While thinking about past actions can sometimes help you move forward in life, thinking too much can have the opposite effect and lead to depression and anxiety. Dee Marques shares nine steps to take that will show you how to stop overthinking and enjoy your life in the present.

 

As humans, we have the extraordinary ability to constantly reflect on our actions. There’s much to be learned from our decisions, so it can be useful to go over past situations to find the lesson in them.


And when it comes to the future, anticipating what’s to come and making plans can also be useful. Doing this can help us grow and be more successful, but it’s also easy to end up overdoing this type of analysis. In fact, overthinking can have precisely the opposite effect, leading to constant worry and a feeling of being stuck or unproductive. If this is the case then you'll need some ideas on how to stop overthinking everything. 


Overthinking can become a self-destructive behaviour with negative effects on our mental health. Overthinking can become chronic and is the kind of toxic habit that may end up leading to other problems, such as anxiety and depression.


Because having control over our thought patterns is critical to our well-being, it's important to learn how to avoid the overthinking trap. In this article you'll find a list of practical suggestions on how to stop overthinking and making your overall thought processes more positive.
 

What is overthinking?

If we’re to learn how to stop overthinking, learning to identify that we are doing it is essential. As I've outlined above, overthinking usually has two aspects: one is rumination (going over past events) and the other one entails worrying about the future and dwelling on worst possible scenarios.


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In both cases, we almost always focus on the negative aspects of an experience, and also on those aspects that cannot be changed. Common scenarios for people who tend to overthink include worrying about falling ill, losing their job, or not knowing what they want to do with their life. Going over the past and “should have” scenarios are also typical, for example, “I should have said that”, or “I should have done this”. These are common thoughts when reflecting on a relationship that may have ended, a job you may have quit, or the way you handled a friendship that ended badly.

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Pause for thought: overthinking can lead to anxiety


Overthinking is related to anxiety because the focus is often on things we can’t change (such as what has already happened or unknowns in the future). This thought pattern can easily create feelings of powerlessness, which, in turn, generate high anxiety levels.


Indeed, overthinking is characterised by a snowball effect that leaves us feeling overwhelmed, helpless and distressed. And as it happens with other harmful thought patterns, it can take over our life, interfere with everyday functioning, and make us lose control over our thoughts.


Other dangers of overthinking include mental health issues, increased chances of developing depression, and impaired problem-solving abilities. This happens because overthinkers are under the false belief that they’re working on a problem, when in fact, overthinking actually keeps them from solving the problem. Later, overthinkers realise they can’t find a solution and this creates even more anxiety.

 

“Because having control over our thought patterns is critical to our well-being, it's important to learn how to stop overthinking.”


Overthinking is also linked to sleep issues, as people who struggle to stop thinking fail to switch off and can't sleep because of intrusive thoughts. Furthermore, lack of sleep is also connected to depressive symptoms and poor concentration during the day. And there are physical symptoms too, like headaches, muscle aches, digestive issues and fatigue. Moreover, overthinking has even been linked to binge eating or drinking and self-harm.


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Despite the dangers of thinking too much, the number of people affected is substantial enough to take it seriously for us to really learn some techniques on how to stop overthinking. One US study called it a national epidemic, and bestseller books have been written about the subject, suggesting women are more prone to overthink. The female to male ratio of overthinkers is 57-43 per cent, and those aged between 25 and 33 seem more vulnerable too.
 

What causes overthinking?

Before we move on to how to stop overthinking, it’s important to understand the mechanism behind this problem. Scientists believe it activates parts of the brain involved in fear or anxious responses. Overthinking begins in the cortex, where memories and future events are processed. As we dwell on things, obsessive thoughts engage the amygdala, the seat of emotional responses. Once the amygdala starts working, it triggers physical responses like a higher heart rate, muscle tension, and feeling paralysed by the negative thought.


It’s worth noting that overthinking starts with a good intention, usually problem solving or protecting ourselves, but more often than not, it takes us to a dead end and develops into anxiety. However, it’s possible to fight this habit and learn how to stop overthinking.

 

How to stop overthinking in 9 steps

If you struggle with overthinking, these nine tips could help you free your mind and live in the present moment more. 

 

1. Find the trigger

Overthinking is a habit, so there’ll be something that sends your brain into overthink mode. It could be at bedtime as you take stock of the day, or it could be asking yourself a “what if?” question, re-reading a journal, looking at family photos, etc.

 

2. Be aware of your response

Recognise anxiety as it appears and ask yourself if this is in your head or how productive these thoughts are. Will this way of thinking help you see things in a new light or are you simply going over the same thing again and again?

 

3. Identify the positive intention

We usually overthink because we want to protect ourselves, so think about what practical measures you need to take to achieve that.

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Learn how to stop overthinking can improve focus

 

4. Find useful distractions

Telling yourself “you shouldn’t think about that” may have the opposite effect (the “don’t think of an elephant” effect). The more you try to suppress those thoughts, the more nagging they become. So, instead, try to divert attention and give your mind something else to focus on. This could be picking up a creative hobby that has a challenging element, working out, or calling a friend.

 

5. Dealing with 'what ifs'

Train your mind to think 'what if' and create best-case scenarios. Inadvertently, you have trained your mind to think about the worse, so don’t doubt that you can also train it to do the opposite also. 

 

6. Pay attention to what you consume

The information that enters our minds can contribute to the snowball effect of overthinking. It’s important to read/hear positive and constructive information at the start and/or end of the day to counter an overthinking habit.

 

7. Reflection vs obsession

As I said at the beginning of this piece, thinking about the past or future isn’t necessarily bad. But there’s a difference between reflecting and obsessing, and this is an important distinction if you want to learn how to stop overthinking.

