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Being single is not stressful when you have first found yourself and you are committed to being the best version of it..... you will inturn naturally attract necessary advantageous relationships to your life. Being whole comes from the intrapersonal relationship you have with yourself.... it is from that wholeness you that you can actually become valuable to people around you or people you are attracted to or they being attracted to you.

Hi all, thanks for your support. A quick update on my journey as a meditation beginner. I started guided meditation using creative visualisation and manifesting techniques and the result is scary. I wasn't expecting instant results and I am manifesting new abundance in my life, health, work, business, home, relationships, friendships and finances. I am using some free audio resources at Guided Meditation & Hypnosis. Anyone can manifest their own abundance through meditation using the creative visualisation and manifesting methods. Happy manifesting guys and please update the group about what good you manifested.

Hi! I need help. Im writing in this forum because im draining in despair. I have recently, some months back, had my initiation towards my spiritual awakening. I have been working very hard to love myself because no one has done it properly in my close circle during my whole life. I have been reading a lot, working out and spending time in nature, learning how to say sorry to the ones I’ve hurt, controlling my ego instead of it controlling me, it has really helped and made me improve. The problem of this comes within my personal relationships. I started my awakening noticing things about me that where pretty toxic and I had to change, I eventually did and work with all my heart on that every day all day. However, then I started noticing how the people around me where completely toxic as well, the people within my family I mean: my sister, step-dad, mom, VERY close people to me, with the witch I have to live everyday because I’m still a minor. I eventually noticed that all these narcissistic, manipulative and negative traits are all around my environment: noticing it between my pears at school, how they are many of them obsessed with control of others and maintaining a clean image (its a super small private school with high societal position teens). I noticed that the friendship I had with my best friend was just for her a way of gaining control, power and feeling well with herself. I’m exposing all this initially because my hope in society is dispersing away, and it’s starting to scare me a bit, still being conscious that I can’t loose hope because of my environment, I know there must be somewhere people from out of it that are different, I hope and they must, I expect it. However, I’m still very confused. I don’t know what to do. I’m really working hard everyday to be a better person and to love myself for the first time, but it seems like the people around me don’t manage to understand it. It has gotten to a point where I see the intentions in everyone as soon as they walk up to me, it has given very harsh anxiety problems, and it made me isolate in the bathrooms or classes to avoid having to perceive that negativity, and seeing no one on week ends. I would usually, like everyone I guess, just put some distances and boundaries with toxic people, with the ones I could I did indeed. But, what about the people I HAVE to be with because of the laws that our society has implied towards the minor? I can’t escape my family, not until I am 18 at least. I have tried everything, I have learned how to be alone, to meet my true self and passions in life, to be able not to have dependency on my relation with others (I had huge issues with that, it really gave me a huge anxiety and panic attacks). Now I can be alone, in fact it has become a problem because I prefer that than being with people. Still sometimes, during this isolation process that I am taking, everyday almost, an injection into my hurt heart of that feeling of CRAVING human socialization comes to me; of wanting to love others and transmit all the love that my soul knows holds onto them. As Aristotle said, and with complete certainty, after all we are social animals, and I am as well. So this is my doubt as a whole? I have that feeling of craving contact in my soul, but each time I try, in this environment that I live in, they pull me and my self improvement process one step back: they make me fall back onto the hole of toxicity. And the hole that I fall back in is not the one that is transmitted onto our physical realm, but since I practice mindfulness a lot and take a lot of care with my words and actions towards others, they instead pull me into the deep hole of my own head. That constantly craves human touch, but knows that the people around me are not going to influence me in a positive way. I’m desperate and need someone to talk about this, I practice a lot the stoic tendency of not sharing my worries with others, since they already have enough with the relation they have with their selfs and their problems, and thus this has led me to literally feeling like I’m going crazy. I don’t know if maybe it’s me who is doing the things wrongly, I don’t try to change people, I just want to surround myself with people that share that same effort everyday of self improvement. However my head always tortures me onto thinking I might be loosing my papers, and treating the people that “love” me badly (I will use the braces because I haven’t felt real love in my life, again of course I’m not discarding this might because of my fault). So please, I really appreciate if someone has read this entirely, now, I really need some advice. Please if it’s me, I need to know what in me needs to change, if not, what can I do with those toxic people that I can’t set boundaries with. I don’t think I can be this isolated from society much more, I need help.

