What is happiness and how do I stop feeling lonely

[ITMK 7]

Been unhappy and lonely for multiple years and throught the whole of highschool, I feel like I mess everything up especially when it comes to things I dont want to lose in my life as i have have problems trusting people due to my trust being betrayed constantly but I ended up finding one person who made me feel happy and I loved but I messed that up and I really dont know what to do to make me happy now

[Tati 5]

Happiness comes from within you, once you love and fully accept yourself as you are, you can begin to enjoy that joy you've had within you this whole time, the journey is to learn how to dive into that unconditional love

[Lizzie 490]

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling unhappy and lonely, those are feelings that can easily overwhelm and take over so it's a great thing that you're reaching out for support and advice. I agree with Tati that it's important to try and find happiness in yourself; to come to the understanding that you can make yourself happy rather than relying on others for happiness. If you feel like you messed something up with this person you mention, perhaps try to talk to them and explain your feelings and apologise if you did something wrong. Whether they accept or not, it might give you peace of mind to have shared how you feel. 

It's been a difficult year that has left many of us feeling lonely and anxious, and due to different stages of restriction it might be hard to socialise with others at this time. Joining our little community is a great thing, but perhaps you can also look into joining (online) classes of some sort? Whether it's yoga, live workouts, a book circle - there are tones of niche communities that have emerged just because people are restricted from going out and meeting in person. 

Focus on yourself, your wellbeing, and what makes you happy. Take a long walk, do some kind of exercise that you enjoy, bake or cook something delicious, watch a series/movie/documentary that you like, etc. If you never tried it, perhaps give yoga or meditation a chance - it could be a great way to start. There are lots of free yoga classes on YouTube (I like Yoga with Adrienne) and many meditation apps where you can try it out. You can also have look in our Academy for some free resources that you might find interesting! 🙏

[itzelcaslu 4]

Hi Tyrell just wanted to say that you matter, you are special and you are not alone! When I am feeling anxious I like to plan a hiking or an outdoor activity, connecting with nature really bring me peace and root me again! Also I love cooking so making a special dinner just for myself is my way of self care! Always look inside, yoga and meditation, listen to calm music, write a journal and express what are you feeling at the moment! just express yourself and let it all out

[Tine 668]

Hello Tyrell, it is impressive how clear you see and describe your challenges. In MBSR (meditation-based stress reduction) we say "acceptance proceeds change" and when I read your post in the forum and what you write on your profile I think you are at this vital step. Have a look at the free MBSR online course here, it helped me a lot with helping myself and if you have questions about it, feel free to get in touch with me any time. :-) All the every best! Tine

[ArabellaSH04 6]

The way for me to stop feeling lonely and happy is to learn to be happy in my own company. What do you enjoy what are you passionate about how can you amplify and integrate that in your daily life it could be anything from listening to music or even volunteering to work with animals if you like them. Be of service to others in some way shape or form you will soon see the loneliness dissipate and your life becoming enriched . The possibilities are endless

[JiyoFullest 11]

When you are accompanied by the world's most beautiful companion, how can you be alone?🤔

Did you see mirror today? Go and stand there and hug yourself. Do you remember the last time when you loved/hugged yourself. You are a beautiful soul dear . Yes this year is tough for all of us, so many of us are loosing our near and dear one and during this time if someone needs love , care and support thats you. Don't leave that YOU. take care of yourself.