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With a multitude of Reiki types and styles available, choosing a healing treatment can be overwhelming. Rachel Markowitz outlines 14 types of Reiki – such as crystal, kundalini, and karuna – and explains the key to finding the practice that aligns best with you. Reiki refers to the Japanese representation of universal life force energy (composed of rei, “spiritual/universal”: 靈, and kei, “life force/energy”: 氣). It's also the name of the hands-on healing practice that harnesses this energy. In a Reiki session, energy flows where needed, facilitating the body’s innate tendency to self-heal at physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels. The ability to feel, channel, and heal with Reiki is directly transmitted through an unbroken lineage of Reiki Masters. However, since Reiki’s documented origins in the early 1900s in Japan, practices and teachings have been adapted, added to, and re-interpreted – resulting in dozens of types and hundreds of branches of Reiki. To better understand the many styles of Reiki, we’ll learn the stories behind the most well-known lineages, explore their unique qualities, and discuss how to select a practice that’s best suited for you. The Different Types of Reiki According to William Lee Rand, founder of the International Center for Reiki Training (ICRT), there are four qualities that define Reiki: Reiki energy comes from initiation (called attunement). Reiki is passed down through a direct lineage with continuous teachings. Reiki energy is guided by a higher power (and doesn’t require direction from a healer). Reiki cannot harm. With this in mind, the following types of Reiki display the wide range of healing techniques that have manifested throughout Reiki’s journey from Japan to the U.S. and beyond. 1. Usui Reiki Traditional Reiki is commonly called “Usui Reiki,” after Mikao Usui Sensei, who developed the Reiki system that spread throughout the world. However, Usui Reiki practices are divided into two distinct types, Usui Reiki Ryoho and Usui Shiki Ryoho, which provide a foundation for the majority of today’s different types of Reiki. Usui Reiki Ryoho is the name given by Usui Sensei to his original Reiki “discovery” in 1922. Although Reiki healing already existed at that time, Usui experienced a spontaneous, enlightening transmission of Reiki energy, along with the ability to heal through his hands. Usui then developed a set of practices and moral principles, providing an ethically-based spiritual practice, predominantly for self-healing. His teachings include symbols, mantras, hands-on healing techniques, and meditative practices. When these traditional Reiki teachings were adjusted for Westerners (primarily by Mrs. Hawayo Takata and her teacher Chujiro Hayashi in the late 1930s), these “traditional” teachings became known as Usui Shiki Ryoho. Usui Shiki Ryoho, also known as Western Reiki, diverges from Usui’s original Reiki by condensing Reiki attunements into three distinct levels. It also incorporated fixed hand positions for healing and required Reiki to be passed on as an oral tradition. These days, almost all “traditional” or “Usui” Reiki practitioners come from the lineage of Mrs. Takata and the 22 Reiki Masters that she initiated. Healing hands: there are many styles of Reiki 2. Jikiden Reiki Jikiden Reiki is considered “Japanese” or “Eastern” Reiki. Like Western Reiki, it originates from Usui’s direct lineage. However, since Usui’s practice changed throughout its time in the West, Jikiden was founded in Japan in the late 1990s to preserve Usui’s teachings. It emphasizes body scanning and intuitive hand placement rather than pre-determined hand positions for healing treatments. Jikiden healers work with healing physical and mental ailments, and also spiritual development. 3. Gendai Reiki-ho Gendai Reiki-ho is an adaptation of Usui Reiki created by Sensei Hiroshi Doi of Japan in 1993. Its name translates simply to “Modern Reiki Method.” Gendai Reiki Ho is a combination of traditional Reiki from Usui’s school, some of which fell out of use during Reiki’s evolution, with Western Reiki and other healing modalities. Gendai Reiki-ho is typically taught to students who have already learned Reiki at the Master level. It also emphasizes spiritual connection alongside physical healing. 4. Rainbow Reiki Rainbow Reiki is a a type of Reiki developed by Walter Lübeck in the 1980s as an evolution of Usui Reiki. Lübeck’s healing practice integrates the seven chakras – centers of concentrated vital energy, according to yogic philosophy – into its methodology. “Since Reiki’s documented origins in the early 1900s in Japan, practices and teachings have been adapted, added to, and re-interpreted – resulting in dozens of types of Reiki.” Rainbow Reiki is commonly used for chakra healing, clearing, and balancing. It often incorporates crystals, aura cleansing, mantras, and karmic healing into sessions. Although this may seem complex, Rainbow Reiki is described as both powerful and direct. 5. Karuna Reiki® Karuna Reiki® is a trademarked lineage of Reiki founded by William Rand in the mid-90s. Karuna is Sanskrit for compassion, and Karuna Reiki® emphasizes healing through kindness and empathy, often focusing on the emotional and spiritual well-being of clients. During treatments, healers use a unique set of symbols, along with the energies of archangels and ascended masters, and chanting practices. Karuna Reiki® works alongside traditional Reiki, and a healer needs to be attuned to Reiki at a Master level to learn its methods. 6. Holy Fire® Reiki Holy Fire® Reiki was also developed by William Rand as an advanced practice for healers working beyond the scope of Karuna Reiki®. Holy Fire® was added to Rand’s lineage in 2014. It includes a new symbol, along with practices that allow a practitioner to deepen their healing powers. According to Rand, Holy Fire® Reiki energy leads to “purification, healing, empowerment, and guidance.” 7. Crystal Reiki Crystal Reiki describes any Reiki practice that uses crystals, often infused with Reiki energy, to enhance the healing qualities of Reiki energy. During these sessions, healers place crystals with various energetic properties on or around the body to amplify or add specific frequencies and intentions to other Reiki techniques. Crystal Reiki is a popular style 8. Tibetan Reiki “Tibetan Reiki” typically refers to Tibetan Usui Reiki, a combination of traditional Reiki with aspects of healing used in Tibetan shamanism. This type of Reiki was developed by an American Usui Reiki Master, Arthur Robinson, in the early 1980s and popularized by William Rand. Tibetan Reiki involves two symbols from Tibetan Buddhism, healing crystals, and spiritual guides. “Different types of Reiki do not compete with each other; they complement each other. Since all Reiki practices aim to provide holistic health and well-being, there’s no harm in experimenting.” However, there is also a less popular lineage of Tibetan Reiki that was passed down from Tschen Li, a Tibetan Monk, whose teachings predate (and were allegedly shared with) Mikao Usui. 9. Sekhem Reiki Sekhem is the ancient Egyptian term for life force energy, and Seichim is the traditional Egyptian form of energy healing. Thus, combining Egyptian healing with Japanese Reiki results in what’s known as Seichim, Sekhem, or Sekhem-Seichim Reiki. Sekhem healing was popularized by Patrick Zeigler in 1980 after a mystical transmission of energy through a heart-opening experience in the Great Pyramid in Egypt. Sekhem Reiki practices focus on the heart center and a central channel of light throughout the body. …And More Other Reiki styles worth a shout-out (and some research for those inclined) include: Tera Mai™ Reiki: Combines the energy of Reiki, Seichem, Earth’s elements, and teachings channeled from the Buddha Lightarian Reiki: Emphasizes high vibrations and enlightenment Shamballa Reiki: Calls on Ascended Master St. Germain for multidimensional healing Violet Flame Reiki: Uses 40 symbols that were channeled from Quan Yin, the Buddhist goddess of compassion Kundalini Reiki: Focuses on Kundalini, vital energy that rises through the spinal column when we spiritually awaken. Which Type of Reiki Is Right for Me? With so many different types of Reiki, those new to healing may feel overwhelmed by options. When deciding between styles, factors to consider include: Intention The reason for your interest in Reiki will point you towards the best practices for you. For instance, you might consider traditional (Usui) Reiki or Jikiden Reiki if your purpose is simply to experience Reiki energy, relax, or intentionally heal an ailment. However, if your intention is spiritual evolution, Sekhem Reiki or Rainbow Reiki could be best for you. Spiritual or Healing-Related Interests As we’ve learned, Reiki can be integrated with religious, cultural, and shamanic traditions, and amplified by crystals or other objects. Thus, if you’re specifically inclined towards any of the less-traditional Reiki styles outlined above, this would be a good place to start. For example, if you’re fascinated by crystals or gemstones, try Crystal Reiki. If you’re curios about Ancient Egyptian civilizations or Buddhism, Reiki that integrates aspects of these traditions would be a natural introduction to the realm of hands-on healing. Reiki types do not compete; they complement each other Connection to Specific Teachers or Healers Selecting the right Reiki practitioner is just as important (arguably more so) than selecting a style of Reiki. In fact, many Reiki healers are Masters in several different types of Reiki. So, if you find a Reiki Master/Teacher who feels friendly or familiar, or a specific healer comes to you through recommendation, it may be helpful to follow the universe’s nudges. Intuition (Curiosity) Finally, if you have an intuitive feeling or spiritual pull towards the name of a Reiki lineage, place of healing, or Reiki Master, heed the call! Remember – different types of Reiki do not compete with each other; they complement each other. Since all Reiki practices aim to provide holistic health and well-being, there’s no harm in experimenting with different types of Reiki as you see fit. Reiki energy is Reiki energy, regardless of lineage. Takeaway: The Many Styles of Reiki Understanding the different types of Reiki out there requires a journey through the history of established Reiki Masters, as modern-day Reiki healers are often associated with lineages that integrate traditional Reiki energy with other ancient or new-age practices. When deciding on a particular type of Reiki healing, a combination of your intentions, interests, and intuitive inclinations will guide you along the unique path that’s right for you. ● Images Pixel-Shot, New Africa, Pixel Shot happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Holistic Medicine | Chi Gong | Acupuncture | Reflexology Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.

The rise of psilocybin microdosing through “magic mushrooms” blends ancient wisdom with modern science. Rhianna Quanstrom explores the growing scientific research into mushroom microdosing and how they may improve mood, clarity, and creativity. Learn about the effects, benefits, and where they're legal. The use of psychedelics for therapeutic purposes is on the rise. One of the main trailblazers in this frontier is psilocybin, commonly known as “magic mushrooms.” Scientific research is exploring the exciting possibility of using psilocybin as an effective treatment for psychological conditions, including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and addiction. With psilocybin’s growing popularity, microdosing has entered the mainstream conversation. Many people are now exploring the potential healing benefits of taking mushrooms in tiny doses. Let's take a look at the science, benefits, risks, and legality of microdosing mushrooms. But first, let’s discuss what psilocybin and microdosing are. What is Psilocybin? Psilocybin is the active compound found in several mushrooms belonging to the Psilocybe genus. Psilocybin mushrooms, as well as other psychedelic mushroom species, have been used for thousands of years in shamanic cultures worldwide. One of the most prominent historical records of its use comes from the Aztec and Maya cultures of Mesoamerica (Stamets, 1996). In these cultures, the psilocybin-containing mushrooms were considered sacred and were used in spiritual ceremonies for healing, divination, and divine communion. Psilocybin is the active compound found in "magic mushrooms" While psychedelic mushrooms are still used in sacred ceremonies and rituals by Indigenous Peoples of North and South America, they are more commonly known as a “party drug” in Western society. Of course, this has led to a widespread prejudice against mushroom use. However, this attitude is evolving with emerging research and anecdotal reports of psilocybin's transformative healing potential. When ingested at a moderate-to-high dose, psilocybin alters consciousness and produces what is commonly known as a “trip.” In other words, journeyers may experience hallucinations, closed-eye visuals, deep introspection, emotional release, and spiritual insight. One of the main reasons for psilocybin’s psychedelic effects is its interaction with the 5-HT2A serotonin receptor. This is the most widely expressed serotonin receptor in the body, and it modulates mood, perception, and cognition. It is through this effect, as well as many others, that psilocybin improves mental well-being. While most studies examine psilocybin’s effects in moderate to large doses, there is a growing body of research dedicated to exploring the potential benefits of microdosing psilocybin. What is Microdosing? Microdosing involves taking a psychedelic substance at very low doses (about 1/10th of a normal dose) for a prolonged period of time. These doses are low enough that they do not produce a full psychedelic experience. Rather, they are more subtle and do not usually interfere with daily activities. Why Do People Try Microdosing Mushrooms? People often microdose mushrooms to receive their therapeutic benefits, as it’s believed that the benefits achieved at a full dose can also be experienced with consistent microdoses. The benefits of ingesting psilocybin are numerous, and many of these benefits result from how psilocybin interacts with the brain. One of the well-researched benefits is its ability to reduce depression in both the short and long term. “The benefits of ingesting psilocybin are numerous. One of the well-researched benefits is its ability to reduce depression in both the short and long term.” A 2025 report in the journal Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment explains how psilocybin binds to and activates serotonin receptors in the brain (much like typical antidepressant medications) while also lowering inflammation. Inflammation in the brain is linked to mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Because psilocybin increases serotonin activity (which helps regulate mood) and decreases inflammation, it may be highly beneficial for those experiencing depression. Along with these effects, psilocybin also increases neuroplasticity and lowers activity in the default mode network (DMN). Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to form new neural pathways. We all have “mental grooves” that we “fall into” based on our childhood, societal conditioning, and psychological issues. In a sense, we are “programmed” to respond in specific ways to certain memories or triggers. Because psilocybin enhances neuroplasticity, it facilitates the formation of new thought patterns and beliefs. In this way, it can be incredibly healing for trauma and PTSD, as it helps us face difficult memories and form new beliefs around them. This also relates to its ability to lower activity in the DMN. MORE LIKE THIS: MDMA Microdosing: Is it Legal and What Are The Risks? What is Ego Death? Meaning, Symptoms, and Causes Microdosing 101: A Modern Phenomenon Rooted in Ancient Times According to the study mentioned above, “the DMN is typically active when an individual is in a task-free, resting state; eg, during self-referential thinking, rumination, or daydreaming. Anxiety and depressive disorders are associated with abnormal activity of the DMN, which can lead to excessive rumination, negative thought patterns, and impaired emotional regulation… The capacity of psilocybin to reduce excess activity in the DMN may be a significant mechanism whereby psilocybin exerts its long-lasting antidepressant action, allowing relief from negative thought patterns and emotional biases. Reduced DMN activity can result in profound alterations in consciousness and is likely responsible for the mystical-type experiences reported by Griffiths et al, with decreased self-other discrimination and even complete ego dissolution.” Additionally, along with its ability to significantly improve anxiety and depression, many self-reports claim that microdosing psilocybin improves memory, mental clarity, focus, concentration, and creativity. As such, microdosing mushrooms may help people focus at work, be more present in conversations, and engage more deeply with creative projects. People often try microdosing psilocybin to improve mental health issues The main attraction to microdosing psilocybin is that it presents an easier way to receive its benefits without undergoing a full hallucinogenic journey. People can still live their normal lives while addressing underlying psychological and emotional patterns and improving mental focus and clarity. Furthermore, it is more economical and easier to obtain. What Science Says: Mushroom Microdose There’s no doubt that psilocybin in moderate to large doses is beneficial, but the science on microdosing mushrooms is still lacking. Many studies attribute the psychological benefits of microdosing psilocybin to a placebo effect. For example, a self-blinding citizen science research report found “no significant differences between the placebo and microdose groups” and stated, “Our study validates the positive anecdotal reports about the psychological benefits of microdosing (significant improvements from baseline in a broad range of psychological measures); however, our results also suggest that these improvements are not due to the pharmacological action of microdosing, but are rather explained by the placebo effect (lack of significant between-groups differences).” “Microdosing mushrooms may help people focus at work, be more present in conversations, and engage more deeply with creative projects.” This is just one of many studies that come to a similar conclusion. However, a 2024 review from two Australia universities published in the Journal of Psychopharmacology claimed that the research is lacking, and that any conclusions that microdosing mushrooms is predominantly a placebo “are premature and possibly wrong.” The authors, Vince Polito and Paul Liknaitzky, evaluated all available and published research on microdosing psilocybin and LSD. Based on their findings, they determined that microdosing does have a pharmacological effect. Specifically, microdosing produced neural changes in the brain, with increased neuroplasticity and decreased activity in the default mode network (DMN). They also found microdosing psilocybin (or LSD) increased pain tolerance, subtly altered consciousness, and had positive effects on mood. MORE LIKE THIS: What is the Peyote Cactus and s it Legal? Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? The main conclusion of the report is that current science is still limited. The authors state that more long-term studies with larger clinical populations are needed. Additionally, in many of these research articles, psilocybin and LSD have essentially been categorized as the same substance. Furthermore, some of the psilocybin-specific studies used a synthetic version of the compound; to be clear, how a natural, non-isolated, or non-synthesized mushroom affects the body and brain is different from how LSD, an isolated extraction, or a synthetic version, will. More scientific evidence is needed into microdosing mushrooms As such, the research remains inconclusive, and people’s personal experiences may still be the best source of understanding. One of the greatest challenges to studying the effects of microdosing is that the level of psilocybin in a mushroom depends on the species and how it’s grown. That makes controlled studies even more difficult, because you can have two mushrooms of the same species that differ in potency based on growing conditions. Nevertheless, numerous firsthand reports praise the benefits of microdosing mushrooms. We’ll just have to wait for the science to catch up and (most likely) confirm what many people already know to be true: microdosing mushrooms improves mood, cognition, and overall well-being. Possible Risks of Microdosing Psilocybin Because there have not been any long-term studies on the effects of microdosing psilocybin, the possible risks are still unknown. There is some concern that microdosing mushrooms may negatively affect the cardiovascular system over time because of chronic serotonin activation. “Many self-reports claim that microdosing psilocybin improves memory, mental clarity, focus, concentration, and creativity.” According to a 2025 report published in the journal Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment, “Adverse side effects of microdosing psilocybin are uncommon and limited to short-term anxiety, impaired cognition, and physical discomfort. Psilocybin does not show evidence of addiction potential, and in fact is anti-addictive in that daily intake leads to loss of therapeutic benefits.” Is Psilocybin Legal? In the United States, psilocybin’s legal status depends on the state. At the federal level, psilocybin is classified as a Schedule I substance under the Controlled Substances Act. However, because of its therapeutic potential, the legal landscape is changing rapidly. In some states, including Colorado, Oregon, and New Mexico, it is legal for supervised therapeutic use. In California and Washington, it has been decriminalized in several cities. It is also decriminalized in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Across the globe, psilocybin’s legal status varies from legal to completely illegal to legal for medical treatment. The only countries where it is fully legal include Nepal, the Netherlands, Jamaica, Brazil, and the Bahamas (except for sale). Takeaway: Microdosing Mushrooms Psilocybin, or “magic mushrooms,” has been shown to significantly improve psychological and emotional well-being. It can potentially help treat depression, anxiety, PTSD, and chronic pain while improving cognitive function and neuroplasticity. While the science around microdosing is limited and somewhat conflicting, hopefully the coming years will bring research that validates may of the positive personal experiences shared. In doing so, the legal status is likely to change so that more people have access to the healing benefits of microdosing mushrooms. ● Images Cannabis_Pic, Cannabis_Pic, Cannabis_Pic happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Alternative medicine | Herbalism | CBD Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.

Although there is currently limited scientific evidence about its efficacy, Reiki has become an increasingly popular hands-on energy medicine practice. Rachel Markowitz explores Reiki principles, the benefits and costs of treatment, and how to become a practitioner. I learned about Reiki and experienced my first healing session in 2012 from a dreadlocked European traveler who wanted some practice. During the treatment, I focused intently on trying to feel energetic sensations but was continually distracted by discomfort in my left arm. It felt like the surface below me was tilted, that my elbow was compensating for the slanted massage table, and that my misaligned body was ruining my Reiki experience. However, I eventually relaxed, forgot about my arm, and finished the session feeling surprisingly refreshed. When I asked my newly initiated healer if he had noticed anything about my body, he told me that he perceived an energetic blockage in my left elbow but felt like he had released it. Convinced of Reiki’s healing power and curious to learn more, I sought out my first Reiki teacher shortly thereafter and have been experimenting with energy healing techniques ever since. Throughout the years, I’ve found Reiki to be a simple, straightforward energy therapy that anyone can experience or experiment with. What is Reiki? The word Reiki is a combination of two Japanese characters, or kanji: rei, symbolizing the universe, and ki, representing life energy. However, Reiki refers not only to the concept of life force energy (called prana or chi by other traditions), but also to the practice of using this energy for healing purposes. Healing with hands: a typical Reiki session Connecting with Reiki energy, either on our own or through a Reiki healer, promotes the body’s natural, energetically-balanced state. Though Reiki is a common hands-based energy medicine practice around the world, it was traditionally developed to connect to universal source energy for the purpose of spiritual growth and self-healing. A Brief History of Reiki Reiki dates back to the early 1900s as a documented concept in Japan, and its corresponding healing practice is often accredited to Mikao Usui, who received a spontaneous transmission of Reiki energy during a mystical healing experience in 1922. Usui’s system of Reiki healing, which he called Usui Reiki Ryoho, is the direct lineage that spread throughout the world and popularized Reiki. However, though most modern-day Reiki practices stem from Usui’s teachings, Reiki healing was actually developed, named, and written about in Japan several years before Usui’s discovery. Since its journey to the West in the 1930s, many healers have channeled or developed adaptations and additions to traditional Reiki practices, resulting in what we often classify as “Western Reiki.” There are now a multitude of styles and types of Reiki that can be practised. What are the Reiki Principles? Along with Reiki healing methods, Usui developed a system of five principles (gokai) that give Reiki a moral and spiritual foundation. These principles, also known as “precepts” or “admonitions,” are guidelines that a Reiki practitioner recites at the beginning and end of each day, and before healing sessions. Each Reiki principle begins with “just for today,” giving the practitioner both a manageable obligation and the incentive to repeat the precepts regularly. The Reiki principles are: Just for today, do not anger. Just for today, do not worry. Just for today, be grateful. Just for today, be humble (also interpreted as “work honestly”) Just for today, be kind/compassionate towards others and myself. The Reiki principles, when practiced faithfully, benefit the holistic wellness of a Reiki practitioner even without a hands-on healing practice. According to Usui, authentically contemplating and abiding by these principles is a spiritual medicine that leads to health and happiness. What Happens During a Reiki Session? In a Reiki session, a healer (someone connected to a direct lineage of Reiki energy, by means of a formal initiation process) channels Reiki energy to another being through their hands. This works because the healer becomes a conduit of life force energy, enabling a patient to receive and distribute it in an optimal way. “Reiki is a well-established energy medicine practice that enhances a person’s natural ability to heal. A Reiki practitioner offers hands-on healing to clients.” Reiki sessions typically last 30 to 75 minutes. They usually consist of a pre-session consultation, hands-on healing treatment, and post-session discussion. For those new to Reiki, a healer will provide background information, give an overview of what to expect during the session, and allow time for questions. During a treatment, the patient lies down on a cushioned surface, fully clothed, with closed eyes. While the patient relaxes, the healer lightly places their hands in specific positions on the patient’s body. They may also use various healing techniques, including: Energy Clearing – A Reiki healer begins a session by cleansing their energetic field and the healing space, either before the client arrives or once their eyes are closed. This process involves using Reiki techniques, and perhaps incense, tools, or personal practices to clear and release unwanted energy from a space or person. Invoking – Depending on a Reiki healer’s lineage, they will recite the Reiki principles mentally and perhaps invoke the energy of spiritual guides, ascended masters, or other beings to help with the healing process. The healer may also voice an intention for the session. Scanning – To begin a Reiki session, a healer typically guides their hands over a patient’s body from head to toe, without direct hands-on contact. During this process, the practitioner scans for energetic blockages, places where energy needs balancing, or any other noticeable energetic or intuitive sensations about their patient’s healing needs. This technique, known as Byosen Scanning, helps a healer know where to place their hands during treatment. Symbols and Kotodama – The use of Reiki symbols and the “spirit” of their names (kotodama) are part of a healer’s training and are often employed during treatments. According to traditional teachings, these symbols and their usage should be kept secretively. Beaming – In Western Reiki, “beaming” refers to a particular technique for healing from a short distance. Using this practice, a healer can beam energy to a client several meters away using their hands or eyes, along with intention. Infusing – A healer who practices a modern-day form of Reiki might infuse objects (such as crystals, candles, jewelry, food, water, or oils) with Reiki to charge them with healing energy. “Reiki-infused” can also describe a space, event, or work of art that is intentionally filled with energy and sealed. Meditation – A Reiki practitioner might begin or end a session with a short meditation or several minutes of silence. They may also invite a patient to set an intention or self-reflect to integrate a session’s benefits. Benefits of Reiki One unique quality of Reiki healing is that it involves minimal work on the part of the practitioner; Reiki energy knows where to flow in order for a recipient’s body to heal naturally. Accordingly, the benefits of Reiki healing extend to physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, as well as overall relaxation. Although it’s unlikely that the patient will feel the exact process going on during their session, it’s typical that a Reiki treatment leaves a person with a sense of calm and inner peace. Reiki involves the channeling of energy to another person Because of its widespread reach, Reiki is becoming a well-known complementary medicine in hospitals and health clinics – with practitioners offering relief and relaxation to cancer patients, children, and others experiencing pain, anxiety, and stress. This list of research findings, published by the International Center for Reiki Training (ICRT), references many of the suggested healing benefits of Reiki. Furthermore, Dr. Ann Baldwin’s book, Reiki in Clinical Practice: A Science-Based Guide, outlines the physical and psychological benefits of Reiki throughout medical studies and public research, through the time of its publication in 2020. What Are the Risks of Reiki? Reiki is generally considered safe. A Reiki practitioner who follows the five principles of Reiki imparts no real risks during treatments, and there are no reported contraindications of Reiki healing. In fact, according to William Lee Rand, founder of the International Center for Reiki Training, one of Reiki’s defining characteristics is that it can do no harm. MORE LIKE THIS: 5 Techniques to Unblock Chakras and Energy Flows 7 Ways Spiritual Coaching Can Transform Your Life The 7 Chakras: Locations, Colors, and Use Within Yoga With this in mind, people experimenting with Reiki or any other natural healing method might experience what is known as a healing crisis – a stirring up and releasing of toxins or impurities in the body or mind that could manifest as negative side effects of a treatment. To mitigate the risk of a healing crisis, it’s helpful to move through healing sessions slowly and intentionally, listen to the body, and maintain consistent eating, sleeping, and exercise habits. How Much Does a Reiki Session Cost? The cost of a professional Reiki session varies widely, depending on the length of the session, treatment setting, and healer’s experience. In the USA and UK, a private Reiki session at a wellness-related establishment or hospital ranges from $30 to 100 USD, with an average cost of $60 to 70 USD per hour. However, some Reiki healers offer sessions for much less. Depending on where you live, you might even find Reiki healing for free, as an exchange, or by donation. Furthermore, those with limited financial resources could consider seeking out new practitioners, Reiki groups, or healing sessions through religious or spiritual communities. “The Reiki principles, when practiced faithfully, benefit the holistic wellness of a Reiki practitioner even without a hands-on healing practice.” Reiki sessions are not typically covered by health insurance, although some medical facilities may include Reiki as a free treatment alongside conventional practice. The best way to find a legitimate Reiki healer within your budget is by recommendation, personal research, or through a feeling of connection to a specific lineage or person. How to Become a Reiki Healer or Master A person becomes a Reiki healer through formal initiations, called attunements, from a certified Reiki Master/Teacher. These days, most lineages of Reiki require one attunement for each of three levels (Shoden – Level 1, Okuden – Level 2, and Shinpiden – Master/Teacher). Reiki attunements not only include an energetic transmission of Reiki energy from Master to student, but also teachings, symbols, mantras, hand positions, meditations, and practical healing procedures that correspond to each level. Therefore, a Reiki Master refers to anyone attuned to Reiki at the Master level – though different traditions of Reiki have respective guidelines or prerequisites for moving from one level to the next. Although some lineages of Reiki will attune students to all three levels in one or two short courses, most would suggest or require new healers to move through each attunement separately, taking time for self-practice between each level. Furthermore, many schools of Reiki require certain levels of experience before an initial attunement or to work professionally as a healer in that lineage. If you’re curious about practicing Reiki on your own, the first step is to find a Reiki Master, healer, or teacher of a tradition that you resonate with and inquire about attunement dates and requirements. Takeaway: What is Reiki? Reiki is a well-established energy medicine practice that enhances a person’s natural ability to heal. A Reiki practitioner offers hands-on healing to clients, and Reiki is also helpful for self-healing and healing from a distance. Like other methods of energy therapy, Reiki is a minimal-risk therapy for improving physical ailments, promoting emotional and mental well-being, and enhancing our connection to life force energy and the spiritual path. We can all awaken the ability to channel Reiki energy and heal with our hands through a direct transmission from a Reiki Master. ● Images shutterstock/Dragon Images, shutterstock/LightField Studios happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Acupuncture | Reflexology | Holistic Medicine | Chi Gong Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.

