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Life is sometimes very confusing. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it.

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icon-wio Candy created a topic in It's all about happiness
BLACK LIVES MATTER ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
A while ago, my colleague asked me if I'd like to start a BIPOC thread in the forum, and at the time I wasn't too keen. I feared excluding people or coming across in an inappropriate manner.
Today, I find this post necessary, because the truth is, I AM FURIOUS.
I am furious that people are still being brutally murdered for no other reason than the colour of their skin.
I am furious that those vile, trigger happy cops still get to go home to their families unscathed.
I am furious that black Read more…parents have to teach their young children to fear privileged white policemen.
I am furious that protestors are being arrested for taking a stand against this brutality while those killer cops are kept safe and unharmed.
I am furious that in the year 2020, amidst everything else going on in the world, there is still racism.
Yesterday, during #blackouttuesday, millions of people posted black squares on their social media in "support" of black people. But what was that post actually supporting? Social media is a great tool for activism, but when it's not used appropriately, it can cause more harm than good.
Black Lives Matter was founded in 2013 in response to the acquittal of Trayvon Martin's murderer. The hashtag #BlackLivesMatter was used millions of times yesterday under said black square, completely drowning out the vital messages and videos shared by the movement. It also made it dangerous for anyone using that hashtag to find or share crucial information.
#Blackouttuesday was a day to PROTEST. Black people in the US are fighting for their freedom for the umpteenth time, while others complain about the looting and burning of buildings and corporations built and run by the very hands of the oppressed.
Posting and reposting on social media does not excuse the way black people are treated and interacted with on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s great that so many want to help, but there are other ways to do so. This is the time to LISTEN to those who’ve had their lives and voices controlled by white supremacy for generations.
True allies are those who are willing to stand up, stand out, and stand alongside their black brothers and sisters, regardless of circumstance. True allies are those willing to educate themselves, their families, friends and acquaintances about racism and what they can do to stop or prevent it.
Black lives are in danger, not only in the US, but all over the world. If you really want to help, ask yourself, especially if you’re privileged, “what can I do TODAY to stand in solidarity with black people in a tangible way?” There are many options. You can support black-owned businesses, donate money to black causes, protest, send resources, and most importantly, you can learn and teach others how to be anti-racist.
From this week on, once a week I will share on this thread a book, business, or quote from a Person of Colour (POC) that I hope will inspire others to support and do the same.
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“We are all part of the same consciousness
We are all connected
We are all Brothers and Sisters
No matter the colour of our skin
No matter the shape of our eyes
No matter the size of our body
We were designed to LOVE and HELP each other
To live in PEACE and HARMONY
Nurturing Gaia, Pachamama, Mother Earth”
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Tine Tine quote Candy:"True allies are those who are willing to stand up, stand out, and stand alongside their black brothers and sisters, regardless of circumstance. True allies are those willing to educate themselves, their families, friends and acquaintances about racism and what they can do to stop or prevent it.
Black lives are in danger, not only in the US, but all over the world. If you really want to help, ask yourself, especially if Read more… you’re privileged, “what can I do TODAY to stand in solidarity with black people in a tangible way?” There are many options. You can support black-owned businesses, donate money to black causes, protest, send resources, and most importantly, you can learn and teach others how to be anti-racist.
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Thank you @Candy for clearly stating what is needed.
LikeBjoern, Lizzie · 04.06.2020 14:30:23
Lizzie
Lizzie Thank you for sharing Candy, it is so important that we talk about this openly. I think it's a first step of learning and educating ourselves and others about what racism still is today, and I have the privilege of educating myself on racism instead of having experienced it my whole life. I've found a lot of suggestions online of material that educate on racism and white privilege, and I'm learning A LOT. There is a big difference between being 'not racist' and being actively anti-racist, and Read more… that is so important to realise.
We can and should all do something; donate, support, protest, speak up when a friend or family member say something racist, educate ourselves and teach those around us.
I agree with @Bjoern that racism is an awkward and uncomfortable topic, and it's so important that we talk about it and acknowledge all the ways racism is very much present in our society.
LikeCalvin77, Tine, Bjoern · 04.06.2020 10:40:12
Bjoern
Bjoern Thank you for sharing this Candy! Nothing is easy these times, and it hadn’t before, but hopefully it will be better for next generations, if people can work on their behaviors, be more open to feel into others and give a hand when they have to. These days are a(nother) wakeup call for everyone to question things and to do changes personally and in their surroundings.
It´s cruel that it has to come this way, when it always has been there, but people are just stuck in their comfort zone with a Read more… „we change things tomorrow“ behavior, so let’s do it and start moving little pieces to have a better world for everyone.
I never felt i´m different or anyone is, but have to admit that those „white privileges“ (this sound so disgusting), always have been there and these roots never have been cut.
We, as a family always have tried to be supportive to help people in need, and always talked with my kids about these topics. But there just need to be more to reduce this bullshit and prevent that fascism is becoming normal once again, because dumb and anger people fear to lose their privileges, to which they have no rights at all.
Thanks for your advices, too. I will personally force me to do another step to help, donate and be more sensitive to those hidden racism behaviors out there, that we (white) sometimes even don’t notice or question anymore, which is horrible.
No place for racism, we are all one!
Ps: It felt strange to write this, because it’s easy to say something in these days, but what happens in a month or 6. And as well it felt ashaming, because even if we feel we do things for the cause, we (myself) feel and notice, it’s just not enough and this has to stay present forever
LikeLizzie, Calvin77, Tine · 04.06.2020 8:36:18
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icon-wio Candy wrote something in It's all about happiness
  • 03.06.2020 15:16:27
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Do you care about friends?

