Understanding that happiness is a state of mind rather than something to be obtained is a key life lesson. Dee Marques outlines eight ways you can consciously choose to be more joyful.

Happiness is the ultimate quest; something all humans aspire to. You’d think that after thousands of years, we would've become better at figuring a way to be happy and stay happy. So why is it so hard to achieve, and why does it slip out of our hands so easily?

Personally, I’ve always wondered why some people seem happier than others, or why does it come easier to them to have a positive mindset. As we go through life, we all have positive and negative experiences, so why do we react so differently to that input?

As it happens, science shows that happiness is partly determined by our genes. Researchers claim that happiness is 50 per cent dependent on genetics and 10 per cent on personal circumstances (like our financial position, where we live, family ties, etc.). That means that the remaining 40 per cent is down to us, and that happiness is a state of mind that can be reached through the right choices and attitude. 

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As best-selling author and behavioural scientist Steve Maraboli once said, "happiness is a state of mind, a choice, a way of living; it is not something to be achieved, it is something to be experienced." So, let’s look into how you can adjust your way of living and find happiness in things you experience.


Happiness is a state of mind: 8 top tips

True happiness is not a temporary feeling that comes and goes, but rather something that guides our thoughts and our reactions to what happens in our lives. Many of our choices are automatic. This is how our brains work, and thank goodness for that, because otherwise we wouldn’t be able to function. But it’s in our power to make conscious choices to ensure happiness is a state of mind in our everyday lives. Here are eight ways to make that happen.

1. Trick your brain

You can trick your brain into thinking that happiness is a state of mind with one single gesture: a smile. Indeed, there are several studies showing that smiling sends positive feedback to the brain, even when you're forcing it! This is because the brain can pick up cues from our body to generate certain moods by releasing a bunch of feel-good hormones. Other studies show that smiling calms us down by slowing our heart rate. So, simply putting on a grin can improve your mood at times when you need it the most.

Stay smiling: happiness is a state of mind


2. Count your blessings

When we feel down, it’s easy to focus on what we don’t have and think we’ll be happy when we get it. Instead, think about the things you already have that make life precious. And don’t just think about them, write them down. If you haven’t started a gratitude journal, this is the time to do so. Writing therapy can help solidify your appreciation for the good things in life and make you more aware of thought patterns that interfere with a happy mindset. Happiness is a state of mind when you feed your brain positive thoughts!


3. Start your day the right way

Instead of starting the day in a rush, set the alarm 10 or 15 minutes before your usual wake up time and get in the habit of meditating. With some practice, this will give you greater clarity so you can appreciate the best things in life and become stronger in the face of adversity. There are many useful techniques, but mindfulness meditation is particularly good at training your brain to perceive that happiness is a state of mind.


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4. Change perspective

Some years ago, I went through a rough patch and hated everything. The gloomy British weather didn’t make things any easier. The lack of colour and sunlight got the worst of me and magnified other problems I was struggling with. One day I got on a plane to visit relatives, and few minutes after taking off we pushed through clouds and suddenly I was floating in a sunny, peaceful space. All I had to do to be in a different world was gain altitude.


“You can trick your brain into thinking that happiness is a state of mind with one single gesture: a smile.”


The metaphor is obvious: looking at things from a different “altitude” can make us perceive the world in a different way. It may take lots of practice, but once you get good at it, you’ll realise that happiness is a state of mind that relies on your perspective.


5. Find and give support

Isolation and loneliness are all around us and can make us feel miserable even when we have reasons to be joyful. We may not feel like socialising when we feel down, but don’t shut the doors to those who care about us. Improving the quality of our interactions with others is a crucial step if you want to truly experience how happiness is a state of mind.

Sharing feelings can help build stronger bonds and feel supported and creates positive feedback loops in yourself and in others. Why not plan exercise or meditation sessions with friends, or take up a new hobby together?


6. Do a kind act a day

A few months ago, a friend of mine was going through a difficult situation, but she didn’t want the circumstances to take over her life. She decided to go out every Tuesday and do something kind for others, even though she didn’t feel like leaving the house. She’s since become known as “Happy Tuesday lady”, and needless to say, her mental health has improved massively! And no wonder. Science shows that the power of kindness is real – being nice is proven to boost your mood, lower stress and reduce anxiety among other benefits.

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Showing kindness boosts happiness levels shutterstock/Dmytro Zinkevych


7. Find meaning and purpose

Many people go through life doing what they’re supposed to be doing. Do the things you do bring a you sense of meaning or purpose? If not, you’re missing out on the path to happiness. One of the biggest joys in life is exploring and discovering what we’re here for and what we can contribute to the world – or at least, to those around us.

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8. Cut down sources of unhappiness

Happiness is a state of mind that must be nourished with good habits, and spending too much time on social media is not one of those. For many people, social networks are a source of unhappiness and insecurity and can contribute to feelings of depression. Research shows that the constant need to compare our lives to other peoples’ lives creates a deep sense of dissatisfaction and makes us lose track of the blessings we already have.


Round-up: happiness is a state of mind

I won’t deny it: life's not easy and sometimes it’s plain tough and frustrating. The work towards a happy way of being is constant. It won’t happen overnight and you should be ready to fight setbacks. Facing obstacles along the way doesn’t mean there’s no hope or you’re losing the battle.


Even in tough times, you can build the resources you need to experience that happiness is a state of mind. Like writer and personal development expert Dale Carnegie said, “it isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it's what you think about it.” 

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Written by Dee Marques

dee.jpgA social sciences graduate with a keen interest in languages, communication, and personal development strategies. Dee loves exercising, being out in nature, and discovering warm and sunny places where she can escape the winter.



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Of course happiness is a state of mind. We can CHOOSE to be happy even when we're not. I love these tips, especially tricking your brain by smiling. Next time you're feeling down, try putting a smile on your face, even if it's forced. Hold it there a moment or two and watch how that forced smile turns into a real smile and changes your mood.  I would add a couple more, if I may: Gratitude and a morning routine are absolute game changers for happiness and personal development. And, don't believe everything you think

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I definitely agree that happiness is a state of mind, but it is sometimes easier said than done 🌥  It can be difficult to 'find' that state of mind when life is tough and you're going through something challenging, and it might be a real struggle to 'make yourself' feel happy. I do however feel that the thinking that happiness is a state of mind is comforting too, it means I have it within me and somewhat control of my own happiness 🌈 

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https://changesareallowed.com/happiness-a-state-of-mind-to-achieve/I also want to share my thoughts, Buying luxury and making money may make you happiness for some time but it doesn't give you a happy state of mind. The truth is that Happiness lies with you and you just need to unleash it using these methods mentioned in this article.


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Happiness is a state of mind which comes from within yourself. We all have happiness inside ourselves. But, it is often covered by several layers of negative emotions we take from the situations around us.

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happiness is about finding harmony and being assertive standing up for yourself stop comparing to other people learn to find your own happiness and find your own destiny

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