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This week's topic is "Stressful Communications: Interpersonal Mindfulness". As the different types of formal practices are discussed already in the earlier week, where you are also welcome to share this week's experiences with them, this weeks forum entry is about the informal practice, the communication calendar. As we practise applying the skills we are learning in this course to our everyday lives; we are cultivating our natural capacities to be more flexible and to recover more quickly during challenging interpersonal situations. As we grow our awareness of emotions, we may better understand the messages we are sending to others and receiving from others and the barriers to being with ourselves and others in heartfelt and authentic ways. “Once you can communicate with yourself, you’ll be able to communicate outwardly with more clarity.” Thich Nhat Hanh Psychological stress arises from the interaction between us and the world, so we need to take responsibility for our part in relationships with people who “cause us stress” By this, we mean taking responsibility for our perceptions, thoughts, emotions and behaviours. If we react unconsciously when we are having a problem with another person, just as with other forms of stress, this usually makes matters worse in the long run. One of the most useful insights was reading myself when I was about to shut down in a conversation. These days I feel my chest getting tighter, and I become aware that I am no longer listening with an open heart but that I start feeling attacked and I am putting my armour up which will not allow the conversation to come to a satisfying result as I do not hear the other person anymore. Depending on the situation I might take a deep breath and open up again, or I'll explain that I am closing up and need a pause, sometimes I'll excuse myself to the bathroom for a bit to reconsider. If I get to walk the dog for an hour through the forest that's best but that's not always possible. It can also be helpful to repeat what I understood that the other person said in my own words, so we are both sure to talk about the same thing. This shows the other person I am listening and gives us both a chance to be clear about what we are talking about to avoid misunderstandings and assumptions. Have you noticed any changes in how you are communicating with people since you started this course? What have you noticed?

Maintaining a relationship is an ability for example:good communication skill and always be thinking in other people’s positions

Supporting someone with anxiety requires understanding, empathy, and patience. Here are some steps you can take to provide effective assistance: Educate Yourself: Learn about anxiety disorders, their symptoms, and common triggers. Understanding what your friend or loved one is experiencing can help you provide more informed and compassionate support. Listen Actively: Encourage open communication. Let the person share their feelings and thoughts without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can be incredibly helpful. Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their anxiety as real and valid. Avoid downplaying or dismissing their emotions. Let them know you are there to support them. Be Patient: Anxiety can be overwhelming, and recovery takes time. Be patient with their progress and setbacks. Offer Practical Help: Assist with tasks that might be difficult for them, such as running errands or attending social events. This can help alleviate some of the stress and pressure they might feel. Encourage Professional Help: Suggest seeking therapy or counseling. A mental health professional can provide appropriate strategies and tools to manage anxiety effectively. Respect Their Boundaries: While your support is crucial, it's important to respect their need for space and time alone when necessary. Practice Relaxation Techniques Together: Encourage relaxation techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, meditation, or yoga. You can even do these activities together to make it more enjoyable. Engage in Positive Activities: Encourage participation in activities they enjoy and that promote well-being. Engaging in hobbies and interests can help distract from anxious thoughts. Avoid Enabling: While it's important to be supportive, avoid helping them avoid situations that trigger anxiety. Encouraging gradual exposure to these situations can promote long-term coping skills. Be Mindful of Language: Use language that is positive and supportive. Avoid telling them to "calm down" or implying that they should just "get over it." Stay Connected: Keep in touch regularly, even if it's just to check in. Knowing that someone cares can make a significant difference. Model Healthy Coping: Demonstrate healthy coping strategies in your own life. Your behavior can serve as a positive example. Avoid Alcohol and Drugs: Encourage them to avoid using alcohol or drugs to cope with anxiety, as these can exacerbate the problem. Emergency Plan: If their anxiety becomes overwhelming or they're in crisis, know the signs of a severe anxiety attack and have a plan for seeking immediate professional help. Remember that you are there to support and encourage, but you are not a substitute for professional help. If their anxiety is severely impacting their life, encourage them to seek assistance from a mental health professional. Your role is to be a caring and understanding friend or loved one during their journey towards managing anxiety.

