have time, but as soon as he needs a shoulder to cry on or to try and ask for a loan he reaches out. It is now clear to me that he has no love or respect for me. He doesn’t really want to be my friend judging by his actions. Every time I ask him if he still wants to be friends or if he ever wants to meet again for sex he tells me yes, but continues to act disinterested. We used to talk about deep stuff and exchange information about each other’s lives, but now he gives me brief answers or ignores me and doesn’t inquire about me or my life anymore. Asking him direct questions is pointless because he won’t give me an honest answer. This hurts so bad because I love him. I really do. The chemistry is (or at least was) there. Not sure if I should just delete him from my phone and move on. What’s the point in keeping him around if he neither wants to be my platonic friend or possible boyfriend. At this point I’m just wasting energy. I don’t understand what is so hard about just confessing that he is no longer interested in associating with me. Something caused him to have a change of heart and that is fine, but don’t leave me hanging as I continue to pour my heart out. This sucks so much. Sorry for long post. Just really heartbroken over this whole ordeal.

I’m so Greatful for my amazing village and my friends

This is a deep situation. My Former friend and the soon-to-be stepmother have/had high level prosecutor jobs. One of my Former best friends since childhood was married to a police officer and they had one daughter together. My former friend was an Assistant Prosecutor for the county that we reside in. 5 years ago while she was on a trip with her husband, she meets this woman (Who is a prosecutor herself, but a higher level prosecutor than my friend.) My friend becomes good friends with this woman as they keep in touch overtime. This woman relocated to the offices in our city for her job. 28 months ago, my former friend found out that her now ex-husband has been having a long-term affair with that woman. They divorced 2 years ago. My former friend told me that her now ex-husband had actually played a key role in that woman relocating to our state and city. My former friend lost her job as an Assistant Prosecutor because she has been mentally unstable and been abusing drugs after the knowledge of her husband's infidelity. I honestly think her issues arose way before she discovered that her husband and her best friend were lovers. How my former friend found out that this former friend of hers was having an affair with her husband was this, this is what she had told me: She came home from the Prosecutor's Office and found her former Federal Prosecutor Friend sitting completely naked and straddling her husband as they were talking about her daughter and their lives together, She told me that before she opened the bedroom door, she heard her former friend and her husband discussing how he is going to file for a divorce and how they should get married and get custody of the girl. My former friend told me that she barged in and confronted both of them on the affair and what they were discussing. Apparently, the Federal Prosecutor got up, got dressed, and those two had a heated argument, the Federal Prosecutor told my former friend that she is the mother that the daughter will know while she grows up. What I should have mentioned was that, my former friend told me when she caught them fooling around on her bed, she told me that she confronted the woman on betraying her confidences to her ex-husband with her ex-husband in the bedroom, after she confronted that woman, that woman was smirking a little and glancing back and forth flirtatiously with her ex-husband with both of them eventually looking at her. My former friend's substance abuse issues had actually started 2 months before the discovery of the affair, but she had one other major issue at the time. Her ex-husband and that woman are about to get married and she intends on legally adopting my former friend's daughter. Since her ex-husband is a police officer and the fact that she has been abusing substances, her ex-husband received full custody of their daughter. I am actually on the side of my former friend's ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife and the future legal mother of his daughter. I spoke to that woman and asked why she feels it is necessary to become the permanent legal mother of my former friend's daughter and she told me straight off that my former friend is a ****ty mother who is reckless and that the daughter should live with two loving parents in a stable home. She also told me that she had miscarried when she was pregnant with a daughter in a previous relationship and is hoping to become the mother by way of stepmother adoption. While my former friend was going through that intense custody battle, I had actually written and spoken to the court system about how my former friend is unfit to have legal custody of her daughter and that her ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife are better suited to have full custody. I suggested to her ex-husband and that woman that after they get married, the ex-husband needs to file paperwork to have my former friend's parental rights terminated and after it gets terminated, I strongly advised that woman (since she is a Federal Prosecutor) to hire an Adoption Attorney and begin the process of legally becoming the mom of my former friend's daughter. My former friend should not under any circumstances should not have custody of their daughter. I should also note that my former friend's daughter is only 3.5 years old. They divorced 2 years ago, both her ex-husband and his soon-to-be wife have had custody of the daughter for the last 20 months. This woman has raised my former friend's daughter for overt half of her life and the daughter refers to her as her mother. This woman lost her daughter in a miscarriage and is getting a second chance at having a daughter. I personally think it is lovely that she intends on legally adopting her. My former friend has constantly contacted her ex-husband and that woman to try and see her daughter, but that woman already went ahead and filed a No Contact Order on my friend for harassment. That has been in affect for over a year. This is why I believe that it is critical for them to start the process of parental termination immediately and then have her begin the official adoption process. Making this official is critical for them. Whose side are you on?