 

“Follow a body scan meditation script when going to bed to shift your awareness away from overthinking and into your bodily sensations.”

 

One technique that can help is setting a time to reflect on things that matter to you and not letting your thoughts free rein. For example, tell yourself you can think about what's on your mind for 30 minutes between 17:00 and 17:30pm, but no more after that. You can even set an alarm if necessary so you know when to stop. 

 

8. Relaxation techniques

You can try controlled breathing exercises to help your brain slow down and shift your attention somewhere other than your worries. Alternatively, follow a body scan meditation script to shift your awareness away from overthinking and into your bodily sensations. This technique is particularly useful if you want to learn how to stop overthinking just before trying to get to sleep. 

 

9. Live in the present

Mindfulness techniques can help you focus on the present and make the most of it, bringing enjoyment instead of the anxiety triggered by overthinking.

 

The takeaway: stop overthinking and live life

If you’ve experienced the draining effect of rumination, know that it’s possible to break the cycle and learn how to stop overthinking. Finding triggers, becoming more aware of harmful thought processes, and developing strategies to distract and relax your mind can help you make the switch from passive to active thinking and take control of your thoughts.


Don’t let anxiety and irrational negative thoughts interfere with your well-being. Put in practice the suggestions listed here on how to stop overthinking and you’ll realise that you can learn to cope with whatever life throws at you. 

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Written by Dee Marques

dee.jpgA social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.

 

 


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Param

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Excellent Weldone dear

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Nika

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I find it crazy but human, that we "like" to toss worrying thoughts back and forth and that the motivation for this is not consciously met. There seems to be a great attraction to negative thoughts and problem-solving that I find hard to explain. For me, these negative or exaggerated thoughts pop up out of nowhere and I usually only notice them after some time and then try to counteract them.
So I have to consciously counteract them in order to free myself from the brooding that has crept into my thinking unnoticed and unconsciously...?!

I think that's actually crazy, but if this is a way to live with positive thoughts in the here and now, then it's more than worth it!

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Guest Jack

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Yeah, overthinking is a habit, i agree on that. I had a time in my life y was overthinking everything all the time. I was living in the past oftentimes which really doesn´t help, as there is no way to do things differently backwards. 
I control this better now and am getting better in not taking everything to seriously, too.  

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Tine

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For me, the first step was the realization that it doesn't have to be like that. I do not have to be stuck in endless rounds of rumination and worries - going through the same, boring and useless circle again and again.
I remember a time in my life when overthinking was simply part of who I was, and I didn't know that I had a choice.
There is so much beauty in the recognition that we are more ourselves the more we step away from "but this is how I am" into "I have a choice." I can choose my response. I choose my true self which was hidden behind the automatism.

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Candy

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I once read an article about the dangers of overthinking and just a few seconds in I immediately asked myself "HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING then?" Mindfulness/ meditation and breathing exercises have helped me a lot in that regard. I also notice that actively deciding to get up and do something is a great distraction from overthinking. Sometimes I get on the yoga mat and do my favourite stretches, other times I journal, or even try to come up with a new recipe. Distracting the mind is a super easy tool to stop overthinking. ?

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Calvin77

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As someone that lives with anxiety and panic attacks, knowing how to stop overthinking is a great help. I now can recognise when I’m going into rumination mode and going over the same things over and over again. I don’t seem to have a specific trigger, but tip 2 in this article is most useful for me: learning how to change my response. Usually when I am overthinking something (usually something rubbish that happened in the past) there’s part of me that wants to keep thinking about it, almost self-harming. But as I’ve become more aware of this bad habit, I try to change my thinking or perspective on what happened, spinning it into a positive. Since I’ve done this, I’ve noticed I’m overthinking this negative thoughts less. 

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3 hours ago, neuguru said:

Wonderful article. Seems like Happiness is helping me offer more tips to my students. Thank You. I have been practicing "Silencing the Mind" technique for some time and it does not take much time for me to stop overthinking and get my focus on something that I want to. Very helpful when one wants to enter a trance as one practices highly intensive meditation such as the one I practice. However, the students whom I am training in "Silent Meditation" to begin with not all of them are able to stop over thinking and it takes some time till they achieve it. I am sure the tips in this article will help them as they go about learning to silencing their mind before going on to more advanced meditation techniques. Love and Peace be with All

Thanks so much for the kinds words Gurudatt and I'm personally so happy that the articles are being productive for both you and your students :) In this community we aim to learn, practice and share, so glad the articles are hitting the mark for you. Thank you! 

 

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Wonderful article. Seems like Happiness is helping me offer more tips to my students. Thank You. I have been practicing "Silencing the Mind" technique for some time and it does not take much time for me to stop overthinking and get my focus on something that I want to. Very helpful when one wants to enter a trance as one practices highly intensive meditation such as the one I practice. However, the students whom I am training in "Silent Meditation" to begin with not all of them are able to stop over thinking and it takes some time till they achieve it. I am sure the tips in this article will help them as they go about learning to silencing their mind before going on to more advanced meditation techniques. Love and Peace be with All

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Lizzie

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Really good tips on how to stop overthinking  ?? I sometimes feel that once I start overthinking a certain situation, I easily get stuck in that mindset and overthink every single thing. Definitely agree that it's great to reflect on things and strive to be the best version of you, just need to remember to not to overdo it and learn how to stop overthinking eventually! ?

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RonAlphonso

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Overthinking issue of so many people. Thanks for advice I probably gone use bits at work. Getting on with life in here and now enjoying every breath. 

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