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Being conscious is to be present... to be present where? .... in senses...senses bring us to the present moment...by adoring and appreciating life, we fulfill inner self more:) greetings to everyone and happy holidays

I hear you, Kalila :) I think social anxiety comes from deeply routed fears of being judged or rejected by others, which for some has been the case their whole lives, including in their family situations. In these instances, it's easy to say to someone "just change your mindset and your life will change", but no one really knows how absolutely difficult that is to do for the person dealing with this issue (except probably that person). For many people, the world is a very scary place because that's all that they've been exposed to, and it takes a LOT of work, resources and patience to let go of such fears. And this is not available to everyone.

I wonder where you are looking? If you're not finding people that you click with where you're currently looking then find somewhere else to go, maybe join clubs that interest you? If online then make your profile really authentic and then the people you attract will be more on your wavelength. Fill your life with things you enjoy and the focus on relationships will not be so strong or feel like such a void. If you are holding your ex on a pedestal then this will be hard to meet someone new because you will be comparing to him, so maybe work through your feelings of loss for the relationship you lost.

I can familiarize with you current place in life as my path has been similar. I wish you live and light as your journey unfolds.

Hello! I just signed up as well. I can totally relate to your post. Mental health in the black community is non existent. I have thankfully found people and sources that made me realize that God is inside of us not outside. I believe that love and happiness is something you have to attain through living in the present moment with gratitude. Easier said than done of course, but life is a journey we have to handle with grace. I listen to gospel songs and replace them with self loving words as well! Thank you for sharing your post! I love your authenticity! Namaste

I have read a number of interesting articles on the healing aspects of nature. It is primarily through my photography that I have developed a love for nature in recent years. Most of my life I have had issues with it, because of my many allergies. Here's a few of my favourites: https://www.treehugger.com/health/how-practice-forest-bathing-park.html?fbclid=IwAR3Ut8XQP5RxkVrqEkc9zxAWycY_ZIXqlJpPNbuk7wcUtUcwWRz9osbB-1Y https://www.treehugger.com/economics/japans-forest-therapy-program-taps-healing-powers-forests.html?fbclid=IwAR2cvoDwnICg-S9N7Oy5utMEXw35L9-QxuERnoa-RPovsNZOy9VahSae8sA https://www.treehugger.com/health/50-hours-nature-sounds-increase-your-joy-and-awe.html?fbclid=IwAR1RzMBlo81pM_sm8SXicXTEaifgkPmZov3c5ZBYri524_LDT68JXTCrb2M https://www.treehugger.com/health/looking-trees-reduce-problematic-cravings.html?fbclid=IwAR2D-RisJSDozjSDlAn94HsW4Vt2mK5NpkjpP9clqsEmlY15Wb2oEbK4aaM

Hey Happiness folks, I just signed up and this is the first post I saw. Incredible how things just fall in your lap when you're open to seeing the opportunities. Anyway, I've been on a very frugal search for happiness myself and I come from the Hispanic culture in which mental health doesn't really exist. I've struggled with wanting religion in my life and I do connect to certain aspects of it but I just don't believe. I envy that sense of wholeness and I've tried to just "have faith" but try as I might my logical brain will not allow for it. I have religious friends and convos and I go to church and listen to K-Love. I simply replace the religious words with different ones. Faith would be, "fake it till you make it". Praying is more like "write in a journal" or "talk to yourself in the mirror". This post is long, so if you get what I'm trying to say or want clarification please let me know! And if you don't, just think of a happy thought that brings a genuine smile to your face. That's enough for me ?

Yeah I'm curious about it too! I've had a few experiences in my life that definitely weren't coincidence, and where I've gotten exactly what I asked for, down to a tee. So I know it works, it's just tapping into it again that I find to be a bit of a challenge.

Looking to start my life over in somewhere new soon. Looking around here to see if I can find any tools to help me do that. It's just me and my cat, Glitch and it's very much time. This liberal hippie chick is just not faring too well in the conservative Charlotte area.

remove anything pertaining to 20th century in your life. You will find your soulmate.