I have close friends, but we live far away from each other. Sometimes months go by where we don't talk, but when we do, it's like nothing changed or happened in between.
I think having friends and close relationships is important to our overall wellbeing, but the lockdown has taught me that it's totally possible to be isolated and have no contact with people you love and care about you while you take care of and focus on YOU.

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icon-wio Candy wrote something in Tools, Practices, Teachers
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School teachers

Are you a teacher? ☺️ @Namdeo31

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icon-wio Candy wrote something in It's all about happiness
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How stressed are you at work?

My score was 29, which I guess is low. I enjoy doing my tasks and maybe that's why it's not very stressful, but I did find the Stress Management info very useful!

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Reading Resources

Thank you for sharing 😊

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Share a weird thing you like to do that makes you happy :)

@SandSeaSistar Haha I LOVE mangoes too! In fact I have a ripe one just waiting to be eaten! I'll try and enjoy it as much as you do. Thanks for sharing 😊

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  • 29.04.2020 11:15:23
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Mindfulness

I have to agree 😊

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icon-wio Candy wrote something in The MBSR Course Forum
  • 22.04.2020 17:44:54
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Self Compassion

@Kingdomaire I too realised that in most situations of suffering, my thoughts and reactions were what caused the suffering in the first place...
Like you, I learned the importance of self compassion and patience and it's a wonderful thing! I'm working through a Byron Katie book called "I need your love - is that true?" and it gives a very practical yet profound workaround for dealing with thoughts. It's been a great help to me.
I think that self-love, patience and acceptance of ourselves as we Read more… are are some of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and those around us, and I'm so happy to hear that many of us are doing just that. Thank you for sharing ✨

