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Thank you for your kind response. Having the distance has given me the chance to notice what all my friends and family have always seen. That I’m the more caring, loving, supportive and generous one in the relationship and that I deserve to have to same effort put in for me. Some even think that it was an emotionally abusive relationship but I think that might be a bit excessive. I’ve always had the anxiety that, everyone that’s not family leaves and that I care more about people than they do me and she just fed into all of that! I am now taking time for self discovery with mindfulness and meditation, travelling etc... making some like minded friends and I’m feeling more at peace about everything. I hope your having a wonderful Christmas. Best wishes, Marushka

Thank you hun. Im sorry to hear that you have been in a similar situation. I hope things will get better. I am going to use this time to do some self discovery. I’m feeling at peace with it all at the moment because I know I did all I can to try to make it work and now I will see what will be. This year has been an emotional rollercoaster and I’m exhausted from it all. I don’t think I even have the energy to be upset anymore. I focus so much on trying to make everyone around me happy, that I forget to take care of myself but I have been reflecting a lot on that lately and know I need to be kinder to myself. Thank you for your time and well wishes xXx

Ever since I was a child, I had a longing for Truth or what some would call the Divine. After many years of searching and meeting different teachers, I was fortunate to come into the company of Satguru Sirio and was initiated into the path of Surat Shabd Yoga. Now, I share the peace and blessings through devotional singing. I am happy to have a community like this to meet other like-minded seekers after Truth. Namaste❤️

Hi everyone, My name is Marushka. I am a 34 year old female in Hampshire, UK. I have fibromyalgia, not much of a social life and this year has been very hard on me. I’m on here to make friends with like minded people. I’m a hippie at heart. I Love nature, animals, helping people, travelling and arts and craft. I go to a festival every year, called “into the wild” and it is the place I feel most at peace, surrounded by nature and wonderful, kind, caring and supportive people. I believe that the reason for an increase in mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression (I have both), is because we are not living natural lives. People are becoming more and more obsessed with money, power and “things”! Which means people work hard to get the things they want, without realising that they are becoming stressed and not truly living but spend all their time, wishing time away, for their next day off. This is such a sad way to spend our lives! As a result of this people compete with each other and become disconnected from each other and Mother Nature. I believe that we are all people from the same planet and we should all look after it and each other!!! Much love and best wishes to all. Marushka xxxxXxxxx

Hi, my own experience with loss doesn't involve someone dying, but I have encountered similar feelings. It's taken me almost 9 months to start making sense of things and it's getting easier. Try not to take on too much too soon. You might find it easier to make a daily list of what you need to get done, and prioritise what needs to be done ahead of what you want to be done. It will take time and getting back to normal won't be the same because normal is now different. But it will get easier. Have you thought about meditation ? I found a small group to meditate with, and it's been really rewarding for my mental health. Ultimately try not to focus on the end of your dad's life, but just remember him the way he was before that. It's all a part of a cycle, you will have good days and bad, but the bad days get easier. I hope you find some peace, and if you are able, just slow down and take a deep breath, things might start to become clearer.

Welcome to the happiness community, Shirley! I wish you all the very best on your journey on self-love and inner peace. Remember to be ever so gentle with yourself and take it one day at a time. ✨?

Hello, I hope you find peace and happiness. Many blessings ? Welcome!

Hey beautiful souls looking forward to talking to some awesome people and learning from u x peace and love ???

I just finished week 1 and have very much enjoyed learning more about mindfulness. I had been practicing different types of meditation a few months prior to starting the course and felt I was benefitting from it. I had an amazing experience with the body scan right from the start-- my mind wandered very little during the scan, then towards the end, when it was silent for a while, I finally experienced no thoughts. It was just pure peace-- it felt absolutely wonderful. This has happened a few times so far. Looking forward to week 2.

Stay well, stay healthy, peace ✌ You are not alone

Mindfulness is truly a technique. A technique to find something so much closer to you than your own breath. It is a technique that can be used to find true stillness of mind, which is ever present within us. We must find a teacher who can guide us to this state as an experience, not as a mere understanding. Then one will know it by experience the calmness I am talking about. One will know true happiness and may even know what is beyond the body mind. There are such teachers, extremely rare I would say but there is. And at "Nisala International Meditation Centre" I have found such a capable unique teacher. Following is the description given on its website home page: (www.nisala.org) Hope this will be useful. "At the Nisala Meditation Center you will be guided to the natural awareness and stillness of the mind directly by the meditation teacher, after an initial preparation through meditation. The mind is intrinsically still and aware. This state, or a state that is a prelude to this and yet is very still, can be instantly recognised when the right guidance is available. A mind that recognises such a state will attain to peace in a rapid manner compared to practicing meditation alone, with or without guidance. When you attain to a sufficient level of stillness awareness in the mind, it will start letting go of various negative states such as fears, harmful desires, sadness, negative habits, anger issues, and such like. This is essentially a deep cathartic process that will bring about an immense release. Such experience will create the platform for further deepening of stillness awareness. In this way the mind will eventually attain to its natural stillness and liberation from sorrow."

I have no expectations, just want to wish you all much peace & happiness x

Day 1 I tried before bed, I never made it to the end. Perfect way to get a good nights sleep! Day 2 Midmorning bodyscan was much better. I found it to very relaxing and made it through to the end. I felt my body completely relax as the scan focused through each area. My mind did wonder off periodically but I found it was positive productive thoughts and I refocused as needed. Feeling rejuvenated afterwards and at peace.

