Haha I'm guilty of this too! Especially glass jars that I can reuse as I get rid of the plastic containers in my kitchen.
@neuguru Thank you for your input. I think what I need to learn is to let go of my attachment to the material things and realise that everything I already have is enough, while slowly getting rid of things I no longer use.
From the time I was 8 years old until about 19, I was beaten by my father on a near-weekly basis. It was the worst part of growing up, and it affected me in very many ways. I blamed my mother for continuing to take him back after beating us to a pulp over and over again, and hated her too. As I got older, I began to see my parents as human beings who have pasts, and I realised that they too must have been brought up in horrendous conditions. It was then that forgiveness came to me. I realised Read more… that my father was raised in that way, which made it the only way he knew how to raise his own children. I also realised that he was often provoked by my mother.
Although I don't think what they did was ok, I do know that if they had known better, things would've been different. Today, my father is the one man I look up to the most. He's changed into a loving, calm and open-minded individual, and I don't think it would be this way if I had continued to hate him and shut him out. By not forgiving my dad, I wasn't only making my family suffer, but I was the one suffering the most. Now I'm a lot happier and my family dynamic has changed for the better. In fact, we get along really really well and I have an amazing relationship with my parents. Most of the time 😆
I don't think it is ever any human being's intention to purposefully hurt another unless they are really hurt and wounded themselves. There's this little saying that goes "Hurt people hurt people". Maybe your guy is also just very unconsciously living through past hurt. As @xenspirit so nicely said, forgiveness allows you to move away from the anger and suffering it's causing you, without condoning his behaviour.
I don't really have advice to give, but I will say follow and listen to your heart. In the most quiet moments, when the mind ceases its chatter and control, all the answers are there. We just have to tune in and listen. Really listen. ✨