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Hi, my friends always seem to be upset, and I try cheering them up, but I get nothing in return and I am exhausted and upset, what should I do? They don’t appreciate me.
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I read this article on age-gap friendships, and I thought it was really interesting. I never even thought of it as a friendship for some reason, but I'm super close with my mom and love spending time with her. We are very similar (only 30 years apart ) and have so much fun together. Most of my closest friends are people I went to school or uni with, so we're of similar age. Is there an age-gap in many of your closest friendships? Do you enjoy spending time with people much older or much younger than you? Do you think it's more difficult to have a relationship with a person much older/younger? -
Hi all – adult friendships are extremely hard to make and keep I have found. I walk a pretty lonely road as I have health issues (chronic fatigue syndrome, MDD, type one diabetes), which has resulted in impaired vision such that I can no longer enjoy meeting in groups with people in the evening.. this is isolating and depressing. I live in Indiana and wish I lived in Arizona! I am interested in gardening, photography and all things personality, such as the MBTI and the Enneagram. I am particularly interested in connecting with like-minded spiritual people. -
Welcome! I would love to read about a psychologists kind of living. Personally, I notice the disappearance of active friends with age. In school and at the university some friendships are left behind, some endure, but after these times, getting to know new people becomes hard. Early this year I started a new hobby: photography. It gives me motivation to go outside, I get to meet other photographers and models, it's a new skill I learn, I receive positive feedback and it's fun. So I can recommend starting a hobby you'd like to try and join others. It can be anything like dancing, playing tennis, joining a chess club, visiting a painting workshop and much more. -
Where can I go make local friends?
Nlink replied to vinceforge 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
Join Community Groups and Clubs: Community groups and clubs are excellent platforms for meeting like-minded individuals who share similar interests. Look for local organizations, hobby groups, sports clubs, book clubs, or volunteering opportunities in your area. Engaging in activities you enjoy will naturally attract others with similar passions, providing a great foundation for building friendships. мParticipate in Local Classes or Workshops: Consider enrolling in local classes or workshops that align with your interests or hobbies. Whether it's a cooking class, art workshop, dance lessons, or language courses, these environments promote interaction and collaboration, creating opportunities to connect with fellow participants who share similar passions. -
I'm so happy to have found this community. I look forward to hearing from others on here but especially from anyone in Texas. I'm in San Antonio so if anyone on here is too or from nearby and would like to meet let me know. I'm excited to make other's acquaintance and hopefully new friendships will be created.
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When a friendship is one sided
suedseefrucht replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
Who is "you"? Can't be me, because I added you 2 days ago ^^ I think, there are different roles in friendships and in groups of friends. One or a few leaders with ideas and engagement and one or a few followers. Some years ago I was quite shy, so I was a follower. I didn't want to be the center of attention, because I was insecure. This role is totally fine, it's easy, because you never have to organize something and you still have some fun. But a follower is expendable. It doesn't really matter if there are 4 or 3 followers, because the ideas and the organisation will be the same. A leader is important, because there will be no meetings, no fun, no activities without him/her. So everybody wants to be the leader's friend. 4 years ago, I met a new group of friends were all the people were a little shy, so I saw my chance and became a leader just by being a little confident and by organizing a crew meeting. And it feels great to be a leader. Sure, you have to invest engagement and work but you get a lot of respect in return, so I think it's worth it. So if you feel like your friendships are one sided or people don't really care about you, you could try to be a leader. Don't go to a party, organize the party, invite people and everyone will talk about your great party. This works best in real life. -
Lovely reading your texts. No worries. I will seek out the frequency I need. I do meditate and hike often on my own and need a daily practice so the frequency listening will help. Thanks for your thoughts much appreciated. My internal balance does need attention but the lack of close friendships is always there. They r I believe two different t issues. One is inside the other outside. Take care. Regards.
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Hello everyone, I live in the North West of England, where I have settled since leaving the armed forces. I am finding it difficult to make friends, as I have no connection with this area such as school friends etc. I came to here because my spouse was from here, and I have a job here. I would like to meet people from this area to hopefully build friendships.
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Hi all, thanks for your support. A quick update on my journey as a meditation beginner. I started guided meditation using creative visualisation and manifesting techniques and the result is scary. I wasn't expecting instant results and I am manifesting new abundance in my life, health, work, business, home, relationships, friendships and finances. I am using some free audio resources at Guided Meditation & Hypnosis. Anyone can manifest their own abundance through meditation using the creative visualisation and manifesting methods. Happy manifesting guys and please update the group about what good you manifested.
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I made a friend at the bus station. That was an unexpected location. Usually unexpected friendships for me are the ones where a friendship builds after an initial dislike.
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Honest friends - is it always a good thing?
findingmyzen_22 replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
Always. Real friends will dote on you like a proud parent. They will also offer constructive criticism to help you on your journey and will expect the same from you. The reciprocity of respect and honest is what makes the best friendships last forever. -
Totally agree that it's important to set boundaries with your friendships and relationships! And it's also totally okay to tell a friend if you are not in the right headspace or mentally capable to deal with their unloading. We all have good days and bad, and if it starts to affect your mental health or your wellbeing you should be able to be honest about that too.
