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hy everyone i am missa here is my story in 2019 i talk to a boy who is from my country but not in my city this is accidential friendship in the start but then.goes on in a toxic and fastly relation which is end by my side because of he is not loyal and just want his desired full with me without my consent .because of all this i am in depression and worry about my future .help me out i want to move on and sstart my carrier and also wants a happy marriage soon so that i can heal and recover my self .right now my situation is worse i am totally empty mind with overthinking

So do I.. not even self proclaimed "friends" ever stay for me.

Lower distrust in relationships with your peers and do not play safe. Do not have a self-label that seperates you from others, instead have a label that connects you with others.

I would tell my younger self to be nicer to my sisters and parents 😅 I would also say that everything happens for a reason that will make sense later on. And when you're in a friendship or relationship that you know is not good for you, don't be afraid to move on. There are so many more people you will know that are 1000 times better for you!

Hi Lesedi! I'm from Mexico and thanks for sharing what you are feeling, you are not alone in this journey. I'm also dealing with self acceptance and overthinking. What I've learned in my journey is that accepting our disorders liberates us from this disorder. There's always a cure!

You're right, words can be understood in different ways and they can make you feel better or worse, depending on the way you chose. Ignoring words doesn't have to be bad though, because there is bad advise too. I'm not quite sure, if feeling superior is a good or a bad thing. It can make you lazy, but it also means self-confidence. It can motivate you, because you think you can expect more from yourself than you can from others. Trying to prove your superiority to others is bad though, because it makes you a poser. A gentleman never tells. (Or in german english: The gentleman enjoys and remains silent.)

A self-made word "LOVE-Li-Hood" came to me today. Instead of a routine daily livelihood, how's your "Love-li-hood" been doing? The love for your partner, friends and neighborhood; whether plants, trees or small animals. If you felt it, you'll know you love yourself equally as much.

Moving on from a relationship can be really hard, even when you are the one ending it and when you see why it was a toxic relationship. Focusing on yourself, your happiness, your career and doing things you love is really the best advice. Treat yourself like the amazing person that you are, and learn to love yourself and to be happy within. It will make so much sense when you meet someone who is the right one for you, even if it happens when you least expect it. But until then, focus on your career as you mention, on self love, and doing things that make you smile. 💚

So sweet of you. Nowadays i am struggling my self to be open with others and be sociologize bz most of time i stay at home .so its little hard for me to easly mix with others .so could you like to give some advice for me.

Alright. When you are overwhelmed you can improve your self-confidence by remembering everything you achieved. Just take a moment and be proud of yourself. Then you can divide the overwhelming stuff into smaller tasks and deal with them one by one. This way you can get multiple moments of success, which keep you motivated. Being bored isn't too bad. Sometimes it's good to have nothing to do, so you can take a moment just for yourself to think about anything that comes to your mind. If you would like to do something, there are many very natural things to spend your time on. Like cooking a meal. Trying new recipes can be funny and increasing cooking skills is always something very useful. You can also bake a cake, waffles or maybe some cookies.

Sometimes I like to try collecting my self-care materials. I've in the past had like 10 sets of shampoo and conditioner etc kinds of beauty products all lined up to use, and then I give it all to my sister. I guess I like to buy for her.