@BeingBre hi, you seem like a wonderful, compassionate soul that has enough light to keep shining within yourself-nourishing your soul, while also shining your bright light on your partner to help guide her out of isolating and bringing her back to her self, her self-love, her gratitude and appreciation for your thoughtfulness as she sees your consistency and unwavering choice to be her partner in this and you two can grow much stronger as individuals and as partners. All relationships take effort and making the choice to keep showing up through the hard stuff as well as enjoying the easier, lighter times when we feel more connected. But it’s getting through the hard stuff together that makes our relationships so much stronger for it. Anyone can be there just for the easy parts, but when you really care, and I see you do, a real relationship blossoms from being there through everything. And the more she sees your consistent, unwavering loving kindness to her-the more you will draw her best self back out and her gratitude and appreciation will be abundant. Because she’s introverted apart from depression, you can ask her how can I help you? You can tell her you are not sure when she genuinely needs some time to herself to rest and replenish because she’s so exhausted to the bone, and ask her to help you know the difference and how you can help her feel connected to you. Sometimes if the depression is bad, she just might not be able to find the words or she might subconsciously pull back with wrong guilty feelings of being a burden to you, I’ve experienced both of those myself. Things got so much better for my husband and I when he finally stopped showing resentment for me and saying hurtful things that rightfully made me feel like a burden. And none of us want to feel like that. When my husband gave up on me, when my friends gave up on me, I gave up on myself and there was nowhere good for me to go from there. But, when they learned what my illness really is and what it is not, and showed up and showed up with so much love and friendship, it gave me wings to fight my illness and its symptoms harder and harder and never stop fighting to live my best life and work past it all to nurture my relationships with those few that I saw were Really there for me. I know it’s tough, but do not take any of it personally- remember it’s an illness, not her fault and some things with this illness are always going to be out of our control. Also, she may not understand a lot of what’s going on with her. I didn’t with myself for so many years and that in itself is scary. I have faith in your strength, you seem a lot more emotionally intelligent than my dear husband. And as you both learn more about how depression affects her, what triggers it, what generates Seratonin-the good feels and joy and also calm for her-the more knowledge that is had and communicated, the less doubt you will have and less fear of the unknown, plus the more faith you will have in your future together. Having friends and family to support in the ways they can is wonderful, but no one really gets it unless they have gone through it themselves- so I am always still here as a friend to help you or both of you with all that I have learned and all of the tools that I keep in my daily practice, plus the mental strength and resilience that I did not have before but I cultivated. You can even inbox me any time.

Is anyone else here an empath or highly sensitive individual? I am and am curious how you deal with this gift ? Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? Should You Change? A sensitive person's brain is different: Research points to some advantages. But what does highly sensitive really mean? Is "Highly Sensitive Person" a scientific term? As it turns out, there is research on this innate trait of high sensitivity. The scientific term is “Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS). Highly sensitive people are born that way; it is not something they learned. As children, they might be described by teachers as shy or inhibited, especially in Western countries. As adults, they might be described as introverts. It is important to note that not all sensitive people are shy or introverts. In fact, 30 percent of HSPs are thought to be extroverts. HSP scales for adults and childrenhave been developed and used in research (1). A commonly used scale contains 27 diverse but strongly interrelated items. An HSP ... has a rich and complex inner life is deeply moved by the arts and music gets easily overwhelmed has difficulty performing a task when being observed easily startles is sensitive to pain, and hunger is attuned to inner bodily sensations readily notices sensory changes Researchers linked this trait to positive qualities but also to mental illnesses It is not surprising that this trait is found in artists, poets and is linked to giftedness, creativity and empathy, At the same time, an HSP is at a higher risk of depression and other mental illnesses. They are also at a higher risk of burnout because they get easily overwhelmed. This is why it is critical to know if you are an HSP, so you can seek out relationships and environments that make you shine (see the last section). The brain of an HSP is different There are biological reasons for all the components of this trait. An HSP’s brain is wired differently and the nervous system is highly sensitive with a lower threshold for action (2). This hyper-excitability contributes to increased emotional reactivity, a lower threshold for sensory information (e.g. bothered by noise, or too much light), and increased awareness of subtleties (e.g. quick to notice odors). There are also changes at the macro brain level. The areas associated with this trait greatly overlap with the brain areas that support empathy! Also, they have a hyperactive Ursula which explains their heightened awareness of their inner emotional states and bodily sensations. This hyperactivity explains their sensitivity to pain, hunger, and caffeine. There is also some recent evidence that this trait is related to the infamous 5-HTLPR gene (serotonin gene), implicated in many psychological conditions, such as depression (3). How to make the most of your high sensitivity Reduce the number of intense stimuli in your environment. Limit the number of tasks when multi-tasking. Avoid burnout by noticing early warning signs, such as feeling overwhelmed and anxious. Get your thoughts and deep emotions on paper so that they won’t cloud your brain. Try mindfulness meditation especially to deal with high sensitivity to pain. This will teach you to acknowledge pain as the sum of sensations suspended from the label of pain. Take advantage of your creativity: Draw, color or write. Take advantage of your predisposition for higher empathy to strengthen relationships—to become a better co-worker, and to assure your self worth. Be comfortable in your sensitive skin. Own it and never be ashamed of it. Be honest about your predisposition to be an HSP, especially in close relationships. But don't forget to highlight the positive aspects: more empathy, deep thinker, able to see things from a different perspective, appreciation of arts and music, and others' positive qualities.