Over time, communication patterns can change, and couples may find it harder to express their feelings or needs effectively. Misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts can lead to emotional distance.

I am part of nature, and nature is part of me. I am what I am in my communication and communion with all living things. I am an irreducible and coherent whole with the web of life on the planet. Nature, the human community and the universe is connected with the Cosmos. We recognize the deep truth that I am the other. This expresses the concept from contemporary physics of “entanglement”, which is a quantum phenomenon. All atoms, all cells are connected, deeply.” The friendship is the connection we feel for each other, wherever he is, other people, animals, plants, stars. I am part of society, and society is part of me. I am what I am in my communication and communion with my fellow humans.I am an irreducible and coherent whole with the community of humans on the planet.Goodreads, alexis karpouzos official steThe separate identity I attach to other humans and other things is but a convenient convention that facilitates my interaction with them. My family and my community are just as much “me” as the organs of my body. My body and mind, my family and my community, are interacting and interpenetrating, variously prevalent elements in the network of relations that encompasses all things in nature and the human world. The whole gamut of concepts and ideas that separates my identity, or the identity of any person or community, from the identity of other persons and communities are manifestations of this convenient but arbitrary convention. There are only gradients distinguishing individuals from each other and from their environment and no real divisions and boundaries. There are no “others” in the world: We are all living systems and we are all part of each other. Attempting to maintain the system I know as “me” through ruthless competition with the system I know as “you” is a grave mistake: It could damage the integrity of the embracing whole that frames both your life and mine. I cannot preserve my own life and wholeness by damaging that whole, even if damaging a part of it seems to bring me short-term advantage. When I harm you, or anyone else around me, I harm myself. Collaboration, not competition, is the royal road to the wholeness that hallmarks healthy systems in the world. Collaboration calls for empathy and solidarity, and ultimately for love. I do not and cannot love myself if I do not love you and others around me: We are part of the same whole and so are part of each other. Alexis karpouzos

I just read this article about the 5 love languages, and I found it super interesting! I definitely think many issues in a relationship comes from poor communication, for example, not speaking the same love languages or not knowing your partner's love languages. The article explains which the 5 love languages are, and how to identify them within yourself and with your partner, and how being aware of them improves the communication a lot. Perhaps you are showing love in a language your partner does not understand and vice versa. Are you aware of what your love languages are? Have you noticed someone close to you having a completely different love language?

Here are the 3 most important things in a relationship: Communication, communication, and communication. She seems to be dissappointed. So you should ask her, what she likes and what she wishes to do. If you listen carefully you might make her enjoy bed time much more

That's indeed a good solution sometime relationship do ruin due to lack of communication.

Communication is important to solve problems and to prevent worse problems. Some people might think there are no fights in a perfect relationship, but the opposite is the case. Without discussion, one is suppressing his/her wishes and that won't work forever. It's important to share personal needs and wishes.

A very important part of relationships is communication. So if you want to meet him, tell him. He has a rough time, but at somepoint you should stand up for yourself. Sometimes standing up for yourself can lead to a fight, but that's okay, because it's the only way to make both of you happy.