What is veganism? ? The Vegan Society defined the vegan diet in 1944 as "the principle of the emancipation of animals from exploitation by man". Later, it was clarified as "to seek an end to the use of animals by man for food, commodities, work, hunting, vivisection, and by all other uses involving exploitation of animal life by man". Veganism is a philosophy or way of living that excludes all forms of cruelty to and the exploitation of animals for food, clothing or any other purpose. Veganism also promotes the use and development of animal- and cruelty-free alternatives that benefit the animals, humans, as well as the environment. What do vegans eat?! A vegan diet comprises all fruits, vegetables, whole grains, seeds, nuts, legumes, and pulses. These can be prepared in endless combinations. You never have to eat the same thing twice in a month, unless you really like it, of course ? Once I decided to adopt a vegan diet, I was pleasantly surprised at the diversity and richness of it. I began experimenting with different ingredients and flavours and tried to make a vegan version of all my favourite dishes. After a few months, I didn't miss animal products at all anymore and now, six years later, I sometimes even find it a bit odd when I come across a smoothie recipe that calls for cow's milk, for example! It's more than just a diet. It's a lifestyle. The "hardcore" vegans avoid the exploitation of animals for any purpose, at all costs and make sure everything they consume is cruelty-free; from clothing and cleaning products to cosmetics and other personal hygiene products. There are still very many brands and companies that test their products on animals. For a list of cruelty-free brands, see here. Compassion for animals is the main reason people choose a vegan lifestyle these days. However, more and more evidence shows that a vegan diet is beneficial both to our health and the environment. PETA shares more about why eating meat contributes to climate change and harms the environment. Healthy vs "Unhealthy" vegans Vegan diets are considered healthy as they lack significant amounts of cholesterol (linked to heart disease) and include nutrients, fibre and antioxidants that are vital to our health and prevent dis-ease. However, it's definitely possible to be vegan and still have a poor diet. Living in a world where processed foods are available on every corner and take over most aisles in our supermarkets, all diets, including a vegan one can be inundated with junk/unhealthy food, i.e. the absence of whole foods. An 'unhealthy' vegan diet would be one that lacks essential nutrients that come from the list of foods mentioned above. Ideally, we should try to eat a whole foods diet at least 85% of the time, while leaving a bit of leeway for the Beyond burgers, french fries and vegan Ben & Jerry's. Whether you choose to be healthy, 'unhealthy', or somewhere in between, remember, it's your body. Do what's best for you and don't mind what others think. Respect yourself, and also respect the choices of others. One thing that's worked for me in making healthier choices over the years is looking at the ingredients of everything I buy. If it has more than five ingredients, and or any of which I can't pronounce, I leave it on the shelf. That said, every once in a while, it's important to TREAT YO SELF to whatever it is you want, be it a juicy vegan cupcake, a greasy meat-free burger or an XXL cheezy fries, and enjoy every bite, GUILT-FREE. Recipe Share My vegan adventure is far from over, and every day brings new culinary experiments which I'd like to share with everyone here. My favourite dishes are those that require ten or fewer ingredients and 30-45 minutes of prep/cooking time. I hope these recipes serve as an inspiration to those who love spending time in the kitchen as much as I do. All the recipes are adjustable to your taste and what's available to you where you live. Feel free to comment and share what works or doesn't work for you, or any alternative hacks or ingredients you find useful or not so much. And remember to have fun in the kitchen! ?‍??‍? Bon appetite!

A question that comes to mind having read all that is: Are you really lazy or is this the self criticism, perceived time wasting speaking?

@Gerry Thank you for adding the videos too. Though I read the text the videos recap some important info - it's a bit like the good educator at school who would repeat things at the end for better understanding and remembering. 🙂 I can relate to some aspects but the whole picture of it is truly overwhelming to even imagine. Here's a though I had. Knowing what's going on and educating around it as you do is useful as people have the tendency to make everything about themselves. So if you aren't happy around them they might take that as a sign that you don't like them, they did something wrong or whatever self-critical thoughts humans come up with. Letting go of that might help to ease those relationships.

First of all, thanks for sharing. Some of the symptoms apply to me too. In my school time I was something of a nerd. So I felt inferior too and I didn't spend much time with other people, even though I got some friends. I rarely say no, because I'm helpful until someone shows me, he/she doesn't deserve it. I think, there's nothing wrong with a little bit of humility. Self-conscious and inferior? How can one feel both at the same time? To me, it depends on the field and on whom I compare with.