Choosing kindness over negativity or indifference may not be humanity's default setting, but we can cultivate it over time through consistent action. Sonia Vadlamani suggests 7 ways in which we can always be kind towards others – and ourselves, too. The discussion around kindness has heightened ever since the COVID-19 pandemic unfolded, perhaps owing to the rise of various aid groups during lockdowns and contingencies, or because the interruption of life as we knew it caused us to reconsider our priorities and values. Indeed, kindness is undoubtedly considered one of the most prized social currencies, in addition to being the cornerstone for humankind’s virtues. Philosophers and spiritual gurus have hailed the virtue of choosing kindness as a potent gift for centuries, while academic researchers and psychologists have conducted considerable research centered on the power of kindness. Still, at some point in our lives, most of us have been denied a more compassionate approach by someone, or have disregarded the option to extend kindness towards others. For example, we may have regretted our indifferent or judgmental behavior towards others, and some of us may have been abused or bullied as adults. In situations such as these, letting go of resentment doesn't come naturally. So, with the wide-ranging benefits of kindness so well known, why do we even need to be reminded to choose kindness – why don’t we 'just be kind' all the time? Why Choose Kindness? It's fair to wonder why we should have to 'choose' kindness, rather than it being our natural state. However, our perennially busy and fast-paced lives may have rendered us indifferent to the suffering and problems of those around us. Furthermore, our inherent negativity bias may persuade us to react strongly to unfavorable or unpleasant outcomes, instead of assessing the situation in a more objective light. Additionally, human beings are wired to judge others according to their character and actions, while they tend to judge themselves based on the situation. This tendency – also known as “fundamental attribution error” – is based on the inconsistency in our reaction towards other people’s actions or views. While we may attribute our failures or decisions to the circumstances we were caught up in during a situation, we do not readily assess other people’s behavior and problems in the same understanding manner. MORE LIKE THIS: What Goes Around Comes Around: Is Karma Real? How to Forgive Someone: the Benefits of Letting Go of Grudges How to Be Nicer: 9 Ways to Show Kindness to Others For example, if I ever park too close to someone else’s car, then I must have had an emergency, and hence it should be forgiven as a one-off incident. However, if someone else parked outside their line so that their vehicle encroaches on my parking spot, then they must be irresponsible and need to be taught a lesson! Does this line of thinking seem familiar to you? Donating to a food bank is one way to choose kindness Indeed, choosing to be kind can bring about a much-needed shift in the way we judge. Always being kind can teach us to look carefully and objectively at the way we react to external stimuli and assess the circumstances before we react in a rude or harsh manner. How to Always Be Kind “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible,” as the 14th Dalai Lama famously stated. Choosing kindness poses several benefits for us and others around us, yet costs nothing. To cultivate kindness as a daily practice, Dr Tara Cousineau – renowned psychotherapist and author of The Kindness Cure – suggests that we ponder over the question: how can I bring kindness into my day, in any small way? “Choosing kindness can bring about the much-needed shift in the way we judge. Being kind can teach us to look carefully and objectively at the way we react to external stimuli.” “Kindness is not random,” says Dr Cousineau. She explains that choosing kindness intentionally requires us to be compassionate, considerate, understanding and forgiving, in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it. Authentic kindness requires genuine intention and effort. The process of always showing graciousness and tolerance to others in this way may gradually get easier once we start experiencing the joy or cheer that being kind sparks. How Does Adopting Kindness Benefit Us? Being kind comes with a wealth of research-backed benefits. Acting kindly can make us feel less anxious, and can ease social avoidance tendencies, allowing us to form meaningful connections. Kindness can also combat psychological distress and alleviate depression. A study by Dr Hans Kirschner from the University of Exeter revealed that being kind switches off our inbuilt threat response, allowing us to feel safe and relaxed. In turn, this promotes tissue regeneration and healing in the body. This ability to switch off the threat response can reduce the onset of disease and boost our well-being. Choosing Kindness: 7 Ways Cultivating kindness in our daily routine begins with consistent action. Researcher Helen Weng compares the ability to practice kindness with the science of weightlifting, wherein one can build their ‘compassion muscle’ and get more adept at helping others with sufficient practise. Here are seven ways in which we can try to do just that. 1. Create a kindness plan It's possible to adopt kindness in the way of small gestures and little things that can spread happiness and brighten someone’s day. Jot down one act of kindness for each day of the month – for others and yourself – that you can carry out, thus encouraging the neural pathways in your brain towards embracing positivity and compassion. The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation shares a comprehensive list of kindness ideas that can be carried out with minimal effort. Some examples of random acts of kindness can include: Buying a few extra items at the supermarket for donations – many supermarkets now have designated areas where you can leave produce. Alternatively, look into ways of donating to food banks. Complimenting a stranger in a friendly way. Befriending an elderly person to help them combat loneliness: inviting them for a chat over a coffee or sparking a conversation at the bus stop. Supporting local businesses by buying their products instead of shopping online. 2. Practise compassionate listening Offering someone our undivided attention in the form of mindful listening can be a simple, effective and free way to choose kindness. Remember, it is essential to keep all technological distractions and our inner judgmental voice at bay while we listen compassionately. 3. Donate or raise funds for charity A 2010 survey conducted by Harvard Business School pointed out that individuals who were more generous financially and made sizeable charitable donations measured highest for overall happiness levels. The study revealed that prosocial spending, or utilizing one’s financial resources to help others, resulted in improved emotional well-being. RELATED: Money Can't Buy Happiness (Except in These 3 Ways!) Raising funds for animal welfare, organizing a fundraiser for the care of cancer patients at your local hospital, helping a neighbor who may be facing a crisis by organizing a charity drive, are some of the ways you could bring about a positive change by choosing kindness. A volunteer litter pick shows kindness to the planet 4. Choose to be kind online While the advent of social media has made us more aware and conscious, unfortunately it also has given rise to rampant cyberbullying and hostile behavior based on one’s appearance, ethnicity, gender stereotypes, and personal beliefs, etc. We can choose kindness online by encouraging positive messages, spreading cheer and love instead of hate, and ignoring negative or hateful content. Even when we disagree with someone, it's always possible to do so in an objective and respectable manner. 5. Choose kindness for the planet While gardening offers several mental health benefits as a hobby, it can contribute towards greener and cleaner living spaces as well. Finding small ways to reduce our carbon footprint and adopting more sustainable practices like picking up litter, packing a waste-free lunch, carrying your own tote to grocery shop, etc, can go a long way to improve the world around us. 6. Practise kindness at work It's important to remember that coworkers have their own challenges, hidden from plain sight. Leading with compassion can improve morale, boost workplace productivity, and ensure higher employee retention, according to research. “Choosing kindness requires us to be compassionate, considerate, and forgiving in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it.” Leaders in the service industry – and hospitality sector in particular – quite possibly realize the importance of choosing “habitual kindness”, in attempts to deliver experiences that customers will remember for ever. Indeed, consumer decisions are often based on how well their expectations were met and the collective experience, so if you find yourself being loyal to a particular brand or service provider, it's probably because their leadership drives down kindness as their core value. 7. Be kind to yourself Always being kind towards yourself becomes more crucial than ever during adverse times, or when you are feeling low. After all, it’s harder to practice kindness towards others when you’re stressed or overwhelmed. Befriending yourself gently through self-compassion and self-care is the first step towards choosing kindness. RELATED: Be Good to Yourself: 8 Self-Love Techniques How to Stop Beating Yourself Up Self-Forgiveness: How to Forgive Yourself in 7 Steps Psychologist Kristen Neff suggests establishing helpful self-compassion breaks when you find that you’re stressed or being too harsh on yourself. Place a hand over your heart and practice saying to yourself: “May I regard myself in a gentler, fair light”, or, “May I bring kindness to this moment, even when I’m stressed.” These self-compassion statements will help you centre your attention back to choosing kindness for yourself. The Takeaway: Choosing Kindness As the famous saying goes, “In a world where you can be anything, be kind”. While we may not remember every person we ever met by their name, we are likely to remember each act of kindness shown to us. Indeed, choosing kindness as a daily practice can offer a host of physiological and psychological benefits. Deciding to always be kind – especially in situations where our inner voice is telling us to escalate conflict – does take practice, but it can also create long-lasting happiness for others, as well as ourselves. ● Images: shutterstock/BAZA Production, shutterstock/Dragon Images happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Altruism | Empathy | Gratitude | Acceptance Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.

Ibogain, from the iboga shrub, is a psychedelic compound used mainly in addiction and trauma therapy treatment. Rhianna Quanstrom explores the benefits and risks of iboga and ibogain, considers iboga vs ayahuasca, and examines the legalities of ibogaine treatment centers around the world. Iboga, also known as Tabernanthe iboga, is a medicinal shrub native to West Central Africa. It is commonly known for its active constituent, ibogaine. The iboga tree has ancient roots as a spiritual and healing plant for the Indigenous people of its native region. While it is still used in that context, it has also caught the attention of Western society due to its incredible potential as a treatment for addiction, traumatic brain injuries, and other psychological conditions. To better understand what Tabernanthe iboga is, we’ll discuss its history, effects and benefits, potential side effects and safety concerns, as well as where to find traditional iboga ceremonies and ibogaine treatment centers. We’ll also take a brief look at iboga vs ayahuasca to understand the similarities and differences of the two medicinal plants. The History of Iboga The root bark of the iboga shrub has been used for thousands of years by the Babongo peoples and other Indigenous tribes in West Central Africa, specifically Cameroon, Gabon, and the Republic of the Congo. From the iboga tree came the Bwiti tradition, an oral tradition and animistic spiritual path that holds the belief that there is life and spirit within all things. Bwiti essentially means “The School of Life,” and its focus is on discovering the truth both within and without. In the Bwiti tradition, Tabernanthe iboga is considered a master teacher, healer, and sacred guide. It is used for seeking higher wisdom and connecting with ancestry, nature, and the Great Spirit. It is used in high doses for ceremonial and initiatory rites of passage. The fruit of the iboga shrub In the 1900s, the active constituent of iboga’s root bark, ibogaine, was studied as a potential drug for low energy and the cardiovascular system. The isolated extract was introduced as the drug Lambarene and became popular among athletes for its stimulant effect. However, ibogaine products were later taken off the market because of their psychoactive properties. It became a Schedule I controlled substance in the United States and much of Europe. It wasn't until the 1960s that ibogaine was brought back to the attention of Western medicine after Howard Lotsof, a heroin addict, discovered its seemingly miraculous potential to treat substance abuse. After using it, he was relieved of his addiction and the withdrawal symptoms. He brought this experience to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, which sparked decades of research exploring ibogaine’s anti-addictive properties. While still a lesser-known substance and plant among Western society, the iboga tree and its active constituent, ibogaine, are becoming more widely recognized as a promising therapy for substance abuse. Today, research is exploring its potential as a medicine not just for addiction, but also traumatic brain injuries, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and childhood trauma. Effects and Benefits of Iboga Much of the research on iboga focuses on its active constituent, ibogaine. As such, how an isolated extract interacts with the body is not the same as how the whole plant does. While these studies show promising benefits for mental health and addiction, it’s important to note that traditional use of iboga involves consuming the ground root, which contains numerous other plant constituents besides ibogaine. Thus, it will have slightly (or significantly) different effects on the body – an area with little scientific research to date. According to the National Library of Medicine (NIH), “The mechanisms by which ibogaine exerts its psychoactive effects in the brain are only poorly understood, which is attributable to the alkaloid’s complex pharmacology.” “Iboga, also known as Tabernanthe iboga, is a medicinal shrub native to West Central Africa. It is commonly known for its active constituent, ibogaine.” Nevertheless, studies show that it affects several neurotransmitters in the central nervous system, including opioid, sigma, glutamate, and nicotinic receptors, as well as serotonin transporters. It also affects dopamine release and increases GDNF and BDNF, which are brain growth proteins. These receptors are related to the neural pathways associated with addiction and withdrawal; as such, ibogaine can help “reset” or disrupt these signals in the brain. Because it also affects dopamine release and increases brain growth proteins, it inhances neuroplasticity, which is the brain's ability to form new neural pathways. It does this in specific parts of the brain – the VTA, nucleus accumbens, and the prefrontal cortex (PFC) – that are related to the brain’s reward system (VTA), the processing of pleasure signals and cravings (nucleus accumbens), and decision-making and impulse control (PFC). Essentially, ibogaine targets numerous neurotransmitters, proteins, and regions of the brain associated with addiction, belief patterns, and trauma. Because it provides such a strong “reset,” it can dissolve addictive patterns and ease withdrawal symptoms within a single treatment. Along with substance abuse, ibogaine is shown to effectively treat traumatic brain injuries. According to Stanford Medicine, “[ibogaine] safely and effectively reduces PTSD, anxiety and depression, and improves functioning in veterans with TBI.” Ibogaine, the active constituent of iboga, is found in the shrub's bark Research shows that ibogaine helps increase a brain wave known as theta rhythms and reduces activity in the cortex. The article states, “Stronger theta rhythms may encourage neuroplasticity and cognitive flexibility, while less complex cortical activity may lower the heightened stress response seen in PTSD.” These are some of the most astounding benefits of ibogaine. However, there are many other potential benefits to experiencing an ibogaine journey. Let us not forget that iboga/ibogaine is a psychedelic medicine with spiritual significance. Any psychedelic “trip” will open one’s mind to “the other side,” leading to spiritual awakening and expanded consciousness. MORE LIKE THIS: What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? Microdosing 101 What is the Peyote Cactus and is it Legal? What Science Says About Microdosing Magic Mushrooms Iboga is considered one of the most intense psychedelic experiences because it lasts for about 24 to 48 hours, with a heightened visual experience that can last anywhere from 5 to 14 hours. The second half of the journey is more reflective, often with heightened mental clarity, peace, and energy. This can benefit anyone who feels called to take this medicine, as it leads you on an immensely healing and awakening journey where you connect with a much deeper wisdom within. Many people report addressing childhood traumas, purging old fears and wounds, communicating with ancestors and loved ones who have passed on, and experiencing profound revelations about the meaning of existence. Here are some quotes from people sharing their firsthand experience of taking iboga/ibogaine: “My body feels washed in a cleansing energetic blanket that completely removes the physical discomfort I’m feeling after 36 hours without heroin. In my mind there’s a vision like I’m being launched through a worm-hole which spits me out in what looks like outer space. I’m having a very rapid succession of incredibly insightful thoughts and ideas, and I’m broadly contemplating various abstract concepts such as relativity theory, evolution, and photosynthesis.” Kevin Franciotti, A New Perspective: My Experience with Ibogain Treatment “Soon the trip starts: images of the solar system punctuated by clips of my younger self laughing, then a bizarre internal reel made up of Jesus Christ, an alien and an image of a bush – seemingly the one from which the medicine derived. These eventually give way to a pounding narrative of negative thoughts known as a “mind-purge”. Mattha Busby, I Tried Ibogaine, the Psychedelic Anti-Addiction Drug “The highest spiritual truth is the gift of life, the medicine tells me. The Bwiti have only one prayer, I learned during fire talk: 'thank you for this day'. And so, gratitude washes over me as it fills every inch of my body with brilliant white light. At last, I find gratitude – real gratitude – for all the struggle. Struggle which has granted me this miracle of a life, which I now understand is a free life, thanks to the experience the medicine gifted me: feeling safe and free in the now. Just being is the gift, I understand. The beauty of the present moment and experiencing it with loving awareness through our senses – that is the meaning of life.” Julia Christina, The Journey Potential Side Effects of Iboga Iboga/ibogaine is a powerful substance and can have adverse, sometimes fatal, effects. There have been a few deaths reported with ibogaine due to cardiac arrhythmia, or irregular heartbeat. According to an Ibogaine fact sheet, “The majority of the ibogaine-related deaths occurred in unsafe settings that did not have access to proper medical monitoring or cardiac life support capabilities, including unregulated ibogaine treatment facilities outside of the United States. Most of the individuals who died were at an increased risk of adverse events due to the presence of heart disease, a history of taking certain heart medications, and polydrug use. Furthermore, some of the individuals were using impure or adulterated ibogaine products.” “In the Bwiti tradition, Tabernanthe iboga is considered a master teacher, healer, and sacred guide. It is used for seeking higher wisdom and connecting with ancestry, nature, and the Great Spirit.” It is unclear whether the whole-plant extract carries the same potential for severe side effects. However, because the iboga root contains 80% ibogaine, it should still be used with caution and only in safe, medically monitored environments. These fatal outcomes are rare. The most common side effects include: Nausea Dizziness Vomiting Tremors Less commonly, it can cause mania, seizures, and psychosis. Considering this, it’s important to speak with your doctor and have a full health evaluation before consuming iboga or ibogaine. Neither of these substances should be taken if you have a history of heart problems or are on heart medication. Most importantly, iboga and ibogaine should only be consumed in safe, reputable, and medically supervised ibogaine retreat centers. Iboga Ceremonies and Retreats In the United States, iboga and ibogaine are classified as Schedule I controlled substance at the federal level. However, regulations can vary state to state. For example, in the state of Colorado, ibogaine is recognized as a “natural medicine,” allowing for its use in licensed healing centers as well as for personal use and cultivation. Other states are introducing legislation to shift their legal status due to its therapeutic potential. Still, for most people in the U.S., attending an ibogaine retreat center requires traveling abroad. Fruits from the iboga tree In the UK, ibogaine is illegal to use or possess, and legal restrictions vary across Europe. Currently, ibogaine treatment centers are most commonly found in the following countries: Australia Canada Costa Rica Mexico Netherlands New Zealand Additionally, it is legal in its native countries, such as Gabon and Cameroon, where traditional ceremonies are still practiced, and a few retreat centers are open to the public. Iboga vs Ayahuasca Both iboga and ayahuasca are powerful psychedelic plant medicines with deep cultural and spiritual significance to the Indigenous peoples of the regions where they grow. As such, both should be approached with respect, reverence, clear intention, and caution. While each medicine produces profound visionary states, iboga is generally considered more intense and longer-lasting than ayahuasca. They are both rooted in ceremony and tradition, and should be used in a safe container with trained facilitators. RELATED: Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience What is Ego Death? Meaning, Symptoms, and Causes Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect Interestingly, these medicines both have an affinity for breaking addiction and forming new neural pathways. However, they are different in how they interact with the body and the overall psychedelic experience they produce. As discussed, the main active constituent of iboga is ibogaine, while ayahuasca’s is DMT. If you’re drawn to exploring one of these medicines, it’s essential to do thorough research and listen to your intuition. Often, the right medicine for you at this time will make itself known. Takeaway: Iboga and ibogaine The iboga tree is a sacred psychedelic plant medicine at the heart of the Bwiti tradition of West-Central Africa. Today, it is also used by people around the world seeking spiritual awakening and healing from addiction and trauma. Its active constituent, ibogaine, is increasingly recognized as a promising therapeutic substance in modern Western medicine. This will pave the way for further research and clinical trials for its treatment of substance abuse and mental health conditions. Whether approached for healing, spiritual insight, or addiction treatment, iboga will have a profound and life-long impact on all who seek its guidance. ● happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Herbalism | CBD | Alternative medicine Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. 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No direction in life? We've got you. From exploring your curiosity to visualizing the possibilities, Sonia Vadlamani explains 8 ways to start silencing those ruminating 'I don't know what I want to with my life' thoughts. And it all starts with asking yourself more questions. It’s 2 a.m. You have an early start, yet here you are, scrolling mindlessly through social media, wondering how everyone else has their life figured out. Their perfectly curated Instagram feeds showcase them thriving at their dreams jobs and living in their dream homes, while you’re haunted by the thought that keeps going around in your head: “I don’t know what to do with my life.” While this feeling may seem exclusive to you, the truth is that it’s far more common. A 2021 Oracle and Workplace Intelligence survey of almost 15,000 employees across 13 countries showed that about 75% people feel “stuck” in their professional lives, while 76% felt the same about their personal lives. Here’s the thing – feeling directionless and not knowing what comes next isn’t a permanent roadblock, but instead, it should be seen as a starting point for something new. It’s a chance for you to pivot, explore new possibilities and carve out a path that can alter your life – if you’re willing to embrace the uncertainty and push through it with intention. What Should I Do With My Life? Many of us experience periods of feeling of lost and directionless in life. While this uncertainty can feel disconcerting at the time, it may indicate the need for personal growth. Indeed, a 2023 study of 309 participants revealed that although uncertainty is often accompanied by psychological distress, individuals with higher Personal Growth Initiative (PGI) are better able to take charge of their own progress. Feeling lost in the dark? Find your direction by asking questions In other words, feeling lost or wondering, “what should I do with my life” is common, especially during big life transitions. However, those who actively seek change or growth through such uncertainty by learning, pivoting, experimenting, or planning tend to cope better than those with a lower tolerance for ambiguity. Questions to Ask Yourself Asking yourself better questions – rather than simply pondering over the possible correct answers – can help steer you in the right direction. In fact, renowned developmental psychologist James Marcia, in his identity development theory – and especially the “identity moratorium” status – proposed that active exploration during uncertain times is key to personal growth. This exploration can happen through strategic self-inquiry – a keen observation of your goals, values, interests, passions, and behavioral patterns can help you gather useful data. Some questions to ask yourself when you catch yourself thinking “I don’t know what I want to do with my life” can include: What did the “child me” want to do before the “adult me” or others decided what I should be doing? What would I do in a day if money weren’t a concern? What activities make me lose track of time? If I could, what are some problems in the world that I really wish to solve? Which activities help me feel genuinely aligned with my authentic self? Who are my role models, and why do I admire them? If failure was out of question, what would I love to do? What are some of my skills that make people say, “Wow, you’re really good at that!” Which activities make the day truly meaningful? What do I want to be remembered for when I’m gone? What are the top three skills I’d like to master next year? Eight Strategies to Work Out What to Do With Your Life While these questions help you to contemplate, the science-backed strategies below help you take necessary action and find your footing when that “I don’t know what to do with my life” feeling is taking over. 1. Pay attention to your natural gifts and interests The answers you uncover through reflection may have helped you realize your natural talents and gifts. What comes easily to you that others struggle with? What do people often compliment you for? It might be your ability to manage people well, or perhaps your analytical brain that offers solutions more readily. “Feeling lost or wondering, “what should I do with my life” is common, but it may indicate the need for personal growth.” Pay close attention to your innate strengths and natural talents, as these can serve as useful clues toward a path that aligns with who you really are. 2. Follow what sparks your curiosity “Follow your passion,” they say, but what if you don’t know what your passion is? Exploring your curiosity can be the key to unlocking what sparks joy and can sustain your interest over time. Indeed, a study published in Journal of Educational Sciences & Psychology also found that in addition to grit and determination, curiosity is a primary predictor for leading fulfilling and satisfying lives. 3. Learn to embrace the unknown It’s true that the human mind dislikes uncertainty. Research also shows that perceived threat and uncertainty can trigger neurological stress and anxiety, often negatively impacting decision-making in adverse situations. However, here’s the contradicting truth – learning to tolerate ambiguity better can spark creativity and boost resilience, making way for personal growth. Make it a conscious practice to sit with ambiguity instead of fumbling for certainty. Remind yourself: “This is temporary and I’m equipped to deal with it until the answer comes to me.” 4. Experiment with new choices The sheer amount of choices available in this technology-driven era is crazy, and decision-fatigue can literally tire us. It’s therefore often impractical to simply think to gain clarity – you need to take action to get there by experimenting with various options. Avoid overcommitting to something on a whim – opt for a short-term contract instead. Try volunteering or shadowing someone in a role that inspires you. These experiments can help you gather essential insights into what excites and fulfils you. They’re breadcrumbs that may lead you to something more meaningful, energizing, and lasting. Volunteering, for example, at an animal shelter, opens up new experiences 5. Reflect on your purpose We often confuse purpose with happiness – indeed, chasing happiness may seem more important than finding one’s purpose. However, research suggests that living a purpose-driven, meaningful life is a fundamental human need that influences our psychological and physical well-being, in addition to serving as a driving force. RELATED: Power of Purpose: Rediscover Your True Role In Life What's the Point of Life? The 3 Questions You Must Ask Yourself The 7 Steps to Take When Nothing Makes You Happy Anymore Ask yourself: What would make me feel that my time mattered here? What would I like to be known for, say 10 years from now? While this probing may feel uncomfortable at first, it can help you cut through the noise and arrive at a clear, actionable answer for the persistent thought: “I don’t know what to do with my life.” 6. Seek inspiration Look at people who inspire you and motivate you towards a path that can fulfil your purpose or desire to make a difference. Whether it’s public figures, your contemporaries or mentors, engaging with them or learning their journey can provide you valuable insights and direction. Their lessons can help you gain clarity and take action to overcome the uncertainty of what to do with your life. 7. Visualize the possibilities Creating a vision board to reflect your aspirations, feelings, values, and experiences is a practical and fun way to recenter yourself when feeling directionless. In fact, an experiment conducted on 65 tennis players concluded that adding imagery and visualization practices substantially improved performance and chances of success. “Pay close attention to your innate strengths and natural talents, as these can serve as useful clues toward a path that aligns with who you really are.” Visualization can help you explore your potential life path that’s best aligned with your authentic self. Imagine the day-to-day experience of different life paths that appeal to you. Break it down further into daily and hourly visual accounts – do you like what you see well enough to pursue this path? Unsure what to do with your life? Start with a vision board 8. Surround yourself with positive people Life will always throw you unexpected twists and curveballs. However, research points that people with an optimistic attitude tend to be more resilient and “bounce back” easily from negative experiences. RELATED: Bored With Life? Re-engage Yourself With These 8 Ideas Also, positivity begets positivity – sometimes the most difficult phases in life become easier to navigate with the help of the right support group. Surrounding yourself with more positive-minded people can help you navigate life’s challenges with greater ease, perspective, and grace. What Happens to a Person With No Purpose? People who find themselves thinking, “I have no idea what I’m doing” for an extended period may begin to feel like they’re drifting through life aimlessly. The lack of a unique purpose may make you feel unfulfilled, empty, and dissatisfied with life. Research indicates that the frustration arising from a lack of fulfillment can result in conditions like depression and anxiety, and can potentially lead to avoidance behaviors that steer you further away from positive goals and outcomes. However, not knowing the point of life doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re living your life without purpose. Taking a step back because you refuse to settle for a life that feels hollow, reflecting on your values and goals, and seeking meaning with renewed perspective is, in itself, a purposeful direction. Takeaway: What Should I Do With My Life? It’s important to remember that finding purpose in life can look different for everyone – there is no specific roadmap to follow. But it’s never too late to start. Feeling offtrack or lost in life isn’t a dead end, but a path to keen exploration and self-discovery. Applying the strategies mentioned here can help you gain insights to unlock holistic, strategic, and sustainable answers to one of the most unsettling questions we all face in life at some point at another. • Images pathdoc, andysanchevko, New Africa happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free and enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Mental Health | Self Care | Stress Management Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.

