State of mind

[ki****]

I kept wondering why people find it difficult to open up until it hit me,I got into a situation where I was going through alot and the weapon I had was silence.
Even upto now I still find it difficult to talk,I feel like my secrets will be all out. Why!?

[zy****]

I can think of two reasons why you are worried about your secrets. 

 

1: You don't trust the other person enough to share them with a secure feeling. 

In this case you can share less sensitive information first and take your time until you got to know each other a little further. 

 

2: You want to appear secretively so the other person stays interested and doesn't think you are boring. 

In this case the problem will probably not be a lack of stories but a lack of stories you consider good enough. 

So don't worry. There are tons of stories. And maybe the other person likes the untold ones even more. 

Edited July 18, 2022 by suedseefrucht

[Li****]

I think you're right, sometimes people choose not to open up because it also makes you feel a little bit 'in control'. When you're going through something difficult and it feels like you have no control of the situation, but what you can control is who you talk to about it. At least I have experienced that. 

 

We can also choose not to open up because we want the sense of a break from what we are going through, and not talk about it can give a moment of feeling normal and lighter. It can also be because we don't want to burden others with our problems. 

[Ch****]

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