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I was also in the military, but my PTSD did not come from my time in Army. It came from the death of my husband. Even though I was military myself, I never experienced war. But the night my husband died... I was the one who found him and within hours I found myself homeless. I had never been in life or death situation; never had to call 911. The fact that he passed so quickly... From being a relatively healthy 40 year old male (11 days past his 40th birthday) to gone in an instant is part of the trauma I am experiencing. He seemed like Superman to everyone that knew him, invincible; a presence that was so big it would never just be "gone". When I close my eyes every night, the night that he passed flashes through my brain and I can't sleep. Reliving the moments before, during and after his passing... The What If's and If I Had Known's plague me every day. The loss of someone I thought I would spend the rest of my life with... And then, add on the trauma of finding myself homeless with 3 dogs within hours of his passing... they pronounced his time of death at just before 11PM on a Saturday and by 4AM that same Saturday I was homeless with only our car and 3 dogs.. All of my family are in California and I am in Texas.. and alone now. A veteran non profit org helped me, put me up into a hotel but it was in a very seedy part of the city I live in. And although I am grateful that I was not truly ever "on the streets", I never felt safe and my only goal was to get out of there as quickly as possible. I have been in survival mode since the day he died. I am now in my own apartment, thanks to the help of that veteran non profit org, but being in survival mode and the grief of my loss being so heavy.. I have found myself overwhelmed into complacency. Not wanting to leave this earth but feeling like I can't succeed on my own, like I can't succeed without him, like I can't succeed in the face of this overwhelming and all consuming grief that I have not been able to fully process and give it the time it needs for me to be able to start to heal from the loss and everything I've experienced as a result of it. I hope this helps explain a little more where the trauma comes from, and please forgive me if any of that sounded as if I was upset by the question, because I am not. I appreciate the question and wanted only to explain where it comes from.

The one thing I want everyone to know about me… I lost my husband unexpectedly in May of last year and became homeless within hours of his passing. I found out 90 days later that my husband had been abusing meth when I finally got the tox report. They called it a toxic mix of meth, fentanyl, gabapentin and cyclobenzaprine. I had not idea he was using or abusing meth… when I’d ask him why he was acting the way he was (on the rare occasions that I saw signs and symptoms) he would blame it on his PTSD from his time in the Marine Corps. It has been almost a year… next month… and that alone scares me. But I have been in survival mode since he’s passed which causes nothing but more problems because I cannot fully focus on anything in my life while also throwing on this heavy burden of grief and PTSD that no one seems to truly understand. Life moves on whether we’re ready or able to keep walking with it. So everyday is still a struggle, one foot in front of the other is still difficult even a year later. I’m here to be surrounded with people that will support me as I will support them through all of life’s up and downs.

Thanks everyone in my life right now is looking to me to be the fixer. Everyone just wants something from me. I wish I did have people that appreciated it but right now it just feels like what can I do for them is the question. Sometimes you just want to be in the background.

Hi, my name is Tracy. It is a pleasure to be here. Last night I discovered that I am quite a Lightworker. I have lived in darkness for so long and have questioned my purpose. I can honestly say that I have a clearer understanding about why I am here and why I life has been a struggle. I want to continue growing, healing, and learning about who I am. I feel I finally have purpose and am able to accept the reasons I went through so much in life.

Hello Bobbie, First of all, my condolences for your loss. I can relate how lonely you must be feeling after y mom died. She must be a big part of your life. Being a people pleaser is hard because y dont can please everyone. Most of the time people are very ungrateful too. Often you don't even get a thank you. It is taken for granted. I think y can be a good friend. But first of all you must learn to like yourself. Than you have more love for others. I wish y the best on your way ❤️

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When i was 29 i had the same expierience. Fortunately it opened my real path as a wounded healer and to deeper knowledge. I almost died from allergic schock caused by antibiotics. It turned out that i was allergic. Allergy is a Greek word which means "change what you do". Being faithful to my soul was the answer in my life. Learning to cooperate with myself, setting boundaries and letting go of toxic family members who undermined my worth and wellbeing because of jealousy and a need to control was the key. Looking deeper into situations and aknowleging that others projected on me their issues. This understanding allows both self respect and compassion towards the other. We can t help someone who does not want it.