Chi (qi) energy is our essential flow of life force energy. Rachel Markowitz explores the signs of imbalance and ways to restore chi balance through traditional techniques, including qigong, acupuncture, massage, and breathwork. “Feel your chi between your hands and begin to shape it into a ball,” instructed a young, short, bubbly woman to a room full of skeptical students, including myself, who inadvertently ended up in her 'Intro to Tai Chi' workshop. After self-consciously glancing around the room, I rubbed my hands together as shown to create heat and friction. With closed eyes, I guided my palms together and then apart, noticing a perceivable stretchiness or magnetism between them. Then, I imagined forming a ball – and, to my shock, felt a tangible sphere of energy between my hands. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, this workshop served as a doorway – not only to learn about chi energy, but also to connect to the physical world in a way I had never experienced. More importantly, it gave me the confidence that we can all learn to sense chi. Let’s begin together by learning about the basics of chi energy and how to feel and balance this vital current. What is Chi? Chi, or qi, is the name given to an essential flow of life force energy that permeates our bodies and the world that surrounds us. In the body, chi energy flows through channels called meridians. Each meridian line is related to certain aspects of ourselves. Thus, through various practices and habits to cultivate and balance chi, we can promote a healthy flow of energy and overall well-being. RELATED: The Essentials of Energy Healing: 10 Techniques 5 Techniques to Balance Chakras and Unblock Energy Flows Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect The concept of chi is firmly rooted in Chinese culture and plays a major role in Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and martial arts. However, the presence of an all-pervading energy linked to holistic well-being runs as a common thread through most ancient cultures. Chi energy: our essential flow of life force For example, the same energy that the Chinese call chi is known in yogic philosophy as prana and in Japanese as ki (as in Reiki). In ancient Egypt, it was known as ka; Polynesian culture calls this force mana, and some simply refer to it as Spirit. Regardless of name, chi is the energy found in all of existence; it’s the age-old mysterious miracle that gives us breath and, therefore, life. By learning to feel and move chi, we cultivate a better connection to ourselves, others, and the universe. The Benefits of Balancing Chi Balancing chi energy can help with a variety of ailments in the body. However, we don’t need to wait until we’re sick to work towards a healthy flow of chi. Benefits of balanced chi energy include: Physical Strength Working with chi helps us distribute our life force power in an efficient way and feel fully embodied. Balancing chi can remedy physical ailments and injuries by supporting the body’s immune system and natural healing abilities. Mental Clarity When chi is blocked, we may feel mentally foggy or lethargic. Balanced chi manifests as a focused, attentive, and non-distracted mind. Emotional Stability In Chinese medicine, emotional balance is connected to physical and mental health, as all are a reflection of balanced chi. Furthermore, medical research has found that chi-based movement practices can ease depression and anxiety, amongst other mood-enhancing benefits. Connection to the Elements Chi is the invisible force that connects us to the natural world and our place within it. When chi is balanced, we feel comfortable in our surroundings. Connection to a Higher Power When we begin to feel and perceive chi, our awareness opens to a space beyond the physical body and the individual “I,” enhancing spiritual well-being. Signs Your Chi is Out of Balance Essentially, any physical, emotional, or recurring challenge in life could be attributed to unbalanced chi energy. According to TCM, chi manifests in various forms, and is closely associated with two opposite yet interconnected complementary forces – yin and yang. When yin – associated with femininity, darkness, and contraction, –is balanced with yang – associated with masculinity, lightness, and expansiveness – we experience harmony in life. “Chi, or qi, is the name given to an essential flow of life force energy that permeates our bodies and the world that surrounds us.” That being said, yin and yang are constantly fluctuating and changing in a dance of balance versus imbalance. Fortunately, our bodies and minds signal to us when something is not quite right. Signs that your chi energy may be out of balance include: Physical weakness or low stamina Allergies, a poor immune system, or the tendency to catch common colds and flus Poor digestion, IBS Emotional instability, insecurity, or self-doubt Disconnection from others or from nature An overall sense that something feels “off” How Can I Balance My Chi? 5 Traditional Techniques If you feel like you might be experiencing symptoms of unbalanced yin and yang, the following practices, based in TCM, work to regulate and manipulate the flow of chi energy, increasing health and vitality. 1. Qigong Qigong (also written as chi gong) encompasses a variety of techniques intended to harness chi and distribute it throughout the body. Qigong practices incorporate movement, breath, and concentration. While some types of qigong focus on healing the physical body, others promote spiritual wholeness. Tai chi, another closely related body-mind practice, is a martial art that originates from Qigong. Qigong is an ancient chi-balancing practice 2. Acupuncture Acupuncture works by stimulating acupressure points that relate to different parts of the body, using thin needles. An acupuncturist will identify chi imbalances and release blockages or increase energetic flow to certain meridians or body parts through these points. 3. Breathing Techniques Since our breath is our life force, we work directly with chi by controlling the breath. As previously mentioned, breathing is an integral part of a qigong practice. “Balancing chi energy can help with a variety of ailments in the body. However, we don’t need to wait until we’re sick to work towards a healthy flow of chi.” However, qigong breathing exercises on their own, or any other pranayama or conscious breathing techniques, can help to balance and regulate chi. If you’re new to intentional breathing, a good place to begin is with diaphragmatic breathing – slowly taking full, deep ”belly breaths,” with fixed length inhalations and exhalations. 4. Massage Like a trained acupuncturist, a skilled massage therapist will be able to read your body, identify energetic patterns that might be causing imbalance, and help increase or redirect chi. TCM massage techniques include: Tui Na: A traditional therapeutic massage that targets acupressure points in the body to improve circulation of blood and chi. Cupping: Using cups to create a vacuum seal on the skin, increasing blood flow and detoxifying the body, moving blocked chi energy. Reflexology: Stimulating acupressure points, primarily in the feet, hands, and ears, that correspond to certain body organs or health systems Cupping therapy is used to balance chi energy 5. Lifestyle Adjustments Along with physical exercises, our eating habits, living environments (feng shui), and maintaining healthy sleep patterns contribute to balanced chi energy. Furthermore, TCM specialists often recommend herbal medicines to improve deficiencies or excesses of certain qualities in the body. How to Balance Chi at Home If you’re curious about understanding or balancing chi and are not inclined to see a specialist, the following practices you can do by yourself can help you connect. Experiment with feeling your own energy. Take an introductory qigong or tai chi class, in person or online. Once you learn a few basic exercises, you can continue a daily practice on your own, cultivating a relationship with chi in your body and the environment. Practice meditation. By committing a small amount of time each day to breathing intentionally while simply doing “nothing,” we relax the mind, calm the nervous system, and coax the body to come to a space of natural peace and balanced energy. Eat, sleep, and exercise regularly – with moderation. According to Daoism, an ancient system of Chinese spiritual and philosophical belief, the key to a healthy, balanced life is taking “the middle way.” Thus, if you’re inclined towards laziness or extreme intensity, keep in mind that even small, intentional changes in daily habits help us to cultivate chi flow and become aware of its presence. Takeaway: What is Chi Energy? Chi is the link between our internal and external environments, the microcosm and the macrocosm, and our worldly and spiritual experiences. When our chi energy is unbalanced, we often experience ailments or challenges. By learning how to balance chi through intentional practices, personal habits, and therapies, we can experience physical health, mental clarity, emotional stability, and the interconnectedness of all aspects of life. ● Images: Sasha.shine.bright, Nikki Zalewski, Andrey_Popov happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Energy Healing | Western Medicine | Holistic Medicine Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. 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Many energy-based healing therapies – such as acupuncture and reflexology – originate from ancient Eastern traditions and have been increasingly incorporated into Western medicine, despite scepticism. Rachel Markowitz explores 10 popular energy healing techniques that aim to restore balance, reduce stress, and support holistic well-being. Energy healing techniques are based on the principle that physical and mental complications in the body are manifestations of restricted, blocked, or unbalanced energy. Although the Western medical community often shows skepticism towards energy healing, many of these practices originated in ancient times and are still widely accepted and integrated into modern medicine worldwide. Let’s explore the idea of energy healing and examine some well-established, time-tested energy medicine practices. Energy Healing: Definition The term energy healing, also known as energy medicine or energy therapy, encompasses a variety of healing techniques that strengthen and balance the energetic body to achieve holistic well-being. According to the U.S. National Institute of Health’s Library of Medicine, energy healing is defined as a “complex intervention” that serves to enhance a patient’s wholeness. Although we sometimes categorize energy healing as an alternative to allopathic medicine, healthcare options don’t necessarily fall into “either/or” categories. For example, the National Cancer Institute (NCI) defines energy healing not only as alternative medicine, but also as complementary medicine to support well-being alongside conventional medical treatment. Energy medicine helps maintain the body’s natural state, contributing to physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Therefore, even without specific health problems, we can include energy healing practices in a proactive, overall wellness plan. The History of Energy Healing Energy-based healing practices date back thousands of years, and the first well-documented traditions and practices originate from Eastern traditions – most notably, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and Ayurveda, ancient India’s science of holistic health. Qigong is an energy healing practice derived from Traditional Chinese Medicine Although energy points, pathways, and therapies vary between these two systems and other Indigenous traditions, energy medicine practices from around the world suggest that a being’s overall health is strongly linked to a field of vital energy in and around the body. In fact, most modern-day energy healing practices are rooted in ancient knowledge and integrate the energetic concepts and maps outlined by our ancestors into modalities that feel relevant today. Energy Healing Techniques The field of energy medicine is vast and growing, and energy healers use techniques ranging from crystal healing and aromatherapy to aura cleansing and quantum healing. That being said, if you’re curious about energy healing, the following list provides an overview of the more traditional and well-known therapies for further research and exploration. Despite energy’s inability to be seen or scientifically measured, medical studies and patient reports suggest that energy therapies can help reduce physical pain and stress while promoting mental and emotional clarity. 1. Traditional Chinese Medicine According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), energy – called qi or chi – flows through channels in the body called meridians, and energetic (acupressure) points in the body correspond to different organs and systems. Based on these lines and points, we can move and balance chi for optimal health. Healing techniques originating from TCM include: Qigong (Chi Gong A variety of practices intended to increase and move energy (qi or chi) in the body. Traditions of qigong are extensive and include medical qigong, martial arts, and spiritual practices. Acupuncture: Lightly inserting small needles into specific points to balance energy and clear blockages. An accepted healing practice in the West, research at Harvard Medical School links acupuncture’s healing ability to neuroanatomy. Reflexology and Massage: Applying pressure to specific points on the hands, feet, and ears, which, according to TCM, contain maps of body parts and internal organs. 2. Ayurvedic Therapies In India, Ayurveda, which translates to the “the science of life,” is still commonly practiced today alongside conventional medicine. Similar to TCM, in Ayurveda, energy (called prana) moves through channels in the body (called nadis). “Energy healing techniques are based on the principle that physical and mental complications in the body are manifestations of restricted, blocked, or unbalanced energy.” According to Ayurveda, each individual has a unique energetic composition, and ayurvedic practices like marma therapy (stimulating energetic points), Ayurvedic massage, and personalized practices can help provide balance to an individual’s unique constitution. Acupuncture is one of the most popular energy healing techniques in the West 3. Pranic Healing The term pranic healing can refer to two distinct, but related concepts: According to Indian philosophy, we can harness and balance prana through yoga and meditation practices, breathing techniques, and mudras (energetic seals), per traditional yogic teachings. Pranic Healing is also the name given to a specific set of no-touch energy healing practices developed in the late 1980s by a Filipino spiritual teacher. These practices promote physical and mental health, along with spiritual growth, and are influenced by in Indian, Chinese, and Tibetan traditions. 4. Shamanic Healing Shamanism, typically associated with Indigenous cultures, facilitates healing by inducing a trance state that allows a person to connect to spiritual realms and guides. Shamanic healing often takes place through ceremonies or guided journeys, which could include drumming, breathwork, song, or plant medicine. Shamanic healing, like other energy medicine traditions, sees spiritual health and physical health as deeply integrated. RELATED: What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey What is the Peyote Cactus and is it Legal? 5. Reiki Reiki, which translates to “universal life force energy,” originated in Japan in the early 1900s and is amongst the most popular energy healing methods practised today. A Reiki healer becomes attuned to Reiki energy passed down through direct lineage. In a session the healer uses their hands, on or off a patient’s body, to encourage an inherent self-healing ability. Reiki is a popular energy medicine, despite uncertainty about its benefits Different lineages of Reiki offer slightly different healing protocols that may utilize symbols, mantras, meditations, or other practices to offer healing. This can be facilitated directly or from a distance. Despite criticism over patients’ reported benefits of Reiki, it has become a complementary therapy in health clinics and hospitals. RELATED: 14 Different Types of Reiki: Which is Best For Me? Rekiki: Principles, Benefits, and Costs 6. Healing Touch Like Reiki, Healing Touch is a hands-based energy healing practice, rooted in the idea that each individual has the power to naturally restore a healthy state. It was developed by a Western nurse in the 1980s based on various energy medicine traditions and her professional experience. “Energy-based healing practices date back thousands of years, and the first well-documented traditions and practices originate from Eastern traditions.” In Healing Touch therapy, energy healers use intention, visualization of chakras and auras, and specific procedures to work with a patient’s energy field. Healing Touch is used within the medical community as complementary therapy for physical and psychological treatments, including PTSD. 7. Craniosacral Therapy In craniosacral therapy, practitioners use gentle touch around a patient’s head, neck, and spinal column to balance the energy of the central nervous system. By working with a spinal membranes and fluids, along with subtle rhythms, craniosacral therapy relaxes fascia (connective tissue) and releases tightness around the head, spine, and pelvis. Craniosacral therapy has been demonstrated to relieve pain, as well as enhance the emotional, mental, and overall well-being of patients. 8. Sound Healing The ability to heal ourselves through sound frequency is based on the principle of entrainment – essentially, that we can use sound vibration to alter the length of our brainwaves. Modern-day sound healing sessions often take the form of private or group sound baths using singing bowls, gongs, and/or tuning forks. RELATED: How to Protect Your Enegy – 7 Science-Backed Techniques Unlike many of the techniques listed, experiencing healing through sound doesn’t necessarily require an energy healer. To experiment with self-healing through sound, an online search for binaural beats or isochronic tones will provide a variety of brainwave-altering frequencies to calm the mind, heal the body, or alter states of consciousness. Sound healing employs vibrations to alter brainwave length 9. Emotional Freedom Techniques Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a tapping therapy that uses gentle pressure on points from TCM while focusing on emotions. EFT practitioners help patients in this process, but EFT can also be used for self-healing. Clinical studies have found that EFT positively affects emotional and psychological conditions and also relieves stress and burnout. 10. Chakra Healing Chakra healing includes all practices that work with chakras, a system of concentrated energetic vortexes in the body, to cleanse and balance energy. Since each chakra serves to distribute energy to certain aspects of our physical body, mental attributes, and spiritual pursuits, chakras can serve as gateways to working with practical and intuitive healing methods. Chakra-based healing techniques may include visualization, meditation, and yoga exercises. However, healing based on the chakra system is often incorporated into other energy healing practices such as Reiki and sound healing. Takeaway: Energy Healing Techniques Energy healing methods from across time and space can enhance our inherent ability to restore balance to the body and mind. Although science is not yet able to explain the efficacy of energy medicine, these practices are slowly being integrated into our healthcare system alongside medical healing plans because of their apparent benefits. If you’re curious about utilizing your own life force energy to improve an existing condition or your overall health, learning more about energy medicine or experimenting with the methods above may offer the healing you’re seeking with minimal risk. ● Images antoniodiaz, Microgen, Ulza, People Images happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Herbalism | Reflexology | Stress Management | Chronic Pain Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.

A wandering mind isn’t necessarily a happy mind. Sonia Vadlamani explores science-backed strategies to help you get out of your head and reconnect with the present. It happened again as I sat by the beach on a work retreat, supposedly enjoying the sunset, but instead replaying the meeting earlier, dissecting every small detail. Did I get to lead the event by fluke? Was my joke really funny or inappropriate? What if I fail everyone by tanking the project? And then I noticed a pattern – this repetitive analysis left me mentally drained, yet I couldn’t stop rehashing the event, even at the cost of losing out on the present, ie, the gorgeous sunset. The reminder was clear: I needed to get out of my head to be able to enjoy the present. If my experience sounds familiar, and you often find yourself stuck in relentless mental replay of past events as well as future worries, you might be part of the vast club of over-thinkers. What Does it Mean to Be in Your Head? Being in your head usually refers to overthinking or over-analyzing a situation. While overthinking isn’t a mental health condition itself, it can stem from one’s negative emotions. Indeed, it can be mentally exhausting, lessen attention span, and impair decision-making if left unchecked. When it spirals beyond control, overthinking can also contribute to anxiety and depression. Learn how to get out of your head and into the present In fact, a study of 2250 volunteers by Harvard psychologists Matthew A. Killingsworth and Daniel T. Gilbert found that people spend about 47% of their waking ours thinking about something that isn’t actually happening in the present moment – and this mind-wandering comes with an emotional cost. The conclusion from the study is profound: a wandering mind isn’t a happy mind. Being in your head isn’t just mindless daydreaming – the persistent cycle of scrutinizing every thought, second-guessing each gesture, and predicting every outcome can leave you utterly drained. 7 Science-Backed Ways to Get Out of Your Head The good news is that it’s possible to break free from the mental prison and get out of your head using simple, research-backed techniques. Here are seven effective tools to ground yourself in the present and reclaim your mental peace. 1.Get your body moving Granted, exercise is often viewed as the foundation for a healthier lifestyle and prevention against chronic health problems such as depression and anxiety. But research shows that a vigorous exercise routine can also help you get out of your head: a meta-analysis of 34 studies revealed that regular physical activity reduces the incidence of a sympathetic nervous system, making people more adept at handling stress and anxiety. “Being in your head usually refers to overthinking or overanalyzing a situation. While overthinking isn’t a mental health condition itself, it can stem from one’s negative emotions.” Therefore, an intense workout can act as a “reset” button by drawing your attention away from rumination and toward external stimuli. The logic is simple: intense activities like sprinting or lifting heavy weights are bound to demand your complete attention, leaving little room for distractions. The key is to choose physical activities that demand intensity and your complete focus, such as: Strength training High-Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) Dance workouts, like Zumba Swimming laps Boxing or mixed martial arts Boxing requires total focus, taking your out of your head 2. Practise thought-labeling Thought-labeling is a research-backed cognitive diffusion technique that helps combat overthinking by distancing you from your thoughts, so you’re not consumed by them. You can also practise thought-labeling as a guided meditation by allocating a specific time and duration. Here’s how you can practise this approach: Observe, don’t judge: Start with 2-3 deep breaths to calm your mind and gently observe your thoughts without judgment or the urge to change them. Label or categorize the thought: Assign a label to each thought as accurately as possible. The labels could be “planning,” “daydreaming,” or “worrying.” Repeat the process: As you continue to take deeper breaths, you’ll notice some of the labeled thoughts fading away, while others reappear. These recurring thoughts may form the root cause of your overthinking. Keep labeling them and try to note which ones surface more often. Labeling your thoughts in this manner can also help you recognize them as temporary mental events rather than absolute truths, which makes getting out of your head easier. Research also shows that categorizing thoughts activates the prefrontal cortex – the brain’s center for executive functions – while reducing the load on the amygdala, where the fight-or-flight response originates. As Dr Linda Miles, psychotherapist, relationship specialist and author, explains: "Cognitive defusion refers to labeling the emotions and distancing yourself, as if projecting them on a screen outside you. When you label thoughts and emotions you gain awareness of times your inner monologue is helping or hurting you. "Repeat simple words like : 'Angry, angry, angry' or 'Worried, worried, worried.' It helps to repeat the labels several times. In this way, you clarify your thoughts and change directionality in your brain toward the frontal cortex toward good decisions about advantageous action. In my practice as a psychotherapist, I have found it is most helpful when people label-emotion words to let them go." 3.Talk to strangers more often For chronic overthinkers and especially introverts, the idea of striking up conversations with complete strangers may seem daunting. Their need to form meaningful connections, combined with pessimistic expectations and fear of the vulnerability hangover can prevent them from even trying. However, research suggests that talking to strangers can help you get out of your head. A study by psychologists at University of Essex, UK, found that the unpredictable and evolving nature of conversations with strangers makes it nearly impossible to predict or overanalyze the outcome of such encounters, thus compelling us to be present as our authentic selves. MORE LIKE THIS: 7 Strategies to Beat the Habit of Indecisiveness Quotes About Worrying: 6 Powerful Sayings to Free Your Mind How to Stop Overthinking: 9 Steps to Take Start small to not get overwhelmed: pass a compliment, be courteous, smile at people passing by, or make small talk while waiting in line. See where the conversation takes you! Speaking with strangers opens new conversations and 4. Ground yourself with the “5-4-3-2-1” technique This simple yet powerful mindfulness exercise helps anchor your focus remarkably quickly in the present moment. Especially effective when your mind is bouncing, here’s how it works: Look around and name five things you see (the bookshelf, coffee table, a steaming cup of tea, a plant, the cat snoozing nearby, or a crack in the wall). Feel or touch four things around you. This can be your feet on the grass (if you’re outdoors), the breeze, pages of a book, or the cool surface of your phone. Three sounds you can hear (clicks of a mouse, the fan whirring nearby, your own breathing). Two scents you can smell (fresh coffee, your perfume or shampoo). One thing you can taste (mints, coffee, or just the taste in your mouth right now). Researchers Josefsson et al. suggest that interventions with mindfulness exercises can reduce rumination and enhance one’s ability to process negative emotions. By engaging your five senses – sight, touch, hearing, smell, and taste – this exercise helps interrupt the endless loop of intrusive thoughts, drawing your attention firmly to the present. 5. Engage in more “flow” activities Immersing yourself in activities that completely absorb your attention can help you enter a state of flow – an innately positive experience that respected psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi decribes as essential for a sense of control and overall happiness. “The STOP technique is a practical answer to how to get out of your head. It disrupts the train of involuntary thoughts, making way for calm, deliberate action.” Researchers also consider flow state the antidote to overthinking – when you’re fully engaged in an activity, there’s simply no mental space left for distracting thoughts or rumination. The key to obtaining flow is to choose activities that are exciting and challenging enough to demand your complete focus, but not so intimidating that they trigger overthinking or anxiety. Find your flow: completing a jigsaw pulls you into the present What sparks flow can differ one from person to another – some ideas include learning to play a musical instrument, knitting, gardening, baking, or solving a jigsaw puzzle. 6. Shift your perspective with “self-distancing” technique Self-distancing is an impactful way to step back, see the bigger picture, and stop the incessant train of thought. Remind yourself that our life experiences, cultural beliefs, values, and expectations shape our world view, and thus there are alternate ways to analyze every situation. Getting out of your head is easier by asking yourself questions like: Is there a way I can introduce a fresh perspective here? What advice would I give to a friend in this situation? Will this matter in five years, and if so, how? Shifting your perspective and imagining things from a novel vantage point can definitely help you cut through the mental noise and get clarity. RELATED: How to Stop Thinking About Something: 9 Strategies 11 Life Coaching Techniques and Tools Remember: You Are Not Your Thoughts 7. Master the STOP mindfulness technique The STOP technique serves as a four-step mental checklist that helps you pause and respond to things calmly, rather than reacting on impulse. Here’s what the acronym stands for: S – Stop: Press pause on your thoughts and physical movement. Don’t judge or fight your thoughts – simply prepare to shift your focus elsewhere. T – Take a breath: Breathe mindfully to recenter your attention to the present. O – Observe: Notice how the situation is affecting you to get a better grip on reality. Observe the physical sensations – are you tense or perhaps fidgety? What can you see, hear, feel, smell or taste? Check on your emotional and mental state as well. P – Proceed: Move forward with a response that feels appropriate for the current situation. The STOP technique is a practical answer to how to get out of your head, as it disrupts the train of involuntary thoughts and emotions, making way for calm, deliberate action. Takeaway: Getting Out of Your Head It’s unrealistic to expect your mind to always be perfectly quiet and calm. Getting out of your head doesn’t mean avoiding deep thought or deliberate analysis. Instead, it’s about consciously choosing where to direct your mental energy. Overthinking is a subconscious habit – but one that can be changed with intention and practise. As the Harvard research reminds us, happiness is found in savoring the present moment, not in endless loops of thought. ● Images Marjan Apostolovic, Iryna Inshyna, Roman Samborskyi, LightField Studios happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Self Care | Positive Psychology | Stress Management | Mental Health Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.

