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icon-wio Candy created a topic in Tools, Practices, Teachers
Vegan Recipe Share
What is veganism? 🌱
The Vegan Society defined the vegan diet in 1944 as "the principle of the emancipation of animals from exploitation by man".
Later, it was clarified as "to seek an end to the use of animals by man for food, commodities, work, hunting, vivisection, and by all other uses involving exploitation of animal life by man".
Veganism is a philosophy or way of living that excludes all forms of cruelty to and the exploitation of animals for food, clothing or any other purpose. Veganism Read more…also promotes the use and development of animal- and cruelty-free alternatives that benefit the animals, humans, as well as the environment.
What do vegans eat?!
A vegan diet comprises all fruits, vegetables, whole grains, seeds, nuts, legumes, and pulses. These can be prepared in endless combinations. You never have to eat the same thing twice in a month, unless you really like it, of course 😉
Once I decided to adopt a vegan diet, I was pleasantly surprised at the diversity and richness of it. I began experimenting with different ingredients and flavours and tried to make a vegan version of all my favourite dishes. After a few months, I didn't miss animal products at all anymore and now, six years later, I sometimes even find it a bit odd when I come across a smoothie recipe that calls for cow's milk, for example!
It's more than just a diet. It's a lifestyle.
The "hardcore" vegans avoid the exploitation of animals for any purpose, at all costs and make sure everything they consume is cruelty-free; from clothing and cleaning products to cosmetics and other personal hygiene products. There are still very many brands and companies that test their products on animals. For a list of cruelty-free brands, see here.
Compassion for animals is the main reason people choose a vegan lifestyle these days. However, more and more evidence shows that a vegan diet is beneficial both to our health and the environment. PETA shares more about why eating meat contributes to climate change and harms the environment.
Healthy vs "Unhealthy" vegans
Vegan diets are considered healthy as they lack significant amounts of cholesterol (linked to heart disease) and include nutrients, fibre and antioxidants that are vital to our health and prevent dis-ease.
However, it's definitely possible to be vegan and still have a poor diet. Living in a world where processed foods are available on every corner and take over most aisles in our supermarkets, all diets, including a vegan one can be inundated with junk/unhealthy food, i.e. the absence of whole foods.
An 'unhealthy' vegan diet would be one that lacks essential nutrients that come from the list of foods mentioned above. Ideally, we should try to eat a whole foods diet at least 85% of the time, while leaving a bit of leeway for the Beyond burgers, french fries and vegan Ben & Jerry's.
Whether you choose to be healthy, 'unhealthy', or somewhere in between, remember, it's your body. Do what's best for you and don't mind what others think. Respect yourself, and also respect the choices of others.
One thing that's worked for me in making healthier choices over the years is looking at the ingredients of everything I buy. If it has more than five ingredients, and or any of which I can't pronounce, I leave it on the shelf. That said, every once in a while, it's important to TREAT YO SELF to whatever it is you want, be it a juicy vegan cupcake, a greasy meat-free burger or an XXL cheezy fries, and enjoy every bite, GUILT-FREE.
Recipe Share
My vegan adventure is far from over, and every day brings new culinary experiments which I'd like to share with everyone here. My favourite dishes are those that require ten or fewer ingredients and 30-45 minutes of prep/cooking time. I hope these recipes serve as an inspiration to those who love spending time in the kitchen as much as I do.
All the recipes are adjustable to your taste and what's available to you where you live. Feel free to comment and share what works or doesn't work for you, or any alternative hacks or ingredients you find useful or not so much. And remember to have fun in the kitchen! 👩‍🍳👨‍🍳
Bon appetite!
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Lizzie
Lizzie This is so useful, thank you for sharing! I always check the ingredients on food stuff in the grocery store because I try to stay away from processed foods for the most part. I like to eat fresh and clean and once you learn a bit about how to bake/cook/make different things and dishes, you will also start to question why the ingredient list on the store bought item contain certain things, or why it is so long to begin with 😅