I used to be a strong boy who could broke coconut by punch. When I turn 20 (in 2018) from then misery in life started. Middle of 2018 Just finished my diploma engineering degree and it was time for me to start a new life, a new career. But in that time I fell sick so bad for 6 months I couldn't do a thing. Went to few doctors they couldn't help much. Finally found a doctor who could really diagnosed my problem, and it is a bad DNA related rare disease. No I won't die quick but will suffer for rest of my life. Last quarter of 2018 I was getting a little better and felt the same young energy again, I decided to go Russia for higher studies. Did as thought, February 2019 I went to Russia, things were good but for only a little while. I got sick again but this time problem was much worse because I wasn't good at Russian language to explain what was really going on with me and couldn't understand words from my doctor basically lost in translation. I was taking too much pain killer everyday that my condition was getting more bad. Took a leave from university and flee back home for treatment. Good thing I did that if not I could've risk my life. Get treated, get good and get back to Russia again in February 2020. And not long after that corona virus pandemic broke out. I was studying on self finance, but during that time my father's business was at stop, I have a big family so things were little out of control. And things kept getting worse, my father had a brain stroke and got half paralyzed. I was so depressed at that moment I couldn't even came back to see him because of flight restrictions. In August 2020 I quit my studies and came back for good. I stayed almost 18 months in Russia, went to study but couldn't study at all because of all the hardships I was having, wasted time and money. As of today I not fully healthy as I said I'll suffer rest of life, I can't do stressful works, I'm educated enough to do high salary desk jobs either. I'm enduring the pain, the stress but don't know how long I can take it all.

Like I said in my introduction, I'm a pretty pensive type of person and even though I don't have children yet, I'm thinking about the best way to raise them. This is a very complex topic, because the smallest things can influence a child strongly. My thoughts so far: A child should be loved and be given appreciation, because this way it can build up self-confidence. But a child should not be given too much appreciation and attention, so it will learn patience, independence and respect. So where to draw the line? Another big topic in my mind is TV time / display time / internet time. Should there be a limited media time or not? As a child, I was given 90 min. a day for PC and TV together. School stuff didn't count. But when my parents wasn't checking the time or when they went out, I took all the media time I could get. So is it really useful to limit the time? How would children behave without a limit? Maybe they would use media stuff all day long or maybe they would get bored and do something else by themselves. So maybe learning and undestanding by doing something is more effective than a rule? Pocket money is a topic, my parents handled pretty good, I guess. Half of the pocket money was a save income.But for the other half I had to do weekly household jobs. So I learned, you have to work for your money. Later my parents acted as my bank, so I could deposit money and get interest charges. This motivated me to learn math in order to calculate how long it would take to double my money. I would love to read some of your thoughts, opinions and experiences.

Hello I’m Mooncharmed aka Stacey. I live in Colorado and am finally truly living and openly practicing my spiritual beliefs about 2 years ago. One thing you should know about me is I’m shy when I first start something or talk to people I have hi anxiety. But once acquainted I am 100%full steam ahead, thanks for having me hear and I hope to make a few friends and learn more about living a more spiritual and self healing from past and present traumas .

Dear Community, Hello, I am Sorai, a soul of the sky who came to Earth to experience, and share in new ways. I value love, peace, happiness, exploration to name a few. Love to talk with friends and would like to make new friends around the world for 1 to 1 chat as well as here on the forum. I like to talk about interesting things mixed with philosophy/spirituality, such as self-cultivation and happiness cultivation. I practice Shen Shing Famen Qigong, Zen Meditation, Aikido, and Taekwondo. Some questions to spark our discussion are: • You can do anything at all in existence; what do you do? • What do you like to watch, listen to, read, or do for hobbies • You take a walk or ride anywhere, whether normally accessible to humans or not. Where do you go? I would walk the sky and make love. Also walk the depths of the ocean and the oldest and most lush forests. Maybe try a walk in the desert I like Shark Tank and am re-reading Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind

First of all i want to say even i ask a question about healing, i do not want to be healed by anyone in real life or in forum So please do not attempt to do healing on me. My question is kind of simple. When you do healing, where does the negative energy or sickness you try to remove goes? How do you know you really healed the person? When healing someone do you think of that you try to remove some of their past wrongdoings by taking their karma? how are they going to better them self if you healing them and they then do not need to suffer as a repayment for their past wrongdoings? But my main question is about "where does the negative energy goes when you try removing it?" May it be that it is you that have to take it in to Your own being?

