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Please don't mind my quirky sense of of expression. I really mean no harm and like many others wish to make positive connections. Yesterday I read this website's article on how nostalgia can console and aging heart (my take) and noted the mention how various clinical practices are wary of said states of mind. I'm no expert on nostalgia but the essence of that article rang true enough for me. I only mention this stream of thought like so as to introduce an old poem I wrote some time ago that draws upon a time in my life where during adversity I was able to connect with a form of happiness that always been with me. I share this now: Perhaps not your average take on nostalgia but for me, many of my past recollections to do with personal associations that bring me peace are typically experienced through adversity. I only just found this poem this morning looking for through my large collection or personal photos hoping to find a positive association wishing to share another scenic image which typically yields for me a form of peace. I am hoping to get back into the practice of likewise photography in the near future but for now content to use online text. I don't like taking up space so don't suppose I will be hear for long as the inactivity is kind of making me stand out more then I like so perhaps will opt for a blog. Anyhoooows ... while I am here this for me rates as a share. You know, if I heard Eckhart Tolle correctly, I beleive it was a park bench him when he connected with that something within. I remember him distinctly talking about a similar experience that makes me think of how many times my homeless past offered me similar states of mind to much of what he went on teach. Heads Up! - I'm not saying I'm Jesus Christ. Laughs out loud because we got plenty of Messiah Complexes in this selfie age and I recoil from all of them. To be sure I struggle like every other human re my ego and I'm pretty sure it's woven into my text but I do try to be mindful of such things. I'm no guru on any of these things and in fact do not like self professed or glorified people. I don't do well with audiences because of such things and feel sad the way other people hold up popular people and then sell and profit kind of thing. Yet again I am sure we are all guilty of doing the same things on a personal level because is how we are pretty much conditioned to think and feel 24/7 But enough of that before that objective side of me if pegged as cynical. Any form of discomfort is shadow banned. How's that for perception management? Rhetorical Back to the love and light not being as it's always perceived. I finish this post with my take on nostalgia: "...on how nostalgia can console and aging heart ..." 3rd sentence in my above opening. I find as one grows older the distance between such spiritual connections (which I pretty much feel consciousness awakening/deeply felt mindful/'less' experiences are) grows more distance due to intolerance. Yet adversity seems to be ageless and the age factor in my spiel here is not quite right for me as I struggle to grasp with what I am really trying to say. Like I can see how it is that many people blinded by unconsciousness in the waking world only have their first spiritual insight only when their bodies start degrade to a point beyond their control as is inventible. Much of my quirky satire in my previous post includes this same take in the healing and well being industry. In fact much of it is based on avoiding the inevitable. But back to intolerance which and can often be expressed in terms of age but more so time under stress. The latter clinical but more often understood. The connection between time under stress and an aging heart is what I sense I am aiming for when attributing the solace that can drawn when looking back on whatever association. Despite being raised in a very religious surrounding that whilst did more damage than good for quite some time, I had this intrinsic connection with some kind invisible light despite the many who seemed unable to foster me. That said I was still prone to fall victim to another side of myself that played it's part as no more than byproduct in a very toxic system. That part of me is still very caught up in that world where it takes a lot of skill and focus NOT to identify with the many labels; we all have them and many they be. That's my morning share. Now I am off for a simply bicycle ride to catch up with a friend similar but not quite like me. Like minds do not always have to be a thing. hehe little chuckle at that one. Best to remain open no matter what and be accepting of everyone regardless of this world of boxes. Less is best in a world of excess. Quality over quantity but without the contention for that which does not fit. From this square peg ... peace out. 😉