I have always found many vegan recipes or dishes friends have told me Read more… about contain a lot of processed foods, or vegan 'replicas' of meat products that have a massive list of items that make no sense to me. Looking forward to seeing some new yummy vegan recipes to try! 🤗
LikeCalvin77 · 07.08.2020 10:47:39
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Calvin77 Calvin77 quote Candy:"One thing that's worked for me in making healthier choices over the years is looking at the ingredients of everything I buy. If it has more than five ingredients, and or any of which I can't pronounce, I leave it on the shelf."
I love this and try to do the same as much as poss! 😅 I love cooking totally fresh from scratch to so you know EXACTLY what you are eating. I haven't classified myself as vegan but Read more… hardly ever eat meat these days, just not a fan anymore. I have seen improved digestion and weight loss for sure. (One thing I can't give up is eggs as I adore them, but always go for free-range.) Looking forward to trying and tasting so vegan recipes from you Candy!
LikeLizzie · 06.08.2020 18:26:01
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icon-wio Candy created a topic in It's all about happiness
On Abuse and "Spirituality" - By Jeff Foster
ON ABUSE AND "SPIRITUALITY"
"You attracted it because you desired it".
"If you think there's a problem with another's words or actions,
YOU are the one who's confused"."Everything is just your projection. Everything is in your mind".
"Clear up your vibration and you'll stop attracting bad things to yourself".
"You are too attached to the body. Go beyond the body. It's not who you are."
"If you have doubts, fears, resistance, pain, anger, then you must be in your ego and totally Read more…unenlightened".
"The past is an illusion. Let it go right now!".
Ugh. I'm so tired of all this New Age spiritual bullshit.
I'm tired of ANY spirituality that doesn't fully honour
our messy, unresolvable, first-hand, real-time, embodied human experience.
That doesn't bow deeply to the struggle of our raw and tender hearts.
That guilt-trips us for our imperfections and shames our limitations.
No, it's not always your projection.
Yes, sometimes other people really ARE abusive and need to be stopped.
No, everything isn't always "in your mind".
Yes, your body matters. Your feelings too.
No, your doubts and fears are not 'wrong' or 'bad' or 'unevolved'.
No, you do not 'attract' abuse through a faulty 'vibrational frequency'.
No, you do not deserve to be violated in any way, in the name of Truth, in the name of God, in the name of Love, or IN ANY OTHER NAME.
Yes, your boundaries deserve to be respected, your 'yes' AND your 'no' too.
No, it's not okay for spiritual teachers to abuse people "for their own good"
- to shock them into awakening, to enlighten them, to help them drop their "ego".
Teachers that use abuse as a tool are simply abusers, not teachers.
I reject any spirituality that dismisses our tender, vulnerable, fragile humanity.
I reject any spirituality that shames us for our precious human thoughts and feelings.
I reject any spirituality that begins any sentence with "If you were enlightened..."
I reject any spirituality that divides self from no self, divine from human, sacred from profane, absolute from relative, heaven from earth, duality from nonduality, material from spiritual.
I once saw a popular spiritual teacher addressing a recently bereaved woman.
He said, "Your heartbreak is illusory and only the activity of the separate self.
One day the separate self will vanish, along with all suffering".
And in that moment, I saw a deep, deep sickness and inhumanity at the heart of contemporary spirituality. The invalidation of trauma, the false promises, the power games, the suppression of the feminine.
And I vowed to bow to that fucking broken heart as if it were God Herself.
Until the end of time.
- Jeff Foster
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Lizzie Thank you for sharing @Candy - Abuse is always horrific and inexcusable, and when connected to spirituality it's so exploitative of a vulnerable state of mind. It's scary to see how often it has been used by spiritual leaders as a way to take advantage and exercise power over people who put their trust in them.
A really powerful message! Thank you for sharing @Candy - Abuse is always horrific and inexcusable, and when connected to spirituality it's so exploitative of a vulnerable state of mind. It's scary to see how often it has been used by spiritual leaders as a way to take advantage and exercise power over people who put their trust in them.
A really powerful message!
LikeCalvin77, Candy · 06.08.2020 9:35:49
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Self-Love... 😊✍