Microdosing the party drug MDMA – AKA Molly or Ecstasy – can lead to increased mood and sociability while lowering feelings of depression and anxiety. But, with limited scientific evidence, is attempting to microdose MDMA in this way safe? Rhianna Quanstrom investigates. MDMA, also known as Molly or Ecstasy, is a recreational or “party” drug. In recent years, psychologists have explored its potential therapeutic uses for mental illness and chronic pain. Now, there is the question of whether or not microdosing MDMA is safe and has therapeutic value. As such, we’ll discuss what MDMA is, what microdosing is, and what the science says. What is MDMA? MDMA (3,4-methylenedioxymethamphetamine) is a synthetic pharmaceutical drug first developed in Germany in 1912. It was created when German chemists were developing drugs to reduce bleeding. In their experiments, they found that it had psychoactive properties. In the 1980s, MDMA became a popular party drug as a stimulant and psychedelic. It is still used in this way today and enhances energy and feelings of euphoria. This includes increased sensory perception, happiness, emotional warmth and openness, sexual arousal, and sociability. MDMA is typically used as a party drug, but can it be safely microdosed? MDMA alters perception by increasing the release of serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine in the brain. These neurotransmitters influence mood, energy, behavior, sensory awareness, and sleep. At higher doses, they can lead to hallucinations. MDMA is often distributed as colorful pills with a stamped logo or cartoon image on them. It is also found in powder, capsule, and liquid forms. What is Microdosing? Microdosing involves taking a psychedelic substance at very low doses (about 1/10th of a normal dose) for a prolonged period of time. These doses are low enough that they do not produce a full psychedelic experience. Rather, they are more subtle and do not interfere with daily activities. People microdose for therapeutic benefits, including improving mood and cognitive function, as well as reducing depression, anxiety, stress, and chronic pain. LSD and psilocybin (“magic” mushrooms) are the most common psychedelics used for microdosing. Why Do People Try Microdosing MDMA? The main idea behind microdosing MDMA — or any psychedelic — is to receive its mental and emotional benefits without a full psychedelic experience. MDMA differs from other psychedelics in that it doesn’t commonly produce hallucinations. Instead, it’s considered an empathogen, which increases feelings of empathy, connection to others, and emotional openness. As such, microdosing MDMA could stimulate these feelings more subtly. It could potentially help with sociability and reduce depression and PTSD. However, these are just theories, and there is very little scientific research on the potential benefits and risks of microdosing MDMA. Let's examine what evidence we do have. Microdosing MDMA or Molly: What Science Says Psychologists have been investigating the therapeutic potential of MDMA for a few decades. Most studies and clinical trials use moderate to high doses of MDMA. There is one study from the University of Basel, Switzerland, where one subject microdosed MDMA to relieve chronic pain. The study – published in Frontiers – aimed to explore the potential analgesic effects of MDMA, since individuals with PTSD who participated in MDMA trials reported a reduction in chronic pain. “The main idea behind microdosing MDMA — or any psychedelic — is to receive its mental and emotional benefits without a full psychedelic experience.” In this case study, the subject first went through several sessions of LSD at moderate to high doses. Following those sessions, he microdosed MDMA every other day for four months. The subject reported “sustained improvement in neuropathic pain.” Besides this case study, there doesn’t appear to be any published research on the benefits and potential risks of microdosing MDMA. However, there is substantial, research-backed evidence of the therapeutic benefit of full-dose MDMA for people with severe PTSD. More scientific research is needed into microdosing MDMA (Molly) A 2021 clinical study found that MDMA reduces activity in the amygdala, the part of the brain where fear responses are stored. As such, patients can revisit traumatic experiences without the accompanying fear. The study states: “MDMA-assisted therapy may facilitate recall of negative or threatening memories with greater self-compassion and less PTSD-related shame and anger. … Indeed, clinicians have suggested that 'MDMA may catalyze therapeutic processing by allowing patients to stay emotionally engaged while revisiting traumatic experiences without becoming overwhelmed.'“ Because MDMA increases serotonin and oxytocin, patients feel safer and more emotionally connected to themselves and the therapist. This allows them to explore their traumatic history from a more stable place. RELATED: Happiness Hormones: the Neurochemicals of Joy Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? Furthermore, research shows that MDMA increases neuroplasticity, which is the brain’s ability to change, adapt, and form new neural pathways. In the case of treating PTSD with MDMA, it helps the brain form new memories and connections so that the original trigger does not affect the individual in the same way. The study above found that MDMA treatment helped the individuals reduce their anxiety and depression. It also helped improve their relationships and overall quality of life. According to the report, “In summary, MDMA-assisted therapy induces rapid onset of treatment efficacy, even in those with severe PTSD, and in those with associated comorbidities including dissociative PTSD, depression, history of alcohol and substance use disorders, and childhood trauma. Not only is MDMA-assisted therapy efficacious in individuals with severe PTSD, but it may also provide improved patient safety. Compared with current first-line pharmacological and behavioral therapies, MDMA-assisted therapy has the potential to dramatically transform treatment for PTSD and should be expeditiously evaluated for clinical use.” “There is no clear evidence of the risks associated with microdosing MDMA. That said, there are several concerns related to the prolonged use of microdosing it.” Because of the positive effects MDMA has on PTSD, there is the potential for it to become an FDA-approved drug in controlled environments. Given these findings, there is also the possibility that microdosing MDMA could improve chronic pain, PTSD, social anxiety, depression, and emotional availability. However, there is still not enough research on the subject, nor on the long-term safety of microdosing MDMA. Possible Risks of Microdosing MDMA There is no clear evidence of the risks associated with microdosing MDMA. That said, there are several concerns related to the prolonged use of microdosing it. These include: Neurotoxicity: because of MDMA’s release of neurotransmitters such as serotonin and norepinephrine, it could cause long-term imbalances affecting sleep, mood, and the nervous system. Anxiety: Some reports state that low doses of MDMA may actually be anxiety-inducing. Tolerance: The body quickly becomes tolerant to MDMA, potentially making microdoses ineffective in the long term. Cardiovascular Health: MDMA raises heart rate and blood pressure, which can put a strain on the heart over long periods of time. Side effects: Dizziness, headache, lack of appetite, fatigue, and nausea have been reported with low-dose MDMA. It’s important to note that the beneficial effects of MDMA found in the studies above were in controlled, safe, and monitored environments. MDMA shouldn’t be taken recreationally or purchased without a medical license. In fact, much of the MDMA sold recreationally and illegally is found to be laced with other drugs, including methamphetamine, cocaine, heroin, ketamine, caffeine, and cathinones. These other substances significantly increase the risk of harmful and potentially fatal side effects of MDMA. Is MDMA Legal? MDMA is not legal in the United States. According to the Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA), MDMA is a “Schedule I drug under the Controlled Substances Act, meaning it has a high potential for abuse, no currently accepted medical use in treatment in the United States, and a lack of accepted safety for use under medical supervision.” Psychologists and psychedelic researchers have been pushing for the FDA to approve MDMA as a therapeutic drug in the treatment of PTSD. This would change its legal status for medical use. However, in 2024 the FDA rejected its approval and requested additional clinical trials. While MDMA is illegal, even for medical use, there is still potential that it will become medically legal in the future and could be used to microdose. Takeaway: Microdosing MDMA While it’s commonly known as an illegal street drug, Molly, or MDMA, also has therapeutic benefits. In controlled environments, MDMA has been shown to significantly reduce chronic pain, depression, and PTSD. While most findings are based on full doses, there is reason to believe microdosing MDMA could also have similar benefits. However, more research is needed to further explore the potential benefits and risks of microdosing MDMA before it can be legally used in such a manner. ● Images: BLACKDAY, luckakcul happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Alternative medicine | Herbalism | CBD Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.

If you're lacking fulfilment or direction in life, spiritual coaching can help you align your beliefs and values with purpose. Sonia Vadlamani explores how spiritual coaching can change your life’s course for the better, and what sets it apart from life coaching. In today’s competitive, success-obsessed world, many of us reach a point where we feel something is missing from our lives – a deeper sense of connectedness, a purpose beyond worldly pursuits, or a spiritual hunger that no amount of goal setting and accomplishments can seem to fulfil. This is where spiritual coaching can become incredibly helpful. What is Spiritual Life Coaching? Spiritual coaching aims to help individuals connect with their spiritual goals by aligning their values and beliefs to a purpose greater than themselves. While researchers agree that spirituality and wellbeing are interlinked, emerging studies suggest that spirituality also helps mediate the fear arising from uncertainty or challenging times, thus safeguarding one’s mental health and fostering emotional resilience. A spiritual coach acts as a guide or companion on your journey toward spiritual growth. Freud’s renowned Iceberg Theory is useful here: it uses an iceberg as the metaphor for the human mind, where the vast submerged part of the iceberg signifies the human unconscious mind, which has the largest impact on one’s personality and behavior, even though it’s more inaccessible than the visible ‘tip’ of the iceberg which represents the conscious mind. The role of a spiritual coach is to work with both – the visible or external aspects of your life, like your goals, setbacks, and daily activities, as well as underlying, deeper aspects that influence everything you do. 7 Ways a Spiritual Coach Can Help You Simply put, the role of a spiritual advisor is to provide the support and guidance you need to access your inner gifts to create a meaningful, authentic life that reflects who you truly are. Here are some ways spiritual life coaching can help you: 1. Navigate life transitions with ease Handling major transitions in life – whether a career change, moving to a new area, relationship shift, losing a parent and working through the stages of grief, or a health challenge – isn’t easy alone. Whether by choice or unexpected, such life changes can trigger existential questions and a need for expert guidance. This is where a spiritual coach can offer perspective and wisdom, helping you realize that life changes can also serve as stepping stones to personal growth. A spiritual coach will help you tap into your inner resources and overcome challenges and move forward in life. 2. Overcome fear and mental blocks Sometimes we subconsciously carry self-limiting thoughts and patterns that may hold back our growth. These may include ingrained beliefs about self-worth, fears about our capabilities, or doubts about success in career and relationships. Spiritual life coaching can help identify and address these blocks using techniques like energy cleansing, inner child work, and developing a growth or abundance mindset, thus enabling you to realize your fullest potential and live a fulfilled life. Spiritual coaches act as a guide to align your passions with purpose 3. Trust your intuition Each of us has, at some point, experienced a “hunch”, an inner voice, or a “gut feeling” about a decision or circumstance. This “ability to understand something instinctively, without any need for conscious reasoning or an explanation” is what we know as intuition, according to Dr Thomas R. Verny, clinical psychiatrist and author of the blog Explorations of the Mind. While this intuition is often accurate, we tend not to trust the feeling, given our majorly analytical, logic-driven minds. We fail to realize that intuitive thinking isn’t about unlocking psychic powers but about learning to recognize and trust the subtle signs from your body, your environment, and the knowledge accumulated from your past experience. Dismissing intuition sometimes makes us lose out on valuable guidance from our subconscious learning and prior experience. A spiritual coach can help you tap into your intuition and reinforce your connection with inner guidance, so that you can make better, more informed decisions. 4. Strengthen relationships and build community The power of community in creating a happy life can’t be ignored - research agrees that growth thrives when we’re surrounded by like-minded people who uplift us. In fact, studies show that relationships and spirituality are intertwined, suggesting that spirituality boosts the health of relationships, while healthy relationships aid one’s wellbeing and spiritual growth in turn. “Spiritual coaching aims to help individuals connect with their spiritual goals by aligning their values and beliefs to a purpose greater than themselves.” Indeed, a spiritual advisor can help you attract and develop relationships that aid your personal and spiritual development, helping you overcome loneliness, feel valued, and lead a meaningful life. 5. Find your life’s purpose At some point, all of us find ourselves questioning what we’re here to do, what’s the point of life, and where it’s taking us. While pondering about life’s purpose can help us to review their goals and improvise our next moves, it can also lead to confusion, feeling lost, and loneliness, sometimes resulting in depression and anxiety. Spiritual coaching can help you explore the answer to “Who am I?” by encouraging introspection and helping you uncover your unique gifts and strengths. Often this guided exploration goes beyond traditional career choices, enabling you to focus on showing up as the best version of yourself in every area of life. 6. Work through past trauma There’s a growing body of research highlighting the role of spirituality when it comes to healing from past trauma and developing a healthy outlook and building emotional resilience for the future. In her book Traumatic Stress and Long-Term Recovery, author Anna R Harper discusses how spirituality and religion influence how one perceives trauma, as well as the post-traumatic recovery process. Indeed, a spiritual coach can help you process your trauma better, in addition to helping you understand that while your trauma is painful, it’s also your gateway to growth and greater strength. Spiritual coaching helps you to overcome fears and addictions Interestingly, a study of 529 care leavers – or young individuals separated from parental care and placed in alternative care settings – from 11 nations revealed a strong connection between spirituality, well-being, and resilience, even when accounting for challenging life circumstances. Thus, building inner strength and emotional resilience to face life’s storms and uncertainties is another area a spiritual advisor can help with. 7. Overcome addiction One of the most practical ways spiritual coaching can benefit someone is addressing compulsive behaviors and addiction – not only by identifying the addiction itself but also the underlying triggers. In fact, research shows that religious faith and spirituality can play an active role in recovery from substance abuse. “A spiritual coach can offer perspective and wisdom, helping you realize that life changes can also serve as stepping stones to personal growth.” A spiritual coach can help clients realize that their addiction is often an unconscious effort to numb emotional pain or escape reality. Through this awareness, and by incorporating helpful techniques like conscious breathwork, meditation, and journaling, they can help connect individuals to a greater purpose, putting them on the path to a purpose-driven life. Spiritual Coach Vs Life Coach At first glance, spiritual coaching and life coaching can seem similar, as both serve to bring a positive change in individuals. However, they different in the aspects they focus on and their approach. Life coaching typically focus on: Setting, tracking, reviewing definite goals. Devising client-specific productivity hacks Performance and accountability reviews External behaviors and conscious thoughts Spiritual coaching explores deeper with: Exploring and examining your belief systems, thought patterns and values without judgment. Incorporating new perspectives and spiritual practices like meditation, energy work and journaling. Aligning your inner values and beliefs with your life purpose. Addressing your soul’s needs, not just your extrinsic goals. How Do You Become a Spiritual Coach? While the spiritual coaching training space is largely unregulated, some respected certification programs accredited by organizations like the International Coach Federation (ICF) offer training in necessary skills like the tutoring methodology, spiritual advancement techniques, and fair practices. Becoming a spiritual coach involves lifelong learning Most reputed spiritual coaches also study various spiritual practices like meditation and dream interpretation extensively on their own and with the help of their spiritual mentors. Developing core spiritual competencies in aspects like mindful compassion, active listening, radical acceptance, and cultivating safe spaces is helpful as well. Above all, effective spiritual coaching training involves lifelong learning – the best spiritual coaches continue to expand their study and skills through workshops, events, mentorships, and in their personal spiritual practices. Takeaway: Spiritual Coaching In a world driven by achievements and competition, spiritual coaching can guide you toward finding what matters most – living with purpose as your most authentic self, in alignment with your deepest values and goals. In essence, spiritual coaching shows us that there’s more to us than our to-do lists, professional achievements and materialistic pursuits – it’s about finding a purpose greater than ourselves and leading a meaningful life. ● Images: insta_photo, KieferPix, Lopolo happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Coaching | Leadership | Motivation | Assertiveness Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. Follow her daily pursuits at FitFoodieDiary or on Instagram.