Thanks for asking Candy. To understand soul communication require one to first accept the existence of the soul. One may accept the soul as a spiritual entity or as I do as a quantum particle as I am more logical and rational in my thoughts. Once one accepts the existence of the soul, one has to connect with the soul. According to me the soul exists as a quantum particle in the quantum universe. And though the soul creates a unique individual conscious existence in the form of a human or living entity, it is not singular but rather unitary or one for all and thus we are all connected in the quantum universe. This is basic theory that I understand. Now the physical body is a creation of the soul to experience consciousness and thus forms an electromagnetic spectrum around the body which is connects the mind to the soul. While the body exists in the physical dimension, the soul exists in the quantum dimension connected by the EM of the physical dimension. The consciousness of the soul is not the same as the subconsciousness of the mind. The mind exists because of the brain and the physical body. The mind stops when the body stops or ceases to exist. Yet our body our thoughts and actions are dependent on the mind and this becomes a prison for the consciousness of the soul which is unable to express itself to the mind. The mind being forever trapped in the learning of the body and the brain. The mind stops listening to the murmurs of the conscious soul as we grow older. A baby or a child has a better connection between the two than grown ups. Unless ofcourse we learn to silence our mind and allow it connect to the conscious soul and its vibrations. Which is like intuition or inner voice as we say commonly. The more one learns to silence our mind the more connected we get to our soul and thus we lead on a path of spiritual awakening as the soul always speaks the truth and offers unlimited knowledge and power. But the soul can only connect with the subconscious mind of the physical body it has created as it is not reached the spiritual levels or state of vibration that can allow it to communicate with other souls. Intense focused meditation such as the one I practice enable the soul to receive energy from the supreme energy source (which some of us call as God) raising the souls vibration to higher level and thus enable it to communicate with the souls of other physical entities. And what is in one persons mind can be transmitted to another person through soul communication transparently something like telepathy (which is a wrong term as it involves mind to mind communication) I simply call it soul communication. When one soul communicates to another soul what the mind senses to the other, there is no manipulation as the subconscious mind does and no negative thoughts or energy pass through unless one is practicing something that is focused on negative energies. So I practice neutral energy meditation which cannot attract or generate negativity to self or others and thus all soul communication is neutral or positive in state. So summarizing, the following steps are to be learned and practiced for engaging in soul to soul communication. 1. Living a neutral lifestyle 2. Silencing the mind 3. Practicing focused meditation (focusing on the person you want to communicate) 4. Attracting energy for the soul from the supreme source and raising its vibrations for communicating your state of mind to the person you are focusing on. All of this requires dedication and selfless practice that take months if not years to achieve. But someone who has been practicing for years such as myself, I am able to offer to be a medium for others to engage in soul communication with the ones they seek. I first tried this method with my wife with whom my relationship was breaking down to the point of no return. Since then, we have stopped arguing and communicating more at the soul level thus keeping the balance in our thoughts towards one another. More recently, I tried soul communication with a third unconnected person I never met or spoke with for a person who asked for my assistance in offering to connect her soul with the third person. ?

The landmark forum seems to have a special formula to live a fulfilled life by clearing up the past and creating your own new future on a blank canvas. It's not about changing or fixing something, but about transformation. You get a guideline to have authentic communication that opens up new possibilities. People who stopped talking with each other or had issues with each other for years, started talking again. What is important in the process is to enroll people. That is the tricky part. Why you indeed can make some magic happen in a just 3 days workshop and would wish that everyone around you will also get this experience, you need to enroll people into this. This not only creates commitment, but it also shows the power that everyone self owns. I was never in my life forced that much to get into communication with my social groups. And once I did it, I realized that it opens up many more things. So, I finally felt happy to get into this space. I wondered if anyone else was doing the forum and had similar experiences, and what would be the best way in life to integrate it. I'm practicing yoga and meditation, what can become a quite lonely activity. So, I clearly see a need to get into communication to be completed and happy as we are human-beings living in social structures. I also see happiness.com potentially bridging here the gap. So, I saw here a perfect match in enrolling people and be in communication

What to do if everyone is quite, and there is nothing to listen to? the art of listening helps when people talk, u listen, and the communication will go fluently, and the other person will be happy bc they can also feel that u listen. But… in some situations, people will be silence, they will rather listen to u, or they will just not talk. I am just confused how this theory works in these situations

I definitely agree with Lizzie. Communication is the most vital component to a relationship. Based on experience, even if you are face to face with your partner but if there aren't any good communication going on with you both, troubles, misunderstanding, quarrel even uttering harsh and mean things can lead to your relationship to fall apart. But if you keep communication lines open, even in text messagings, video calls, or simple phone calls to say hello, it can fill the spaces in between and create connection to each other not just physically but more so emotionally & psychologically thus making you both feel loved, secured and hopeful.

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You know, why you did it, right? So talk to her and be completely honest. Tell her, why you did it and tell her, what you missed in the relationship. If she does the same, you will know, why she did it and what bothered her. So you both know what you need to work on and you both know, what you can do to prevent it from happening again. Communication is everything. It might not seem important, but it really is. It's all about telling each other about your needs, your thoughts, your fears and it's a lot of work to fulfill each other's wishes.