Self-love is being completely content of who you are , with no sense of comparison to others, where you realize that there is a Super Star in you. Living with the intention and not haphazardly - when you wake up and you are ready to face the world with smile and positive attitude. When you realize that no one is perfect and no one will ever be, accepting yourself as you are with your imperfections and flows, where you make a mistake and forgive yourself, where you are kind to yourself, committed to yourself and caring for yourself.Self-love is when you look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself how lovable and amazing you are, look into yourself with pride and dignity and finally celebrating who you are ever day.✍

When you think that you are crazy..You PROBABLY are NOT!! Crazy people don't question or think they have a problem..If you are battling anything and have any questions concerning your mind and how to tell the difference between self inflating the brain or it being inflicted...Please ask questions and let me help guide you to a happier and more spiritual journey by giving you advice , my very own personal quotes I've made as well as bible verses to back up why I choose to answer any questions or concerns you may have..God bless you and don't let the devil stop you from just asking.. Because BELIEVE me I know how crazy the un'crazy sounds!! May God be with you all. Your sister through Christ, Hilary Deen❣️🙏

When I was alone and when I couldn't trust most people, I asked myself, why I am afraid of trusting someone. The problem was: When I got to know someone, I expected too much and I tried too hard to make it work, because I was afraid to be alone again. The solution was to put all this effort into myself. I made myself happy by finding out, what I like, by improving my favorite things (like getting a nice monitor for my gaming setup) and by cooking for myself even when I thought it's not worth the effort for a single person. This was the beginning of a whole new feeling. I knew, I could be happy alone and enjoy life without anyone else. And with this base as the lowest level to fall to, it became easier to get to know people. If they disappoint me, I can feel free to go back to my happy base level, so I don't need to be afraid. And when people find out, you don't need them to be happy and you are not afraid to say your opinion because the base level gives you self-confidence, they start respecting you and they want to be with you. Because they get jealous and they want to be happy and confident like you.

Yes - At least for a while. When I moved to a new town, I didn't know anyone. I shared an appartment with other people and I had colleagues at work, but we didn't to anything after work. So I would say, it is possible but life can be better with friends. I think it is better to have no friend at all than having a wrong friend, who you don't really like. But many things in life work with a community and with teamwork. And if you have friends, you are more familiar with the way, social interactions work. Also friends can help you if you want to move to a new appartment, or other things, which are hard to do alone. Friends can also help you keeping up self-reflection because they will tell you if you do something wrong.