Being a perfectionist may make you ambitious, but constantly striving for excellence can lead to anxiety and burnout. Sonia Vadlamani explains why embracing your flaws and accepting imperfections actually allows us to lead happier and more authentic lives. Each one of us has a personality trait or a physical feature that doesn't sit well with us. You may always find yourself inadequately prepared for the big interview, you may feel you’re too curvy to carry off that ‘Gram-worthy outfit, or you may feel your shyness stops you striking up interesting conversations. Seem relatable? Social media spouts perfectionism as an ideal state and our rising social presence may make us believe that we need to be always at our best. By definition, perfectionism is a personality feature that requires one to be or appear perfect, for their own selves or to be perceived by others. It can be identified by the need to set unrealistic expectations, strict self-evaluation, denial regarding one’s flaws in personality or appearance, and an overpowering desire to leave no scope for errors or failure. The idea of embracing your flaws and accept imperfections is seen as an alien concept for perfectionists. Indeed, researcher Karen Horney described perfectionism more simplistically as ‘the tyranny of the should’s’, referring to how it tends to make one extremely critical of their own performance or abilities. The Perilous Side of Perfectionism Perfectionism is often seen as a positive – even desirable – trait, that can lead to growth and success in personal and professional areas. However, in fact, science shows that perfectionism can give rise to stress, anxiety and depression. Furthermore, socially prescribed and self-oriented kinds of perfectionism can even result in self-harm. Learn to embrace your imperfections as part of your uniqueness Being a writer, I understand the perils of constantly chasing perfection. I recognize the pattern now: I’d start by opening multiple tabs containing seemingly crucial bits of information and research, which I felt absolutely needed to be included in an article. Then I’d proceed towards creating a comprehensive piece of writing, entirely ignoring the assigned word-limit and specific outline I needed to adhere to. Halfway through, I’d notice that the article just can’t be an all-encompassing guide, so I’d procrastinate and avoid writing altogether, ultimately feeling like an imposter. RELATED: Perfectionism and Anxiety: 7 Ways to Cope It took utmost dedication on my part to draw awareness towards this problematic routine – until it became clear to me that I was stuck in a perfectionism trap. Over time I trained my subconscious mind to not procrastinate endlessly in the desire for a written piece that’s perfect to the tee. Instead, I eased my standards to fit the client’s requirements and feedback, rather than resorting to my preconceived ideas of perfection. “The first step towards accepting imperfections is to be mindful and shift your perspective regarding how you perceive yourself.” Perfectionism can have detrimental effects on developmental outcomes in individuals of all age groups, warns Katie Rasmussen, a child development and perfection researcher. “As many as two out of five kids and adolescents exhibit the traits of perfectionism”, she says, emphasizing how prevalent the phenomenon currently is in our society. In fact, the idea that sublime excellence and perfection will lead us towards success and happiness might be ingrained into our minds from a young age, and hence letting go of this tendency requires determination and persistence. 6 Ways to Embrace Your Flaws So, how can we how to accept imperfections and flaws? “Perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat pretending to be elegant when actually it's just terrified”, says Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the bestselling book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear. Accepting our fears, flaws, and insecurities as we pursue our dreams can help us carve out an accomplished and meaningful life. Here are six steps you can take towards embracing your imperfections – even celebrating them! 1. Find the positive side in your flaws The first step towards accepting imperfections is to be mindful and shift your perspective regarding how you perceive yourself. Stop viewing yourself as insufficient or lacking in certain areas, and start seeing yourself as a whole being, albeit flawed. Moreover, upon reflection, you may find that your flaws or imperfections offer you a unique edge. MORE LIKE THIS: Positive Body Image: 8 Steps For Developing It Nudism: How it Can Boost Positive Body Image Be Good to Yourself: 8 Self-Love Techniques For example, my obsession with writing a perfectly researched article made me aware of my tendency to procrastinate if I don’t find the final written piece to be up to my standards. Instead, now I try to focus on the task at hand by being mindful, while reaffirming to myself that I create good-quality work, otherwise I wouldn’t have had long-term clients. Learning to embrace your flaws and see them as strengths can be a gradual process, but you’ll be able to see yourself in a better perspective by developing self-validation. David Richo, renowned psychotherapist, and author of Wholeness & Holiness recommends including affirmations in one’s daily routine that pertain to letting go of notions of perfection. To begin embracing imperfections, try telling yourself, “I let go of my need to be in control” and “I let go of my need to be correct, first and perfect all the time.” 2. Realize that imperfections make you human Imperfections give you character and make you authentic. Whenever you find yourself getting swayed anew by the portrayal of someone who’s perfectly put-together and efficient, try imagining that individual as a friend, and part of your daily life. You may be surprised by the revelation that their flawlessness might begin to annoy or bore you in no time. In the quest for perfection, many of us try to erase our peculiarities and hide our quirks rather than accept them as a vital part of our personalities. In reality, your sense of being flawed or imperfect may be stemming from self-perception that may highlight only one facet of your personality. Embrace your flaws: imperfections make you human Indeed, you may be completely unaware about how your so-called flaws may offer a sense of wholeness to your persona in the eyes of others. Accepting imperfections by practising self-acceptance allows you to let go of the need to conform to the unrealistic standards you set for yourself, and to be free to lead a meaningful life. 3. Take inspiration from art Letting go of notions of inadequacy or imperfection does not come easy. Which is why we can take inspiration from the art forms around the world, and creators who wished to glorify the transient and erroneous nature of humans. In fact, the concept of ‘perfectly imperfect’ has been propagated in cultures across the world, wherein mistakes are deliberately introduced in artistic works. RELATED: Why We Make Art Turkish carpet weavers leave unidentical patterns in painstakingly handwoven rugs, whereas Indian sculpturers put small dents or slightly misshapen features, all with the belief that true perfection is solely the privilege of the Creator. And the traditional Japanese art of Wabi-Sabi is centered around the philosophy of beauty comprising of impermanence and imperfection, which is why potters consciously introduce asymmetry and unidentical patterns in their works. Similarly, Kintsugi, or the ‘art of golden joinery’ involves mending cracks in pottery with brushed gold instead of hiding them, thus coaxing us to spot beauty in unexpected places by embracing imperfections. 4. Focus on flow state instead of perfection We often mistakenly assume that perfection is a prerequisite for fulfilment of goals. Indeed, goals help us move forward, but they shouldn’t serve as impediments that remind us of what we lack. A Harvard Business Review study concluded that while perfectionism can improve performance, it can also result in elevated anxiety and stress levels, as perfectionists often latch their self-worth to their ability to perform perfectly. “Embracing flaws by practising self-acceptance allows you to let go of the need to conform to the unrealistic standards you set for yourself.” Thus, perfection need not be a grueling punishment or an obsessive behavior that makes us rigid and devoid of fluidity or expression. Instead, we need to embrace our flaws and endeavor to fulfil our goals while still feeling great about ourselves. Setting SMART goals and developing your flow state or rhythm to achieve these goals can ensure greater success – without the need for you to fall into the perfection trap. 5. Surround yourself with positive voices The company we keep and the people we interact with can affect our thought processes and decisions, and hence it’s advisable to surround ourselves with positive minded people who truly accept us, including our flaws and shortcomings. MORE LIKE THIS: What is Shadow Work? 5 Ways to Get Started 31 Shadow Work Prompts For Your Psychological Journey Try These 5 Intimacy Exercises to Deepen Connection Find forums and groups with like-minded individuals, make it a habit to listen to inspiring podcasts, and follow bloggers or websites which keep you bustling forward with accountability, without having to resort to the trappings of perfectionism. 6. Use your imperfections to help others "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places", noted Ernest Hemingway, the renowned novelist. Once you realize that brushing your insecurities aside and accepting your true self makes you authentic, you can also help others understand. Revelling in your vulnerabilities and continuing to put your best work forward by accepting imperfections can inspire others that are feeling impaired by their imperfections. Reaching out to others who may be struggling with accepting their flaws and sharing your experience with them will also help reinforce your learnings towards embracing imperfections. The Takeaway: How to Accept Your Flaws It’s important to understand that your flaws and imperfections make you human. Some of these flaws you may be able to rectify to fulfil your vision or to evolve into a better version of yourself, while some shortcomings are meant to remain a part of you for ever. Indeed, accepting imperfections and embracing your flaws is one of the keys to leading a fulfilling and authentic life! ● Main image: shutterstock/Nat Ulrich, shutterstock/Koldunov happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? 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Sonia Vadlamani explores why making yourself a priority is an essential form of self-care. Learn how to put yourself first guilt-free with these 6 science-backed methods. Plus, get inspired for self-prioritization with some well-known 'put yourself first' quotes. For me, the need to put myself first began with a late-night phone call from a panicked former boss. It was close to 11pm on one of my leave days. I answered reluctantly, only to hear my ex-boss shouting about an incomplete presentation that wasn’t my responsibility – for a client meeting I wasn’t even a part of. “They left it incomplete,” she barked, “and I need your help right now to finish it. My meeting depends on this.” For context, I’d worked on the initial presentation that had helped bring this client in, but not since. Despite my will, my first instinct was to say, “Yes, of course! What do you need?” However, I stopped halfway through to ask myself: 'What’s compelling me to say yes when all I want to do is curl up in bed with a book? ' The answer was shockingly plain – I’d fallen into the habit of putting the needs of others before prioritizing myself. This often left me with burnout and exhaustion, not to mention the frustration and resentment of letting myself down. So, I mustered the courage and told my power-hungry former-boss: “Sorry, I can’t help you. I was just about to head to bed. All the best with your presentation, though.” Prioritize Yourself: Self-care and practice self-compassion While saying this wasn’t easy, it helped me identify an unhelpful pattern I'd carried for years. As I noticed the different scenarios where I put others first – often at the cost of my mental and emotional wellbeing – it became painfully clear that I needed to build healthy boundaries, not just at the workplace but in my personal life as well. The other surprising lesson: it’s important to consider your own needs and put yourself first sometimes in order to be more genuinely helpful for others. The oxygen mask analogy from airline safety makes complete sense in this context – you can only assist others after your own oxygen supply is secured! Similarly, we’re better equipped to care for others only once our own physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing are in check. Indeed, prioritizing yourself is essential. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha Yet, many of us have somehow convinced ourselves that going above and beyond to fulfill others’ needs is what makes us “better” humans. Experts caution, however, that selflessness can turn into self-sabotage if left unchecked. What is Healthy Selfishness? Contrary to the common perception, healthy selfishness isn’t about neglecting your loved ones or abandoning responsibilities in a narcissistic pursuit. Rather, it’s about realizing that making yourself the priority forms the foundation for everything else in life to function smoothly. You can envision this concept as the difference between a vessel that is replenished and overflowing versus one that’s been drained of its essence. MORE LIKE THIS: When to End a Friendship and How to Do it With Kindness Self-Validation: How to Validate Yourself in 5 Steps I Feel Unheard: Why Does Nobody Listen To Me? Interestingly, psychology experts describe healthy selfishness and pathological altruism as the two paradoxical forms of selfishness, underlining that not all selfishness is necessarily bad, and not all altruism is essentially good. Practicing healthy selfishness, in fact, plays a key role in shaping our sense of self and helping us determine our preferences for people and activities we prefer to engage with (or step away from). “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” Jack Kornfield, Buddhist teacher and author As Dr Scott Barry Kaufman, professor of psychology at Columbia University and host of The Psychology Podcast, suggests, “Loving people have love toward themselves, and it is precisely this affirmation of their own unique self, happiness, growth, and freedom that allows them to love others.” Why is making yourself a priority important? Indeed, it’s true that selflessness – through acts of kindness, radical empathy, and volunteering – can boost happiness. A comprehensive study by psychologists from four universities across Canada revealed that generosity can even improve resilience during challenging times. Put yourself first by setting healthy boundaries However, healthy selfishness isn’t about halting acts of kindness or withdrawing care from others. It simply means prioritizing your own well-being by extending the same kindness and care to yourself first so that you can be in a better position - physically, mentally, and emotionally – to help others. Prioritizing yourself in healthy ways ensures that you feel more fulfilled and happier overall, more present in your relationships, more productive at work, and more resilient during tough times. How to Put Yourself First: 6 Strategies Psychologist Ronald Stolberg describes healthy selfishness as taking charge of meeting your physical, mental, emotional, and social needs. Here are some practical ways I’ve learnt to put myself first without feeling guilty, and you should try them too. 1. Cultivate self-compassion Developing empathy and a kind relationship with yourself is one of the most crucial aspects of putting yourself first. Research even suggests that self-compassion is a strong indicator of overall wellbeing. Practicing self-compassion involves: Acknowledging the myriad emotions you experience, without rushing to fix them. Accepting that mistakes make us human. Speaking to yourself with the same kindness you’d show a loved one. Forgiving yourself for past mistakes. 2. Set and maintain healthy boundaries Establishing clear limits across different aspects of your life – and communicating the same to those around you – is essential for wellbeing. According to Lydia Hall, the eminent nursing theorist who developed Care, Cure, Core, it’s important to regard healthy boundaries as “fences, not walls” – that enable connection while “protecting your personal space.” Here’s what healthy boundaries can look like: Communicating your needs and preferences clearly with romantic partners, family, or friends. Conveying the need for maintaining individual interests and friendships to your romantic partner so that neither partner feels they’ve lost their identity in the relationship. At the workplace, defining your work hours and refraining from checking emails when not at work. Learning to delegate tasks, which a study of almost 11,000 leaders worldwide found to be a gamechanger for reducing stress and preventing burnout. Taking regular breaks from work and daily chores to indulge in activities that you enjoy. 3. Master the art of saying no While saying no can seem daunting, it’s an effective way to create boundaries to stop feeling overwhelmed and emotionally overloaded. Remember, disappointing someone temporarily by saying no is far healthier than burning yourself out trying to accommodate everyone else’s needs. “Self-love is an ocean, and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.” Beau Taplin, Author The reality is that by making yourself a priority, each “no” now means saying “yes” to something you appreciate more. For instance, declining a social event or turning down a coffee invite from an energy vampire helps you create space for doing what you love instead. MORE LIKE THIS: 8 Essential Life Lessons From RuPaul Charles How to Find Happiness Within: 5 Ways to Build Inner Joy Tragic Optimism: An Antidote to Toxic Positivity 4. Make self-care a part of your daily routine There’s more to self-care than bubble teas, face masks, and spa days. It’s a vital part of putting yourself first without feeling guilty, given that a lack of self-care has been shown to cause burnout and compassion fatigue. Including self-care in your daily routine can look like: Including ten minutes of conscious breathing exercises or mindful meditation in your day. Taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, nutritious meals, and restful sleep of at least 7 hours. Sparing a few minutes for gratitude journaling to appreciate everything you have going for you. Stepping out for short strolls during a hectic workday. Setting aside time for hobbies like gardening, knitting, or anything else that sparks joy. Spending time with friends who uplift and energize you. Checking in with your mental health regularly and asking for help when needed. 5. Seek balance Indeed, acts of kindness and volunteering for causes you care about can boost happiness and make life more meaningful. However, helping others should never happen at the cost of your peace of mind, strain your closest relationships, or hinder your work. The key is to find balance – devise a win-win approach where your generosity results in positive experiences for everyone while leaving you fulfilled; not weighed down. All smiles: make yourself a priority 6. Invest in your future self Investing in your personal growth and goals is a fundamental aspect of healthy selfishness. While there's no magic recipe to ensure all your goals are achieved with ease, you can begin by setting so-called SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound). “You can't pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” Eleanor Brown, Author Indeed, goal setting isn’t the end of the story but an ongoing process. Review your progress periodically and revisit the ones you couldn’t focus on earlier. Don’t forget to celebrate small wins and any milestones along the way. Takeaway: How to Put Yourself First Shifting your perspective to healthy selfishness and self-prioritization is the first step toward putting yourself first. Know that looking after your interests should be instinctive, not a luxury. Remember, healthy selfishness is all about being self-focused, not “self-absorbed.” Putting yourself first doesn’t harm others or halt progress. Instead, it simply means that you’re pausing to recharge so you can bring your A-game to everything you do and be your best, authentic self. Find inspiration from our words and 'put yourself first' quotes and start prioritizing yourself! ● Images ShotPrime Studio, Nadia Snopek, Dima Berlin happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Self care | Empathy | Acceptance Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. 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Fans of microdosing claim it offers a host of benefits, from enhanced creativity to reduced depression. But what does current research say, and is it safe to microdose? Once a relatively unknown practice, microdosing has gone mainstream. Microdosing is the practice of taking tiny, ‘sub-perceptual’ amounts (generally about 1/10th to 1/20th of a typical dose) of a drug – usually, but not always – a psychedelic. The substances typically taken are LSD or psilocybin mushrooms. The aim of microdosing is not to attain a mind-bending ‘trip’, but rather to stimulate productivity, creativity, mood, and potentially, spiritual awareness. More recently, the drugs used in microdosing has broadened to include other psychedelic or psychoactive substances, such as mescaline (found in select species of cacti such as peyote), ketamine, MDMA, the African indigenous plant- based iboga, and other compounds. People also microdose with cannabis to alleviate pain without inducing a high, with some scientific studies backing up the benefits. For example, Cuttler et al. (2022) found modest doses of THC (the main psychoactive compound in cannabis) helped in stress reduction. How Do People Microdose? Microdoses are typically taken on a consistent schedule multiple times a week. Some fans of the practice cycle on and off, microdosing for a month or two in a row, then taking a break. In reality, microdosing is more complicated than it sounds. The majority of substances are illegal and there isn’t a huge amount of high-quality scientific evidence on the topic (we'll come to that later). What's more, all humans react to these substances differently. Psilocybin mushrooms Why Do People Microdose? Proponents of microdosing claim that it helps improve focus and boost energy levels. Other people report improvements to their overall well-being. Some have claimed it also helps with medical concerns, including: depression anxiety chronic pain menstrual pain substance use disorders History of Microdosing While it may seem a recent invention, microdosing has deep roots in ancient times. Centuries-old indigenous traditions, particularly in Central and South America, have long validated the use of natural substances like psilocybin mushrooms and peyote for ritualistic and medicinal purposes. RELATED: Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect Ceremonial Cacao: 4 Key Benefits, the Process, and History What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? However, the modern term 'microdosing' and its emergent popularity can be traced back to psychedelic pioneer Dr. James Fadiman. His book, The Psychedelic Explorer's Guide, published in 2011, ignited the trend, indicating a unique method of consuming psychedelics to boost a person's daily functioning. The Popularity of Microdosing Indeed, microdosing represents a shift in cultural attitudes towards psychedelics. Long stigmatised as part of the 'hippie' counterculture and driven into the shadows by prohibitionist policies, psychedelics are now stepping into the light of mainstream acceptability, thanks in part to microdosing. Tech workers in Silicon Valley, home to Google and Facebook, are known to microdose in order to remain innovative and competitive. In fact, proponents of microdosing include Apple co-founder Steve Jobs, who openly admitted to LSD's positive influence in his life. The Scientific Evidence Behind Microdosing The narrative praising microdosing's benefits is abundant in pop culture and anecdotal records; however, substantiating scientific evidence remains confined due to ongoing legal restrictions relating to psychedelic substances. Investigations are underway, and some interesting observations have been made. “Microdosing merges the ancient and the modern, promising an array of benefits from enhanced creativity to improved emotional well-being.” For instance, Prochazkova and colleagues (2018) reported improved creative problem-solving abilities after microdosing with psychedelic truffles. Anderson et al. (2019) noted decreases in depressive symptoms and dysfunctional attitudes among participants who microdosed LSD and psilocybin. Research has also suggested a bi-directional relationship between psychedelics and nature connectedness – the feeling of connection and oneness with the natural world. A study by Lyons and Carhart-Harris (2018) indicated potential long-term increases in nature-relatedness following psychedelic use. Microdosing involves taking carefully-measured drug amounts Other studies like Polito and Stevenson (2019) noted an immediate and sustained decrease in depression and stress scores following microdosing. Hutten et al., (2019) observed improvements in various psychological functioning aspects, including mood and focus. Shortcomings of Microdosing Research Yet, even these studies have their limitations, mainly revolving around self-reporting, absence of control groups, and potential placebo effects. Ly et al. (2018) conducted a double-blind, placebo-controlled study and reported a mild increase in psychological well-being. However, the scientists noted that this could be attributed to a placebo effect, highlighting the critical need for further, more extensive research. Microdosing 101: Is it Safe? While microdosing – if done correctly – appears to be relatively safe, it does carry risks. This is mainly due to the illegal status of many psychedelic substances in the West. Without formal regulation, it’s imppssible to know exactly what you’re microdosing or its actual potency. For example, in June 2024 the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) warned about a product line containing a blend of mushrooms intended for microdosing. At least 12 people became severely ill after using it, with 10 being hospitalized. Symptoms ranged from nausea and vomiting through to seizures and loss of consciousness. Furthermore, psychedelics affect people differently. While microdosing is supposed to bypass extreme effects of psychedelics such as hallucinations, some people may still have unwanted experiences. It can also be tricky to measure out small doses. If you accidentally take more of a psychedelic substance than planned, more serious side effects can occur, including: anxiety agitation paranoia increased/decreased heart rate While these aren’t life threatening, they can be concerning for people that have underlying mental health or heart conditions. What is Psychedelic Therapy? While the evidence supporting the effectiveness of microdosing is limited, a 2022 study from the University of Maryland Medical Center, Baltimore, showed psychedelic-assisted therapy could offer promise for some mental health conditions, including depression and PTSD. Psychedelic therapy is a relatively new therapeutic approach and involves using psychedelic substances in larger doses while under the supervision of a medical professional, often in combination with psychotherapy in so-called psychedelic integration. “While microdosing – if done correctly – appears to be relatively safe, it does carry risks. This is mainly due to the illegal status of many psychedelic substances in the West.” Within the United States, some states have loosened restrictions on certain psychedelics, and othes are considering it. Presently, ketamine-assisted therapy is the most widely available psychedelic therapy available. The Takeaway: Microdosing 101 While the scientific community grapples with trying to discern the veracity of claims surrounding microdosing, other spheres of society are enthusiastically embracing it. However, it's essential to remember that while some countries have decriminalized or legalized the use of certain psychedelic substances, in many parts of the world these substances remain illegal. In conclusion, microdosing is a cultural and scientific phenomenon that merges the ancient and the modern, promising an array of benefits from enhanced creativity to improved emotional well-being. As society continues to evolve and our understanding of the human brain advances, it will be fascinating to observe how attitudes towards microdosing and psychedelics at large will shift, and what place they might hold in our lives in the future. Nevertheless, for those interested in exploring this frontier, it's crucial to understand both the legal and health implications involved. Microdosing paints a promising and contentious picture, highlighting the enduring human quest for cognitive enhancement, psychological wellness, and creative expansion. However, until thorough scientific research establishes its benefits and potential risks unequivocally, the jury is still out on whether microdosing has real potential. ● Images: Room27, Cannabis_Pic happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Self care | Retreats | Herbalism | Ayahuasca

From meditation to yoga to conscious breathing, discover 5 ways to balance chakras, unblock bodily energy flows, realigning body and mind. By Rachel Markowitz. A few years ago, while working at a yoga retreat center, a guest approached me with concern. An energy healer had told her that her sacral chakra was the size of a peanut, and she felt helpless and upset. Whether the healer truly believed this or not, the incident sticks with me as an example of how chakra-based healing can be confusing, vague, or distorted. This woman’s “healing” session gave her the sense that something was wrong. However, chakra blockages and imbalances are common and often easy to remedy. Signals from the chakras serve as a gateway to understanding our health from a holistic perspective. Thus, by exploring chakra balancing (or realignment) and how to unblock chakras, we can take control of our own healing. What Are the 7 Chakras? Before we discuss specific balancing techniques, it's important to understand the basics of the major chakras and their qualities. Chakras are centers of life-force energy located in the subtle (energetic) body. They are not visible or measurable in the physical world. Although different philosophies use various theories to classify and explain these energetic vortexes, most teachings today focus on seven main chakras. These energy centers ascend from the base of the spine to slightly above the crown of the head along our main energetic channel, Sushumna Nadi. Learn how to unblock chakras and balance bodily energy flow Each of the major chakras controls the flow of life-force energy (or prana) to specific aspects of our physical, mental, and energetic constitution. Accordingly, balancing the chakra system is believed to create an energetic environment conducive to a healthy, peaceful, joyful life. What is Chakra Alignment? Chakra alignment refers to a state of balance where each of the main centers is an open, spinning disk of energy serving its purpose to absorb and distribute prana. When our chakras are aligned, each is functioning optimally, and energy can flow without blockages. MORE LIKE THIS: Balancing the 5 Pillars of Life for Lasting Well-Being Understanding the Different Types of Karma What is Chi? A Guide to Feeling and Healing Life Force Energy In an energetic body with blockages, chakras can end up overactive or deficient. In this case, various practices and methods can assist with overall chakra realignment. Furthermore, if a specific energy center is blocked with stagnant energy, these same methods can be used to heal energy centers individually. How to Unblock and Realign Chakras: 5 Techniques Methods for balancing chakras include traditional practices, self-care routines, and professional healing modalities. Even without specific health issues, these techniques promote well-being by harmonizing energy movement throughout the body. 1. Chakra Meditation Each chakra is associated with a specific location, color, symbol, mantra, sound frequency, and musical note, as follows: Root (Muladhara) – Base of the spine; Red; Lotus flower with 4 petals; Lam; 396 Hz; C Sacral (Swadhistana) – Below the navel; Orange; Lotus flower with 6 petals; Vam; 417 Hz; D Solar Plexus (Manipura) – Core, above the navel; Yellow; Lotus flower with 10 petals, Ram; 528 Hz; E Heart (Anahata) – Center of the chest at heart level; Green; Lotus flower with 12 petals, Yam; 639 Hz; F Throat (Vishuddha) – Throat; Blue; Lotus flower with 16 petals; Ham; 741 Hz; G Third Eye (Ajna) – Center of the brain, between the eyebrows; Indigo; Lotus flower with 2 petals; Om; 852 Hz; A Crown (Sahasrara) – Slightly above the crown of the head; Violet or White; Lotus flower with 1,000 petals; Aum or silence; 963 Hz; B To focus on unblocking or strengthening an individual chakra as part of a meditation practice, we can visualize its symbol, chant its mantra (or its Sanskrit name) silently or aloud, imagine clear light (or a light of its color) radiating throughout your body, or use tuning forks, singing bowls, or digital sound frequencies corresponding to that chakra. “Balancing the chakra system is believed to create an energetic environment conducive to a healthy, peaceful, joyful life.” For overall chakra balancing and realignment, visualize each chakra as a clear white light (or a light of its color) radiating throughout the body. Work your way up from the root to the crown, and end with a visualization of your spine as a column of pure, bright light. 2. Yoga Asana Although typically associated with the physical body, the practice of yoga asana (postures) was originally developed to balance, strengthen, and cleanse the energetic body as preparation for meditation. Essentially, by forming intentional shapes with the body, we can manipulate pranic flow to harness and redirect energy. Carry gemstones which align with the chakra that needs realignment A quick online search will provide asana classes targeted towards aligning the chakras. However, if you are experienced with basic yoga positions, you can practice on your own by following or adapting the following sequence, holding each posture for about a minute with long, deep breathing. Yoga Practices For Chakra Balancing Standing Postures Mountain Pose (Root) Goddess Pose (Sacral) Sitting Postures Boat Pose (Manipura) Camel Pose (Heart) Reclined Postures Plow Pose or Shoulderstand (Throat) Resting postures Child’s Pose (Third Eye) Savasana (Crown) 3. Pranayama Conscious breathing practices, called pranayama in yoga, also work to balance and cleanse the subtle body. Two simple pranayama techniques that can assist with overall balancing of the chakras are Spinal Breathing and Nadi Shodana. You can practice each for a few minutes, as often as feels right. Spinal Breathing Inhale slowly, imagining your breath, or life-force energy, rising from the base of your spine to the crown of your head. Exhale completely, visualizing this energy as it returns from the crown of your head to the base of your spine. Keep your inhalations and exhalations of equal length and intensity if possible. Nadi Shodana (alternate nostril breath) Inhale slowly through your left nostril, using your right thumb to block your right nostril. Pause for a moment and naturally exhale through your right nostril, using your right ring finger to block your left nostril. Continue by inhaling through your right nostril and exhaling through the left to complete a full round. Repeat for several rounds of equal-length breaths to purify nadis (energetic channels). .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; } XX How to practise Nadi Shodana for chakra and energy balancing 4. Intuitive Experimentation Along with the qualities of each chakra mentioned above, fragrances, herbs, foods, and objects that correspond with a chakra’s color can also realign or unblock chakras. With a basic knowledge of these associations, we can integrate practical chakra healing into daily life. MORE LIKE THIS: Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect How Can Dream Analysis Therapy Benefit Mental Health Psychedelic Integration: Honoring the Journey Beyond the Experience Since most of us aren’t attuned to visualizing or feeling energy, the best way to identify chakra imbalances or blockages is to look at the consistent or recurring aspects of our health that we would like to improve. For example, let’s say you experience feeling ungrounded, frequently stub your toes, and struggle with feeling at home in your body – symptoms indicative of an underactive or blocked root chakra. A healing plan for you might include walking barefoot in nature, eating root vegetables, using sandalwood or cedarwood incense or oils, meditating with a chunk of obsidian, or placing a small piece of garnet in your pocket. “In an energetic body with blockages, chakras can end up overactive or deficient. Various practices can assist with chakra realignment.” Essentially, the body’s wisdom combined with the mind’s creativity can provide limitless opportunities for self-awareness, healing, and growth. 5. Professional Chakra Healing Although we recommend using discernment when choosing healers, professional healers who truly see and understand the subtle body can identify energetic blockages, balance chakras, and give advice on realigning them in the future. RELATED: Tummo Breathing a Meditation: A Guide Kundalini Meditation: 4 Key Benefits and How to Practise It Yoga For Happiness: Compassion Yoga A gifted healer will be able to read your energy and may even be able to suggest how to best balance chakras through intuitive or visionary gifts. Professional chakra healing practices often consist of energy work (such as Reiki), but could also include massage, guided meditations, aromatherapy, or sound-based healing. Takeaway: Balancing Chakras Everything in life is a manifestation of energy, and the chakras serve to balance and direct our unique energetic flow. When we attune to our inner environment, we begin to understand how the health of each chakra plays a role in our personal strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, by learning how to unblock and balance chakras through practices and therapies, we become aware of how to heal integral aspects of our physical health, mental tendencies, and spiritual journey. Images: ArtNebula86, vetre happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Herbalism | Healing crystals | Reflexology | Acupuncture Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.

Journaling isn’t just for teenagers. As Arlo Laibowitz explains, jotting down your thoughts, plans and reflections helps with self-development and is scientifically-proven to prevent depression. Try these seven creative journaling ideas and discover the multiple benefits these techniques will bring to your life. Many of us have started writing a diary or journal at some points in our lives. And many of us have also stopped writing in them not that much later! Indeed, many famous artists, writers, entrepreneurs, inventors, and thinkers keep – or have kept – journals, and there are many different journaling techniques and ideas you can try. For many, it's a creative necessity and outlet. For some, it's a place for exploration, and yet for others, journaling is an art form in itself. In fact, journaling can be enriching and fulfilling on many levels. It can lead to insights, personal growth, and setting and achieving goals. Journals record our ideas, thoughts, feelings and reflections. In doing so, they create a through-line in our life; a place of refuge and reflection, that we can visit and revisit. Keeping a journal is a proven technique to develop personal growth Personally, I started journaling years ago, as part of the Morning Papers practice of The Artist’s Way. I've written notebooks full of journal entries related to personal growth, gratitude, creative development, project ideas, personal insecurities, blocked traumas, to-do-lists, goals, dreams and much more. Indeed, I've tried types of journaling for weeks or months at a time – and have also not journaled for weeks in between entries. Every time I come back to the practice and sustain it on a regular basis, I feel I can go deeper; explore things more explicitly, and in the process, experience a wonderful journey to my interior. “There are many journaling techniques and ideas you can try. For many, it's a creative necessity and outlet. For others, it's an art form in itself.” So, what are the benefits of journaling? What different journaling ideas and techniques can we employ? And how do we go about starting and – more importantly – sustaining a daily journaling habit? What are the benefits of journaling? Journaling has been identified as a so-called 'keystone habit' – a habit that is defining and catalyses more habits – in multiple studies. As Charles Duhig writes in The Power of Habit, these keystones are “small changes or habits that people introduce into their routines that unintentionally carry over into other aspects of their lives.” Furthermore, the benefits of journaling are emotional, cognitive, creative, and possibly even spiritual. Using creative journaling techniques helps us to: Clarify our thoughts and feelings, reducing internal conflict Release thoughts and emotions, by recognizing and tracking them Increase focus while deepening our learning and problem solving Boost stability and help us let go of the past. Resolve disagreements with others, by detaching ourselves from the conflict and reflecting on it Furthermore, studies show that specifically keeping a gratitude journal offers some added benefits. In fact, people that keep a gratitude journal have been shown to be happier, healthier, more balanced, and generally more optimistic. Furthermore, they are less self-centered, less susceptible to feelings of envy, more relaxed, and better in decision-making. Journaling Techniques: 6 Ideas to Try There are many different methods of journaling you can benefit from. Here are six creative journaling ideas to get you started. You can always try more than one technique at a time and discover what suits you best. 1. Ten Minute Routine An easy creative journaling technique to begin with is practising the Ten Minute routine. Before going to bed, ask yourself so-called “requests” – the things that you're trying to accomplish currently in life – and write them down. Then, in the morning, write down your answers and thoughts on these questions. This way of journaling is especially efficient to review and sharpen your to-do-list and life vision, as they become forged in your subconscious mind. 2. Stream of Consciousness Another tried and tested creative journaling idea is writing daily in a stream of consciousness. Note down any thought, memory, to-do-list, feeling, drawing, or whatever else pops up. Just let it flow as you write, without trying to censor or edit yourself. Keep going until everything in your 'stream of consciousness' is on the page. Start your day with journaling and a clearer mind 3. Morning Memories Another different journaling technique is writing 'morning memories daily'. Schedule your journaling session each morning, before you start your day. Use the same journal every day, sit in the same spot, and when you’re done writing, take time to reflect on what you've written and accomplished in that session. RELATED: Morning Meditation: The Secret To A Great Day 5 Reasons to Make Your Bed Every Day The 7 Steps to Take When Nothing Makes You Happy Anymore 4. Gratitude Journaling Probably the most researched journaling technique is the gratitude journal, as mentioned earlier. For maximum benefit, take 15 minutes per day, three to four times a week, to journal about what you're grateful for on that day. Be specific, choose depth of gratitude over breadth, and try to get personal (being thankful to people is more efficient than to things). Make a note of seeing good things as a gift, as well as savouring surprises and unexpected events. 5. Intensive journal A comprehensive method of journaling is using the intensive journal process. This copyrighted process, which can be learned in specialised workshops, enables the person journaling to get to know themselves on profound levels. The Intensive Journal Workbook is a large notebook filled with paper and divided into four dimensions of human experience: Life/Time, Dialogue, Depth and Meaning. Each of these aspects is divided into several subsections to work through in the path that the method prescribes. Some of these paragraphs are used to write about our memory of the events of our lives as well as dreams and images. Others are more geared towards stimulating insights and creative activity. 6. Ensō drawing There are various techniwues of journaling. We can choose a traditional way, with pen and paper, or write in an electronic journal, or even add art practices to our journaling, such as drawings or collages, or even specialised forms like ensō drawing. “People that keep a gratitude journal are happier, healthier, more balanced, and generally more optimistic.” Ensō originated in the Japanese Zen Buddhist tradition and these circles are considered sacred symbols that represent infinity and enlightenment, emptiness, balance and harmony. Made with one breath and one continuous movement of a brush or pen, the ensō represents the oneness of life and impermanence of the moment. Our vulnerabilities and strengths are all wrapped up in that circle. As drawing an ensō only takes a moment, you could incorporate this practice alongside one of the other journaling techniques listed. 7. Future Self Journaling Future self journaling is one of the newest journal techniques to gain attention. The practice essentially entails getting in touch with your inner self and manifesting the future you want. It works with employing a positive outlook, which helps you overcome creative blocks and navigate life in a more focused way. MORE LIKE THIS: How to Let Go of the Past: 9 Techniques to Try 7 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuition 31 Shadow Work Prompts For Your Psychological Journey Future self journaling involves focusing on your behavior and creating affirmations and strategies to make real changes to them to propel you to a better place. How to Journal Daily There are an endless list of things to journal about and sometimes it can be hard to sustain this healthy practice. Likewise, there are as many ways to initiate and maintain your journaling as there are different forms of journaling. Here are some ideas to keep you at it: A simple way to start journaling is by starting every day with writing down tasks and goals that you have for that day. Only write a few items, to make it easy to start and make progress. It's useful to mix personal and professional things. By keeping each journal entry short in the beginning, it's easy to do. At the end of each day, look back at what you've accomplished, what you've learned, what you want to explore further, and what you want to pursue the next day. Journaling techniques: start putting pen to paper Once you've developed a basic journaling practice, you can dig deeper and expand on it. Some commonly held beliefs and ‘best practices’ include: Writing about where you are in your life at this moment, and building on that in subsequent journal entries. Starting a dialogue with your inner child by writing in your non-dominant hand, and switching back to your dominant hand. For sustaining your gratitude practice, maintaining a daily list of things you appreciate. Starting a journal of self-portraits; draw, write, or collage who you are today, and learn to appreciate and develop yourself. Keeping a nature diary to connect with the natural world: record what you experience in looking at the sky, experiences and how you feel in different weather, or walks in nature. Maintaining a log of successes, starting with big ones that you remember, and then add them as they occur. This can be strengthening to go back to when you are feeling low. Keeping a playlist of your favourite songs. Write about the moods and memories they trigger. If there’s something you're struggling with or an event that’s disturbing you, write about it in the third person to create distance and perspective. Journal Techniques: Travels to Our Interior Journaling is a powerful habit that enables us to get a more in-depth and clearer understanding of the thoughts, feelings and issues we're working through. Whether we use journaling to accompany our meditation, forgiveness, or gratitude practices, or to work through emotional trauma or creative stumble blocks, a daily practice enables us to focus and develop further. Trying different creative journaling techniques and ideas has given me many benefits in life. I wish you the same journey as you explore your journaling practice. ● Images: Rawpixel.com, dekazigzag, Vergani Fotografia happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Goal setting | Mindfulness | Burnout Written by Arlo Laibowitz Arlo is a filmmaker, artist, lecturer, and intermittent practitioner of metta meditation and morning yoga. When not dreaming about impossible projects and making them happen in the most impractical ways possible, he journals, listens to jazz, or cuddles with his better half.