Step 1. RECOGNISE the pattern/s you have. *From 'Loving Relationships' by Sondra Ray Pattern 1: Since you established your first relationship with your parents, you tend to recreate their personalities as closely as possible in your other relationships. Pattern 2: You will tend to recreate the kind of relationships you had with your parents in your other relationships. Pattern 3: You will tend to copy the relationships your parents had with each other. *Note: I also think you try to avoid the type of relationship your parents had with each other. Pattern 4: Since most of us are used to a heavy dose of parental disapproval, we will tend to create upsets that will make our 'parents' disapprove of us. Pattern 5: You will tend to get even with your parents by using your mate or another. If your mate won't allow this, you might use your children. Pattern 6: Most people subconsciously want to remain helpless children all their lives. A conflict can occur when each wants to be a child and each wants the other to be his/her parent. Pattern 7: Since most people are used to the struggle they had with their parents, having a totally successful, easy, smooth relationship is too unfamiliar and too threatening to tolerate. Pattern 8: Suppressed incest always stands in the way of sexual affection. The point at which you could not acknowledge sexual feelings for your parents (or they for you) is the point where your sexuality becomes inhibited. *Note: personally, this one [8] challenges me and makes me feel uncomfortable; please remember I'm putting down what's in the book. Pattern 9: Because of self-hate and self-guilt, there is a tendency to beat yourself up using one of the following: your body, your sex life, your career, your finances, your material possessions. Therefore a). there is a tendency to mess up one or more of these relationships to punish yourself, and b). the guilt and self-hate can go all the way to thinking you separated yourself from God (or whatever universal power you choose) by taking on a body, thinking you are bad because you caused your mother pain at birth. Pattern 10: You will attract someone who fits your patterns. That is if you have a patterns that says "Men leave me", then you will attract a man who has a pattern of leaving. Any thoughts?

Hi everyone, My name is Marushka. I am a 34 year old female in Hampshire, UK. I have fibromyalgia, not much of a social life and this year has been very hard on me. I’m on here to make friends with like minded people. I’m a hippie at heart. I Love nature, animals, helping people, travelling and arts and craft. I go to a festival every year, called “into the wild” and it is the place I feel most at peace, surrounded by nature and wonderful, kind, caring and supportive people. I believe that the reason for an increase in mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression (I have both), is because we are not living natural lives. People are becoming more and more obsessed with money, power and “things”! Which means people work hard to get the things they want, without realising that they are becoming stressed and not truly living but spend all their time, wishing time away, for their next day off. This is such a sad way to spend our lives! As a result of this people compete with each other and become disconnected from each other and Mother Nature. I believe that we are all people from the same planet and we should all look after it and each other!!! Much love and best wishes to all. Marushka xxxxXxxxx

As @ShareeBelshaw already pointed out, the MBSR course can help loads with rumination and negative self-talk. So great to hear someone talk about the program and recommend it with the same enthusiasm as I do. Thank you! I know this from my own experience and the amazing effect it had in hindsight in my own life motivated to become an MBSR trainer myself. However, if you are going through a strong depressive episode looking more intensively at your thoughts might not be advised. Even if you are managing your depression reasonably well at the moment, you should talk to your therapist before you join the program. Also, speak to friends and family about it, and always remember "you are the expert for yourself". We usually know if we are lazy and our thoughts want to talk us into not going to the gym or going to the gym really hurts our knees or spine. It's similar with this there is some inner resistance we need to overcome to get our meditation and mindfulness practise going, but that's different to actually hurt ourselfs. We usually know which one is which. Besides that welcome! I think talking about depression and mental health, sharing our stories and struggles and most importantly realizing we are not alone with what we are going through might be one of the most powerful steps to acceptance and from there to change.

I I will share with you a little bit of what helped me at the time of my divorce with the hope that it may help you as well. A divorce is an emotional roller coaster. Some days are better that others. On the bad days you can be depressed and lonely specially on weekends. So, one thing that was very helpful to me was to plan my weekends with simple fun things to do. You can do them with a friend or by yourself. Go to the movies, visit towns near or even a little far and google ahead of time fun things to do in that town. Just plan your days with fun things to do and this can help you emotionally so you don’t feel so sad and lonely. Another thing that helped me was to truly understand that my ex and I are both good people even if things didn’t work out. Sometimes we just lack the maturity, skills, compassion and understanding to handle challenges that are so common in a relationship . As time goes by you will gain clarity on why things didn’t work out and this in return will help in accepting the situation without blaming yourself or her. The good news is that no pain lasts forever and when the time is right give yourself the gift of a new love. start now little by little creating your new happy life ?

Hi, my own experience with loss doesn't involve someone dying, but I have encountered similar feelings. It's taken me almost 9 months to start making sense of things and it's getting easier. Try not to take on too much too soon. You might find it easier to make a daily list of what you need to get done, and prioritise what needs to be done ahead of what you want to be done. It will take time and getting back to normal won't be the same because normal is now different. But it will get easier. Have you thought about meditation ? I found a small group to meditate with, and it's been really rewarding for my mental health. Ultimately try not to focus on the end of your dad's life, but just remember him the way he was before that. It's all a part of a cycle, you will have good days and bad, but the bad days get easier. I hope you find some peace, and if you are able, just slow down and take a deep breath, things might start to become clearer.

Hi all I am Mihaela, I'm 29. It's amazing to see how many people support each other through not so good situations. Life is not all pink but seeing so many nice and positive messages definitely made it less grey. Nice to meet you all and have a great week ?

Thank you Joejoe. Well, I'm here, and I am working on my issues. You are right, no-one else can live my life for me. I'm eternally grateful I discovered meditation and from that some meaning in Buddhism. I still struggle with my identity, but the letting go is proving hard. I'm fine until I have to see her and the new partner. I keep telling myself it's ok to let go, and I really do forgive her, but Forgiveness for yourself is difficult. I have turned the corner, do thanks for sharing.