Every relationship is different but I think if both of you were cheating, it doesn't sound like either of you were fulfilled or happy with the relationship. If you are struggling with moving on together as a couple, it probably takes time and a lot of work to reestablish trust and move on from the cheating. Communication is key, talking about how you're feeling, why you cheated, what your levels of trust are at etc.

In my opinion, your post here in the forum is already one part of the solution, that is, awareness and open conversations. Your reply @Jyopre and starting the conversation is much appreciated. Awareness, education and honest communication is such a crucial part of healing and support. Many issues, just like menopause, are swiped under the rug. The woman going through these experiences then feel the need to keep them to themselves as they feel alone and separated, while many share the struggle. In the case of menopause, it's all woman. (That's just crazy - it's all women, and yet we end up feeling alone?) Menstrual pains are a similar issue. Women have Endometriosis and go undiagnosed for years because we - and that includes doctors too - are not aware and educated enough, and it gets dismissed as the woman being whiny. Coming back to the initial topic of MBSR and menopause. I think MBSR can help us be aware and honest with our bodily and mental changes and challenges we go through during menopause. This connection can not only help us be aware of what we need and what's going on but when we rest in a clear relationship with our body, it's easier for us to insist on getting - and deserving! - the support we need, be it from doctors or families and friends. I also realised that with MBSR, I am more equipped to change my communication patterns consciously. One example that comes to mind is talking with the kids in the supermarket about pads, cups and tampons. Not in a hushed voice that would teach them that this topic is something to be ashamed of, but in the same casual tone, I would talk about dinner plans.

Hello Tine, Yes I agree that the language these doctors and scientist use can be a little too bold. But I personally feel it is aimed to wake up an interest in those that still do not understand the importance of holistic aspects of health. This language is used all the time in pharma industry - take this pill and your allergy, your headache, ... disappears.. (this might not be as prominent in Europe as advertising of pharmaceutical medicine is illegal, but I have seen in on the TV in the USA. As per your note on smoking and how it doesn't mean the smoker will get cancer and the non smoker won't, this is absolutely true! I have seen many old smokers that are in great health and not on any medication and I truly believe it is their life long positive attitude. We also see many people that are struggling with cancer and serious diseases, but they lived healthy lifestyles. This is because while they ate well and exercise, they lived in emotionally weakened state of either chronic stress or suppressed emotions from a trauma. The body is much more dynamic and there is usually not only one cause to a disease. The body has trillion cells that are in constant communication with each other, just like our systems are in constant communication with one another, .... If there is an imbalance in one part, that will affects other functions and all must be addressed together. In my work I always see there is a "story" the body has to tell, that often combines various aspects that are causing this particular health issue. Example of a client with chronic migraines (one possible story) - the pain is being triggered as a result of an emotional imbalance in liver connected to a specific event or life time experience, which is then blocking the communication between the liver and the gallbladder and hence the metabolic pathways for toxins and hormone elimination. So the reason is metabolic imbalance in the systems, which has been triggered by emotional stress. We are constantly exposed to stress, whether it is physical (sedentary life style, micro-trauma from repetitive movements, or an injury), metabolic (food, water, air, medicine, alcohol, ..), or emotional and mental stress and while more scientific research is proving that emotional and mental stress is the biggest culprit to modern diseases, all of these factors must be taken in consideration. <3

Ever more clearly, we all live, so often impoverished, in such a tightly strained attention economy, then all the more, in the immortal words of Simone Weil: “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” And emphatically, the wise investment of attention which is optimal reciprocal engagement, consistently accrues the highest return in like kind for everyone involved. So pay attention to me, damn it! Be interested, be interesting. Stay interested. Include me. Because, to quote Barbara Sher: “Isolation is the true dream killer, not your attitude.” Moreover, in the wise words of Carl Gustav Jung: “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate to others the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible . . . If a man knows more than others, he becomes lonely.” For as Michel Eyquem De Montaigne admits: “There is no pleasure to me without communication: there is not so much as a sprightly thought comes into my mind that it does not grieve me to have produced alone, and that I have no one to tell it to.” Indeed as George Orwell writes in 'Conversation with a Pacifist': “Philosophers, writers, artists, even scientists, not only need encouragement and an audience, they need constant stimulation from other people. It is almost impossible to think without talking. If Defoe had really lived on a desert island, he could not have written Robinson Crusoe, nor would he have wanted to. Take away freedom of speech, and the creative faculties dry up.” ***** my own subversive message in a bottle cast upon the cyber seas, agenda of frustrated outreach...