True happiness comes from within, but it takes work. The good thing is, all of us can learn how to develop it. From cultivating resilience to showing gratitude, Sonia Vadlamani explores five science-backed techniques that build lasting inner happiness and joy. For the longest time, I believed happiness to be something that came from outside – like getting a promotion at work, traveling to a dream destination with my partner, or purchasing something from my wishlist. And yes, indeed, these events do make me happy. But in reality I find I’m actually much happier on the days I have some quality “me time” to enjoy all my favourite leisure activities and connect with the people I love. This observation, coupled with research on happiness, helped me understand the simple and profound truth: happiness comes from within – happiness is an inside job. This holds true for most of us: while external events can definitely make us joyful, we also have inherent values and needs that we derive happiness from just the same. The best part? We don’t need to wait for external outcomes to feel content; we just need to learn how to tap into these sources of lasting happiness. Indeed, happiness is a choice, and science shows that true happiness comes from within, consistently and reliably, when we take small, intentional steps to achieve it, every single day. What does it mean to find happiness within? When we talk about finding inner happiness, we refer to what researchers in positive psychology call “internal happiness”, or a steady sense of well-being and contentment that stems from within and doesn’t rely on external circumstances. Unlike the fleeting happiness that we experience from external events like winning some money on the lottery or attending a concert, intrinsic happiness isn’t temporary, but rather a stable foundation for contentment and peace of mind. Where does happiness come from? Start the search within... In contrast, external happiness relies heavily on outside events, possessions and achievements. While these are undeniably necessary for life satisfaction, they only tend to boost our mood and improve happiness levels temporarily. In fact, a study of Stanford student-athletes living under immense pressure revealed that intrinsic factors like mindfulness, self-restraint, and self-esteem were stronger predictors of happiness than external factors such as playing time and scholarships. MORE LIKE THIS: How to Find Happiness: 11 Science-Backed Tips What is Happiness Exactly, Anyway? Discover the 10 Keys to Happier Living Another study by researchers Christopher P Niemiec et al. suggests that while the quest for external happiness alone can adversely impact well-being, focusing on intrinsic happiness benefits one’s psychological health, emphasizing the need for balance between external and internal forms of happiness. “Developing mindful awareness is key to finding happiness within yourself, as savoring the 'now' requires us to pay attention to events unfolding around you.” These findings highlight the need to develop traits that can help us find true happiness from within, enabling us to navigate life’s uncertainties better and build resilience. It’s also important to know that happiness can’t always stem entirely from within, especially for someone with a mental health condition like depression or anxiety, who may need to seek professional help for managing their condition and finding relief. How to Find Happiness Within Yourself The quest for finding happiness within yourself doesn’t mean ignoring external events and life milestones, but rather developing skills and practices that help maintain a sense of peace and inner contentment even through challenging times. So, here are five science-backed ways to help you learn how to find happiness within yourself. Incorporate them into your life one at a time to help build long-lasting joy and contentment. 1. Learn to live fully in the present A Harvard study that tracked the thoughts and moods of 2,250 participants found that humans spend nearly 47% of their waking hours thinking about something other than what they’re doing, and that this impacts happiness. Published in Science, this research corroborated a profound truth: the human capacity to capture joy depends largely on being present in the moment. Indeed, research suggests that ruminating over the past or worrying about the future can fuel negativity and reduce life satisfaction. On the other hand, immersing ourselves fully in the present – wholly engaging with the task at hand – regulates our nervous system and enables a flow state characterized by complete absorption. This can further help instill a sense of control, putting a stop to repetitive thoughts. Develop mindful awareness (and increased happiness) through breathwork Indeed, developing mindful awareness is key to building inner happiness, as savouring the “now” requires us to pay attention to the events unfolding around you. Simple mindfulness practices that can help improve your mood and elevate inner happiness levels include: focusing on your breathing. tuning into what you see, hear and feel at the moment, like eating, walking and doing daily chores. gently bringing your attention back to the present moment when it wanders (it will). setting time aside for mindfulness meditation. 2. Practice radical acceptance If being mindful pertains to developing awareness, acceptance is how we process and respond to this awareness, especially when faced with failure, loss or imperfections. Indeed, a comprehensive review of six correlated studies by researchers Daniel T Cordaro et al. suggests that inner contentment is a distinct positive emotion that is central to overall well-being and happiness. Embracing life as it is, therefore, is a crucial requirement for how happiness comes from within. This endeavor requires us to be aware of and accept the various emotions, imperfections, fears, and desires that make us all essentially human. MORE LIKE THIS: Happiness is a State of Mind: 8 Ways to Develop It Is Happiness Genetic? Here's What Science Says How Can Happiness Be Measured? Radical acceptance relies on practicing self-compassion, which means treating yourself with the same kindness you would show a good friend during a difficult time. It also involves understanding that errors and failure are a part of being human, not personal flaws. Here are some ways to practice radical awareness and self-compassion: Be kind to yourself. Evaluate your feelings with a gentle approach, not harsh self-judgment. When you notice a mistake or flaw, approach the emotions with kind observance and speak to yourself with genuine warmth. Remember that you’re not alone in your struggles – everyone faces challenge in their lives. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes and limitations. 3. Cultivate inner resilience Resilience, or the capacity to recover from difficult situations and adapt to life's challenges, is a key predictor for finding happiness within yourself. In fact, a study by researchers Steven M. Southwick et al. revealed that resilient individuals don’t encounter fewer challenges in life; they simply react to them differently. Therefore, your ability to adapt to adversities and overcome challenges can be the answer to how to find inner happiness and well-being. The first step toward developing resilience is reframing your perspective about life’s uncertainties and embracing the unknown. Resilient people look at difficulties as opportunities to learn, not threats to their happiness, and are adept at ‘lemonading’ – making the best of the situation at hand. “Individuals who understand that true happiness comes from within are also more resilient and more capable of bouncing back from life’s trials.” Adopting a growth mindset is another crucial aspect of resilience. Challenge yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone and attempting something that feels uncomfortable. Also, remember to celebrate small wins by tuning your mind to recognize and enjoy the smallest efforts and progress, instead of waiting to celebrate loftier milestones. 4. Develop a gratitude routine There’s more to gratitude than just saying thanks – emerging research suggests it’s a powerful practice that can help rewire our brains to weed out toxic emotions and significantly improve our happiness levels. How to find happiness from within? Keep a gratitude journal A study at University of California, Berkeley, involving 300 participants seeking mental health counseling revealed that the mental health benefits of gratitude practice can be experienced even when it's not communicated to others. While the benefits of gratitude – like improved inner happiness, reduced mental stress, and an optimistic outlook – take time to emerge, they create a positive snowball effect with consistent practice. To cultivate an attitude of gratitude, try these things daily: Write down three things you’re grateful for in your gratitude journal. Express gratitude to people you’re thankful for having in your life. Acknowledge moments of kindness and beauty throughout the day. Set time aside to practice gratitude meditation to truly appreciate all the things you’re thankful for. 5. Nurture meaningful connections While true happiness comes from within, we’re essentially social beings, and having close relationships is a fundamental need for a long, healthy life. Spending time with those you care for helps release happiness hormones, namely serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin. These are also released when you exercise, so in a way, spending quality time with your loved ones is almost as beneficial as getting a workout. To strengthen your relationships: Practice mindful listening and empathy. Really hear others out without judgment or bias. Trust your close friends and family enough to share your authentic self, and avoid the vulnerability hangover trap. Show up consistently, whether to celebrate their wins or be a shoulder to lean on during tough times. Connect over activities you collectively enjoy, like hiking, volunteering or joining a book club. Where does happiness come from? Friends are a key source Inner Happiness: Clear Health Benefits The happiness derived from savoring life’s small joys is also associated with several other positive outcomes considered the “hallmarks of a happy person”, such as long-lasting relationships, more successful careers, and better health. Individuals who understand that true happiness comes from within are also more capable of bouncing back from life’s trials and uncertainties with better stress-management and decision-making abilities. In essence, the ability to tap into inner happiness helps us experience more positive emotions and achieve more favorable outcomes in terms of success and improved life satisfaction. Takeaway: Happiness Comes From Within Happiness is a journey, and while the path to inner happiness isn’t easy, it is accessible to everyone. As demonstrated by the ample research above, everyone has the ingredients necessary to cultivate lasting joy within ourselves – the practices discussed here simply help you uncover and nurture the happiness that already exists within you. Indeed, in a world that constantly tells us happiness is bound to result from the next purchase or milestone, finding happiness within yourself is a practical and responsible step towards ensuring your well-being. ● Images: feodorina, Peopleimages.com - Yuri A, Oksana Klymenko, Jacob Lund happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Self care | Empathy | Letting go | Acceptance Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. 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Are chakras real? While not tangible, the importance of chakras within multiple traditions suggests they are. Rachel Markowitz explains the meaning, locations and colors of the seven main chakras, plus the mantras and yoga asanas that activate these unique energy centres. I was introduced to chakras during a yoga teaching training class when a teacher instructed me to chant “ham” repeatedly while inverted in a shoulder stand. This, the instructor said, would open my throat chakra, which was linked to my insecurities, and radically improve my life. At the time, this seemed odd; I didn’t know what a throat chakra was, why it might be closed, how opening it would be helpful, or how chanting upside-down might facilitate this! However, I can now admit that, as a yoga instructor myself, I’ve suggested similar practices to students for a multitude of reasons. Since chakras are not part of the physical body, they often remain a mystery. However, a basic understanding of energetic anatomy is a powerful tool for harmonizing body, mind, and spirit. Let's explore the chakra system together and discover some tips to help ensure your energy flows freely. What are Chakras? Chakras are moving centers of concentrated energy located in the subtle (energetic) body. In Sanskrit, chakra translates to wheel, which serves as an appropriate visual representation of these spinning energy disks. Chakras were first mentioned in the Vedas thousands of years ago – a series of texts that form the basis of Indian philosophy, all branches of yoga, and Ayurvedic medicine – and were later described in the Upanishads, Yoga Sutras, and Tantric texts. There are numerous systems for identifying and classifying these energetic vortexes, and most traditions suggest that we have over 100 chakras throughout the subtle body. It' possible to work on activating chakras during yoga However, according to most modern-day yoga teachings, seven chakras are particularly significant. These major chakras are located along our main energetic channel, Sushumna Nadi, ascending from the base of the spine to slightly above the crown of the head. Chakras govern certain aspects of our physical body, mind, and spiritual path. Each of the seven main chakras corresponds to a color and is depicted by a lotus flower with specific geometrical and symbolic qualities. Each chakra also has a corresponding bija, or seed, mantra. Furthermore, the first five chakras are linked to an element (the last two chakras relate to existence beyond the elements). In an ideal state of being, all chakras are open and aligned. Other healthy-chakra descriptions include “activated,” “balanced,” or “unblocked.”) Why Learn About Chakras? Understanding each chakra and its role in our composition can help us see patterns in our overall well-being, identify and heal imbalances and chakra blockages, and strengthen the body, mind, and aura. RELATED: Yoga For Happiness: Gratitude Yoga Kundalini Meditation: 4 Key Benefits and How to Practise It Fasting and Autophagy: Ancient Wisdom Chakras also offer a unique perspective on the connection between our internal and external worlds. Used as an energy healing therapy, we can work to clear and balance energy in the entire body or focus on each chakra individually. Either way, when we take the time to ensure that prana (AKA chi or ki) or life-force energy, is moving without constrictions or resistance in the energetic body, we encourage optimal health – from the inside out. Exploring the Major Chakras The seven main energy centers are divided into three lower chakras, which relate to the Earth and the individual self, and three higher chakras, which connect us to the universe and spirit. The higher and lower chakras come together at the heart chakra, located in the center of the chest, at the level of our anatomical heart. “Chakras govern certain aspects of our physical body, mind, and spiritual path. Each of the seven main chakras corresponds to a color and is depicted by a lotus flower with specific geometrical and symbolic qualities.” Below is a description of each of the seven major chakras, including location, associations, symbol, color, and mantra – along with a short list of suggested yoga practices that promote chakra health. For strengthening, unblocking, or healing an ailment related to a certain chakra, you can visualize a light at its location, focus on its symbol, chant its mantra, incorporate its color in your daily life, or practice the postures or breathing techniques listed in each section. The 7 main chakras, colors and locations within the human body 1. Root (Muladhara) Chakra The root chakra governs the health of the lower body, from the feet to the hips. In life, it’s connected to basic survival, primal instincts, and foundational physical and material needs. Location: Base of the spine; pelvic floor Color and Symbol: Red lotus flower with four petals Element: Earth Mantra: Lam. Recommended Yoga Practices: Warrior poses, lunges, balancing postures, seated positions 2. Sacral (Svadisthana) Chakra In the physical body, the sacral chakra energetically controls our hips, sexual organs, and reproductive health. It’s also connected to desire, emotional stability, sexuality, pleasure, and anything we create. Location: Below the navel Color and Symbol: Orange lotus flower with six petals Element: Water Mantra: Vam. Recommended Yoga Practices: Happy Baby pose, Goddess pose, hip openers 3. Solar Plexus (Manipura) Chakra The solar plexus chakra is related to the core of our body and our digestive system. Mentally and emotionally, this chakra governs strength, confidence, willpower, ego, and the way we assimilate or “digest” information. It’s strongly linked to the concept of tapas in yoga, our inner fire. Location: Center of the body; near the abdomen and below the ribcage Color and Symbol: Yellow lotus flower with 10 petals Element: Fire Mantra: Ram. Recommended Yoga Practices: Boat pose, twists, Breath of Fire 4. Heart (Anahata) Chakra As mentioned earlier, Anahata chakra is the place where the upper and lower chakras join together at the heart center. In our bodies, this chakra governs the area around the chest, anatomical heart, and lungs. In our lives, the heart chakra is related to love (of self and others), relationships, trust, and compassion. Location: Center of the chest at heart level Color and Symbol: Green lotus flower with 12 petals Element: Air Mantra: Yam Recommended Yoga Practices: Camel pose, Bow pose, Puppy pose 5. Throat (Vishuddha) Chakra The throat chakra governs the throat and neck area, as well as the thyroid gland, and is linked to our sense of speech, creativity, and ability to communicate authentically. Vishuddha chakra is also significant as our center of energetic purification. Location: Throat Color and Symbol: Blue lotus flower with 16 petals Element: Ether (Space) Mantra: Ham. Recommended Yoga Practices: Shoulder Stand, Fish pose, Lion’s Breath, chanting 6. Third Eye (Ajna) The third eye center is closely linked to our pineal gland, nervous system, and sense of intuition and perception. Thus, we often look to ajna chakra for relaxation and visions during spiritual practice. Location: Center of the brain; between the eyebrows Color and Symbol: Violet or indigo lotus flower with two petals Mantra: Om Recommended Yoga Practices: Child’s pose, meditation, Shambhavi Mudra (directing gaze at the third eye) 7. Crown (Sahasrara) The crown chakra connects the individual self to the greater Self. It’s related to cosmic consciousness, self-awareness, and the interconnectedness of all that is. Location: Slightly above the crown of the head Color and Symbol: White, Light, or Violet thousand-petal lotus flower Mantra: Aum (or silent aum) Recommended Yoga Practices: Headstand, Savasana, meditation Are Chakras Real? Chakras are not physical or tangible, but that doesn’t make them less real than other aspects of our physical, mental, emotional, or energetic existence. MORE LIKE THIS: 14 Different Types of Reiki: Which is Best For Me? Understanding the Different Types of Karma Reiki: Principles, Benefits, and Costs One indicator of the validity of the concept of chakras is their appearance throughout various traditions and time. In addition to the yogic systems of chakras, Buddhist, Jain, and other healing modalities also visualize and work with chakras (or similar locations of concentrated energy, such as meridians/Dan Tien in Chinese medicine) as points of focus for meditation and healing. Chakras can be used as focal points during meditation Although science has yet to prove the existence of chakras, research is on the way to doing so. Recent technology is now able to measure the electromagnetic radiance of auras and the energetic body, indicating that our energetic presence, particularly energy emanating from the heart, extends far beyond our physical bodies. “Chakras are not physical or tangible, but that doesn’t make them less real than other aspects of our physical, mental, emotional, or energetic existence.” That being said, the purpose of this article is not to convince you that chakras are real, but rather to serve as an introduction to those who would like to explore deeper aspects of self-awareness. Yoga is a science of getting to know your true self through experimentation and introspection. So, for those of you questioning the nuances of your subtle body and the reality of the chakra system, I urge you to experiment with the basic visualization techniques and contemplation methods indicated above. Takeaway: Yoga Chakras, Colors and Locations According to the science of yoga, chakras are powerful vortexes of moving energy located along our major energetic channel, that govern different aspects of our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. By understanding the role of the major chakras in our bodies and lives, we can begin to identify and balance each aspect of our energetic composition to embark on the path of holistic healing and well-being. ● Images: shutterstock/May_Chanikran, shutterstock/E.Va, shutterstock/New Africa happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Authenticity | Empathy | Resilience | Self care | Reiki Written by Rachel Markowitz Rachel recently found herself over a decade deep in a worldwide wander guided by what she feels to be true. She’s been facilitating classes and workshops on yoga, meditation, self-exploration, and alternative ways of living since 2012, mostly in Latin America and Asia. These days, she spends most of her time looking at, walking around, or singing to a sacred mountain in southern India. Read more of her words at her to those who wonder blog.

Curious about cacao? Cacao ceremonies are grounded in intention and can benefit the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Rhianna Quanstrom explores the power of ceremonial cacao and the history of this ancient practice. Gathered in a circle with a steaming cup of cacao, you enter a transformative experience. The cacao opens your heart and elevates your mind, helping you connect with those around you and to the light within. A cacao ceremony is grounded in intention, and with it come many benefits. Ceremonial cacao benefits all aspects of self, including the spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional. To better understand these benefits, let’s dive into what a cacao ceremony is, including its history, what cacao is, what you can expect during a ceremony, and how you can participate in one yourself. What is a Cacao Ceremony? A cacao ceremony is typically a communal gathering where people come together to receive the medicine of cacao. At its root, it is a spiritual experience that opens the heart and brings people together in harmony. Every cacao ceremony is unique, and traditional ceremonies can differ significantly from modern Western ceremonies. In both settings, there's usually a guide or shaman who leads the ceremony and directs the flow of activities. A cacao ceremony is not limited to a group setting and can be performed by individuals in their home. In essence, it's about receiving the medicine of cacao, which is ultimately a deeply personal experience. Cacao Ceremony History Cacao is deeply rooted in ancient (and modern) Mesoamerican cultures and history. Its use as a ceremonial plant dates back to the Aztecs and Mayans, who revered it as the “food of the gods.” They used cacao in spiritual ceremonies and rituals to unite the community and to honor important life initiations. For example, it was used in ceremonies for births, marriages, baptisms, and funerals. It was also used regularly by the temple leaders as an aid in communing with the Divine. Interestingly, it played an important role in sacrifices to the gods. Candles help create an intentional atmosphere during a cacao ceremony Cacao was sacred to these people and was woven into their culture, mythology, healing practices, and spiritual traditions. As such, their ceremonies held a more religious focus, with cacao serving as a vessel for honoring and communicating with their deities. In Western cultures today, cacao is not used in the same religious ways, though it remains a deeply spiritual experience when used with intention. Its history and cultural significance, however, should still be honored and respected. When participating in a cacao ceremony, it is respectful to acknowledge its origins and the people who have held this wisdom for centuries. As such, this wisdom helps us distinguish what ceremonial cacao is compared to modern chocolate. What is Ceremonial Cacao Exactly? Ceremonial cacao is quite different from the chocolate we know (and love!). Their differences lie in how they are processed and used. High-quality ceremonial cacao comes from native cacao plants in Central and South America. The beans are harvested from these native (and sometimes wild) plants before being minimally processed for consumption. “Ceremonial cacao benefits the mind, emotions, body, and spirit. Both the cacao itself and the community have been shown to improve one’s well-being.” The beans are first fermented and sun-dried, then sometimes lightly roasted before being stone-ground into a paste. This process retains cacao's natural compounds, which are highly beneficial for the body, making cacao a modern-day “superfood.” Furthermore, the cacao butter and solids are not separated in this phase, which is common for modern chocolate. The cacao paste is then simmered in hot water to make the thick beverage used for ceremonies. This drink doesn’t taste like a normal hot chocolate; it's much more bitter and earthy tasting. To enhance its flavor and potency, spices, natural sweeteners, and milk are sometimes added to the simmering cacao. For instance, a pinch of cayenne may be used to help “activate” cacao’s medicinal and spiritual properties. The cacao used in ceremonies is bitter and earthy tasting In contrast, modern chocolate is moderately to highly processed and is usually made from hybrid cacao varieties grown on large-scale monoculture farms. It's processed differently from ceremonial cacao and does not retain the same level of nutrients. Moreover, chocolate is enjoyed as a sweet treat, whereas ceremonial cacao is consumed with intention as a plant medicine supporting one’s spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. What Happens During a Cacao Ceremony? As mentioned above, every cacao ceremony is slightly different depending on the guide and setting. Even so, you can expect an intentional atmosphere — perhaps with cushions on the ground, candles, incense, or crystals — whether outside or inside. Once the participants of the ceremony have settled, the facilitator opens the space with welcoming words. During this phase, there may be discussion about the history and traditional uses of cacao. Each participant may be invited to set an intention for the ceremony, either inwardly or aloud. After the space is set, the cacao is served. The participants are invited to sit with the energy of the beverage, hold it to their heart, and drink the warm, thick liquid slowly. MORE LIKE THIS: Exploring Shamanic Healing: What to Expect Psychedelic Integration What is Ego Death? Meaning, Symptoms and Causes Once the cacao is finished, the ceremony moves into other activities, and it's here that they can vary greatly. There is typically some sort of movement, such as dance or yoga, conscious breathwork, and meditation. There can also be sound healing (crystal singing bowls, gongs, etc.), group sharing, or creative expression through song, art, or writing. While the outward activities unfold, you may notice a shift occurring within. Cacao naturally increases blood flow and softly opens the heart. You may feel emotions stirring and an easeful receptiveness towards those around you. When the heart softens and opens, love flows more freely and gracefully, and this is the energy that surrounds the sacred cacao ceremony. The Benefits of a Ceremonial Cacao Benefits Along with the love that holds the group together, ceremonial cacao benefits the mind, emotions, body, and spirit. Both the cacao itself and the community have been shown to improve one’s well-being. 1. Physical Benefits Research by the National Library of Medicine confirms that cacao is rich in nutrients and antioxidants, which help prevent and combat oxidative stress. The numerous flavonoids (plant compounds) in cacao have also been shown to improve cardiovascular health, reduce cholesterol levels, regulate inflammation, and support metabolism. Furthermore, cacao contains theobromine, which is a gentle stimulant that increases blood flow. This is what contributes to the heart-opening experience in the cacao ceremony. 2. Mental Benefits The compound theobromine also increases blood flow and oxygenation to the mind, enhancing clarity, focus, and memory. Another study by the National Library of Medicine found that cocoa-rich products improved participants' moods while lowering depression and anxiety. In addition, the practices woven into a cacao ceremony, such as meditation, movement, and breathwork, support mental calm and elevate one’s mood and happiness. 3. Emotional Benefits Energetically, cacao softens and opens the heart. While studies show the physical effects of this, there are also the emotional/energetic effects. When one’s heart opens and softens, emotions can move more freely. Whatever is just beneath the surface can start to rise, which is why it’s normal for emotions to become heightened during a cacao ceremony. It is simply energy moving. “Ceremonial cacao benefits the mind, emotions, body, and spirit. Both the cacao itself and the community have been shown to improve one’s well-being.” Because of cacao’s mood-boosting properties and the energy of the group container, there are typically feelings of joy and happiness during the ceremony. However, there can also be grief, sadness, or anger that rises to the surface for release. In essence, a cacao ceremony creates a safe space for emotional expression, helping one feel lighter and clearer. 4. Spiritual Benefits With the support of the community and cacao’s physical, mental, and emotional effects, one’s energy begins to harmonize. This allows for a deeper connection to self and the light within. This is amplified with the guided meditation and intentional movement that most ceremonies include. When one’s heart and mind are open and receptive, inner wisdom can more easily reveal itself to our consciousness. As such, there is a high possibility for one to leave a cacao ceremony with clarity on their path forward, insight into their healing journey, or peace with the feeling of being at home within themselves. The community of ceremonies brings people together Can I Do My Own Cacao Ceremony? It's possible. One can lead a self-guided ceremony and experience the profound healing, clarity, and sacredness of cacao in the comfort of their own home. However, if you’ve never participated in a guided ceremony, we highly recommend starting with a group cacao ceremony. When people gather together with the same intention and focus, the energy — and the potential for healing and insight — is amplified. Plus, you'll have the experience of working with cacao with a guide before doing it on your own. RELATED: What is the Peyote Cactus and Is It Legal? Microdosing 101: A Modern Phenomenon Rooted in Ancient Times What is Huachuma, the San Pedro Cactus? If you’re interested in ceremonial cacao training, we recommend checking out local or online training. Ceremonial cacao training will equip you with the knowledge and confidence to lead a group and help others experience the transformational healing available in a cacao ceremony. Takeaway: Ceremonial Cacao A cacao ceremony is a powerful, unifying experience that is all about connection — connection to self, community, and the spirit of cacao. With its gentle, heart-opening effects, a cacao ceremony helps one deepen into the love within and to the love of those around them. Along with cacao’s superfood benefits, it's a sacred plant long revered by the people who tend it. It should be treated with respect, and its ancient history should be remembered and honored with each sip. More than just a beverage, cacao is a bridge that connects us to a tradition of seeking the light within and connecting with the harmony of love. Whether you join a group, create an at-home ritual, or begin ceremonial cacao training, you can experience the healing, clarity, and sense of purpose that working with cacao has to offer. ● Images: shutterstock/Jozef Klopaca, shutterstock/Jozef Klopaca, shutterstock/Jozef Klopaca happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Herbalism | CBD | Energy healing | Alternative medicine Written by Rhianna Quanstrom Rhianna Quanstrom is a freelance writer, herbalist, and spiritual seeker with a passion for nature-based healing and sacred wisdom. Her writing draws from years of experience with meditation, shamanic practices, plant medicine, dream work, and the reclamation of the Sacred Feminine. Discover more of her writing and poetry on her Mystic Love Substack.