Hi everyone, I'm in the process of writing a thesis and would appreciate anyone that can answer some questions for me. Please find them listed below, and thank you in advance! How long have you been meditating? - Less than 1 year - 1 – 2 years - 3 – 5 years - 5 – 10 years - 10 + years How long do you meditate per day? - 5 – 10 minutes - 15 – 20 minutes - 25 – 30 minutes - 45 + minutes What made you start meditating? - Depression or anxiety - Self-help or self-improvement books/podcasts - Wanting to reduce stress - Physical health concerns - Religious associations - Spiritual associations - Family member or friend suggestion - Psychologist or social worker recommendation - Family doctor recommendation What are some changes you’ve noticed since starting meditating? - Decreased anxiety - Decreased depression - Improved focus - Improved creativity - Improved self-worth/self-esteem - Improved relationships - Improved memory retention - Increased energy - Ability to handle stress - Increased emotional intelligence - Increased mindfulness - Mood improvement/stability - Sleep improvement - Increased spiritual connection What’s your preferred method of meditation? - Mindfulness - Walking - Mantra - Guided - TM - Journaling How would you rate your mental health since meditating out of 10? - 1 – 3 (bad) - 4 – 5 (not good) - 6 – 7 (good) - 8 – 9 (very good) - 10 + (excellent) Do you think meditation can improve mental health? - Yes - No

Hi everyone, I'm kind of a hobby philosopher thinking a lot about life, love, happiness, relationships, ... I'm a logically thinking Bachelor of Engineering and I'm fascinated by how irrational things can be/appear. I always wanted to do things the right/perfect way until I noticed it can be a lot of fun to make mistakes with the right person.

Welcome, I have a question. I think, everyone should live the way he/she likes and this is not meant to be criticism. I'm just curious, how some kinds of relationships work, which I didn't experience myself. Is polyamorism experienced positive by all the partners involved? As an outsider, I would think, 1 partner will always suffer from it. Like the one who is not your fiance, because he is not part of the engagement. I have the same question about an open relationship. Some people think it's very good, because it's not restrictive, but personally I can not imagine that nobody will suffer from it.