That's a really useful article Lizzie. I know several people who are unhappy in their work. I have experienced that myself, mainly due to the stress of ever-increasing workload competing with increasing family commitments. I eventually opted for early retirement as I felt unable to fulfil the expectations of my boss, and was feeling overly stressed. I felt that my peace of mind was more important than the financial gain, and although I did have initial feelings of failure, I also felt I had to look after myself. At that time I did not practice meditation and mindfulness techniques - I now find them extremely helpful in dealing with my current part time job which is stressful in a different way - not so pressurised but unrest and animosity amongst staff create an uncomfortable and negative atmosphere. I try to distance myself from the complaints and practise all the strategies outlined in the article.

Going over past decisions or mistakes and beating myself up about stuff is something that's plagued me for ages. If I added up all the time I'd spent thinking 'what if' or 'why did I do it that way?' I think I'd probably start stressing over that too! ? I was checking out this article about ruminating on the site and apparently humans spend half our waking hours thinking about something other than what we're doing. ??It also suggested three ways to try and stop ruminating on stuff. For me, one of the ideas of distraction seems to work best. If I'm busy with work, friends, exercise etc, my mind does focus on that and blocks out any chance of ruminating on the past. I think I'm getting better with my rumination and I now try to switch my thoughts to focus on solutions of the future. It's an ongoing problem, still working on it! Does anyone suffer with this? I'd love to hear what techniques have worked for other people to try and stop ruminating so I can try them out. Peace!

To be happy... Is to enjoy to make others smile and to transmit peace to the soul of others.?

@Taopenny mentioned this poem on her profile. Thank you! ? Hokusai says by Roger Keys He says pay attention, notice. He says keep looking, stay curious. He says there is no end to seeing. He says look forward He says keep changing, you just get more who you really are. He says get stuck, accept it, repeat yourself as long as it’s interesting. He says keep doing what you love. He says keep praying. He says every one of us is a child, every one of us is ancient, every one of us has a body. He says every one of us is frightened. He says every one of us has to find a way to live with fear. He says everything is alive— shells, buildings, people, fish, mountains, trees. Wood is alive. Water is alive. Everything has its own life. Everything lives inside us. He says live with the world inside you. He says it doesn’t matter if you draw, or write books. It doesn’t matter if you saw wood, or catch fish. It doesn’t matter if you sit at home and stare at the ants on your verandah or the shadows of the trees and grasses in your garden. It matters that you care. It matters that you feel. It matters that you notice. It matters that life lives through you. Contentment is life living through you. Joy is life living through you. Satisfaction and strength are life living through you. Peace is life living through you. He says don’t be afraid. Don’t be afraid. Look, feel, let life take you by the hand. Let life live through you. Roger Keyes

....oh, and send her happy birthday greetings anyway.....you will show you are kind and not bitter, and she will appreciate that in you.....Peace

take your time.....and with every thought, make it a good one, of when you had good times, be thankful for the time you spent together.....and send her good thoughts of thanks every day, for then you create a better future for yourself to have with another, or maybe she will return, just be happy and thankful, life gets better in thanks............you are learning how to change your emotions from the lower sad ones and moving up higher into acceptance and joy again.......be thankful and smile....you will get through this....peace be with you

happiness at times seems to slip thru my fingers unaccountably. a brief image, a song, a wandering thought - these and more can effect my emotions. so i have found simple things that help create an environment to "attract" happiness. making up my bed w/ fresh sheets. a vase of wildflowers, that i have gathered, adorning my home. buying - and then brewing - my favorite type of tea. taking ten minutes to flip thru one of my most beloved poetry books. playing ball w/ my loyal dog - he is so happy to be playing that i can't help smiling. depression & ptsd and grief trip me up daily, so i trip them w/ my simple pleasures. peace.

i would choose a. it would be a mindful situation. even if i couldn't remember the actual play-by-play, my body and mind would carry those memories as feelings and comfort and wonder. peace.

Hello! Thank you for joining and welcome to our little happiness community! Happiness.com is just in its infant stage, but I can already say that I find it good for very many things! There's a whole community of curious, kind and openhearted people willing to share their life experiences and lessons with others. People willing to help and serve, learn and experience, and welcome and support anyone in need of it. Unlike Facebook, we are a little conscious community for those interested in more "Real" topics related to life, love, loss, mindfulness, peace, dis-ease, etc. It can be whatever you’d like it to be :) All the best on your journey ?✨

I'm reading a book about fertility that swears by it. I recently went to a Kundalini yoga class in Amsterdam and I really enjoyed it. It's more chanting mantras than the asanas, but the whole experience is quite powerful. I left the class feeling a great deal better, and a little blissed out. The book I'm reading suggests Kundalini yoga for pregnant women or those wanting to get pregnant, but I think it's accessible to anyone who wants to clean/heal their energy and just bring some more peace and mindfulness to one's daily life.

Great topic! A story comes to mind, today I spoke to a friend who went on a vippassana retreat with her boyfriend. Usually such retreats are intensive meditation retreats done in absolute silence. when they arrived there were some issues which made her unsure about the future of their relationship. Being completely in silence she was not allowed to talk to him and she had to sit through the experience of not knowing and not being able to project her feelings outwards but let them burn internally. Body Scanning helped to stay mindful in the presence and in some point there was just acceptance for what happened and what might happen in the future. Her heart began to overflow with love and truth again. For me that was a beautiful example how we tend to solve our problems in the outside world when really all that needs to fall into place is us being in alignment with the way things are. Deep acceptance of what was and might be regardless of our preferences Leads to peace and the flowering of our essence which is empty loving awareness.

It's good to have likeminded friends around, but to be honest I am alone aswell, it's hard to find...specially when you are a new immigrant! But meanwhile if you want to learn something I strongly recomend listening to Kryon (lee Carroll) speeches. They are wonderful and exceptionally relaxing....peace and love for everyone???