Being successful

What is success?

Generally regarded as a favourable outcome that has been worked towards, success is a state of accomplishment. Successful endeavours come in many walks of life. For example, success to a sports team might mean winning a match against an opponent. There again, it might be something that is sought in a commercial sense, by succeeding against specific sales targets, for example. Some people regard success as a much more personal matter that revolves around their cultural development or spiritual learning. As such, success means different things in different contexts. Even in the same context, success can be looked at in different ways. For example, a successful person might feel they have failed unless they top a leaderboard, whereas someone who is up and coming might view success as having been achieved with much more modest goals being achieved. As such, it is a relative concept that can never be exactly defined.

Can success be measured?

Although whether something is successful or not is generally accepted according to certain norms, there is plenty of grey area in the middle, which means success can be argued about. Therefore, many people define successfulness according to pre-ordained criteria. For example, a business may set itself a target of achieving a certain level of turnover within the forthcoming year. If it reaches this, then it declares itself as successful and deems itself to have failed if it does not. These measurements of success are usually self-appointed, however. Indeed, they may be altered according to changing conditions. As such, there is no independent measure of success that applies in all cases.

Will success make you happy?

Many people believe that the more successful they are – or perceive themselves to be – the greater happiness they will enjoy. Although a sense of self-failure will often lead to negative thoughts which can make people unhappy, being outwardly successful is not always synonymous with great joy. In fact, many supposedly successful people will often not be truly happy since happiness often derives from other factors, such as good family life, for example. Of course, short term successes can bring great positivity, but these are not the foundations on which long-lasting happiness is always built.

How do psychologists refer to success?

According to some psychologists, there is a relationship between a positive mental attitude and success. In short, people who have a mindset of success will often define themselves as more successful. Whether or not such people are really more successful than others when judged objectively is an open question. That people's cognitive approach to accomplishment and failure relates to their self-worth seems in little doubt, however.

How can you enjoy greater success?

Setting yourself achievable goals is a big first step. Too much ambition can lead to an almost immediate sense of failure. Don't try to achieve everything you want in one go. Take steps every day that you can ascribe to being successful. This way, you'll get a sense of progress even if you are not yet where you want to be.

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Where is Happiness? Do you move through life feeling everyday is the same? Like some repeated pattern that goes on and on? For some people, there's nothing new to do under the sun, and nowhere to go. Everything is just boring, boring, boring. They work so hard to earn enough money to play, but yet their playtime passes so fast. Suffer five days, enjoy two days. Sometimes, to break the monotony, they seek thrill through intoxicants (alcohol, smoke), sex, and even drugs. For these temporary pleasures, it feels exciting while it's happening, but once it's over, the same pattern of meaninglessness sets in, and they're left thinking, "When can I get the next high?" Perhaps you will recognize this scene... Two old men are sitting on a bus. As the bus passes by the red-light district, one old man says to the other, "Hey... aren't you going to see the chickens (prostitutes) today?" The other man raises an eyebrow... a spark in his wrinkled eyes, "Yes, yes, I will be going this afternoon!" The first old man smirks, and says, "You didn't even bring your medicine, how can you DO IT?" For some people, their lust is so strong, that they borrow money from family and friends, just to visit brothels. You will see this pattern in addicts. Drug addicts, sex addicts, alcohol addicts. They're always looking for the greater thrill and the next high, and that's what sets their life on a downward spiral. They waste their time, energy, and money, instead of using it to build success. For life to have zest, everyone needs that natural feeling of drive, anticipation, and excitement. When one does not know how to get it naturally, one may resort to vices to stimulate that sense of being fully alive, desperately trying to bring some meaning into life. But you see, happiness is within you... If you can’t satisfy your wants, then the other way to happiness is to release them. Let go of that which you must have. Shakyamuni Buddha said that, "All desire leads to suffering..." Suffering because you crave what you do not have. And let me ask you this: Is this yearning self-created? Or something imposed on you by the outside world? Perhaps it's the outside world's fault because other people keep flaunting their luxuries and exotic experiences. But surely, we create this yearning within ourselves. It is within our power to control it, or release it altogether. Lord Richard Layard, Professor from the London School of Economics, a leading happiness researcher, says, "Happiness is a balance between your expectations and your attainments. One way is to get what you want. The other, is liking what you get." Many of our desires are misplaced. We think getting them will bring us happiness, but that is an illusion. These misplaced desires are nothing more than temporary pleasures. You don't need to satisfy your desires to be happy; you need only release them. Do you need the attention of the opposite sex? No, as you get older, your body parts will sag, and the opposite sex will pay less attention to you. Must you get laid to be happy? No, as you age, your sex hormones will lessen, and so will your desire to mate. Must you wait till you have a million bucks? Nope. Historical and worldwide research shows that above US$15,000 a year, higher income is no guarantee of greater happiness. The people who feel good everyday, without resorting to vices, have one mental characteristic in common. They have a dream, and they know what they want to achieve in life. This sense of purpose drives them; gives meaning to their existence. They have discovered their soul's calling, and are living life to the fullest by following it. This is different from those who are 'party animals', "living life to the fullest" by drowning in deafening music, and shaking till the sun rises... That's not living, that's dying. If you want to find true meaning and happiness in life, then you've got to uncover your life's purpose. For each of us has a unique destiny. A path made specially for you to walk on this journey through life. Follow it, and you arrive in paradise. Ignore it, and you continue to wander... wasting time, and life itself. You need to know what you’re made of. Your talents, strengths, and abilities. Craft a vision for yourself, and visualize that dream in your mind. Work out a plan that sets your goals and decides what actions you must take to achieve them. Tell your closest friends about it, and commit yourself to taking five of the planned actions everyday to build your dream. When you see that your actions are creating results, it will be a natural source of excitement and inspiration. Instead of spending time, energy, and money on vices, you invest it in creating an upward spiral of success. By releasing your desire for temporary pleasures, you kick your bad habit out the door. By choosing to live your purpose and answer your soul’s calling, you break free from the chains of monotony, and find truth, meaning, and happiness in life. Let's follow this video, please :
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Although there are other terms, such as valour and bravery, courage is the word that is most used when dealing with issues of appropriate actions taken in trying circumstances. For example, a soldier who endangers his or her life to destroy something without merit may be brave for so-doing but is not necessarily courageous. Physical courage means being able to suffer threats, pain and hardships in order to achieve something. However, it is only when that something is worthy that it is truly courageous since moral courage applies. This means proceeding in the knowledge that it is the right thing to do. To many people, moral courage is something that takes a lot of effort since it will sometimes mean acting on your own, without support, or when others are actively discouraging you.
Motivation has the same root as the word motive. As such, it is best described as the various phenomena that give us a motive to do something. A motivation to eat, therefore, might be feeling hungry. Psychologists try to explain how people behave largely by what motivates them. In theories of leadership, for instance, motivation is often used to give people a reason to do something, such as offering a reward for success. For many people, however, being motivated is something that comes from within, a sort of self-drive, if you will. As such, there are both conscious and unconscious forms of motivation.
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