Over the last week, I've been introduced to some extraordinary tools that have been absolutely vital in my own personal pursuit and I'd like to share these tools with you. What does happiness truly look like? For myself, I am happy in improving my life at the moment. That has been my main focus right now. I'm still struggling to define what sorts of actions make me happy, but for now, diving into my psychology and doing the things necessary to improve myself, brings me happiness. For example, I'm just now getting into a program that is going ot help me pay back my college loans that are currently in default. The whole program will take 9 months to get me out of default status and a further 2 years to eliminate my owed debt entirely. I often find myself being impatient with this, however. 9 months is a long time and I really want to get back into school, I'm looking to take up welding as a profession. Enter the first tool I've recently learned Patience. A lot of the things that bother me are not in my control at this moment and that's ok. The general idea is to try to moderate your emotional investment. The hardest part of every journey is the very beginning and often times we tend to quit just before hitting the knee of the growth curve. This is because we emotionally exhaust ourselves and by the time we are just a few days, a few weeks maybe, away from that knee of the curve, that we just simply are drained completely and just quit. But had we taken the time to apply the principles of patience, the return would vastly outweigh the initial investment. So if you are struggling with this area like I do. Try asking yourself these 3 questions, apply them to your own specific circumstances. 1. What does a lazy approach look like in this endeavor? Could be school, a relationship, work, self actualization, maybe you're depressed and anxious and you're just wanting those results. So ask yourself, what a lazy approach would look like. To be lazy would be to do nothing, right? You're not putting in the effort, you're not doing the work etc. 2. What does an impatient approach look like in this endeavor? We all get impatient. It's only natural. We want results and we want them now. But that is a double edged sword. You can end up causing more harm than good. Maybe you're trying to take on ALL the tasks, maybe you're trying to cramp ALL the information, trying to do ALL the work. But you have to allow yourself to moderate how you invest your energy. Take the time to do each step, apply each step, learn each step etc. 80-90% of the emotional labor of any endeavor is going to be in those beginning phases and you're not going to see much growth. You'll see tiny bits of growth here and there. You gotta learn to appreciate those tiny growths and stop looking at the end result as an ends to a means. 3. What does a wise approach look like in this endeavor? So exactly what does this mean? How do we know what a wise approach is? It's actually pretty simple. A wise approach is giving yourself the time to grow, even when the growth doesn't seem to actually be there. Find it, appreciate it, enjoy it. Are you working towards that great relationship that's going to last the rest of your life? Are you writing a book that could change humanity? Are you starting your own business? Are you doing personal development? Any of these things and more are going to take time. It's going to take consistent effort on your part and your job is to try to make the best of the hardest parts of that journey. Ask yourself a few follow up questions. 1. Would this endeavor be worth it, if it took 4x as long as you initially planned? 2. Would this endeavor be worth it, if it took 100 to 1000 times the emotional investment as you planned? If you're working on something like meditation, mastering your emotions, chasing that wonderful relationship, starting your own business, writing a book etc. The answer to both of these questions should be yes. It is absolutely worth the investment because when it comes time to reap the rewards, it's going to be far surpassing anything you had conceived. If the answer is no, perhaps you're either not invested and maybe that project isn't for you, or perhaps it could be your own neurotic mindset, getting in your way. You have to be the judge on that. Moving forward there are 5 simple things that you need to stop allowing to influence your happiness. Just bear in mind, this works hand in hand with the previous tool. Results aren't going to be immediate and that's ok. 1. Your past We all have a past and it can sometimes be pretty murky at best. This includes things others have done to hurt you, things you've done to hurt others, things you've done to hurt yourself, bad choices and mistakes, all the things that made you who you are. You are not those things, you are you. So stop labeling yourself with the ghosts of the past. 2. Your relationships This could be friendships, relationships, family etc. This doesn't mean that any of these things were bad or are bad. Maybe you've had wonderful relations with pretty much everyone you know. It's still equally important to not base your happiness around those relationships. Relying on others to provide our happiness for us is a very clingy and neurotic way of living and chances are, it will ruin that relationship. 3. Your own limited beliefs Have you ever criticized yourself? Said "there's no way I can do that"? Having realistic expectations of what you expect from life is good, but when you begin to say you cannot because of past experience or because of some arbitrary limitation you put on yourself, it becomes an issue. Say for example, you're an introvert that wants to make friends. A stereotypical label that you might put on yourself is that it's not in your nature to make friends or that you can't have friends because of that introverted nature. Let go of that. Maybe you think you won't get that job because you view yourself as a failure. Maybe you feel like you won't get that job because you're not good enough. Maybe you feel like your business won't succeed because you're not a good leader. Whatever it is that you put on yourself. Maybe you think you can't succeed because of your physical appearance or your gender or your skin color. All of these are self defining labels that cause so much detriment in our lives. 4. Other people's opinions of you Just as equally as the way we label ourselves, if we allow others to tell us who we are or what we can be, it is that same detrimental outcome as if we had labeled ourselves, because we are in a sense. We accept the labels that other people put on us. The goal is to stop doing that. Even when they do so with good intentions. 5. Money We all know that money makes the world go round. But the illusive chase of just money is a cold and primal way of living often leaving a person to appear as cold and heartless. I'm not saying to just go and quit your job or that money is evil. What I'm saying is that money shouldn't be the ONLY motivator in your life. It's reasonable to want to be capable of sustaining yourself, a family, having the possessions you want and all that. Just don't be so focused on it that you lose sight of everything else. It's the easiest, fastest track to a toxic life. So that's it! Now the only objective left is to find what actually makes you happy. Go out and try new things, pick up a new hobby, give it 4 weeks. Be patient and approach it as though you want to enjoy it, because that is the purpose of this whole endeavor after all. Not everything is going to strike your fancy and that's ok, at least you tried and now you know.