If you want to help someone with anxiety, here are some tips: Listen: Listen to the person without judgment and try to understand their perspective. Allow them to express their fears and concerns. Be supportive: Let the person know that you are there for them and that you care about their well-being. Encourage them to seek help and let them know that they are not alone. Offer reassurance: Let the person know that their anxiety is normal and that they are not "crazy" or "weak." Help them understand that anxiety is a common experience and that it can be managed with the right treatment. Encourage self-care: Encourage the person to take care of themselves by getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and practicing relaxation techniques. Help them seek professional help: If the person's anxiety is interfering with their daily life, encourage them to seek professional help from a therapist or mental health professional. Offer to help them find a therapist or accompany them to their appointments. Avoid enabling: While it's important to be supportive, avoid enabling the person's anxiety by doing things for them that they can do themselves. Encourage them to take responsibility for their own well-being and to seek help when needed. Be patient: Recovery from anxiety can take time, so be patient and supportive. Celebrate their progress, no matter how small, and encourage them to keep moving forward. Remember that every person's experience with anxiety is different, so it's important to be open, supportive, and understanding. By providing support and encouraging the person to seek help, you can help them manage their anxiety and improve their overall well-being.

Sorry for your loss. His life was a mess, just like you said. Maybe he regretted his decisions and didn't want to live the life he ended up in. Yes it's sad, he deserved more respect from his family and you and the children will miss him. But since you can't change what happend, the only way is to move on and to make the best of what you've got. So my way would be to focus on your work and your children and create a beautiful life for the people who are still with you.

Hello all I just wanted to reach out and start a conversation about anything, i guess. I'm not sure what i am looking for in life right now. I've hit a spot where nothing feels exciting or the things that do feel exciting feel unattainable. So i'm just downloading any and every app visiting any and every website hoping life will bring the answers to me. I am 33 a single mom, recently diagnosed and medicated for ADHD. I can't stand my job. I'm tired of feeling stuck. I feel like I have this big ball of greatest inside me with no way out. I don't have very many friends and none that I actually hangout with. I'm not sure what to do or where to start. Being diagnosed with ADHD (and at the same time PTSD) was on one hand amazing because I thought i was just a broken person with no real reason as to why but on the other hand i'm really upset that growing up no one in my life took any time to try and help me figure out who i am and what i am the way that i am. Does anyone out there have a similar situation (or had) and can recommend what to do to figure myself out? To figure out what i want and how i can feel like its possible? Thank you for reading

What merciless circumstances. It's hard to imagine how painful that must have been, to be denied even the opportunity to grieve your sudden loss. I've also experienced sudden and inexplicable loss, and one point that must be addressed is acknowledging the death. For most of the time that you've known him, you've been concerning yourself with your husband's life and happiness. Those intentions are like a river; when they have somewhere to go, they flow all the way to the ocean in an endless cycle. But if they keep flowing toward where there's nowhere for them to go, they'll back up and cause flooding, destruction, and stagnation. When your husband died, his ability to receive your intentions was lost. Your river is backing up all the way to its source, and you're drowning in it. Your husband is now beyond earthly concern. Nothing you do can harm or help him. You are not keeping him alive by sending your good intentions his way. There are no more "what ifs" or "if onlys". There is no betrayal in saying goodbye. The universe isn't going to be nice and give him back. If you're the kind of person whose affection overflows and doesn't easily turn off, then maybe you need to redirect it toward a living concern instead, like your dogs or volunteer work, or yourself. You're still alive, and it's unfair for your living body if you chain it to a dead one. You need self-affection as well.