How wonderful! 😊✨

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Share a weird thing you like to do that makes you happy :)

@waihong Haha😂😂 How wonderful!

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"HOW TO PROTECT YOUR VULNERABLE HEART"

@HumanbeingI am so so glad this letter found you and resonated with you as it did with me. My hope when sharing this was that someone out there would want to hear this and take what they need from it.
This is a safe space, and you're most welcome to open up to any degree you feel comfortable
Congratulations also on your sobriety! I know how hard that journey is and I commend you for your bravery.
The person who wrote this letter, Jeff Foster, is a wonderful teacher and I highly recommend his Read more… books and teachings.
I wish you all the very best too and remember, always follow your heart ❤️

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"HOW TO PROTECT YOUR VULNERABLE HEART"
HOW TO PROTECT YOUR VULNERABLE HEART (From a letter to a friend)
“Your vulnerability is a gift, my love, of course. But please, offer it only to those who truly want it, tender it only to those who sincerely appreciate it and can offer their own tenderness in return, otherwise you will hurt yourself in the long run, and a kind of lonely, resentful despair will take root. Give your precious fragility to those who truly desire – and are willing - to step into a sacred field of deep listening with Read more…you, who want to work hard with you to create a safe, empathic, trustworthy and enduring connection. This will not happen overnight. It will take more than words. It will take time. Months. Years, maybe. Perhaps decades.
As you are learning, it’s easy to talk about vulnerability. It’s easy to say “I love you”, and speak convincing, uplifting, inspiring words about closeness, love, empathy, deep connection, and “sharing our hearts”. We feel good speaking these words and we want to believe in them. But words are meaningless, empty, unless they are proven in the crucible of connection. Let us not live in hope, and let us not merely pay lip service to the idea of closeness. True friendship, which is love, asks of us our blood, sweat and tears, and even “empaths” can have trouble with being empathic, as you are finding out.
Here is the truth: Some beings want your vulnerability and some do not. Some are willing to put in the work, and some are not. Some can handle your vulnerability, and some cannot, at this point in their lives, anyway. Some will say they want your truth and your love and your friendship, but are incapable of actually offering or receiving it. (No judgement here. We all can be more or less self-absorbed or narcissistic at different times in our lives, can’t we?)
At worst, those who do not want your vulnerability will ignore it, shame it, or blame you for feeling how you feel, needing what you need and thinking what you think. They will use your vulnerability against you, break your trust and break your heart, ridicule you for being how you are, even call you names. You will leave interactions feeling reduced, unworthy, unheard, unsafe. You may end up blaming yourself, but this may just be a sign that you need more protection from such a person, better boundaries, more space, less closeness.
Listen to your body.
Yes, if you listen to your body, you will learn who to open your heart to and who to distance yourself from emotionally and even physically. You will learn who is safe, and who is not, despite all the words. You will sense - energetically - who is truly ready and willing to receive the gift of your vulnerability, and who is not. Who truly wants your fragile, open heart, and who does not.
It’s okay to draw and redraw boundary lines over time. (Your boundaries are an expression of your power). It's okay to share more then to decide to share less. To open up, and to close down again as you gather new information and perspective. To take one step forwards… and two steps back. Love loves the opening and the closing too, the forwards and the backwards of the dance of intimacy. You do not have to be vulnerable with everyone you meet, and especially not when you first meet them. You do not have to share your heart – your truth, your thoughts, your feelings, your desires, your dreams, your hopes and your fears - until you feel ready, and you may never feel ready, and that’s okay. Don’t let anyone pressure you into opening up. You do not owe anyone anything at all. (And remember, you don’t have to share anything with me that you don’t feel safe to share, dear one. Anything at all, ever.)