As age gap friendships become increasingly common, Calvin Holbrook muses over the benefits older friends can bring to our lives, and how they can bring happiness to different generations. Living in London as a bright young thing during my 20s, plenty of my friends were older than me; indeed, many were already in their 30s or 40s. As someone who always felt older than their years, I lapped up my older friends' knowledge, broader cultural references and maturity. More recently, after hitting the big 4-0 myself, I struck up an age gap friendship with a guy in his 60s. I became particularly inspired by Jack, a senior American that stayed with me for a month in Barcelona. He was up out of bed at dawn, off exploring the city all day long, and out making new friends – and going on dates! I was in awe of his youthful spirit, energy and devil-may-care attitude – it was infectious and we clicked instantly. Similarly, I have no shame in saying my best older friend is probably my own mum: she may be 70, but sometimes we laugh together so much we both end up with our cheeks aching and tears in our eyes. Of course, admitting to having much older, adult friends when you’re a teenager would have probably resulted in tears of a different kind: from your friends shunning you for being such a loser (your best mate is your mum?). However, even in today’s youth-driven society, there are signs that the shaming of age gap friendships may be over, and that they're actually on the rise. This can only be a good thing, because, as we’ll discover, there are many benefits of having much older – or, conversely, younger – friends. Age Gap Friendships: the New Generation? Although there's currently little hard data on the subject, generation gap friendships appear to be flourishing. Numerous heartwarming stories have appeared in the press in praise of having older friends. Indeed, thanks to social media it’s now even easier to meet people with similar interests, meaning that age differences are increasingly irrelevant. RELATED: Understanding the Power of Friends And, with accommodation in crisis in major cities worldwide, younger people are increasingly moving in with older generations – such as the Baby Boomers – that often have spare rooms in their already mortgage-free homes. With almost 75 per cent of older people struggling with loneliness and isolation in the UK, intergenerational living has to be a win-win situation: giving the older person company and extra income, and the younger friend a more affordable place to live and someone inspirational to learn from. Age gap friendships can be illuminating In fact, the benefits of age gap friendships extend further. “Bridging the generation gap not only increases the friend pool, but it also expands and supports mental well-being,” Anna Kudak, Ph.D., co-author of What Happy Women Do told Good Housekeeping magazine. She continued, “friendships with older and younger people help broaden your perspective, which in turn allows you to have compassion and empathy in your day-to-day life.” And, there’s no reason why age gap friendships cannot be as close as those with friendships of similar ages. Psychology professor Robert Kurzban from the University of Pennsylvania has studied factors that affect friendship quality. He found that matching age was not a predictor of friendship closeness or quality. Older Friends: 8 Benefits of Age Gap Friendships While generation gap friendships may require a little more effort and understanding, it’s clear the rewards are many. So, here’s a deeper look at the benefits of having a much older – or younger – friend. 1. Widening perspective and losing preconceived notions Younger generations often assume the lives of older people are boring. Likewise, older generations often think of Millennials as both entitled and self-interested. Of course, these are stereotypes and false assumptions. Developing age gap friendships has the potential to widen your perspective around different age groups and see the truth beyond stereotypes. 2. Sharing valuable wisdom and insights Older friends have already ‘been there, done that’, meaning they have plenty of useful knowledge and experience younger generations can tap into. Older friends can help you navigate work life, financial or family difficulties, break-ups and other major life issues because – more likely than not – they’ve already experienced them. Haven’t got a clue about how to get a mortgage, split up with an unsuitable partner, or arrange a funeral? Your older friend can probably help. “Developing age gap friendships has the potential to widen your perspective around different age groups and see the truth beyond stereotypes.” Meanwhile, the younger generation tend to be more fluent in technology and issues around popular culture, meaning older friends can certainly benefit from their knowledge in these areas, picking up relevant new skills, especially in our increasingly online society. In fact, older friends might be learning abut a whole new world which is alien (yet exciting) to them. RELATED: Finding Your Tribe – the 7 Steps You Need to Take 3. Expand horizons and share similar interests Many of our friendships develop from shared experiences, such as being at school, work or through friends-of-friends. However, many of these people don’t necessarily share our interests and hobbies. As we engage in and pursue our interests over our lifetime, those that share our passions play a deeper role in our lives. This is where generation gap friendships often come into play. Because whether you’re into running, knitting or playing the cello, you’re sure to find inspiring people of all ages and make older – and younger – friends. It’s a great chance to connect around your passions and develop a deeper bond, learning or teaching around your specialist hobby. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; } Age UK's befriending brought Rose and Sarah together Age UK/YouTube 4. Sincerity and respect Older generations usually have a deeper sense of mutual sincerity and respect than younger generations. Additionally, according to researchers at the University of California, San Francisco, older generations are also less prone to drama, as they perceive more complexity in situations than younger people, who often go off the handle more easily. • HAVE YOUR SAY! What Are the Qualities of a Best Friend? • Younger people can therefore expect to have more sincere, frank and potentially more meaningful conversations with older friends (which perhaps they wouldn't get with friends of a similar age). Likewise, older friends will expect respect and sincerity in return from you, so it's great chance to develop these skills. 5. Their confidence may inspire you The elderly can sometimes come across opinionated to younger generations, and that’s because they usually are! That's because with age comes confidence: less caring about what others think, or the need to impress. “Older friends can help you navigate financial difficulties, break-ups, and other major life issues because they’ve already experienced them.” “Older people not only have the benefit of experience, they’re also less afraid of the opinions of others — so are more likely to say what they think,” Mark Vernon, author of The Meaning of Friendship, told the Daily Mail. “Their view often throws something unexpected into the mix.” Such confidence may inspire the younger friend in their discussions around life. 6. Observing a different view point Furthermore, age and growing older usually helps to shape our opinions, so another benefit of age gap friendships is the chance to see something from an entirely different point of view, one perhaps you would have never considered previously. Being exposed to the ideas of older generations offers food for thought and the chance to expand your mind in a new way. Likewise, younger friends can teach the older partner in age gap friendships different perspectives from a modern age. 7. They aren’t your parents Although a few of us may have very open relationships with our parents, being able to discuss our sex lives in intimate detail is probably off-limits! Not so for our older friends, who also probably won’t judge you or try to guide you in a way your parent might. RELATED: The 8 Types of Friends We All Need Indeed, older friends can be a bit like our grandparents or a friendly aunt or uncle: letting you do the things your parents forbid. And they will also probably enjoy indulging in these type of conversations that will help to keep them young at heart, too. 8. You’ll get an awesome cultural lesson You can learn so much about history and culture from older friends in age gap friendships (and vice versa). Older people possess a wealth of knowledge and life experience that can be tapped into and enjoyed: Millennials and Generation X-ers can discover new music, film, artists, as well as fascinating stories about the past that can inspire them or widen life horizons. Likewise, Baby Boomers and beyond may be curious to enjoy learning about the latest trends in music and fashion. In fact, all different age groups can get recommendations and new references that they cannot get from their own age group: what's not to love? Ideas on how to make older friends So, if reading about the benefits of age gap buddies has got you itching to pan out your friendship pool, how can you make some new older friends? Of course, friendships are best when they're natural, without being forced, and – if you pay attention – there are chances to make friends of different age groups every day. Cookin' up an age gap friendship But, specifically, you can try a few things to find friends that are that bit more mature. Firstly, as mentioned earlier, join a club around one of your hobbies: there will be people of old ages present, providing a unique chance to meet older pals. Secondly, get to know your neighbours in your building or local area that are older. Instead of just saying 'hi' in the corridor, invite them in for a chat over a coffee. Similarly, in the UK for example, charities such as Age UK run befriending services that pair younger people from the community with lonely, older people, helping to build community bonds and relieve isolation in the elderly. And, of course, using social media to join online groups is a great way to find friends of all different ages. The takeaway: age gap friendships It's clear that if we limit our pool of potential friends to those of our own age, we're missing out on all kinds of brilliant and inspiring folk we could be developing an important social bond with. For younger people, having an older friend or three means we have someone mature we can learn from and ask for life advice when needed. And for that older friend in any generational gap friendship, having a younger buddy will potentially ease isolation and also help to keep them connected in our fast-paced society, keeping them feeling forever young. As the old saying goes, age is definitely just a number, so if you don't already have some older friends, start building some new connections today! ● Main image: shutterstock/simona pilolla 2, shutterstock/AlessandroBiascioli, shutterstock/Bojan Milinkov happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practice, share Are you a happiness.com member? 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A lack of self-awareness is a personality trait that negatively affects you and those around you. Dee Marques explains how to spot the signs of poor self-awareness – such as blaming others and failing to handle feedback – as well as offering tips on how to change this behaviour. What’s one thing that most people think they have, but few actually do? According to psychologist and best-selling author Tasha Eurich, it’s self-awareness. Her research has revealed that although 95% of people claim to be self-aware, only 10% to 15% actually are. And, in all honesty, when I look back over the past 15 years and compare the old me with the current me, the biggest difference I find is by far related to my level of self-awareness. In fact, becoming more self-aware has massively improved my quality of life, brought me emotional stability, and helped me feel strongly connected to life. But the truth is, nobody is born with self-awareness. Let's take a look at how to detect when we’re lacking in this crucial skill and what we can do to improve self-awareness. What does it mean to lack self-awareness? Psychologists say that there are two types of self-awareness: internal self-awareness refers to knowing your values, emotions, strengths, and blind spots. When we lack internal self-awareness, we’re out of tune with our emotions, motivations, and patterns. Then there’s external self-awareness, which is the ability to understand how others perceive us and the impact we make on them. If we lack external self-awareness, we’ll most likely have poor boundaries, and either be people-pleasers or find ourselves involved in interpersonal conflict more often than not. The good news is that like all other life skills, self-awareness can be developed. But first, let’s explore some of the tell-tale signs of poor self-awareness. Not listening to others is a sign of no self-awareness 10 signs someone has low self-awareness Due to the nature of poor self-awareness, it's usually hard for those that have it to even entertain the idea of it, let alone become fully conscious of it. Knowing these symptoms or signs is a useful place to become aware of your – or someone else's – possible lack of self-awareness. 1. They’re blind to their blind spots One of the clearest signs of having no self-awareness is a lack of personal reflection. People with a lack of self-awareness often move through life repeating the same mistakes – and blaming others for poor outcomes – because they’ve never examined the root of their actions or the role they played in keeping unhealthy patterns alive. And when someone isn’t aware of their blind spots, they’re creating barriers to their own growth. 2. They act first, regret later Impulsivity tends to be high when self-awareness is low, as people with no self-awareness are usually driven by temporary emotions, without considering long-term consequences or the bigger picture. “People with a lack of self-awareness often move through life repeating the same mistakes because they’ve never examined the root of their actions.” These individuals often live in reaction mode rather than in intention mode, which over time can create a cycle of impulsivity, frustration, and pattern repetition – as well as collateral damage. 3. They respond defensively to feedback While emotionally mature people see feedback as fuel for growth, emotionally unaware individuals feel threatened by it. Even constructive criticism feels uncomfortable for those people with a lack of self-awareness, and they will get defensive or change the subject. This is because lack of self-awareness usually goes hand-in-hand with a fragile self-concept, where feedback is seen as a judgement on personal worth and value. 4. They frequently blame others People with a lack of self-awareness often externalise blame. When things go wrong, they quickly find the cause in someone else’s incompetence or bad intentions. This mindset keeps people stuck in a victim narrative, which makes it difficult to access real empowerment. 5. They can’t read social cues Social interactions are filled with subtle signals that guide respectful communication, but those with no self-awareness often miss these cues. They may interrupt others, misread the mood or tone of the conversation, or fail to notice discomfort in others. In short, lack of self-awareness is a sign of underdeveloped social intelligence. 6. Constantly seeking the spotlight Poor self-awareness can show as steering every conversation back to oneself or undervaluing other people’s experiences and achievements. This reflects a need for validation as well as a disconnection from the deeper self, which makes people mistake external recognition for internal value. Those who lack self-awareness have controlling tendencies 7. They’re stuck in their comfort zone There’s no way around it: growth requires discomfort, and those unaware of their fears or unconscious patterns often prefer to stay safe and comfortable. Instead of seeking new learning opportunities, people with a lack of self-awareness stick to what they know and resist anything that challenges their self-concept and/or status. 8. They lack emotional regulation Emotional regulation is a skill built on self-awareness. Without it, people may lash out when stressed, overreact to small frustrations, or shut down when conflict appears. This lack of regulation is often tied to not recognising emotions and internal triggers early enough to address them and to respond to with intention. 9. They have controlling tendencies Controlling habits like micro-managing people or situations often disguise themselves as “helpfulness” or “efficiency,” but they reflect a lack of trust in one’s own and in other people’s abilities. “Even constructive criticism feels uncomfortable for those people with a lack of self-awareness, and they will get defensive or change the subject.” What’s more, low self-awareness makes it hard to recognise how this behaviour undermines other people’s autonomy, perpetuating the pattern and damaging relationships. 10. They frequently offend or upset others People who have a lack of self-awareness fail to distinguish honesty from bluntness. They may boast about being “brutally honest” or say they “tell it like it is”, but without considering timing, tone, or context, these unfiltered remarks create emotional distance and even resentment in others. Truth can be expressed with compassion – but only when we’re self aware. RELATED: How to Let Go of Resentment and Bitterness in 7 Steps Causes of low self-awareness Here are a few reasons why someone may have a lack of self-awareness – people that have little or no self-awareness may have been exposed to one or more of these causes: • Defence mechanisms Self-awareness brings us face-to face with some uncomfortable truths. To avoid the discomfort, some people may prefer to avoid the revelations that come with stronger self-awareness. • Privilege When people are shielded from adversity, they may never feel called to explore their inner world and to work on their internal self-awareness, as they assume “all is well and it will always be”. • Poor modelling We’re not born being self-aware, so if our upbringing or culture didn’t encourage reflection or introspection, we might grow up lacking in this respect. • Busy or disorganised lifestyle When daily life is stressful or chaotic, it’s easier to live on auto-pilot than to set time aside to reflect on our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. How to improve self-awareness Luckily, self-awareness is a like muscle that can be trained. Here are some great starting points: Find out where you are currently. Take the self-awareness test developed by Dr. Tasha Eurich. Try journaling techniques. Write about your thoughts, emotions, and reactions to events. Here are some prompts you could use: “What triggered me today?” “What could I have done differently?” “How did my actions today align (or not) with my values?”. You can also try shadow work journaling. Ask for feedback. Choose a friend or relative you trust and ask: “What’s one thing I do that you appreciate, and what’s one thing I do that sometimes rubs you the wrong way?” Go into these conversations to listen and to accept the responses, not to defend yourself. The next point is also essential if you do this. Work on your listening skills. Whenever you talk to someone, focus on active listening by giving them your full attention instead of disconnecting to mentally rehearse your reply or steering the conversation towards yourself. This may seem obvious, but research shows that less than 2% of the global population knows how to listen effectively. Deep listening is one step to becoming more self-aware Socialise from a place of curiosity. Ask open-ended questions about other people’s opinions, feelings, and experiences (“What was that like for you?” or “How did you come to that conclusion?”). After, reflect on what this teaches you, how it makes other people valuable, and where it challenges your own assumptions. Think before you act. Before letting unconscious mechanisms dictate your reactions, pause to unpack your thought process step-by-step. Ask yourself the following questions: “What did I actually see or hear – just the facts?” “How am I interpreting this, and why?” “What assumptions am I making about intent or outcome?” “What conclusions am I jumping to?” “What other explanations could there be?” “How will I respond?”. Dealing with someone with low self-awareness Since limited self-awareness is so common, you’re bound to have someone in your social or professional circle who isn’t self-aware. According to a Harvard Business Review survey of different workplaces, 99% of people interviewed said at least one of their colleagues showed lack of self-awareness. Although you can’t do the inner work for others, there are some things you can do to keep the interactions as harmonious as possible. MORE LIKE THIS How to Find Your Authentic Self: 8 Techniques 9 Tips For Constructive Criticism at Work How to Find Yourself Again: 10 Steps in Creating Clarity For example, to minimise defensiveness and encourage introspection, approach with curiosity and avoid direct judgment. Instead of saying “you’re so harsh”, ask open-ended questions like “what exactly would you like to transmit with this?”, “do you think there could be another way to express this?”, or “how would you like other people to think about you?”. Timing is important, so ideally you want to start this type of conversation once the person has shown some frustration at a situation or interaction where they’ve shown no self-awareness. Lastly, know your boundaries. If interacting with someone who has no self-awareness becomes draining, tell them, “I need a moment to process this”. A firm but polite boundary protects your energy while signalling the impact without blame. Takeaway: Self-awareness can be trained Self-awareness isn’t a gift — it’s a skill we can all develop by cultivating curiosity, courage, and compassion. Every intentional check-in and every honest reflection counts when it comes to improving our levels of internal and external self-awareness. And although it’s true that the work needed to develop better self-awareness can expose some uncomfortable truths about ourselves, the rewards are well worth it. As Dr. Eurich says, “developing self-awareness is linked to greater confidence, increased creativity, better decision-making, stronger relationships, and more effective communication.” So, if you live with a lack of self-awareness and you’d like to be more aligned with your truest self and enjoy more grounded living, start by knowing yourself at a deeper level, one day at the time. ● Images: shutterstock/mentalmind, shutterstock/Good Studio, shutterstock/fizkes happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to: ■ enjoy our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Communication Skills | Positive Psychology | Self care | Kindness Written by Dee Marques A social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. 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Sonia Vadlamani explores practical ways to strengthen and balance the key areas – or pillars – of life for long-term happiness and success. Picture the scenario. You’re crushing it at work: hitting targets, achieving goals, and earning accolades from superiors and peers. On the surface, your life looks perfect. However, your peace and mental health are declining and your personal relationships are strained. If this sounds familiar, chances are you’re lacking an important element – balance – in your life. Life can often seem like a juggling act, with its myriad responsibilities and tasks to complete within limited reserves of time and attention. What’s more, the fast-paced world around us sometimes tends to reward the pursuit of perfection in one area of life – often our career – while other areas take a backseat. However, decades of research show that true happiness comes from finding harmony across multiple pillars, or key aspects of life, not just one. The good news is that achieving balance isn’t as complex as one may imagine. By understanding and intentionally working toward achieving balance across the key pillars of life, you can create the foundation for a more joyful and sustainable version of success. What are the pillars of life? The prominent Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung identified five pillars, or key elements, necessary for a happy and fulfilling life: Good physical and mental health Healthy personal relationships, including family and friendships The ability to perceive beauty in art and nature A reasonable standard of living and satisfactory work A philosophical or religious perspective that fosters resilience Jung emphasized the interconnectedness of the various aspects of life, with these pillars forming a comprehensive framework for a meaningful, fulfilling life. While his model remains important, experts have expanded upon it to better reflect the evolving needs of modern times. Learn to balance aspects of life for optimal well-being Psychiatrists, wellbeing coaches, and health advisors often highlight the key aspects of life that align with Jung’s pillars: Health pertains to both physical and mental wellbeing, supported by regular exercise, a nutritious diet, adequate sleep, and emotional regulation – the ability to recognize, perceive and manage your emotions effectively. Relationships include family, romantic partnerships, friendships, and social connections. The interplay of relationships and wellbeing has been extensively documented, indicating that cultivating meaningful connections is a crucial key to happiness. Financial health does not refer merely to monetary wealth, but financial security and the ability to meet your needs and occasional wants, without constant worry about expenses and bills. Work and Purpose include career and professional pursuits, along with activities that offer you a sense of purpose and the satisfaction of contributing to something greater. Play and personal growth represent your creative pursuits, leisure, hobbies, and interests, in addition to your efforts to advance your skills and knowledge. Some experts believe in additional pillars or key aspects, such as spirituality or volunteering, depending on individual needs and interests. It’s important for individuals to identify the core areas that are important for their sense of purpose and happiness. Why is balancing the pillars of life important? At times it’s normal – and even necessary – to focus on one area of life. For instance, situations like managing a health condition, taking on an extra work assignment to advance your career, or navigating a family emergency may require you to prioritize one aspect of life over others. However, research shows that the imbalance can become chronic if some areas are neglected too long, impacting one’s overall wellbeing. A 2020 study published in BMC Public Health analyzed data from 32,275 working adults across 30 countries in Europe. It showed a poor association between the adults' work-life balance and self-reported health. “By working toward achieving balance across the key pillars of life, you can create the foundation for a more joyful and sustainable version of success.” The statistics from North America echo a similar imbalance. A study by Elvtr.com involving 2,300 participants from the US and Canada revealed the alarming lack of work-life balance, indicating that 68% of the participants continue working even on vacations, and 57% feel anxious if they don’t check work emails during their time off. These findings point toward a worrying lack of boundaries between professional and personal life. Conversely, achieving balance across the pillars of life has been shown to generate a continuous cycle of positive outcomes. A Harvard Business Review study published in 2022 highlighted the benefits of corporate programs that support work/life balance, with employees reporting improved mental and physical health, lower stress and burnout, in addition to increased productivity and reduced employee turnover. MORE LIKE THIS: What the 12 Pillars of Well-Being Can Teach Us Rewiring for Joy: 8 Expert-Based Happiness Hacks The Importance of Community: 7 Key Benefits Indeed, the ability to step away from work, take care of our physical and mental health, and spend more time with friends and family strengthens our support system and makes us better equipped to handle stress. Reduced stress and financial stability, in turn, allow space and opportunity for personal growth, creative pursuits, and play – all of which contribute toward long-term happiness. Six ways to balance the pillars of life Balancing these different areas of life can seem overwhelming at first, but it is possible with intention and the right measures. Here are six practical ways to help you strike the right balance among the key pillars of life, thereby laying the foundation for lasting happiness: 1. Conduct a life audit Start with a thorough assessment of where you currently stand in each area of life. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate your satisfaction in each aspect: physical and mental health, relationships, finances, career, and play/personal growth. Identify the areas that are already robust and the ones that require more attention. Remember that this is an exercise in awareness and not of judgment – it can help you establish a baseline to help you focus your efforts and track the progress over time. For example, if your career scores an 8 but your health is at 4 and play is at 2, you can easily identify where you need to shift your focus. 2. Make health non-negotiable Health is the foundation the rest of the pillars are built on. Research highlights the substantial benefits of regular exercise, including stress reduction, improved immunity and lower risk of heart disease, cancer, diabetes, as well as mental health conditions like anxiety and depression. The best way to prioritize health, therefore, is by integrating it into your daily routines. Prioritize health as your key pillar of life Some simple ways to strengthen your health pillar are: Move your body daily: Whether it’s strength training, mindful running, or just a 30-minute brisk walk. Vary your routine to stay motivated. Eat nourishing, whole foods while minimizing processed foods, takeouts, and excess sugar. Get adequate sleep: aim for 7-9 hours of restful sleep each night. Find ways to manage stress. Happy habits like 10 minutes of meditation, yoga, or conscious breathing can keep stress at bay. 3. Build meaningful relationships with intention According to Harvard’s longest-running study on happiness, the strongest predictor of long-term happiness isn’t fame or wealth, but meaningful relationships. Yet, ironically, it’s often the first key area of life we tend to neglect as life gets busier. You can be intentional about nurturing connections by: Making time regularly for people who matter to you. Putting distractions at bay and listening mindfully when in their presence. Expressing gratitude and appreciation sincerely and frequently. Being present and offering support through happy and tough times. 4. Set clear boundaries between all areas of life The different aspects of life – work, self-care, and relationships – may often bleed into each other. While some overlap is acceptable, maintaining clear boundaries is easier when you can identify which pillars of life tend to overlap for you and how it affects your wellbeing. “Health is the foundation the rest of the pillars are built on. The best way to prioritize health, therefore, is by integrating it into your daily routines.” For example, if remote or hybrid work mode has made it more difficult to segregate your professional and personal life, you can devise methods to set intentional boundaries to avoid stress and burnout. Here are some effective ways to create boundaries: Turn off work notifications after hours to protect your energy for personal time. Allocate specific hours for different areas like work, play, relationships, and personal growth, and honor them all with equal importance. Limit your digital media consumption to a set screen-time quota. Avoid energy vampires and learn to say “no” to people and commitments that don’t align with your priorities. 5. Align your goals with purpose and meaning Working solely for financial gain may seem fulfilling at first, but the lack of meaning or purpose may make you feel empty and questioning about life’s purpose. Life feels enriched and enjoyable when you align your goals with what truly matters to you. Fuel your sense of purpose by: Contributing to causes that are bigger than yourself, eg, volunteering. Pursuing growth opportunities that help you advance toward your goals. Automating your work to make time for the other pillars of life. Engaging in acts of kindness. Setting time aside for personal growth and play to keep your spirit energized. Incorporate purpose as a pillar of life 6. Strengthen your financial foundation While money can’t buy you happiness on its own, financial security is cited as one of the top contributors toward better quality of life and overall wellbeing. Here’s how you can strengthen your finance pillar: Create a realistic budget that aligns your spending patterns with your short-term and long-term goals. Build an emergency fund that covers at least 3 months of expenses. Educate yourself about personal finance, smart investing, and wealth planning. Consult an expert for sound financial advice when needed. Failure to balance life pillars Failure to balance the pillars of life can result in more than temporary stress. Indeed, neglecting one or more aspects of life can create a domino effect that can disrupt one’s entire life structure, thereby impacting wellbeing. For instance, workaholics may achieve success at the cost of strained relationships and fading health. Similarly, those struggling with digital distractions or lack of a clear routine may find it difficult to stay productive and may face financial hardships. Digital overconsumption can also result in stress, anxiety, and digital burnout, according to a survey study of 202 participants published in Science Direct. The resulting burnout can also lead to a decline in physical and mental health, in addition to eroding one’s chances for long-term success and happiness. Takeaway: Balancing the pillars of life A fulfilling life doesn’t come from shining in just one aspect – it develops when we nurture all the key areas of life that make it meaningful. While the pursuit of a balanced life can seem elusive in this fast-paced world, Jung’s ageless wisdom, combined with decades of modern research, reminds us that genuine success stems from harmony in different pillars of life, namely health, relationships, financial security, fulfilling work, and personal growth. ● Images: shutterstock/VectorMine, shutterstock/Harbucks, shutterstock/Peopleimages.com - Yuri A happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member yet? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support in our happiness forum Self care | Empathy | Communication skills Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future-self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. 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Healing your wounded inner child takes dedicated work and patience. So, how can you tell if you're succeeding? Psychologist Stanislava Puač J. explains the key signs that your inner child is healing, from choosing healthier relationships to responding instead of reacting. Healing the child within can feel elusive and vague at first. Even a little scary. Yet, as you move through the inner child work of listening to and caring for that younger Self, the signs your inner child is healed begin to emerge. It is rarely a dramatic overnight transformation – more of a rewiring behind the scenes. The inner tension starts to soften. Old triggers lose their grip. Bit by bit, you realize that inside of you, there’s now a healed inner child. So, how do you know if it’s working? And how long does it take to heal your inner child? Before we dive in, let’s pause to remember what healing the child within actually means and why it's important to embark on this journey. Healing the Child Within Healing your inner child involves reconnecting with the parts of yourself shaped by childhood experiences — especially painful or unmet emotional needs — and offering them the care they needed but didn’t receive. But why dig out past hurts in the first place? According to psychological research and practice, unhealed childhood wounds tend to cause extensive adversities in adult life. They affect our mental well-being, relationships, and even physical health and longevity. There are many signs your inner child is being healed Luckily, as a recent study by Trivedi, et al published in The International Journal of Regression Therapy shows, an intervention aimed at healing your inner child, “effectively improves participants’ mental health [...]. Moreover, the data show that the positive effects tend to be more pronounced with a longer duration of the intervention”. Whether your inner child work involves therapy, journaling techniques, or using visualization and reparenting techniques, the path is rarely linear. But progress does leave footprints: here are some of the signs your inner child is healed. 9 Signs You’re Healing Your Inner Child A healed inner child doesn’t come to you with a memo saying: “Woohoo, everything’s perfect!” Nonetheless, if you have walked the path for a while, you will start noticing the signs your inner child is healed (or getting there). For me, it was when I realized I wasn’t entering a full panic mode when a man sitting next to me in public transportation started shouting (which would typically be a massive trigger). My healed inner child entered the stage as quietly as that. If you notice some of these signs your inner child is healed, take heart: change is unfolding. 1. You Respond Instead of Reacting Like my personal example above, specific triggers used to make you spiral into shame or lash out. Yet, now, you manage to pause before reacting. You recognize where the emotion comes from, accept it’s there, and choose how to respond. This is one of the most prominent sings your inner child is healed, because it means your childhood hurts no longer take over whenever you hit a bump on the road. 2. You No Longer Abandon Yourself to Keep Peace The moment you choose yourself over what others (or internalized others) expect you to be, everything changes. Carl Jung, the Swiss psychotherapist and psychologist, spoke about this. “Healing the child within can feel elusive at first. Yet, as you listen to and care for that younger Self, the signs your inner child is healed begin to emerge.” And a key marker of a healed inner child is precisely the ability to honour your needs and peculiarities. You are no longer willing to disappear just to keep the peace and avoid making waves. 3. You Feel Comfortable with Healthy Boundaries A natural continuation of the previous sign your inner child is healed is setting healthy boundaries. Your boundaries no longer resemble walls – nor are they non-existent. Nowadays, you have doors with locks you choose to open (or not). When you’re healing the child within, you begin to set boundaries from a place of self-respect. 4. You Can Self-Soothe Instead of Spiral Another vital sign your inner child is healed is when you stop spiralling into ruminating thoughts. Instead of incessantly asking yourself: “Did I do something wrong? Will they still like me if I say no?”, you now reach out for comforting behaviors, such as journaling, conscious breathing, music, and movement. You can now soothe your inner child from the position of a kind, attuned caregiver. A healed inner child will sooth instead of spiral 5. You Reclaim Joy and Playfulness When we live as adults with a hurt inner child, we tend to be overly adapted and efficient. In a sense, we’re a bit too adult. There’s little room for spontaneity. RELATED: What Playfulness Can Do For Your Relationship The moment you start letting yourself be silly and creative, you probably carry a healed inner child inside. Why? That freedom to play signals that the inner child feels safe enough to come out again. 6. You Sit Happily With Your Feelings Healing doesn’t mean you stop feeling sad or angry. But, unlike before, when you wouldn’t trust your emotions, you start acknowledging and validating them. You no longer feel the need to either suppress or dramatize your feelings to be taken seriously. 7. You Attract (or Choose) Healthier Relationships We tend to repeat the patterns from our family of origin. Unfortunately, if these were unhealthy, you have likely picked the wrong people to surround yourself with. Nonetheless, as you start healing your inner child, you begin to expect kindness and honesty from others. And you grow the capacity to give and receive healthy love. “The most profound sign your inner child is healed comes with a quiet sense of worth that doesn’t waver based on productivity, appearance, or approval.” What's more, a 2024 study by Loo Yee Hing from the International Grafinity Association of Malaysia revealed that such healing can be built upon further. A program aimed at healing the inner child among parents resulted in “transformation [that] was characterized by heightened self-awareness, improved emotional regulation, improved parenting skills and strategies, strengthened parent-child relationship that foster a suitable relationship”. 8. You Let Go of Harsh Self-Criticism Your inner critic’s voice has softened. Instead of cruel remarks about how incompetent you are when you make a mistake, you catch yourself offering self-compassion. That shift from punishment to patience and understanding signals your adult Self is making decisions about who and how worthy you are — and not the people who hurt you when you were a child. Dropping self-criticism: one sign your inner child is healing 9. You Know You’re Worthy – Even When You Struggle Finally, the most subtle yet profound sign your inner child is healed comes with a quiet sense of worth that doesn’t waver based on productivity, appearance, or approval. You now judge your worth and have integrity and an identity grounded in self-awareness and recognition of both your strengths and weaknesses. How Long Does It Take to Heal Your Inner Child? If you’re wondering how long it takes to heal your inner child, you’re not alone. It’s a common question, and a fair one. Unfortunately, you’re not going to receive a definite response. As with any self-development work, the road you need to travel before you live with a healed inner child varies. It is your personal path, and it's impossible to say what to expect in general. One friend told me he felt a massive improvement after only two therapy sessions. Most people begin to feel major shifts in a matter of months. Others walk this path for years. It all depends, among other factors, on: The severity of childhood trauma and adverse experiences you’re trying to heal Your current support system Consistency of your healing practices So, rather than aiming for a finish line, it’s more helpful to think in terms of layers. For example, you may heal the outer layer rather quickly, one that is tied to your self-confidence. And then, you might discover a deeper layer around trust or intimacy. Therefore, think about moving in an upward spiral, and peeling one layer after the other. Takeaway: Signs Your Inner Child is Healing Healing the child within is one of the most powerful journeys you can take. It’s as close as you can get to changing your past. No, wrongdoings won’t get undone. But you will transform how your past lives in you. And no, the transformation most likely won’t feel dramatic. Yet, you will wake up one morning, realizing that you have quietly become less anxious, kinder, and more in touch with the world and yourself; that you have shown up for yourself in ways no one else could. ● Images: shutterstock/Undry, shutterstock/dot.studio, shutterstock/Edge Creative happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Confidence | Authenticity | Resilience Written by Stanislava Puač J. Stanislava Puač J. is a psychologist, life coach, and writer with over 15 years of experience exploring how our inner world shapes our interactions, health, and sense of self. Her work blends research, real-life practice, and a holistic view of well-being – spanning emotional regulation, communication, and mindfulness.