Sorry you can't come in because your not positive enough! Wow. Are we really living a world like that? We love solving problems but no negatives allowed? Hmmm ... Houston, I think we have a problem! No wonder the numbers don't add up. There seems to be something missing? In fact, there seems to be a LOT missing! So how do we solve this issue of over abundance and inequality? Dar da da daaa ... do not fear; happy smiley is here. 🙂 ... Put on this cape and at the fist sign of discomfort "Cut and run!' I mean if anyone makes you feels sad, your mum, your dad, siblings or long time friends, the only way to solve the problem is to cut them out of your life and spend the reset of eternity blaming them for the world's negativity. You must only ever contemplate with a smile and smother yourself in excess. If your not thriving but only surviving then you must of done it wrong. Is there anyone else in left in your life that you can reject? Yes you must get rid of them too ... you should of rejected them first. Silly you. No matter, I have a link and a book that will solve all your problems. It's all about positivity and holds all the secrets to living a life of success. 1st and foremost you will manifest money!!! Yes, that is right ... you will finally have all you need to attract others like yourself. Every page is chapter is full of glorious revelations that will see you continue to thrive with each turning of the page. We guarantee that you will burst at the seems with joy and bliss that you really won't need anyone but people will want to be around you because that want to be like you. You'll be ecstatic no longer having to worry about others as you now just wear people like trinkets to show off your new authentic self. Hell ... you'll be able to make more success from the sales own books. Just remember to also reject anything or anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable. At the first sing of negativity we must extinguish with the shield of positivity. Just be sure when dispatching of others you do it love. Yet another secret. Do this and you'll never be wrong. Yea yea ... I know ... I'm just another one trying to sell another book. Sigh ... Here's to a glorious day in the trenches. A kid who knows a thing or two about the law of attraction ... It's all in the expelling - Breathing in mind, not continually rejecting as we do in this todays world of excess and quick fixes - Needles and pills in mind. I'll have an IV of todays vits and minerals please!\ Sometimes life is too short and other times its not short enough. Life simply does not exist without either dynamic. At least not outside of books or someone else's workshop. Be your own author and resonate as you must. Don't let others dictate your frequency. We might exist in a pool but we are all unique. Have a fantastic day. 🙃

My Journey? Hmmm - That's actually a bit too cliché for me but will use what works for others in an attempt to be heard. More often than not I find this world more a place in which people do time. I think now think of Eckhart Tolle and his lectures on the subject: If I may share: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgj7u86e4wc Perhaps not for everyone. I do tend to find him easy on the ear and have spent a more than a few years being open to his core message with respect to here and now. I think I prefer to deal with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges through the process of dis-Identifying. Commonly known in Eckhart's circle as dis-Identifying from the mind. Apparently key to becoming present. I make now claims either way but can only say what works for me and share what I see. Quote: "Simple but now easy" Reminds me of Jon Kabat-Zin whom I first came across on YouTube doing a presentation at Google. The quote that just came to mind somewhere from his book 'Wherever you go there you are.' I sense a sadness in him when watching him now but he handles it well. He is his own master of course with his own box of tools. I'd say that source of sadness comes from the irony of having talked at Google and they being what they are. Can be summed up in an article 'Father of virtual reality: Facebook and Google are dangerous 'behavior-modification empires' resulting from a tragic mistake' Jon tried his best and still does today with the odd online meet and greet. I know his has made a positive influence on me. Me ... I'm a sponge and whilst have a failing memory and struggle cognitively when out and about in a world not designed for me, things that resonate with me tend to last for life. Although this can be said for both negative and positive experiences. For me, I am not into cutting people out of my life on a whim because some article claims that's how I will claim my prize. I find such doctrine as it be, a tact like perhaps what google does when assimilating the knowledge of great speakers like Jon then creating an algorithm to hook people in. Everyone promoting themselves behind a veil of excellence and success sold in many other likewise terms. Kind of like how western society adopts and twist other cultures, religion and philosophy. Why not throw into the mix domination and control? Smiles because it's all so challenging that anyone that talks on such things in todays world is quickly such down in a finely tuned machine that sees automated robot responses from humans all over today's info tech world. Indeed, depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges abound. Just to be clear, I'm not looking for advice myself. Most of my take and approach is also very challenging but not so much for me. It just fly's in the face of main stream ideals as peddled from the machine. I'm acutely aware though of how my own resistance works against me which is why I find the likes of Tolle, Zin and Watts very compelling. That said, I don't find watts as soothing at Eckhart and Jon. He is a little more blunt but still I find enough gold in his sharing to be helpful for me. Grain of salt until it hits a home run, but then I much prefer revisiting such insights until I can either acknowledge them as my experience or not. I don't care much for the dramatic music played in the background and images pasted over the top. That's more part of the trap the Tolle often talks about and even Watt's himself. Much irony abounds in as much at Jon talking at Google and again it being what it be. In that regard the lycra , iconic images and drama used to profile peoples self promoting journeys is also something I recoil from. Smiles again ... no wonder I prefer small groups. arrr ... Now I think of the Life of Brian. Don't ask how I got there. hehe. I also don't take myself too seriously but also keep things true enough for me when creating my own script. I have no purpose that fits into another group ideal although many would propose in their daily speech. "What do you do for a living?" As if to imply I must be 'doing' something in order to live or whatever. "Keeping Busy?" all the way into the new age group that also ask many questions of others "What have you contributed?" Different dynamics, same patterns. The use of exclamations marks following claims of stillness and peace. Tis a crazy world to be sure full of irony at every turn. Yet there are snippets to be had in every irony to be had. "You shall know them by their fruits." The latter being from a book I consider and no more than a book, yet rings true enough. I don't always throw the fruit out either just because it does not look pretty or not pitch perfect in taste. Sadly it seems out culture today is steering more toward said irony more and more. So sad indeed that it's nice to a section like this in a happiness forum that appears to be open to such things. Each to their own of course. This is my world view from what I have seen, experienced and see and seeing. Although it's worth noting such revelations can be hard to cope with. Especially in a world programmed with such an inherent need for validation and approval. Time for some gardening and to quickly share a pic of what keeps me out of such a chaotic and shallow world - more so what keeps me grounded, brings me solace and peace: Is not about the end result but about the experience. Instead of cutting people out of my life on a whim and gong form relationship to relationship, I make friends with that which does do not use open its mouth or take photos of itself: Again ... we all find happiness in our own way. 🙃 Takes more than a fancy profile, well constructed answers to text book questions to build trust in a world of deception. How's that for non-neurotypical? Oh the labels! ← Notes* first exclamation mark. Well done on the drama. Oh how they hand those labels out and how people cling to them. Forgive my candor here but true enough for yours truly. Such is a bit of an epidemic from what I can see. I choose to be none of them but like so many others jump through the hoops in order that I may have the right to live. But yea ... whatever works. I burnt out the sensor on my wife's camera taking the image bellow. It was cheap tiny compact affordable at the time to replace with the newer one - but how lost I was in the taking of that shot. It was an experience which makes this one of so many years later still my favorite. When I am doing well I enjoy taking these kinds of photos. I find much of the essence in the talks given by those I named above in images like these. I'm only just starting to get back into a cycle where I am considering sharing more of these experiences. Minus my world view of course. These kind of shares tend to convey more in a way that's more digestible. That said, writing in our own way from the heart as we see and breathe is also therapeutic. This is why I am often more my own audience but open to all minds. Even those that are not like mine but get the gist of being more open to those that resonate. I'm just not into cutting out people as commonly sold nor all the other aspects of today's selfish algorithm. This makes me a target by being so open, but then I also get to meet real people otherwise isolated by the things of which I highlight. I'm all for those on the fringes - for all those who have been rejected - yet get the boundaries that others use to reason when taking a less painful route. Until next share - have a nice day.