Your vulnerability is a gift you can give to those who have proved they are ready, willing, and able to receive it. Sometimes you may have to learn through trial and error. You may feel you have shared too much, so you can pull back. Or perhaps you will find the courage to offer a little more vulnerability than before, and see how it’s received. You will spot patterns over time. You will see how someone responds to your open heart. You will not be able to see everything in the beginning. Hope and the mind’s fantasies of love can blind you. Stay connected to your gut. It will not lie.
When you find someone who can truly receive your vulnerability, over time, and can offer their open heart in return, rejoice! As you know, it is this safe, empathic, consistent and reliable relational field, this sacred space that accepts us exactly as we are, brokenness and all - in other words, the presence of God - that ultimately heals our deepest trauma.... whether you find this warm love in a friend… or a lover, a partner, a family member, a therapist, a healer, a pet, an imaginary figure of light, a two hundred year old tree… or in the deepest recesses of your own beautiful self….
So yes, your vulnerability is a precious gift, my love, but to whom are you offering it? Who has the maturity, courage, trustworthiness and strength to fully receive it, and consistently reflect it back to you? Who truly wants you, the authentic you, the unmasked you, the raw and unfiltered and imperfect you? Who simply talks about love and empathy and connection and family… and who actually does the hard work of meeting you, deeply listening to you, valuing and honouring you, in a real and embodied way? These are the questions you are being guided towards now, my love, as you rediscover your true worth…”
- Jeff Foster
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Lizzie @Candy - thank you for sharing this letter, and @Humanbeing - thank you for sharing a bit about your story and how the letter resonated with you. 🧡
It can sometimes be equally inspiring to read how a certain text or topic made someone feel as reading the actual text itself. This is indeed a safe space, and sharing and opening up can be such a great experience too. 🙌 @Candy - thank you for sharing this letter, and @Humanbeing - thank you for sharing a bit about your story and how the letter resonated with you. 🧡
It can sometimes be equally inspiring to read how a certain text or topic made someone feel as reading the actual text itself. This is indeed a safe space, and sharing and opening up can be such a great experience too. 🙌
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Candy @HumanbeingI am so so glad this letter found you and resonated with you as it did with me. My hope when sharing this was that someone out there would want to hear this and take what they need from it.
This is a safe space, and you're most welcome to open up to any degree you feel comfortable
Congratulations also on your sobriety! I know how hard that journey is and I commend you for your bravery.
The person who wrote this letter, Jeff Foster, is a wonderful teacher and I highly recommend his Read more… books and teachings.
I wish you all the very best too and remember, always follow your heart ❤️
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Humanbeing
Humanbeing Thankyou so very much for this! Truly you have no idea just how much EVERYTHING just resonated with me! I'm truly speechless almost. I really have been, Inspite of having a large family, feeling quite alone lately. See I've only just recently more or less confirmed that I am highly on the "empath" spectrum. And having never known this about myself I've my whole life since a late teen pulled back from even family members at certain parts in my life. Then I kinda in my late 20s really messed up Read more… on drugs around the time my mother passed and things with my family have never really recovered. Now at 41 and three years clean I'm so desperately trying to mend relationships which hasn't been easy at all. And nothing in particular lve done wrong by them (though I did plenty) or any real outstanding resentments either way, it's just been so hard reconnecting and I just know at least with certain family members they would like this I so strongly feel. It's just become so complicated I guess. Anyways lol it did mention here not to open up to people especially ones you don't know lol, just wanted you to know how truly timely, I guess even synchronisticaly, this found me. Thankyou so much I feel like just showing my family this letter and let it stand! Lol. But I know it's on me I know to earn much and this I believe, I know! kinda got me to realise I've been going about this in such a wrong headed way. So again thankyou! All the best in the world!
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Complex harmony