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When a friendship is one sided
suedseefrucht replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
Sorry for your loss. But yeah, friendships evolve. I used to see my school friends every day in school, then I saw them every few months and now in times of the pandemic maybe twice a year, but it's still fun to meet and the friendship somehow survived. The is also one friend, who I actually like but we didn't have much contact since he got a new job. I had a lot to setting up my new appartment, but now I plan to meet him more often again. -
When a friendship is one sided
Calvin77 replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
Unfortunately I have recently learned the lesson about one-sided friendships. I lost my mum recently after caring for her and during her illness and the grieving process there were many people who I thought that would be there for me that were not (conversely, people I didn't expect to reach out, did!). One or two of those that didn't reach out that much were – what I thought – best friends. We had been through a lot together! I may not always remember birthdays, but I think I'm a good friend in that I always listen, give advice to my friends, support them etc. So, I discovered some so-called friends in a new light and realized how one-sided they could be with things. For myself, I actually decided not to do anything; I didn't want to share my disappointment with them or try to talk it through. I was too busy with just getting through each day. Also, as there was a pandemic I also tried not to judge them. Maybe they had their own shit going on? So, I decided to just step back and stop reaching out to those people due to their one-sided nature. I think if we are meant to reconnect we will. My situation is quite extreme, but maybe your friend so just have the courage to confront their friend and be open about it? -
When a friendship is one sided
ChandanSingh replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
My most friendship is also one sided like any one sided love interest. Now a days in real life no friends for hangout and previous life friends are busy in their life. I think one sided friendships is also cool and I am successful with internet friends. You are also a example of my one sided friends to think sometimes as a special girl for me. You did not accept my friendship request but still I am commenting and engaging at your posts. When a friendship is one sided, two sided love can happen. Lol 😀 -
When a friendship is one sided
Tine replied to Lizzie 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
As we change, our relationships and friendships change. A friendship that was satisfying for a long time can change into one we are no longer comfortable with. When a friendship is one-sided, we might even feel used, unseen, and manipulated. I think you already answered by mentioning healthy boundaries. We need to be honest with ourselves and others and set these boundaries for the sake of our friendship, ourselves, and also our friends. Who, if not our close friends, deserve our honest feedback. -
Interesting subject. I totally love being on my own but equally love meeting and hanging out with new people. But like Bjoern, I don't think I make new friends - I just click with people that then become a friend. Some come and go in my life. I guess that some friendships are temporary. Friendships that really matter never fade - even if I've not seen the person in years. And there's some "friendships" that I look back on and think "what the f*ck was I thinking?!) Some are best left in the past. Also, different friends seem to play different roles in my life. You know, ones to have a laugh with, others to get practical with ideas, others for that big deep conversation.
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Ideas for when you're feeling lonely...
charapcharap replied to Calvin77 's topic in Mental Health Forum
I can never speak up for everyone–but I was always the dependent one in my friendships. I was introverted mostly in high school so it was really difficult for me to make other friends and approach other people. Of course, this made the transition to college especially hard since my friends and I were taking on different majors and couldn't hang out as much anymore. You could say, in a way, they "moved on". What really helped me was connect with others who shared similar hobbies and interests. In high school, I was a huge science nerd. The thing that helped crawl out of my introverted shell was climate activism. Which eventually led me to a slight obsession with alternative energy–which then brought me into a science debate club and earned me a new set of college friends. But before I even met my new college friends, I was less lonely because I was zoning into my research and my activism. This is why, as cliche as it may seem, I believe in the saying "when you do your passion, you attract the same passionate people". Just find something that your heart really yearns for and the people come as a byproduct of that. Hope this helps -
How important are friends in your life? Do you even need them? This article about the power of friendship suggests you do. As I've moved countries a lot I've found that certain friendships have slipped, but I've also made a few new ones, although it's not always come easy (there are some great ideas on how to make new friends here). So, how do you make friends these days? Do you have loads of friends or prefer a small number of quality mates?
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How do you end a friendship?
Berta replied to Calvin77 's topic in Friendship, Love, Relationship Forum
In my case the friendships which ended consciously where not real friendships before. In one case a friend whom I did hold dear one day spend the whole evening ranting about how every single thing I do in life is bad. I sat through the whole rant being puzzled that it didn't even com eto fight, just her ranting and me listening. I wen home and never contacted her again. She didn't either. So that was that. It still makes me sad thinking about it, but on the other hand I was always the one calling her to start with so I could have seen it coming but due to the work hours and schedule my free time was so unprecictable that I was used to be the one reaching out when I was available. -
Friends were always very important to me. However, I also had a hard time to make new ones. Over the years there slipped a lot of friendships, especially like @Calvin77described after moving country. I had a hard time to deal with the situation and questioned myself why I can't hold them. However to be honest I could have done much more to take care of those friendships. Friends are great but they also needed a real emotional and timely effort. Luckily I can say that I still have a few very close friends for years already. But since I'm a mum I'm just too busy to worry about how to make new friends But this might change again... -
I think a lot of people can relate to the feeling of wanting someone else there to share a situation, a place, an experience, or even life with. Once the situation in the world has become more normal it will once again be easier to connect face to face with others, and get to know people to form friendships and relationships. Being able to feel contentment even when we feel like something's missing is something positive I think, as it is easy to fall into a more bitter and negative state of mind. Wishing you a lovely week! ?
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I realize that I had different habits and dynamics about how to make friends (and keep the friendships going!) throughout the years. Recently, after moving to Barcelona I was making so much effort to make friends. It's fine of course but at a point, I realized that I was going for quantity and end up being unsatisfied and exhausted. So I'm acting differently lately and I feel happier with fewer friends but having a quality time with people I truly feel interested in getting to know more. On the other hand, I realized that friendships require a conscious effort. After moving here I felt that I'm losing the ties with my friends so I started to be more aware and careful about calling them often and now I'm even closer with some of my old friends. How did you guys experience these situations with friends after moving abroad, do you feel like @Calvin77 about it? Calvin, how did you deal with that? -
Sometimes it does help to write it down or tell it out loud - it makes it more real and it makes you see it with new perspective. In situations with problematic friendships or relationships I also try and think "what advice would I give if it was a friend / family member who was going through this?" It is definitely easier said than done, but it also helps to see things a bit more clearly. ?