“What is the one thing I want people to know about me?”. I have become a better person by making positive changes. I was at a low point years ago when I started my self-development journey, as I wanted to see a different future for myself. That was one of the best decisions I have ever made. Learning about myself at a deeper level, accepting my self-worth and embracing that change is something I would recommend for those who want a better life for themselves.

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Hi Lou, lou, I hope you are well. This fantastic news I am bereaved child my mother passes 2021. For the past 8 years I have wanted to work in supporting people with End of Life Care as I feel it's a very important topic people should have. I have worked in UK for 25 years in mental health and death is a taboo topic. Good luck on your journey.

Hi, I'm new here and am reaching out to share my love and support and hopefully to receive some much needed understanding and comfort back. My mum died, very suddenly, 4 years ago today. At the time, everyone rallied around, every one was understanding and wanted to help. To be honest, it was such a blur of disbelief and shock that the time just kind of passed by. So today, I am incredibly sad, I miss my mum so much, I want to be held and told I'm actually doing OK and that she's proud of me... But instead I'm very alone and lost. In general I think I'm a happy person, a people pleaser and will make sure everyone around me is OK and hears what they need to at the right time - I don't have a person in my life that thinks like that and is there for me....which I think makes me feel lonelier. I've read alot and know I should be the friend I need, to myself but that's hard Does anyone feel like this at all? Looking forward to getting to know you out there, big love ❤️

My partner recently suffered a major stroke. 8 months on and I'm his carer and don't know how/when/if his situation will improve. He was such an active man and we had great plans for the future - semi retirement working on uk campsite during the summer and travelling Europe in the winter in our camper. That life has been wrenched from us and we're both struggling to see anything positive in this. My philosophy is usually everything happens for a reason - ?????? How can that be applied? The worst problem with a stroke is that nobody knows how the outcome will be so life is just a waiting game at the moment - waiting for mobility improvements but not knowing if there will be an improvement. It's a bad dream we're living through. We try to do the positive things, luckily neither of us has sunk into depression but it is just so hard with no answers .

Hi one and all. It’s a pleasure to join your group. I am coming into alignment with my life purpose which is supporting the dying holistically and spiritually. I am currently gaining as much knowledge as I can in this area and am doing your course on grief. I am interested in making new friends and contacts in the group too with resonant souls. I am from the U.K. but happy to engage with souls from anywhere in the world. Much love and many blessings Louise

Hi there, Im new here and on a spiritual awakening. Been stuck in rage and anger at myself; as well as, my life circumstances. I'm where I am today due to the choices I have made. I'm not satisfied with who I have become. I been looking inward and I'm disappointed. I'm not who I thought I was or portrayed myself as. I want to be someone I can be proud of. I been stuck in this place a while. Trying to claw my way out. Searching for God to reveal himself to me like never before. I still have my faith but it has transformed drastically. I love people who are broken and will sacrifice my needs for others any day. I'm the first person to help when someone is in need. I feel a dark cloud over me and I'm ready for the sunshine!!!! Nice to meet everyone

Mental health services are becoming increasingly important in today's society. Life coaching is a form of mental health service that helps people to identify and achieve their goals, while also providing support and guidance through difficult times. It can be used to help individuals understand themselves better, build self-confidence, improve relationships with others, as well as manage stress levels more effectively. Life coaches offer an objective perspective on life challenges which can help individuals make positive changes in their lives.

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I've been practicing meditation for a few years now and it has had a profound impact on my life. I've found that it helps me to stay grounded, present, and more mindful throughout the day. Since discovering meditation my life has changed for the better and I am here to help others however I can and learn more about spirituality as a whole.