Relationships based on a friendship are great. Pursuing hobbies is a great way to find friends.

It will hurt for a while but over time you will heal. Life doesn't give us losses only lessons. After the healing, the lessons learned will present themselves. The hardest part will be to not let this situation affect future relationships.

Totally agree that it's important to set boundaries with your friendships and relationships! And it's also totally okay to tell a friend if you are not in the right headspace or mentally capable to deal with their unloading. We all have good days and bad, and if it starts to affect your mental health or your wellbeing you should be able to be honest about that too.

As we change, our relationships and friendships change. A friendship that was satisfying for a long time can change into one we are no longer comfortable with. When a friendship is one-sided, we might even feel used, unseen, and manipulated. I think you already answered by mentioning healthy boundaries. We need to be honest with ourselves and others and set these boundaries for the sake of our friendship, ourselves, and also our friends. Who, if not our close friends, deserve our honest feedback.

Hello, welcome to Happiness.com I can't wait to read all what you will share here about your experience and view of life, love, relationships and happiness. I hope you're not Mr. Prefect but like you said a little bit of mistakes here or there is always fun... And you get the chance to make it prefect.

Not an easy one. Toxic relationships ruin everything. The first step is recognizing when a relationship is toxic and that you've accomplished. Here have some ideas on how to proceed. Then, the hardest: dealing with them. I had some toxic coworkers at my previous job, and I decided to take action. I stopped taking things too personally, avoided gossip, and prioritized what was essential for me to at work.

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Hello everyone, Today I'm going to share my personal experience of getting over a Breakup💔 I think many of you might be going through the similar processes in your life and you might find it helpful. So, my relationship started and was going very good. The relationship lasted for 2 and half years. I was so sure that he is THE ONE! He was emotionally available, very caring, in short, the MAN OF MY DREAM! I was ver certain that I was going to marry him, as he committed at the very start of the relationship. But then, he moved to another city. We both knew that this was going to happen, and Long Distance Relationships are difficult. But still, we promised to hold on to each other no matter what! But when he actually moved to another city, I noticed change in this behaviour. But I was trying to understand that, because he was in a new city, meeting new friends and exploring everything. But I used to be at home because of the Pandemic, waiting for his ONE REPLY! It was exausting for me, but I was still trying to understand. But after a few months, I told him that I feel ignored and he replied with "I don't know what to do". I asked this many times after that, but his reply was the same. And one day, he denied to reply to my 'I love you' message! That's when I knew that the relationship was about to end. But I still kept convincing myself until he stopped replying me. He used to be online all the time, but didn't reply me, or didn't even see my message. I was broken. I tried talking to my friends, but it didn't help. That's when I took help from ONLINE THERAPY. I was assigned a Qualified Therapist with messaging at any time and live sessions. They suggested me that it was the time to Stand up for myself! And I finally broke up with him. I was surprised that I didn't cry that day. I was actually feeling liberated. It's a very good feeling when you let go sometimes. But still, all my wounds were not healed. I took more help from ONLINE THERAPY. Used as there features like their Worksheets, Sections, Live Sessions, Messages, Journal, Yoga and Activity Plan. My counselor was very Sensitive, caring and able to understand my Problems. She suggested me that the only Love I needed that time, is my OWN LOVE! That's when I started the journey towards Self-Love. And I've never felt this Good before. I'm not exajurating it, but guys, Self-love can change your world completely! Self-love taught me to be compassionate about myself as well as to others. I'm very grateful that I had someone to speak to when I thought that No one could understand me! This is NOT a promotional post, and my own experience. I hope you all found this helpful. Also, don't forget to Love Yourself guys. And I really recommend you to checkout ONLINE THERAPY if you are going through any Mental Health Issue or Problems and more importantly, it's okay to Ask for Help when you need it, it will only benefit you 💕🤗

Hello (new here)! Here is my definition: Happiness is finding the beauty in everything. All the people and nature, God. And whimpering to yourself from the sheer enormity of the beauty you can sense in everything. It means that you could know the love that God put into all the bits and pieces of some kind of thing. Or you could see the beauty of someone and it means that you have overcome that negative thinking you did about them. You mend the breakd you have in relationships only to find peace. It means you worked on becoming a well-adjusted person in the world. Happiness is seeing the world different than all the people who do not want to participate. You love life and you LIVE. You do not take like for shame. And you do not take life for granted because you have to live like there is no tomorrow. There is no guarantee that there is a tomorrow. You love life. God let's you in that He loves you, and it brings together all the pieces. It shatters the thought you were only mildly good enough for anyone.