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icon-wio Candy created a topic in It's all about happiness
Earth Day 2020
Happy Earth Day!
Due to the COVID-19 pandemic and the earth essentially being 'closed' to humans, this year's Earth Day seems to be a quiet one.
Each year, millions of people are estimated to participate in environmental action to address the massive challenges facing the earth. Last year's theme was plastic pollution, while this year's focus is climate action.
Earth Day celebrations would usually include community tree planting initiatives, beach and other cleanups, national park or forest Read more…visits, and other outdoor activities. This year, although most celebrations were cancelled, some are still holding virtual events. Earthday.org is going digital with a full programme of activities for anyone interesting in joining.
Although the pandemic is severe, tragic and scary for many, to me it also appears as a great reminder of what's at stake in the fight for our planet. The lockdowns have seen skies clear of pollution, wildlife returning to deserted places, and greenhouse gas levels reducing drastically as travel, commuting and other industries come to a halt. Venetians claim they haven't seen clear water in Venice's canals in approx. 60 years!
In previous years, I loved being outdoors, preferably barefoot, doing a mindful walk, earthing/grounding, and taking deep breaths while sending love and gratitude to Mother Earth. This year I find it a bit sad not being able to do that, being on complete lockdown, but I encourage everyone who can leave their homes for an hour to do just that! Connecting with the earth and being out in nature is proven to have very many health benefits.
What will you get up to today to celebrate and honour our beautiful, abundant Pachamama? Whatever it is, let us all on this 50th Earth Day anniversary, during this incredibly unique time in our lives, take time to reflect on our choices and acknowledge and take responsibility for our actions related to the earth and the climate. Remember also:
"The earth is not an endless deposit of resources to exploit."
Photo by Casey Horner on Unsplash
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Lizzie Thanks for bringing this up! It's a shame Earth Day this year ended up in the shadow of the pandemic, feels like we needed to celebrate it this year more than ever 🧡
Even though some of us are not able to go out and enjoy mother nature, I agree it's a great opportunity to reflect and maybe take a first step towards changing our behaviour in some ways. Even if it's something like recycling, reducing single use plastic, or asking restaurants to provide non plastic containers for take out food - Read more… everything counts and everything matters! ✨
LikeCandy, Calvin77 · 23.04.2020 9:26:09
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Does gardening make you feel happy?

I live in an apartment in the heart of the old town so I don't even have a balcony, but I do have an inward facing terrace, and a few months ago we started a little urban garden where we planted celery and a few other things. So far the only thing that's grown has been the celery and it's nearly ready to harvest! There's also a parsley plant that comes and goes, but so far I haven't been able to use much of it. I think it's because we don't get much sunlight here, but it's really nice having a Read more… bit of green to look at and touch, at least.

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What's your go-to stress relief?

That's so true! @vind111 I think living fully in the present moment is a great way to do that, (in my case, at least) and realising that thoughts are just thoughts and not our reality. Thank you, thank you, thank you ☺️

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What's your go-to stress relief?

I know this might sound indulgent as I live in a city where a bath tub is sometimes considered a luxury, but I LOVE taking a hot bath with some essential oils.
Also just switching off my devices, lighting some incense and sitting quietly in my room is nice. At least it helps me find some calm.
Sometimes I'm so stressed out that I forget to breathe and the situation elevates. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I am often left feeling sad and somewhat deflated. When this happens, I really Read more… just try to spend as much quiet time alone to get over it. Yoga also helps, and short 5-minute meditations (if they are good 😇)
But my best stress reliever, I have to say, has been cooking with music :)

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Creative things to do at home

That doesn't sound unusual at all! And what a great idea and a nice way to keep the hands busy and the mind idle ☺️

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Creative things to do at home

I'm cooking a lot too! I've never been a baker, but I experiment here and there. Most times the cakes come out too dry or just flopped! Then I feel forced to eat them coz I don't want to waste the ingredients 😅
@Calvin you're so lucky to at least have a garden. We have a tiny sliver of a terrace where I get about 20 minutes of sun a day, but I have to stand up as there's no space to sit or lie down.
I also really like curling up with a good book, drinking more tea than usual, and only spending Read more… the essential hours on my laptop during the day. I've signed up to a few online courses which start next week. I'm really looking forward to those, and I just love the live workout and yoga sessions during the day! Not that I join them or anything... 😆

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