Do we Need to Fall in Love ?

[AnandKoodali]

The feeling of Love is always there with in us. So when someone tells me , I fell in love , I tell them its always there with in us. We just need to experience it with every life in this planet :)

[Julius]

I like to think about it in this way that falling in love is the process of the separate self expanding into the universal self. It's the beginning of it's dissolution, like a divine dance. For example as a teenager I used to have crushes where I saw certain qualities in other people which I thought I didn't have within myself. Loving the other person in such a way brings energy to this area also within oneself and results in growth in healing. So from an evolutionary point of view I think it makes total sense to fall in love. It's the journey home :-) And yes, from another perspective there is nowhere to go, nothing to achieve, because its always who you are already. I find sometimes that is also the beauty of having one's heart broken, the moment of disillusionment when all the dreams and hopes are shattered opens up a glimpse into the truth that noone and nothing is ever needed because we are already whole. But to see it requires us to let go of our ideas and beliefs about our self, others and the world...

[AnandKoodali]

I totally get your point and I used to think like this . However , when you realize that everything is within us , its so easy to really feel that love for anyone in this world irrespective of how that person treat us. We love differently depending on how much we receive from that person but Is that really Love? The feeling of Love is total acceptance and not trying to fulfill any need from that person. The only difference I think is true is the way we express love towards different people. To some , I express my love through Silence because that's how I can respect his/her space to its fullest. We just need to discover that all the Love is there , Its not something we create, Its just hidden in our experience. Our hearts get broken because we are fulfilling some of our needs through that person , Else we will just let that person go and still love that person unconditionally. The whole idea of Mindfulness to reach to that state. Like we know - The whole Universe is there but we dont know in our experience what almost 99% of the Universe is made of.

[Yvonne]

What a beautiful way to see that love is in all of us and we don't have to create it. We just need to experience it: pure and unconditional love. But this looks like love is a passive thing. I heard from some people that it seems that they are unable to love or unable " to fall in love". What would you tell them?

[Chirasree]

We rise in love

[Angisern]

The love of my life is me. My happiness is inside me

[Pat-3426]

I fell in love with my best friend in 1988 and out lived was wonderful we raised 6 children who gave us 26 grandchildenand 2 great grandchildren. My husband passed away July 31st. 2019 and I'm lost and so sad

[Amit]

Love is a fire we burn in love too.

[Amit]

On 9/12/2019 at 6:57 PM, AnandKoodali said:

The feeling of Love is always there with in us. So when someone tells me , I fell in love , I tell them its always there with in us. We just need to experience it with every life in this planet

Love is life, if you are living a life you are in love. 

[Yvonne]

On 9/16/2019 at 4:15 AM, Pat-3426 said:

I fell in love with my best friend in 1988 and out lived was wonderful we raised 6 children who gave us 26 grandchildenand 2 great grandchildren. My husband passed away July 31st. 2019 and I'm lost and so sad

Hi @Pat-3426 thank you for sharing this beautiful story. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I send you lots of blessings. Hope you find the support you need. ??

[Neat]

Not sure. When I think about falling in love---it was not part of the plan. No thought about loving this person. Then maybe as time went on...the friendship became more like the romantic kind of love. I think to fall in love is a man made statement. I wrote an article on love. Once become available on my website will share. However love is an interesting topic. Thanks for asking!

[5Ddreams1989]

I think love is necessary for personal development that's just love in general. As far as falling in love being a necessity no but I teleworking for myself life would be lonely without ever getting to share your love with someone else. I like what the first person that replied said that it's the journey to be one with ourselves. Also I like what they said about the feeling being inside me because even the chemicals that make us love drunk come from inside. It's all inside we are are own soul mates really. I think that is a thing most people have confusion about is that a person who is a condition in our life can ever make anyone feel a certain way by the circumstances it is inside of us. It is also in me that when I'm broken hearted I love myself back to life. It is better to be the lover than to be loved I think and that is actually more gratifying in the end anyways but as far as relationship they are not necessary Ibut should enhance and. Enrich our already perfect whole and complete selves I will ask the universe to provide me with love and I can feel it supernaturally literally when there is no one around

[Cristina-PL]

We are not able to give love if we do not love us. That is obviosus.

But falling in love... wow that is different, that is a drug...and if you are enough lucky to share your love... that is just amazing! 

[Rimps]

I feel that falling in love, just like many other experiences, is very essential for our growth. All the positive and negative experience we have while in love helps us to learn about ourselves and the other person. It teaches us to be joyful for not just ourselves but the one we are in love with. At the same time the heartbreak also teaches us that nothing is permanent and we can love and let go. It all eventually is an illusion. We are here to go through life to experience, learn and grow. Love is something we are, it's not limited to a person or thing. We must see it as a light within and use it to illuminate others.:)