Beautiful

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eclipse 21 June 2020

This is really good to know. It's so important to remain in our own energy. I always need a reminder to do so. Thank you for sharing ✨

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Nature's Gift

How wonderful! 🌈✨

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icon-wio Candy created a topic in It's all about happiness
BLACK LIVES MATTER ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
A while ago, my colleague asked me if I'd like to start a BIPOC thread in the forum, and at the time I wasn't too keen. I feared excluding people or coming across in an inappropriate manner.
Today, I find this post necessary, because the truth is, I AM FURIOUS.
I am furious that people are still being brutally murdered for no other reason than the colour of their skin.
I am furious that those vile, trigger happy cops still get to go home to their families unscathed.
I am furious that black Read more…parents have to teach their young children to fear privileged white policemen.
I am furious that protestors are being arrested for taking a stand against this brutality while those killer cops are kept safe and unharmed.
I am furious that in the year 2020, amidst everything else going on in the world, there is still racism.
Yesterday, during #blackouttuesday, millions of people posted black squares on their social media in "support" of black people. But what was that post actually supporting? Social media is a great tool for activism, but when it's not used appropriately, it can cause more harm than good.
Black Lives Matter was founded in 2013 in response to the acquittal of Trayvon Martin's murderer. The hashtag #BlackLivesMatter was used millions of times yesterday under said black square, completely drowning out the vital messages and videos shared by the movement. It also made it dangerous for anyone using that hashtag to find or share crucial information.
#Blackouttuesday was a day to PROTEST. Black people in the US are fighting for their freedom for the umpteenth time, while others complain about the looting and burning of buildings and corporations built and run by the very hands of the oppressed.
Posting and reposting on social media does not excuse the way black people are treated and interacted with on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s great that so many want to help, but there are other ways to do so. This is the time to LISTEN to those who’ve had their lives and voices controlled by white supremacy for generations.
True allies are those who are willing to stand up, stand out, and stand alongside their black brothers and sisters, regardless of circumstance. True allies are those willing to educate themselves, their families, friends and acquaintances about racism and what they can do to stop or prevent it.
Black lives are in danger, not only in the US, but all over the world. If you really want to help, ask yourself, especially if you’re privileged, “what can I do TODAY to stand in solidarity with black people in a tangible way?” There are many options. You can support black-owned businesses, donate money to black causes, protest, send resources, and most importantly, you can learn and teach others how to be anti-racist.
From this week on, once a week I will share on this thread a book, business, or quote from a Person of Colour (POC) that I hope will inspire others to support and do the same.
✊🏾
“We are all part of the same consciousness
We are all connected
We are all Brothers and Sisters
No matter the colour of our skin
No matter the shape of our eyes
No matter the size of our body
We were designed to LOVE and HELP each other
To live in PEACE and HARMONY
Nurturing Gaia, Pachamama, Mother Earth”
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Tine Tine quote Candy:"True allies are those who are willing to stand up, stand out, and stand alongside their black brothers and sisters, regardless of circumstance. True allies are those willing to educate themselves, their families, friends and acquaintances about racism and what they can do to stop or prevent it.
Black lives are in danger, not only in the US, but all over the world. If you really want to help, ask yourself, especially if Read more… you’re privileged, “what can I do TODAY to stand in solidarity with black people in a tangible way?” There are many options. You can support black-owned businesses, donate money to black causes, protest, send resources, and most importantly, you can learn and teach others how to be anti-racist.
"
Thank you @Candy for clearly stating what is needed.
LikeBjoern, Lizzie · 04.06.2020 14:30:23
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Lizzie Thank you for sharing Candy, it is so important that we talk about this openly. I think it's a first step of learning and educating ourselves and others about what racism still is today, and I have the privilege of educating myself on racism instead of having experienced it my whole life. I've found a lot of suggestions online of material that educate on racism and white privilege, and I'm learning A LOT. There is a big difference between being 'not racist' and being actively anti-racist, and Read more… that is so important to realise.
We can and should all do something; donate, support, protest, speak up when a friend or family member say something racist, educate ourselves and teach those around us.
I agree with @Bjoern that racism is an awkward and uncomfortable topic, and it's so important that we talk about it and acknowledge all the ways racism is very much present in our society.
LikeCalvin77, Tine, Bjoern · 04.06.2020 10:40:12
Bjoern
Bjoern Thank you for sharing this Candy! Nothing is easy these times, and it hadn’t before, but hopefully it will be better for next generations, if people can work on their behaviors, be more open to feel into others and give a hand when they have to. These days are a(nother) wakeup call for everyone to question things and to do changes personally and in their surroundings.
It´s cruel that it has to come this way, when it always has been there, but people are just stuck in their comfort zone with a Read more… „we change things tomorrow“ behavior, so let’s do it and start moving little pieces to have a better world for everyone.
I never felt i´m different or anyone is, but have to admit that those „white privileges“ (this sound so disgusting), always have been there and these roots never have been cut.
We, as a family always have tried to be supportive to help people in need, and always talked with my kids about these topics. But there just need to be more to reduce this bullshit and prevent that fascism is becoming normal once again, because dumb and anger people fear to lose their privileges, to which they have no rights at all.
Thanks for your advices, too. I will personally force me to do another step to help, donate and be more sensitive to those hidden racism behaviors out there, that we (white) sometimes even don’t notice or question anymore, which is horrible.
No place for racism, we are all one!
Ps: It felt strange to write this, because it’s easy to say something in these days, but what happens in a month or 6. And as well it felt ashaming, because even if we feel we do things for the cause, we (myself) feel and notice, it’s just not enough and this has to stay present forever
LikeLizzie, Calvin77, Tine · 04.06.2020 8:36:18
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Do you care about friends?

I have close friends, but we live far away from each other. Sometimes months go by where we don't talk, but when we do, it's like nothing changed or happened in between.
I think having friends and close relationships is important to our overall wellbeing, but the lockdown has taught me that it's totally possible to be isolated and have no contact with people you love and care about you while you take care of and focus on YOU.

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School teachers

Are you a teacher? ☺️ @Namdeo31

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How stressed are you at work?

My score was 29, which I guess is low. I enjoy doing my tasks and maybe that's why it's not very stressful, but I did find the Stress Management info very useful!

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Reading Resources

Thank you for sharing 😊

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Share a weird thing you like to do that makes you happy :)

@SandSeaSistar Haha I LOVE mangoes too! In fact I have a ripe one just waiting to be eaten! I'll try and enjoy it as much as you do. Thanks for sharing 😊