I'm a retired midwife with German roots who's kids live in the UK but we chose sunny Spain as our retirement heaven.
Recently I have been thinking more and more about how to contribute to the changes that will save our planet. Our kids are really motivated and we all joined the Climate strike in different countries.
We have limited our consumption, have our own garden, prefer local produce, eat mostly vegetarian and do not really buy many new things - which is also due to our very limited budget but makes it easier to live with less anyway.
We are now thinking about moving to the UK to be closer to our kids and the grandchildren but I have my roots in Germany and my husband prefers Spain.
How are you guys dealing with the situation that at an old age you'd love to keep things as they are and just enjoy retirement and be a nice old lady and at the same time you want to contribute too, you want things to move and change for the better and you can't sit still and expect everyone else to do your part too.
My interests are gardening, especially roses, and I like to go for long walks with my dog Willie. During these walks I get to enjoy life and also contemplate about the basic meaning of life itself.
I do pilates once a week, but truth be told I do it for the chats before and after rather than for the workout itself.
I couldn't agree more. As I wake up from the illusion of endless growth, the need to have more/ "better"/ newer/ trendier things experiencing sufficiency is so rewarding. It brings and abundance of peace and gratitude to my life rather than an abundance of things.
Given the current situation our garden is more of a life saver than ever. And I might add a massive benefit for our mental health.
It fits in well with the ideas of fighting climate change that a patch of nature is now such a luxury.
I hum, make up really bad silly songs or sing the melodie of an old cheezy tv show like the unknown stuntman" or "the A-team" when I am in a relaxed state for example while gardening. This gets funny because my husband does the same and it very rarely fits. :-)
Oh, I am a bit late to this topic but here's what I am working on: Speaking up more! I train with tiny little things. How often did I not clarify my needs "hoping" that it would turn out ok. How often did I stay quiet about a racist remark presented as a joke. I practice and I hope this makes me more fluent. I do not need to respond with anger. A kind remark like "I am not comfortable with this kind of humor" hopefully makes the others think while being nice enough to not make them shut down in Read more… defense.
The whole timezone thing is quite confusing.
On the other hand it's also quite exciting to image that we'd come together from different parts of the world at the same time and yet for some it's evening for some it's morning.
In my case the friendships which ended consciously where not real friendships before. In one case a friend whom I did hold dear one day spend the whole evening ranting about how every single thing I do in life is bad. I sat through the whole rant being puzzled that it didn't even com eto fight, just her ranting and me listening. I wen home and never contacted her again. She didn't either. So that was that. It still makes me sad thinking about it, but on the other hand I was always the one Read more… calling her to start with so I could have seen it coming but due to the work hours and schedule my free time was so unprecictable that I was used to be the one reaching out when I was available.