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INTJ type - learning to lead with my heart


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I have learned some things about myself in the last few years. I tend to let my head rule over my heart, as a result I can be a cold person who is not naturally empathetic. I have had loved ones in crisis and it didn't register with me like it should have. I would take them to the doctor, mend their wounds and take them to the eye doctor but showing real concern/empathy was and is a challenge for me. I put it down to my childhood abuse at a very young age in foster care where I learned to cut myself from my feelings and become a cold fish as a coping mechanism. This doesn't help the people in my life who need my emotional availability. I tend to be clinical in my approach to life/relationships which does alienate people. My Myers//Briggs profile says I'm an INTJ, which means I lead with my head instead of the heart. I have to access my feelings to show my loved ones that I love them. Before it's too late. I could be dead tomorrow (car accident, heart attack) and I need for my loved ones to feel the nurturing that love provides. What can I do to become a more empathetic person?

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I think it's great that you are even reflecting over these tendencies and open to try and make changes in your way to approach people and situations. That's already a huge step! 🙏

I found a couple articles in the magazine that you might find interesting: 

 

 

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Thanks for the links, much food for thought and the heart!

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