It sounds like you've realised you're not in the best place to date right now, and that is already a big step! Focus on yourself and your own personal growth and find the things in life that makes you happy. Sometimes you need to find yourself again after a breakup, and find your inner happiness again 🌻 It might also be useful to sit down and figure out what it is that attracts you to these guys who end up giving you negative energy. Sometimes we repeat a pattern in our relationships, and also in the type of person we date, and it can be helpful to try and get to the bottom of that. Sending you lots of positive energy! ✨

Hello everyone, I am Priyadarshini Bopardikar based in Pune, India. I am an electrical engineer by profession and now working as an IELTS Trainer with Ufaber Edutech Mumbai, India. Apart from that, I am a Holistic practitioner responsible for imparting distant healings for those suffering from Physical, Mental and relationships issues. I am also a handwriting analyst and recently a published author. I am glad to be a part of this group to serve, contribute and care.

Welcome to happiness Yassine 🪴 We're glad you joined our community and hope you find it a great place for conversations and learning. If you want to read more about inner peace, I'm attaching these articles that you might find interesting: https://www.happiness.com/magazine/relationships/finding-inner-peace/ https://www.happiness.com/magazine/science-psychology/inner-turmoil-conflict/

To be able to see things "as they are", one must be aware of "observer v/s observed" dilemma. The observer must not be part of "that which is being observed"... else observer's influence on "observed" will change the "observed"..... this would lead to distorted perception of reality. So the key for observer to be able to see things "as they are"..... the observer must be "detached" from the "observed". Once you are able to develop this ability, your observations would be truly 'objective' (not subjective).... that means what you see (understand) is how it is. The "observed" could be anything (thoughts, feelings, relationships, events etc). PS: If you are interested in diving deep on such topics please write to me at [email protected]

I just love the 3rd one. I always think relationships die sudden death when you start assuming and presuming things. What one wants should be expressed loud and clear at the start only

Hello to you all, I'm Stefanie Lehrter a systemic Coach und a Meditation Teacher from Cologne, Germany. I just found this Community and I really like it. One of my passions is to help people to achieve their goals and become more happy, more self-esteemed and more satisfied with everything they do. Another passion is to spread kindness in interactions and to show people that we can act like a team and don't have to feel like contrahents. So to me this community seems to be a perfect place to be. In my free time I like to do sports and go for long walks with my dog. Or do more relaxing and creative things like reading, writing, playing my Guitar or just try out new creative things. I'm always interested in new ways of sustainabilty in daily life, individual ways of becoming more happy, grow healthy und supportive Relationships in daily life and of course in Worklife. And, probably not surprising, I'm also interested in all the insights of scientific research relating to all of that. My English is not perfect (especially not the written part), so please be lenient with me if there are some misspellings or incorrect grammar. ;-) Oh and one more thing: I just wanna tell you right away that I am very busy at the moment, so I can't say how often I can participate in this Forum. Maybe an answer from me will take a little time, so please don't be upset if it does. For now have a great day everyone and enjoy all the happy moments that come along today! All the best Steffi

There is 3 main things I learned from past relationships: 1. I Everyone gives and receives loves in a different way. It is so helpful to know your own and your partner's love language to avoid misunderstandings and show appreciation. There are 5 different love languages: 1) Physical touch 2) Words of Affirmation 3) Gifts 4) Quality Time and 5) Acts of Services. 2. Boundaries are healthy! We need to feel happy and fulfilled to make our partner happy. Of course a healthy relationship is about making compromises, listening, and understanding - but never at the expense of your own needs. 3. Communication is key: Listen to understand, and not to respond. Don't take things personal and don't make assumptions! Remember that humans cannot read minds. Always be honest and open! Don't use words like "always" or "never". Instead of " You make...", say "I feel...". Pause before you speak.