I am back here yet again and with still being totally @waybeyondfedup with beyond all of both of this. Especially, with @Julius, @Tine, @Calvin77 have chosen to forgo beyond all of both of political/generalized/on/ff topic. This includes all of the others on here and/or also still having no whatsoever clue on beyond how to setup all of this. By the way this includes also applies to beyond religion/ethics/philosophy. In which I have totally decided thats it better to leave here as opposed to sticking it. Heres my latest blog entry explaining as to why and where to find me as well. https://jessicaabrunowaybeyondfedup.wordpress.com/2019/11/25/jessica-a-bruno-waybeyondfedup-open-letter-psa-to-all-of-both-of-alex-the-philosophy-society-forum-with-re-tina-julius-steib-calvin-holbrook-happiness-com-learn-practice-and-conne/ Jessica A Bruno (waybeyondfedup) open letter/psa to all of both of Alex, The Philosophy Society Forum, with Re: Tina (Julius) Steib, Calvin Holbrook, Happiness.com – Learn, practice and connect around your personal well-being and emotional education Jessica A Bruno (waybeyondfedup) 11/25/19 25.11.19 Dear Alex, Mr. Steib (Julius), Holbrook, Ms Tebbe, Mr. Carl,Ms Weiss, Schwartz, Atlus, Mr. Zuckerberg, Miss/Mrs./Ms Smith, Reuwer, Higgins, Steyn, Dr/s. Straub/s, Dr. Michalsen, Dr/Miss/Mr/Mrs./Ms Bachman, Ari, Erica, Maxine, Phyllis, Tessa, Liam, Ms Ibsen, Whomever this may concerns, Lance, BibleFora, Mr. Steves, whomever this may concerns, Ms, Mr. Tietje, Ms Alpert, Ms/iss Bitton, Ms/Nurse Welsh Devine, Dr./Ms Buehler, Ms Markov Schneider, Ms/iss Cullen, Ms Venker, Dr/Mr. Townsend, Ms Wheeler, Mr., Ms, Miss Kutcher, whomever else this may concerns, everyone both on/ff of here:, I am back here yet again because I have fi/ound/join/ed via yet another startpage search regarding philosophy chit chat/discussion/talk/forums. waybeyondfedup | The Philosophy Society https://thephilsoc.com/members/waybeyondfedup.54/ At the same time I am all of both totally waybeyondfedup/in the middle of road regarding with all of both of Mr. Steib (Julius) and Mr. Holbrook have chosen to forgo political/news/current events/affairs because of all of everything in today’s culture and society. Happiness.com – Learn, practice and connect around your personal well-being and emotional education. In which I am totally in disagreement with that because just look at US/USA (United States/of America) being beyond living life, liberty, in the pursuit of happiness. Still totally hoping that it will get better as time goes on.

I read this quote the other day and thought it made a lot of sense. I talked before about dealing with negative people around you without letting it bring you down, and I think it also applies to the negativity around us in general. "The less you respond to negative people, the happier you will become" I think a lot of the times, we decide what we put in our minds, and by that also how we feel. If I allow a lot of negativity to take up space in my life or in my head, it will most likely have a negative effect on my overall happiness too. Just thought I'd share

Thank you big hug straight back at ya lol spent the playing music & dancing round my kitchen always lifts my spirits , music & dance soothe the soul. I'm gonna manifest my perfect life through gratitude until it becomes my reality. We Are What We Think ?? ? Love & Light to u ?

Yeh this I have to work only mind gets negative at times, then I worry that this is what the universe will return to me. As I believe what we think is what we become, so I'm trying really hard with yoga & meditation to change my mind set in order to change my life & circumstances, button this world it's a daily battle, but I will win eventually.

Thank you ladies! Been a rollercoaster week with lots to work through, more to come but that's what makes life so interesting! Hope your week has been good too x

Hii am new hear. I started my spiritual journey about 2 years ago, I’m just learning how to incorporate what I learn into daily life. I was so excited to find out this forum existed

In my case the friendships which ended consciously where not real friendships before. In one case a friend whom I did hold dear one day spend the whole evening ranting about how every single thing I do in life is bad. I sat through the whole rant being puzzled that it didn't even com eto fight, just her ranting and me listening. I wen home and never contacted her again. She didn't either. So that was that. It still makes me sad thinking about it, but on the other hand I was always the one calling her to start with so I could have seen it coming but due to the work hours and schedule my free time was so unprecictable that I was used to be the one reaching out when I was available.

Yesterday day 3- practiced mindfulness and pleasant event while in hot tub yesterday, shower, with my spiritual practice being in body. Really brought so much joy into my life yesterday and the day flew by! day 4 (week two) MBS practice- I love the feelings of creating so much space that it feels my body does not exist! Had a hard time “focusing” for the first while but eventually I noticed that I rigged and brought self back to body! Magical