I use to play guitar quite a bit when in my youth. Learning difficulties made it hard for me but I just played anyways for quite a few years pretty much mastering the same songs until a point my OCD gave way to the Native American Flute. Although a different set of harmonics, the latter instrument game me an opportunity to play much more at easily still allowing me to feel the vibrations through my body as I played. I used to love that about the guitar. I'm sorry I can't quite remember the exactly number of key frequency. Numbers are also something that confuse me like words. Chuckles at the irony. That said I'm pretty sure it was earthy enough. I miss my flute as I passed it on. I got a little too self conscious with it as I live in a very cramped community and on that level I am very private. I've only just returned to taking time out in a way that allows positive energy in. On that note I apologize if my tone has been hard on the ears. Without using any instruments or making any noise, I have an ability to sit quietly and simply take in the sea breeze and lapping waves. I live on the edge of a coastal region. At other times I'll just sit among the trees. I've been using biannual feed back techniques so long that I actually miss the silence when out walking. I beleive there is a term today for activities without ear buds - Naked Walking. I think I first head it when I used to be a runner - Naked Running. Of course with clothes on. That's not to say people nude down at the beach do not vibe as well. I can't really say as I've never tried that yet. Please forgive the lengthy text if not your thing. It's very early here. This morning I got up at 3am as still adjusting to a new routine. Actually ... sunlight has been a thing for me of late. I find this probably my number one asset when it comes to resonance. I used to do sungazing although do not recommend it. Sky gazing is much less risk but yields as much benefit. Is not hard to get lost at the right time of day, in the right position with face towards the sun and some binaural beats. But like I say, I also value silence when doing such things. Is kind of a balance act so I don't get too lost but that said I also enjoy the experience of being lost. Hard to explain. Jon Kabat-Zin and Eckhart Tolle are authors that help keep me grounded in this respect. I also like Alan Watts but find I do better having to repeat his lectures and or come back to them after a while. In fact I often do this with all three of those authors. Again ... sorry to go on. 🙃