Key facts Female genital mutilation (FGM) involves the partial or total removal of external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. The practice has no health benefits for girls and women. FGM can cause severe bleeding and problems urinating, and later cysts, infections, as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths. More than 200 million girls and women alive today have undergone FGM in 30 countries in Africa, the Middle East and Asia where FGM is practiced(1). FGM is mostly carried out on young girls between infancy and age 15. FGM is a violation of the human rights of girls and women. There is evidence suggesting greater involvement of health care providers in the practice. This is known as medicalization. The World Health Organization (WHO) is opposed to all types of FGM, and is opposed to health care providers performing FGM. Treatment of the health complications of FGM in 27 high prevalence countries is estimated to cost 1.4 billion USD per year and is projected to rise to 2.3 billion USD by 2047 if no action is taken . Female genital mutilation (FGM) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. The practice is mostly carried out by traditional practitioners. In several settings, there is evidence suggesting greater involvement of health care providers in performing FGM due to the belief that the procedure is safer when medicalized. WHO strongly urges health care providers not to perform FGM. FGM is recognized internationally as a violation of the human rights of girls and women. It reflects deep-rooted inequality between the sexes, and constitutes an extreme form of discrimination against girls and women. It is nearly always carried out on minors and is a violation of the rights of children. The practice also violates a person's rights to health, security and physical integrity; the right to be free from torture and cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment; and the right to life, in instances when the procedure results in death. Types of FGM Female genital mutilation is classified into 4 major types: Type 1: this is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/ clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans). Type 2: this is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans and the labia minora (the inner folds of the vulva), with or without removal of the labia majora (the outer folds of skin of the vulva). Type 3: Also known as infibulation, this is the narrowing of the vaginal opening through the creation of a covering seal. The seal is formed by cutting and repositioning the labia minora, or labia majora, sometimes through stitching, with or without removal of the clitoral prepuce/clitoral hood and glans. Type 4: This includes all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes, e.g. pricking, piercing, incising, scraping and cauterizing the genital area. No health benefits, only harm FGM has no health benefits, and it harms girls and women in many ways. It involves removing and damaging healthy and normal female genital tissue, and interferes with the natural functions of girls' and women's bodies. Although all forms of FGM are associated with increased risk of health complications, the risk is greater with more severe forms of FGM. Immediate complications of FGM can include: severe pain excessive bleeding (haemorrhage) genital tissue swelling fever infections e.g., tetanus urinary problems wound healing problems injury to surrounding genital tissue shock death. Long-term complications can include: urinary problems (painful urination, urinary tract infections); vaginal problems (discharge, itching, bacterial vaginosis and other infections); menstrual problems (painful menstruations, difficulty in passing menstrual blood, etc.); scar tissue and keloid; sexual problems (pain during intercourse, decreased satisfaction, etc.); increased risk of childbirth complications (difficult delivery, excessive bleeding, caesarean section, need to resuscitate the baby, etc.) and newborn deaths; need for later surgeries: for example, the sealing or narrowing of the vaginal opening (Type 3) may lead to the practice of cutting open the sealed vagina later to allow for sexual intercourse and childbirth (deinfibulation2). Sometimes genital tissue is stitched again several times, including after childbirth, hence the woman goes through repeated opening and closing procedures, further increasing both immediate and long-term risks; psychological problems (depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, low self-esteem, etc.); Who is at risk? FGM is mostly carried out on young girls between infancy and adolescence, and occasionally on adult women. According to available data from 30 countries where FGM is practiced in the Western, Eastern, and North-Eastern regions of Africa, and some countries in the Middle East and Asia, more than 200 million girls and women alive today have been subjected to the practice with more than 3 million girls estimated to be at risk of FGM annually. FGM is therefore of global concern. Cultural and social factors for performing FGM The reasons why FGM is performed vary from one region to another as well as over time, and include a mix of sociocultural factors within families and communities. Where FGM is a social convention (social norm), the social pressure to conform to what others do and have been doing, as well as the need to be accepted socially and the fear of being rejected by the community, are strong motivations to perpetuate the practice. FGM is often considered a necessary part of raising a girl, and a way to prepare her for adulthood and marriage. FGM is often motivated by beliefs about what is considered acceptable sexual behaviour. It aims to ensure premarital virginity and marital fidelity. Where it is believed that FGM increases marriageability, it is more likely to be carried out. FGM is associated with cultural ideals of femininity and modesty, which include the notion that girls are clean and beautiful after removal of body parts that are considered unclean, unfeminine or male. Some people believe that the practice has religious support, although no religious scripts prescribe the practice. Religious leaders take varying positions with regard to FGM: some promote it, some consider it irrelevant to religion, and others contribute to its elimination. Local structures of power and authority, such as community leaders, religious leaders, circumcisers, and even some medical personnel can contribute to upholding the practice. Likewise, when informed, they can be effective advocates for abandonment of FGM.