Hi I’m new here and I need advice

[dg****]

I’m a loving dad of a 26 year old beautiful daughter, she is severely overweight but is working towards bariatric surgery, she’s tried diets and they don’t work.  She has no friends other than those online far away, she’s never had a boy friend and spends most of her time in her room on her computer.  My heart is breaking for her, she cried telling me how worthless she was and how lonely she was the other night and I just wanted to break down with her but I had to stay strong.  She is on medication for bipolar and depression but more needs to be done.  For whatever reason men don’t see the real her because of her size and it kills me she is so beautiful inside and out.  I need advice on how to get her out of her shell and to become part of the world again.  Please help a loving father save his daughter!!

[ca****]

Hola

[Ih****]

She seems to need professional help. Psychotherapy from a psychiatrist will help a lot. If this is too much, sign her up for charity work. Helping people or animals freely should boosts her confidence to get her out of her comfort zone.

 

[su****]

I know a few people who were/are are pretty lonely. Every now and then I was lonely too and I wasn't in a relationship until I was 25 years old (I'm 27 now) even though I don't think I'm ugly or havinga weight problem.

 

My problem was thinking my happiness would depend on other people and I thought I needed a girlfriend to become happy. Unfortunately, this mindset is very unattractive and unhealthy fora relationship.

I hope, she can learn to be proud of herself for what she's already achieved in life and she can take care about herself by following her dreams.

I know it sounds sad to go to the cinema or on vacation alone, but if that's what makes her happy, she should do it - no matter if she has friends or a relationship.

And when people see how she is enjoyig life, they will be a lot more attracted to her. And when she doesn't need a partner to make her happy, she is a lot more independend and confident in a relationship.

 

She can also try to visit her friends far away. It doesn't have to be every week, but a little social contact can change a lot.

 

And by the way...
You are an amazing dad.