Self-improvement. It sounds like a great idea to strengthen our skills and habits. But, in fact, it can have a negative impact on us if we ask ourselves what we should do or should be all the time. Often, our inner critic makes a judgement that we are not good enough, and we don’t accept ourselves as we are at that moment. That is a problem, because one of the most significant factors to be happy, and overall feel satisfied with life, is self-acceptance.
Benefits of self-acceptance include:
Self-acceptance steps such as celebrating your strengths and forgiving yourself really can make a difference
There are some clear steps to being able to truly accept ourselves:
Try to follow these 12 steps and you should feel the benefit of greater self-acceptance
The path to self-acceptance can be rough and bumpy. There will be times that current external circumstances, past experiences, and our programming make it hard or impossible to accept ourselves.
And there's no shame in seeking help – from a loved one or a professional – when things get too hard. In the end, the greatest gift you can give yourself is self-acceptance. In the words of psychologist Tara Brach: “Imperfection is not our personal problem – it is a natural part of existing. The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.”
With self-acceptance, we can learn to live with our imperfections and be truly free and happy. ●
Arlo is a filmmaker, artist, lecturer, and intermittent practitioner of metta meditation and morning yoga. When not dreaming about impossible projects and making them happen in the most impractical ways possible, he journals, listens to jazz, or cuddles with his better half.
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