Bah, humbug! The same stock bad advice and futility. In truth, important close human relationship and particularly true friendship in autonomy, arises entirely as a byproduct of purposeful interaction and/or substantive communication, and never otherwise. To this end, I have a project proposal that might just appeal to an INFP. such as yourself. Know more at: ***** Thanks!

I think there are basically two ways why trust gets broken. The first thing the victim is probably thinking about is, the trust breaker doesn't care about him/her at all. But a second reason can be a communication problem, so the trust breaker may see this as the only way, even if there is another one. If the first one is the case and the trust breaker doesn't care about the victim at all, it's best to move on, because there is no reason accommodating someone, who doesn't care at all. If the second one is the case, the trust breaker will have to be completely honest and he/she will need to prove that he/she actually cares a lot and both can think about a way to make it work. Then it is up to the victim to decide for or against forgiveness.

Here are the links to the guided meditations we are practicing with during the MBSR course: Feel free to choose the recoding for the week you are at that resonates best with you. I will continuously add more links to high-quality recordings to cover a broader spectrum of voices and personal styles. Like the posture, the teacher that works best for where you are at today might differ. Yet in their core, those different meditation are the same. We offer a free guided meditation once a week live on zoom. Onve a month we offer a free FAQ session for this course. To see the time and dates and sign up for a session please checkout Tine's profile. Some recordings are by Dave Potter, an experienced MBSR teacher and psychotherapist who put together this online course. Jon Kabat-Zinn is the founder of the MBSR course. Emma Reynolds is an experienced MBSR teacher with the Mindful Academy, Solterreno, Spain. This is where I got my training too. Lynn Rossy is a health psychologist, author, researcher, and Kripalu yoga teacher specializing in mindfulness-based interventions. Week 1: Bodyscan Bodyscan 29min by Jon Kabat-Zinn (the founder of MBSR) Bodyscan 15min (YouTube) Bodyscan 15min (InsightTimer) by Tine Steiß Bodyscan 33min by Dave Potter Bodyscan 45min by UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness Bodyscan 20min by Emma Reynolds Compassionate Body Scan 24min by Kristin Neff Week 2: Sitting Meditation Sitting Meditation 32min by Dave Potter Sitting Meditation 40min by Jon Kabat-Zinn (the founder of MBSR) Week 3 and 4: Mindful Yoga Mindful Yoga 1 37min by Lynn Rossy PhD Mindful Yoga 2 36min by Lynn Rossy PhD Week 5: "Turning towards" the difficult, Soften, Sooth, Allow Turning Towards - Meditation for difficult emotions 23min by Dave Potter Turning Towards - Meditation for physical pain 25min by Dave Potter Soften, Soothe, Allow 16min by Dave Potter Soften, Soothe, Allow 9min by Happiness Insight RAIN 11min by Dave Potter Week 6: Mindfulness and Communication Mountain Meditation 20min by Dave Potter Lake Meditation 20min by Dave Potter Week 7: Mindfulness and Compassion Lovingkindness Meditation 13min by Dave Potter Other meditations that are closely related to the MBSR curriculum: Taking a breath - taking a break 13min by Tine Steiß Breathing Meditation for Beginners 10min by Jack Kornfield Labelling emotions 20min by Emma Reynolds the RAIN of Self-Compassion by Tara Brach (PhD in Clinical Psychology, founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington and author of Radical Acceptance, True Refuge, Freedom In Your Own Awakened Heart) Oneness Meditation 35min by Jon Kabat-Zinn (the founder of MBSR)