Being your authentic self can feel risky in our current screen-obsessed age, wherein we constantly strive to fit in. Sonia Vadlamani explains why it’s essential to let go of the fear of being judged in order to be yourself. Learn how to be authentic with these 8 techniques. Being authentic in this technology-dominated era can be challenging, especially when we’re constantly bombarded with messages of who we ‘ought to be’, what we ‘should’ desire and how we ‘must’ express ourselves. Consequently, many of us have at some point portrayed ourselves as who we think we are or want to be perceived as, rather than representing who we really are. The downside of portraying who we aren’t is that we’re telling ourselves that the real or true version of us isn’t worthy of being seen. This constant fear of being judged or rejected can chip away at our ability for authenticity. Luckily, there are techniques you can learn how to be more authentic, which we will explore later. Why is it Difficult to Overcome Inauthenticity? As children, most of us were taught by parents, teachers and other shaping forces like society and religion to ‘fit in’ or conform to a prescribed set of rules and practices. As a result, we ingrain beliefs, thoughts and emotions and exhibit behaviours which allow us to ‘blend in’ and be accepted, be it to form connections, find love or pursue success. This need to fit in and do as we’re taught is stimulated by our “Adaptive Self”, which primarily plays the role of helping us function and coexist in the society in a purposeful way. RELATED: Inner Child Work and Therapy: How to Heal Past Wounds However, in our constant struggle to carve our niche in the society as we balance our inner-selves and our outer aspects, sometimes we tend to suppress or hide our true selves. This can prevent us from activating our “Authentic Self” and living a meaningful life in tune with our values and purpose. Authentic Self Meaning “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we actually are,” states Brené Brown, research professor at University of Houston. Brown has spent decades studying shame, courage and vulnerability. Authenticity can mean different things to different people, but in general it refers to the ability to live by our values, speaking our truth with assertiveness, and developing the courage to allow our true selves to be seen. How to be authentic: embrace who you truly are Indeed, authenticity is a fundamental component of happiness. A study by Alex M Wood et al revealed that authenticity is an integral part of well-being. Being authentic can also improve self esteem as well as lower stress and anxiety. How to be Authentic: 8 Techniques Discovering our authentic self is essential for happiness and forming meaningful connections. Reclaiming authenticity involves identifying our core values, letting go of borrowed notions of perfection, and changing our perspective to see vulnerability as an act of courage, instead of something to be avoided. So, here are eight practical ways you can take steps to cultivate authenticity and learn how to be your authentic self more easily. 1. Identify your core values Creating a connection with our true nature is essential for finding our authentic self. Start by identifying some values that are fundamental for you: which values make you happy and which are the values you cannot absolutely compromise upon? Incorporating visualization meditation into your daily routine can help the process of value identification. RELATED: 7 Ways Spiritual Coaching Could Transform Your Life For example, some of my core values for a happy and meaningful life are honesty and openness in relationships, kindness and empathy for myself and others, gratitude for the gifts I have in my life, along with constant learning for growth. Indeed, your core values arise from your own expectations, needs and experience, and need not be the same as anyone else’s. “Authenticity refers to the ability to live by our values, speaking our truth with assertiveness, and developing the courage to allow our true selves to be seen.” Once you list your core values, break each one down into three actionable steps that will help you live these values better. Since I value honesty and openness in my relationships I try to practise mindfulness, deep listening, and forgiveness, so that I can live in closer alignment with my core values. 2. Start making conscious decisions Sometimes, we wade through the day in auto mode without even contemplating if our thoughts and actions resonate with our authentic selves. Try observing yourself keenly to learn more about how you react to challenges, what motivates you, the nature of your social interactions, etc. Notice which behaviours and settings evoke responses from your Adaptive Self, and which of these responses feel authentic to you. Once you’ve spotted the discrepancies between your actions and values, you can utilize this self-awareness to devise conscious statements and actions that resonate with your authentic self. 3. Devise and uphold your boundaries “To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves — there lies the great, the singular power of self-respect,” as Joan Didion, the renowned American writer famously said. Cultivating authenticity requires us to give up the temptation to appease others and the need to behave in a way that makes us more likeable. Indeed, learning how to be authentic is not always easy when it comes to the practicalities; living fully by your principles may require difficult conversations, a potential job switch, or even ending a friendship. RELATED: 'Who Am I?' A Practical Guide to Self-Inquiry Radical Self Care: 8 Ways To Put Your Well-Being First, Unapologetically Uncomfortable Truths – How to Say 'No' However, by being honest about our boundaries, we’re indicating to our subconscious that it’s OK to not be perfect all the time, thus developing self-validation. Authenticity allows us to share our vulnerability with appropriate boundaries in place, ie, with people who share the same values, and those who you feel comfortable with. Cultivate authenticity by setting boundaries 4. Instill mindfulness If you're curious how to find happiness, mindfulness can help you find contentment in the small joys that each day brings, thus boosting your mood and overall joy levels. Additionally, being mindful allows you to observe and understand how you feel and react towards various stimuli in your environment. Keeping physical reminders of mindfulness quotes and practising mindful listening are some effective ways to improve self-awareness and slowly cultivate your authentic self. 5. Practise letting go In her bestseller book The Gifts of Imperfection, Dr. Brown reveals that letting go plays an essential role in cultivating your authentic self. While Brown’s research on shame and vulnerability largely reveal that most people allow their inhibitions to take over due to the fear of being emotionally exposed, she came across a group of outliers who reacted differently to such potentially uncertain situations. Dr Brown calls these outliers ‘the wholehearted’, and she named this way of living the ‘wholehearted living’. “Learning how to be authentic is not always easy; living fully by your principles may require difficult conversations, a job switch, or even ending a friendship.” According to her research, wholehearted living comprises of embracing imperfections and living life to one’s fullest potential, without letting the fear of other people’s opinions affect their beliefs and actions. Being your authentic self requires you to accept that what others think of you is none of your business, and cultivate the courage to let go of thought-patterns and limiting beliefs that no longer serve you. 6. Exercise compassion towards yourself and others Practising self-compassion allows us to be supportive, kind and accepting towards ourselves, in addition to boosting authenticity in relationships. That’s according to researcher Kristin Neff, who was the first to measure the construct for self-compassion. Furthermore, practising loving-kindness meditation can prove to be an effective tool for reinforcing feelings of connection and kindness with oneself and others, thus aiding the development of one’s authentic self. Practising compassion cultivates authenticity 7. Embrace vulnerability We often shirk away from being authentic due to the fear of being judged or getting distanced from people around us. Start by asking yourself what you are afraid may happen if you put yourself out there in a scenario that makes you feel vulnerable. Next, proceed to imagine what would happen if you avoided expressing your feelings or needs or asking for that raise that you think you undoubtedly deserve. Could the inability to share or express yourself potentially result in depression or self-sabotage? Thereupon, remind yourself why it’s important for you to live your authentic self by overcoming the vulnerability hangover. Further, you can formulate a rational approach or well-devised plan for expressing your feelings and needs, in a way that is in sync with your authentic self. 8. Set goals for constant learning Staying curious, developing a growth mindset, and being open to self-improvement through ongoing learning can help you attain your authentic self at a sustained pace. Your goals should not just be related to the pursuit of wealth and success – research shows that non-materialistic life goals lead to happiness more than materialistic goals. An objective as simple as integrating awe into your life can inspire you to learn new things about yourself and life around you. The Takeaway: How To Be Authentic While we are conditioned from an early age to suppress or hide our authentic self, authenticity is essential for building a life that brings us meaning and joy. Examining our true self to develop authenticity can be a long and cumbersome process, but the rewards in terms of greater life satisfaction and improved relationships make it worth the effort. ● Images: shutterstock/ESB Basic, shutterstock/imtmphoto, shutterstock/GoodStudio Looking how to find your authentic self? Try the 8 techniques above and let us know in the comments below how it goes or if you have any other suggestions. happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free now to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ share and support others in our happiness forum Moral Courage | Mediation | Coaching Written by Sonia Vadlamani Fitness and healthy food blogger, food photographer and stylist, travel-addict and future self journaler. Sonia loves to write and has resolved to dedicate her life to revealing how easy and important it is to be happier, stronger and fitter each day. 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Failure to self-validate can lead to problems such as impulsive behaviour and the inability to manage emotional responses. Psychologist Stanislava Puač J. explores why many of us fail at it and explains how to validate yourself successfully in 5 steps. Most of us are great at validating others. We acknowledge their emotions, recognize effort and success, and support individualism and self-expression. However, the majority of us are equally lousy at self-validation. We all get angry, disappointed, sad, jealous, scared, demotivated. Ideally, one would accept and be able to regulate these emotions. Instead, many people immediately think: “I shouldn’t feel this way. I’m being ridiculous!” As a result, coping with different experiences becomes exceptionally challenging. Reactions seem to be out of control. If you struggle with similar issues, you probably haven’t mastered the art of self-validation. The ability – or inability – to validate ourselves intertwines with much of what we go through in life. In this article, we'll give you five ways to develop self-validation, so you can get to grips with this essential skill. Why self-validation is essential In simple terms, self-validation is accepting your own internal experience: your thoughts and feelings. Validation and self-validation are widely acknowledged problems in psychology, philosophy , and sociology. The roots of the problem of self-validation lie in the vital human need to be recognized and supported. According to Iser’s work in The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, recognition has critical psychological importance. Others’ feedback is essential for one’s practical identity to form. We could also touch upon Hegel’s concept of ‘struggle for recognition’. In its simplest, it points us towards understanding the source of our need to be validated. When we are misrecognized by others, our relationship with ourselves is hindered, or even destroyed. Self-validation means accepting your thoughts and feelings Such strength of humans’ need to be validated by others led many thinkers to voice the significance of self-validation. Rare is a psychologist or a philosopher that would dispute the ultimate value of autonomy and authenticity. The independence that comes with the capacity to be one’s own judge could be expressed with a quote by Fromm: “Obedience to my own reason or conviction (autonomous obedience) is not an act of submission but one of affirmation. My conviction and my judgment, if authentically mine, are part of me. If I follow them rather than the judgment of others, I am being myself.” - Erich Fromm, On Disobedience. What happens if I lack self-validation skills? In slightly more practical terms, the inability to self-validate can lead to a range of adverse outcomes: negating your thoughts and emotions can lead to a paradoxical effect in which you become even more affected by them, as research has demonstrated. When you deny and suppress your inner experiences, you lose control over them. You could think of it as an instruction to not think about a pink elephant. Your cognition still rests on the negated content. You could face many adversities in your personal and professional life because a lack of self-validation can cause impulsive behaviour and emotional dysregulation. You could be more prone to risky behaviours, addictions, eating disorders, to name a few. “Although the potential outcomes of a lack of self-validation sound rather bleak, you should not feel discouraged. That's because learning how to validate yourself is a skill that can be developed.” Your interpersonal skills could also suffer, leading to a range of other problems in your career or relationships. Your love life and friendships could be chaotic, codependent, and intensely challenging for everyone involved. Finally, you might be vulnerable to depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, PTSD, and other emotional disturbances. When you cannot validate yourself, you are driven to maladaptive coping. This, however, eventually leads you far away from well-being and mental health. Why do we have a hard time to self-validate? There is no definitive response to the question above. If you don't know how to validate yourself, a few things could have happened: i) Attachment styles If the inborn need to be safe, cared for, and recognized was unfulfilled, we might have become unable to self-validate. For example, you might have developed an anxious attachment style. How your parents interacted with you as a child serves as a blueprint for your adult relationships. MORE LIKE THIS: Inner Child Work and Therapy: How to Heal Past Wounds Radical Self Care: 8 Ways to Put Your Well-Being First, Unapologetically How to Stop Beating Yourself Up: 7 Techniques That Work You might not have learned to be self-sufficient and recognize your worth. As children, we need adequate support from our caregivers to develop a sense of security about our emotions, decisions and actions. Research reveals that people with an anxious attachment style have a strong need for social approval. In other words, they need others to validate them. ii) Modelling Another option was that your caregivers did not make it possible for you to mimic self-validation. When we are children, we acquire many traits and habits by modelling. If your primary attachment figure invalidated themselves, you probably learned to do the same. Research shows that emotional and behavioural self-validation and self-regulation are skills that are transferred from parent to child. iii) Adult trauma You might also have started doubting yourself due to a traumatic experience at any point in your life. Both anecdotal reports and scientific studies confirm that being a victim of abuse, for example, could make you doubt your self-efficacy and self-worth. Most importantly, your readiness to accept, experience and address your emotions could have been disturbed. When one is in an abusive relationship, for example, they gradually lose their sovereignty. Self-validation becomes a distant memory. How to Self-Validate: 5 Steps Although the potential outcomes of a lack of self-validation sound rather bleak, you should not feel discouraged: That's because learning how to validate yourself is a skill that can be developed. Even if your early experience geared you towards invalidating yourself, you now have the opportunity to change that. Try these 5 techniques to develop self-validation. 1. Practise mindfulness Mindfulness and self-validation go hand in hand. You cannot validate what you don’t recognize. You need to develop a non-judgmental awareness of your experiences, as they happen and when they happen, to validate them. Being present is the first level of validation. This means acknowledging your inner experience without avoidance or distraction. Mindfulness will help you regain grasp over your emotions and build up strength to cope with them. It's possible to develop self-validation skills Evidence from fMRI studies supports this argument. Individuals who were grieving a loss of a loved one were taught mindfulness techniques for eight weeks. When they were tested afterwards, their scores revealed a significantly better ability to regulate emotions. They also had fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety and grief. fMRI suggested that the participants learned to gain cognitive control over their feelings. They were no longer overwhelmed by them. 2. Be brutally honest with yourself Being imperfect stings, we know. Indeed, accepting imperfection is difficult for most people, especially so if they were taught that being great at something equals being worthy. If your parents and social environment were too demanding, it might have resulted in unhealthy perfectionism. Such a form of perfectionism has adverse effects on mental health, as confirmed in empirical research. If your sense of self-worth is equated to being flawless, you might have a tough time even noticing (let alone accepting) your blemishes. Nonetheless, when you want to learn the art of self-validation, you need to be brutally frank with yourself. MORE LIKE THIS: Perfectionism and Anxiety: 7 Ways to Cope I Feel Unheard: Why Does Nobody Listen To Me? How to Find Your Authentic Self: 8 Techniques Notice the emotions and thoughts you don’t feel proud of. Admit to yourself your shortcomings. Own up to your genuine reactions and experiences. Yes, there will be many unpleasant facts. It’s alright – no one is watching! 3. Develop your emotional intelligence Although there are a few relevant emotional intelligence (EI) models, psychologist Daniel Goleman’s work is among the most popular. He proposes that EI consists of five constructs: self-awareness, self-regulation, social skill (being able to get along with others), empathy, and motivation. You can notice how EI is necessary for your ability to self-validate. With EI comes the ability to reflect on your experiences and emotions. Luckily, EI is a skill that can be learned. Therefore, learning how to validate yourself means you must also start developing your EI. “Mindfulness and self-validation go hand in hand. You cannot validate what you don’t recognize. You need to develop a non-judgmental awareness of your experiences, as they happen and when they happen.” When you can accurately name what you're feeling, you can then start to acknowledge and accept your emotional response. As a result, you will build healthy relationships with others without needing their recognition to feel good or motivated. You will build emotional autonomy. 4. Connect with your body’s responses Some people have grown so detached from their inner world that they need to tap into their bodily reactions first. In this regard, some elements of body-centred psychotherapies could be used. According to this group of approaches to psychotherapy, the body is not just something we have. We are our bodies. This means we live as a whole, as an inseparable totality of body and mind. When we learn to validate who we are and what we experience, we should include our body’s responses into the equation. Where are your emotions? What does your body do when you feel in a certain way? How does it respond to people and events? What is it trying to tell you about yourself? You could try a body awareness meditation to help you get started. A combination of body awareness with mindfulness and accurate, honest reflection we suggested above will help you develop a sense of being rooted inside of your own experience. Use meditation to connect with body's responses 5. Self-validate by acknowledging your past experiences The final piece of advice in developing self-validation skills is to learn how to validate yourself by acknowledging your past experiences. They fused within yourself and made you into who you are now. You need to practise recognizing both positive and adverse experiences – and their consequences. How will this help you practise self-validation? Let's say that you had an intense reaction to your partner’s criticism of something you did. Try not to think: “You acted like a madman there!” You could self-validate this reaction by saying: “It’s understandable that you felt this way. Your mother/father would punish you harshly for failures, and you are still overly sensitive to criticism”. Such a validation does not mean that you condone erratic behaviour. It means that you allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you're feeling. You also name the emotion and understand its cause. These are the first steps to get into a self-validating mindset. Additionally, these are the first steps towards growing as a person. These five steps build up towards self-validation development as taught in dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT). According to DBT, there are three steps to validate yourself and your emotions – acknowledge, accept and understand. This worksheet could help you practice self-validation in everyday situations, as well as with more intense or past emotions. The Takeaway: Self-validate to Autonomy Self-validation is freedom. Freedom to experience life as it is: both the beautiful and the ugly. It gives you self-determination in picking your path. You get to do it independently of others’ influence, be it conscious or subconscious. When you learn to rely on yourself for validation, you gain the liberty to be genuine and own your experiences. Therefore, in the spirit of autonomy that we are propagating here, we invite you – acknowledge yourself and allow your authentic Self to exist! • Images: shutterstock/Victoria Chadinova, shutterstock/G-Stock Studio, shutterstock/Prostock-studio, shutterstock/Anatoliy Karlyuk happiness.com | The fine art of being: learn, practise, share Are you a happiness.com member? Sign up for free to enjoy: ■ our happiness magazine with practical life tips ■ sharing and supporting others in our happiness forum Empathy | Resilience | Stress Written by Stanislava Puač J. Stanislava Puač J. is a psychologist, life coach, and writer with over 15 years of experience exploring how our inner world shapes our interactions, health, and sense of self. Her work blends research, real-life practice, and a holistic view of well-being – spanning emotional regulation, communication, and mindfulness.