Narr - in todays world being what it be with the internet and all it's devices, such thoughts exist in all age brackets today and those thoughts more out of control. If I could just say ...Self preservation is quite the opposite to my context when speaking about self exploration. Like letting go is what I have found key in terms of acceptance. That said, I respect your take and perhaps not quite reading you well. I am 53 having aged well before my time with a story I'd rather let go. I live in a house with my wife, daughter and grandson all doing the best we can to get along. I kind of have to laugh out loud at that one. My wife has a debilitating disease with support peoples that come to our house. She and I sleep in different rooms and we no longer have sex. It would so happen that intimacy was something very important to me and that whilst for sure we could still be intimate, my wife's happiness has taken a huge hit with such all the challengers she now faces. It's been going on for years where each passing one sees her condition slightly worsen. By the way I am not trying to compare here but simply share. I've been in my own room for years now having to accept that I will no longer have sex again and also my wife's depression combined with my own (as is how energy works kind of thing - no ones fault - or perhaps often mine - certainly not my wife's which is why I am still here - it is what it is) that, that once intimacy that I found so empowering and or comforting was no gone. I can't hug my wife as am often pushed away. I don't need the sex because I'm a person that can get enough just by being close and being gentle kind of thing. Long story short - Life's happenings regardless whatever can in some sense rob us of such things. Perhaps that term 'rob' a bit strong as it's only in my self reflection that I have found the power to be here for all my family as they too also seem to get enough from us all simply being present. Alas, I too still have fantasies about meeting someone else who might be able to afford me the interactions that most of us subscribe to being emotionally connected that is in a more inspiring and immune boosting kind of way. I seem to of digressed - my apologies. I guess the point for me is if I took to heart all the the recommendations regarding cutting out negativity out of my life, that would mean leaving my wife, my daughter and grandson whom are all in great need to some extent. I've done a lot of self reflection on such none of which I consider as self preservation but more for the greater good. Perhaps more complex than that but not wishing to write a book. I've come to accept my situation and in doing so have less a need for what more people think is community. The foundations on which today's community is built is based more upon economics than human values with the latter no more than a deceptive sale. So too I think it is the way with people and interactions when it comes to exterior values Vs that which lay within. The time I take out in order to sooth myself is more about letting go of what most strive for. Often it involves allowing myself to experience the pain of my self as well as those I love knowing too that like you, I also wish for that something that feels missing. I don't know really ... grasping at straws myself. I feel it is good to look after self in order to help others but not when it just becomes only about me. Yet it's OK to console ourselves if not always caught in a state of commiseration which too can help ... but many times more a trap. I find the general consensus on happiness can often be like that too. We don't want to preserve ourselves as much as be ourselves. Does that make sense? For me and mind you ... it's been quite a while. Just recovering from heart attack symptoms myself. I'm just winging it here but is mostly why I write and feel as I do. It seems the more we open up and be our true selves the less in need we become ... the less validation we need. Unfortanley most of our online content is all about the need for validation with an algorithm that instills reward and punishment. Very much on a community level but that is another story: How Google, Facebook Turned into Behavior Modification Empires. No link required. This aspect very present in most forums as well. I shower too - but on odd days. 0-0 ... yet my ability to convey the truth in a mindful way seems to be unscathed. Or at least I hope. We have become very much an exterior race. Kudos to you for opening up. I often feel the same way despite my claims but making gains through mindfulness or mindless activities that fall within my own ideals. All the best with your own.

Tjanks for youd replies everyone I do not come across on the outside as sad. I'm just sad inside. In fact if people knew that I felt lonely they would think I was the last person who felt this way. And i do lòok after myself I hike everyday meditate and have hobbies bug I believe that humans need connection and community to stay mentally healthy we are social animals and that's what I am lacking despite putting in a lot of effort. It's painful when I hear others have their little groups and I am constantly on the outside. It seems very high-schoolish and r surprised that this kind of thing still exists in our 60s. I am feeling that I have to accept that I won't have those close relationships but wondered if others had this experience and although I do appreciate the advice, believe me, I have pursued and still do carry out self exploration different tactics and self preservation. Regards

I've written bits of stories and poems - I find it hard to get into the right mood for it or to begin but always enjoy after I have done a bit - trying to establish more of a routine and to not procrastinate! I did a bit today I believe expression is essential. Recently I learnt that it is ok not to be good at a hobby and to unlearn some of the self-consciousness that can hold me back, it has been a positive step in trying new things and losing a bit of fear of failure or fear of not meeting expectations.

It's not like there is a magic secret making your life perfect. It's something very natural, but a lot of people just don't take their time to think. With social media, streaming services, music, television and all this stuff, nobody has to be bored anymore, but sometimes that helps. When I'm waiting for a doctor's appointment, when I go by bus or when I am in similar boring situations, I don't take out my smartphone, but I think. However, I takes notes on my smartphone sometimes. So I think about all kinds of things. What are this week's To Dos? What could I do to make my home even more comfortable? Which life goals would I like to achieve? What could have been going on in the other person's head during the recent dispute situation? And many more. And when I'm done thinking, I've got a good To Do list for the current week, I know my next goals and I'm a little more self-reflected.