Yogasanas to uplift mood The practice of yoga has been known to have numerous benefits for physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. At Kaivalyadhama Institute, the focus is on using yoga to uplift mood and promote positive emotions. The institute offers a variety of Yogasanas, or yoga postures, that are specifically designed to improve mood, reduce stress, and increase overall happiness. These Yogasanas include poses such as Bhujangasana, or Cobra Pose, which can help to increase energy levels and improve mood by opening the chest and heart center. With the guidance of experienced instructors at Kaivalyadhama, individuals can learn how to use these Yogasanas to uplift their mood and cultivate a positive mindset. Whether practiced alone or as part of a larger yoga practice, these simple postures can have a profound impact on mental and emotional wellbeing, helping individuals to live a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

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Happiness is a state of being that everyone aspires to achieve. It is the feeling of joy, contentment, and satisfaction that arises from within when we are in a positive state of mind. Happiness is often associated with the fulfillment of our desires and the attainment of our goals, but it goes beyond that. True happiness is a state of mind that is not dependent on external circumstances or material possessions. It is a feeling that arises from within and is independent of external factors. Happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that can be difficult to define, but it is generally understood to be a positive emotional state characterized by feelings of pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. It can be experienced in a variety of ways, from a fleeting moment of joy to a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose. Research has shown that happiness has numerous benefits for our health and well-being. Happy people are generally more resilient to stress, have stronger immune systems, and live longer. They are also more creative, productive, and successful in their personal and professional lives. There are many factors that contribute to happiness, including our relationships, our work, our health, and our personal values and beliefs. However, research suggests that there are some common characteristics and practices that are associated with greater happiness. These include: Cultivating positive emotions: Focusing on positive emotions such as gratitude, joy, and kindness can help to increase feelings of happiness and well-being. Building strong relationships: Having close, supportive relationships with family and friends is a key factor in happiness. Pursuing meaningful goals: Having a sense of purpose and working towards meaningful goals that align with our values and interests can bring a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. Practicing mindfulness and self-compassion: Being present in the moment and treating ourselves with kindness and compassion can help to reduce stress and increase happiness. Engaging in physical activity and healthy habits: Regular exercise, good sleep, and a healthy diet are important for physical and mental health, and can also contribute to feelings of happiness. In conclusion, happiness is a complex and multifaceted emotion that is essential to our health and well-being. While there is no one-size-fits-all formula for happiness, research suggests that cultivating positive emotions, building strong relationships, pursuing meaningful goals, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, and engaging in healthy habits can all contribute to greater happiness and fulfillment in life.

This is only her 2nd relationship in her life, she was with 1 guy from high school until like 8 years ago. People hated that guy because he was extremly toxic and didn't let her see anyone especially males but she stayed because she loved him even after they broke up she was trying to get him therapy and was trying to fix him and he lived with her. So apparently she has a thing for these types of toxic guys. I dunno what that means though. But when she said she's working on trust with him so cleared off all her male friends and wont be able to hike with me anymore once a year or talk on the phone I knew right in that instant he was sabotaging my friendship with her the entire time which is why the friendship started going 1 sided. She was with him for 2 years, they broke up and she was panicing so much she went to the hospital and the doctor said it was just a broken heart. Once I found out they broke up I was right there talking to her on the phone like 3-4 times every month checking up on her, texting her all the time making sure she was ok...she even surprised me wanting to see me after her work for some food and sit down at the ocean. A few weeks later we hiked and I thought she was doing much better so I told her I would talk to her in a couple months, she hated that but I stuck with it, pretty much after that things between us took a huge drop off. A year and a half later here we are with this thread.

A boyfriend's point of view is seeing her being in contact to a guy she knows for a very long time. So it's hard for the boyfriend to try and become the most important person in her life. And even if it works, best friends like you could be upset because best friends get a lower priority. (At least in a very serious relationship) So that's why her (ex)boyfriend doesn't really like her male friends. And demanding all her male friends gone is a sign of his insecurity. Appearently, she is insecure too, because she's fulfilling his demand, because she is worried about ending up without a relationship. Of course that's horrible for you. Personally I feel sorry for her, because she is forcing herself into a relationship where her boyfriend tells her how to live her life and she will end up without her best old friends. Either that or she will be able to think straight after a while and end up without the relationship and without her good old friends. I experienced something like this before. In my case, I tried to become the boyfriend and she put me on hold in best friend zone. I was okay with waiting until she got a boyfriend. So I excluded her from my life and after a while she realized what kind of person he was and broke up. She tried to text me again, but I was done with her.