I have come to learn a lot about myself in times when I have been alone to do some really truthful self reflection on the choices I have made in my past. I have learned more about myself and what my purpose is here in my life. I have come to welcome peace into my life without apology for having to push others away in my past because those people whom I pushed away did not know or care about what I was going through in a personal way because they couldn't handle rejection. I have come to get over any guilt over saying no to choices that pleased other people more than myself.

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Namaste Every one Life Insurance is Important for self with all family members. Thanks

Don’t forget to pause and take a break. We deserve a break, and that is self care. Our mind and heart needs to rest too.

Evening all and thanks for accepting me to this group. my name is Lucy and I have been on a journey of self discovery for the past 5 years now, but only just starting to feel it now in the past year. my mind has been opened and I am on a journey to help others and offer support through trauma. I’m not trained as yet but have a lifetime of experience with it unfortunately. love and light Lucy x

That’s a good practice. Doing a self affirmation everyday would really help to lift ourself.

It all starts with self love! 🌊

So do I.. not even self proclaimed "friends" ever stay for me.

I was going through the most difficult times in my life. I split with my partner of 11 years and my best friend died in a car accident around the same time. There was lots of other things that happened too but it’s too much too explain. Anyway I’ve not had an easy life and instead of healing I chose drink and drugs and toxic relationships throughout my life. I came close to suicide a lot in my life and had so many near death experiences. It got to a point where drink and drugs weren’t helping anymore and I’d lost everyone I cared about. I stopped drinking as much and sat with my feelings and thoughts and began to heal. I had a spiritual awakening for the first time ever in my life. My guardian angels and God which by the way I was never sure I truly believed in him but he spoke and said I had another chance in life to make my self better and other people. My spiritual awakening made me more caring, empathetic, loving and non judgmental. I saw through my third eye I’m a starsseed a lightworker I’m supposed to be here it’s my destiny to help others heal and set them on there own spiritual journey to find there own soul path. I’m now 11 days sober and feeling a lot more positive and calmer about life. I would love to help anyone that’s in need even just a friend or someone to vent to. Anything at all please don’t hesitate to contact me. I will never judge you or tell anyone your privacy remains with me. I’m reaching out as I know how I suffered on my own and I wished I had someone to reach out to myself at times.

Lower distrust in relationships with your peers and do not play safe. Do not have a self-label that seperates you from others, instead have a label that connects you with others.

I would tell my younger self to be nicer to my sisters and parents 😅 I would also say that everything happens for a reason that will make sense later on. And when you're in a friendship or relationship that you know is not good for you, don't be afraid to move on. There are so many more people you will know that are 1000 times better for you!

Hi Lesedi! I'm from Mexico and thanks for sharing what you are feeling, you are not alone in this journey. I'm also dealing with self acceptance and overthinking. What I've learned in my journey is that accepting our disorders liberates us from this disorder. There's always a cure!

If you could give your younger self some life advice, what would it be?

That is a worthwhile inquiry as well. What do you miss in the relationship? And maybe it's not even about the relationship - maybe you were insecure and looking for validation from outside. In my experience there's never enough validation from outside to fill the hole if we think something is wrong with us. Maybe what you need is self-acceptance, self-love. ❤️

You're right, words can be understood in different ways and they can make you feel better or worse, depending on the way you chose. Ignoring words doesn't have to be bad though, because there is bad advise too. I'm not quite sure, if feeling superior is a good or a bad thing. It can make you lazy, but it also means self-confidence. It can motivate you, because you think you can expect more from yourself than you can from others. Trying to prove your superiority to others is bad though, because it makes you a poser. A gentleman never tells. (Or in german english: The gentleman enjoys and remains silent.)

A self-made word "LOVE-Li-Hood" came to me today. Instead of a routine daily livelihood, how's your "Love-li-hood" been doing? The love for your partner, friends and neighborhood; whether plants, trees or small animals. If you felt it, you'll know you love yourself equally as much.

Moving on from a relationship can be really hard, even when you are the one ending it and when you see why it was a toxic relationship. Focusing on yourself, your happiness, your career and doing things you love is really the best advice. Treat yourself like the amazing person that you are, and learn to love yourself and to be happy within. It will make so much sense when you meet someone who is the right one for you, even if it happens when you least expect it. But until then, focus on your career as you mention, on self love, and doing things that make you smile. 💚